Still not pregnant nonetheless...!!?
Hello girls...
Sorry I havnt been on very much...but im just so feed up with NOT being pregnant yet!
Ive tried to forget nearly it and that didnt work. I honestly feel like I cannot conceive! Ive had test done and they came back normal but m partner refuse to have his sperm tested. (Must be something to do with his pride I think)
What now.. TTC for 17months in a minute, watched so many people decline pregnant around me and ive had nothing!
Im usually ok but I have days where on earth I just get abit down (today is one of those days) but for the last couple of months I enjoy been alot more laid back than normal. its get to happen soon... surely!
How can I cheer myself up girls? xxx
Aw Hunny, it will happen soon ample, trust me. But one things for sure, Your significant other reacts the same way mine does. My boyfriend refuse to do anything as far as family planning goes. He supports me to the fullest, he attend dr app, scans, the works. Yet, he doesn't presume he is an issue. I told him if I reach 30yrs and have not conceived, im leaving him because he have actually heard the dr say im within Perfect Health, I've never even took birth control and we have been sexually active since 2003. Trying since 2006.
Keep contained by Touch Babe, and Tons of Sticky Baby Dust!
Aw im sorry it still hasn't happen for you yet huni!
As you said though its got to happen soon, Your time will come.
It unequivocally must be a man thing with your partner not having his sperm checked! Keep trying to homily him into it! You never know he might change his mind.
Try spending some qualitly time with your partner without thinking just about ttc, that might cheer you up a bit. Sometimes you drift apart when ttc, spending time together and realising you have each other may cheer you up a bit!
All the best, hope your time comes very soon xx
I understand - today is one of my low days too. I did everything right this month. BD every other day, tracked my ovulation, temps, everything I can guess of. I'm 1 week into the two week wait, but have a pretty strong feeling I am not pregnant. I know that commonly you don't know if you are or not, but I have only the merest glimmer of hope.
I wonder, should I stop trying? I won't go stern on birth control, but stop trying to BD on the right days, track everything, etc. Maybe I'm just tired this morning.
As for cheering yourself up, the only thing to be exact working for me, is that I'm trying to not take this time with my husband for granted - if I am blessed with a toddler, these months are the last with us being competent to be a couple, alone, no worries. I'm also trying to get in better shape - so it gives me a further month to lose weight/gain muscle, etc.
I'm 29 - and scared about how much longer it will take - if I can win pregnant at all.
Im sure you will get ur bfp soon!! x
Have u tried evening primrose grease?
Thats wot i had been using and i feel pregnant on the third cycle, im convinced it help, my cycles where about 35 days and the evp shortened then to 28 days also help with my cm aswell, if u havent tried it i would recommend it x
Tons of sticky baby dust for you x
Answers: My fiance was reluctant to get himself tested until he saw how abundant blood tests i had had. (hes anxious of needles). to be honest i think men draw the short straw with fertility, i'd hate to own to climax on demand into a jar at the hospital, or within an hour of going to the hospital. But after 3months of my blood work and scans he finally agreed to step. I suggest that when he is convinced to do it, that you stay out of the room while he's "producing", because its a sorry sight. lol.
what country do you live in? Because if you are in England afterwards i have bad news. fertility treatment is not offered to women beneath the age of 23. which means many more years of ttc before us girls can get hold of help, unless we have the money for private treatment, which they can still refuse to submission. sorry for the downer, but i didn't want you to find out the way i did. :(
17months isn't that long, im 3years into ttcing and i bet that you will fall pregnant before me. hold your chin up, that baby will come into your life soon. who knows, possibly we'll both be May 2010 mummies.
oh and as for cheering yourself up, why not have a romantic meal with your wife and sit back with a box of chocs and watch a movie together. any that or, find yourself a nice big tub of smartie icecream :) like i do when i get down about ttc.
economically I was told by a doctor that the best time to conceive is around the time you get off your time,or try one of those ovulating test from wal-mart,it will tell you the best time to try to conceive.
i feel matching, iv been trying for 15 months and have been totally checked out and apart from mild PCOS and one tube self blocked i am totally fine and they said i should be able to concieve naturally. i was discharged from my doctors and very soon am taking clomid to try for just maybe 6 more cycles before i bestow up compleytely. this was my first month on it and i completely missed what day my oculation was on and in a minute am 9dpo with almost no chance i could have concieved.
i too want hope but necessarily believe im one of those unexplained infertile people. dont feel i can truly tell anyone basically how bad i feel about it esp my next of kin as i have totally become obsesssed with it esp every 2 week wait
I know this is probably a silly thing to suggest as you've probably done it, but OPK (ovulation predictor kits).
Do a search on here for them. xxx
Go shopping! That always cheers me up!
Don't verbs honey - it will happen! And in the meantime get onto your partner nearly checking his sperm! Just say it won't make him less of a man. Some couples do lately take longer!
Good Luck!
After my cousin had her first child, they started trying when he was 2, for another. When he be 5 1/2, and still no baby, they started looking into adoption lawyers. When they found one they liked, she get pregnant. 9 months after their second child as born, she got pregnant, with twins, unexpectedly.
My other cousin tried for nearly 3 years, got pregnant, have a miscarriage, then 5 months later, got pregnant again. She have a beautiful baby girl, and had a boy 2 years subsequently.
The moral? Patience is a virtue. Stressing out over it is not good. I know its hard to basically "forget" about it, but sometimes you have to. Save, go on a nice break, and let things happen naturally. Whether it be a few more weeks, or a couple of years. And remember, obsess over it can hurt your marriage. Your relationship is number one right now.
You're not alone surrounded by your thinking--I just gave it up. Done with the charts, I put the bbt away and my cat doesn't find it because he's still waking me up to take my temp but I get it. It's too frustrating and I dislike the saying that it will happen when it's meant to. Okay, and as far as trusting Mother Nature, how are we to do that when she keep going the wrong way and refuses to ask for directions?
Tell me about it. Im feeling the same as you hun. 10 months subsequent and still nothing! :(
I have started using a fertility monitor but to be honest i dont what its going to tell me that i dont already know!!
Ive even told my own flesh and blood that we are TTC (dont know if that is a good thing or a doomed to failure thing!)
Tests came back mundane for me too so kinda wondering about hubby goin for some now...My hubby is a bit embarressed about going but if thats whats needed, that he will own to go. He wants kids as much as i do...and none of us are getting any younger.
Im 30 in a few months and am really worried about not being able to conceive, egg deteriation etc...I WANT IT NOW! lately like you, but as so many people on here read aloud, it WILL happen...just takes time and thats the kinda philosophy i hold..we are giving it another 6 months and if still nothing happens, my hubby will need test.
I know its really difficult hun to think about nothing else, especially when associates around you are getting thier BFP`s...its like "when is it my turn?"
There really isnt anything i can say to you to cheer yourself up apart from concentrate on other things and enjoy your energy for today...your hubby is gonna have to go for tests soon though, its something he will simply have to face for a few minutes of his life...
Good Luck and i really hope you gain your BFP very soon xxx
Hi here! I know how you feel, we've been TTC for 10 months now and nought yet. I finally reached a breaking point 2 nights ago and we have a long talk and agreed to try NOT to ttc. We both we so stressed out from "trying" that its not doing us any good, so we agreeed from here on out, no more baby make conversation, no more ovulation talk, nothing, if it happens it happen and seriously, i have to tell you, I have not feel this good in MONTHS! I have be in such a good mood, we have be able to just enjoy respectively other without worries about timing and what not. If it's meant to be, it'll crop up. good luck!
i think there is a fundamental issue here, he refuse to get tested?! i know its daunting/embarrassing for a man, but compared to the tests you have have, just ####### into a pot is nothing.
i know this is not what you want to here, but i would question how much he in fact wants a baby.
you need to own a proper talk together and get to the bottom of his refusal, find out why. if you live closish to the hospital then he cam do it at home next you deliver it to the lab for him. its all very discrete.
tell him that if he does own poor sperm there are things he can do, like stop smoking and drinking, healthy diet and vitamins. even if that doesn't work at hand are other ways to get pregnant using his sperm even if its poor. but 1st you need to find out from a sperm test.
anyway,,,contained by answer to your Q,,,,watch marley and me, its a great girly film, its a bit of a weepy which will do you good but its also funny.
i need you all the best, try focusing on your nurse training and your career, your time will come, x
Hi hun
I really suggest u get ur partner to have a sperm test. My fiance freshly got 1 done and he has 0% morphology (which is no normal sperm) and i also enjoy PCOS. We are hoping it was a 'bad month' for him when he got tested because we hold been pregnant before. We are awaiting a appointment with the fertility expert but until afterwards we are going to keep trying and 'hope' we will get pregnant again soon.
We have be trying for a year since my m/c but before i got pregnant we was ttc for 6 months.
I will you all the best huni and tons of sticky baby dust really hope we get our BFPs material soon chick :D xxxx Source(s): ttc#1 after m/c twins
I know how you quality hun iv been trying for monthsss now, But im a little bit more hopeful this months hun, My sister get pregnant 15 months after trying to conceive the only thing she did is use preseed its a lubicricant that mimics cervical mucus or something lol ive done research and quite a fiew individuals have had sucess stories, my sister was givein the adjectives clear by the doc turned out my brother in law had low sperm count if this is the travel case with your fella this could realy do the trick, Iv tried it this month but still in my 2ww , Il let you no how it go lovely, xox all the best, all if ur not using opks use this , on positive opk day and pref similar to a day or two before of when you think you ovulate so you pick up it, xx Source(s): my lovely sister lol
its hard when its something you want so defectively. Take time out with your other half - without babe-in-arms or sex talk and enjoy each other.
Have you tried the elderly cushion under your bum trick after trying? its the only way I be able to conceive both times.
Make sure you have time for you and your other without the pressures of child making its so easy to focus so much on it - I've been there.
hey sweet, same here, neither am i! 19mths later and passed all tests beside flying colours!
Back on Clomid and wait for IUI, which is approx 11mths, great!
I'd be a bit peeved at your partner though in truth if i were you, sorry to be blunt, but if he to truthfully wants to conceive, he needs that test, if somethings up, at lowest you will move forward and look at getting pregnant another way, so he needs to go i give attention to, its not fair.
I understand he is worried no doubt, but wretchedly if you are struggling, you may not have the luxury for much longer of him ignoring it.
I have be sooooooo busy making bags til 11pm most nights and wkends and working 8-4.30pm also, i work approx 13-15hrs a day and im super distracted but ending couple days been on my mind a fair bit, but otherwise been pretty relaxed - but, still waiting!
Take prudence hun, chin up and keep suggesting testing spermies!!
Good luck babe xxx Source(s): TTC 19mths xxx
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Sorry I havnt been on very much...but im just so feed up with NOT being pregnant yet!
Ive tried to forget nearly it and that didnt work. I honestly feel like I cannot conceive! Ive had test done and they came back normal but m partner refuse to have his sperm tested. (Must be something to do with his pride I think)
What now.. TTC for 17months in a minute, watched so many people decline pregnant around me and ive had nothing!
Im usually ok but I have days where on earth I just get abit down (today is one of those days) but for the last couple of months I enjoy been alot more laid back than normal. its get to happen soon... surely!
How can I cheer myself up girls? xxx
Aw Hunny, it will happen soon ample, trust me. But one things for sure, Your significant other reacts the same way mine does. My boyfriend refuse to do anything as far as family planning goes. He supports me to the fullest, he attend dr app, scans, the works. Yet, he doesn't presume he is an issue. I told him if I reach 30yrs and have not conceived, im leaving him because he have actually heard the dr say im within Perfect Health, I've never even took birth control and we have been sexually active since 2003. Trying since 2006.
Keep contained by Touch Babe, and Tons of Sticky Baby Dust!
Aw im sorry it still hasn't happen for you yet huni!
As you said though its got to happen soon, Your time will come.
It unequivocally must be a man thing with your partner not having his sperm checked! Keep trying to homily him into it! You never know he might change his mind.
Try spending some qualitly time with your partner without thinking just about ttc, that might cheer you up a bit. Sometimes you drift apart when ttc, spending time together and realising you have each other may cheer you up a bit!
All the best, hope your time comes very soon xx
I understand - today is one of my low days too. I did everything right this month. BD every other day, tracked my ovulation, temps, everything I can guess of. I'm 1 week into the two week wait, but have a pretty strong feeling I am not pregnant. I know that commonly you don't know if you are or not, but I have only the merest glimmer of hope.
I wonder, should I stop trying? I won't go stern on birth control, but stop trying to BD on the right days, track everything, etc. Maybe I'm just tired this morning.
As for cheering yourself up, the only thing to be exact working for me, is that I'm trying to not take this time with my husband for granted - if I am blessed with a toddler, these months are the last with us being competent to be a couple, alone, no worries. I'm also trying to get in better shape - so it gives me a further month to lose weight/gain muscle, etc.
I'm 29 - and scared about how much longer it will take - if I can win pregnant at all.
Im sure you will get ur bfp soon!! x
Have u tried evening primrose grease?
Thats wot i had been using and i feel pregnant on the third cycle, im convinced it help, my cycles where about 35 days and the evp shortened then to 28 days also help with my cm aswell, if u havent tried it i would recommend it x
Tons of sticky baby dust for you x
Answers: My fiance was reluctant to get himself tested until he saw how abundant blood tests i had had. (hes anxious of needles). to be honest i think men draw the short straw with fertility, i'd hate to own to climax on demand into a jar at the hospital, or within an hour of going to the hospital. But after 3months of my blood work and scans he finally agreed to step. I suggest that when he is convinced to do it, that you stay out of the room while he's "producing", because its a sorry sight. lol.
what country do you live in? Because if you are in England afterwards i have bad news. fertility treatment is not offered to women beneath the age of 23. which means many more years of ttc before us girls can get hold of help, unless we have the money for private treatment, which they can still refuse to submission. sorry for the downer, but i didn't want you to find out the way i did. :(
17months isn't that long, im 3years into ttcing and i bet that you will fall pregnant before me. hold your chin up, that baby will come into your life soon. who knows, possibly we'll both be May 2010 mummies.
oh and as for cheering yourself up, why not have a romantic meal with your wife and sit back with a box of chocs and watch a movie together. any that or, find yourself a nice big tub of smartie icecream :) like i do when i get down about ttc.
economically I was told by a doctor that the best time to conceive is around the time you get off your time,or try one of those ovulating test from wal-mart,it will tell you the best time to try to conceive.
i feel matching, iv been trying for 15 months and have been totally checked out and apart from mild PCOS and one tube self blocked i am totally fine and they said i should be able to concieve naturally. i was discharged from my doctors and very soon am taking clomid to try for just maybe 6 more cycles before i bestow up compleytely. this was my first month on it and i completely missed what day my oculation was on and in a minute am 9dpo with almost no chance i could have concieved.
i too want hope but necessarily believe im one of those unexplained infertile people. dont feel i can truly tell anyone basically how bad i feel about it esp my next of kin as i have totally become obsesssed with it esp every 2 week wait
I know this is probably a silly thing to suggest as you've probably done it, but OPK (ovulation predictor kits).
Do a search on here for them. xxx
Go shopping! That always cheers me up!
Don't verbs honey - it will happen! And in the meantime get onto your partner nearly checking his sperm! Just say it won't make him less of a man. Some couples do lately take longer!
Good Luck!
After my cousin had her first child, they started trying when he was 2, for another. When he be 5 1/2, and still no baby, they started looking into adoption lawyers. When they found one they liked, she get pregnant. 9 months after their second child as born, she got pregnant, with twins, unexpectedly.
My other cousin tried for nearly 3 years, got pregnant, have a miscarriage, then 5 months later, got pregnant again. She have a beautiful baby girl, and had a boy 2 years subsequently.
The moral? Patience is a virtue. Stressing out over it is not good. I know its hard to basically "forget" about it, but sometimes you have to. Save, go on a nice break, and let things happen naturally. Whether it be a few more weeks, or a couple of years. And remember, obsess over it can hurt your marriage. Your relationship is number one right now.
You're not alone surrounded by your thinking--I just gave it up. Done with the charts, I put the bbt away and my cat doesn't find it because he's still waking me up to take my temp but I get it. It's too frustrating and I dislike the saying that it will happen when it's meant to. Okay, and as far as trusting Mother Nature, how are we to do that when she keep going the wrong way and refuses to ask for directions?
Tell me about it. Im feeling the same as you hun. 10 months subsequent and still nothing! :(
I have started using a fertility monitor but to be honest i dont what its going to tell me that i dont already know!!
Ive even told my own flesh and blood that we are TTC (dont know if that is a good thing or a doomed to failure thing!)
Tests came back mundane for me too so kinda wondering about hubby goin for some now...My hubby is a bit embarressed about going but if thats whats needed, that he will own to go. He wants kids as much as i do...and none of us are getting any younger.
Im 30 in a few months and am really worried about not being able to conceive, egg deteriation etc...I WANT IT NOW! lately like you, but as so many people on here read aloud, it WILL happen...just takes time and thats the kinda philosophy i hold..we are giving it another 6 months and if still nothing happens, my hubby will need test.
I know its really difficult hun to think about nothing else, especially when associates around you are getting thier BFP`s...its like "when is it my turn?"
There really isnt anything i can say to you to cheer yourself up apart from concentrate on other things and enjoy your energy for today...your hubby is gonna have to go for tests soon though, its something he will simply have to face for a few minutes of his life...
Good Luck and i really hope you gain your BFP very soon xxx
Hi here! I know how you feel, we've been TTC for 10 months now and nought yet. I finally reached a breaking point 2 nights ago and we have a long talk and agreed to try NOT to ttc. We both we so stressed out from "trying" that its not doing us any good, so we agreeed from here on out, no more baby make conversation, no more ovulation talk, nothing, if it happens it happen and seriously, i have to tell you, I have not feel this good in MONTHS! I have be in such a good mood, we have be able to just enjoy respectively other without worries about timing and what not. If it's meant to be, it'll crop up. good luck!
i think there is a fundamental issue here, he refuse to get tested?! i know its daunting/embarrassing for a man, but compared to the tests you have have, just ####### into a pot is nothing.
i know this is not what you want to here, but i would question how much he in fact wants a baby.
you need to own a proper talk together and get to the bottom of his refusal, find out why. if you live closish to the hospital then he cam do it at home next you deliver it to the lab for him. its all very discrete.
tell him that if he does own poor sperm there are things he can do, like stop smoking and drinking, healthy diet and vitamins. even if that doesn't work at hand are other ways to get pregnant using his sperm even if its poor. but 1st you need to find out from a sperm test.
anyway,,,contained by answer to your Q,,,,watch marley and me, its a great girly film, its a bit of a weepy which will do you good but its also funny.
i need you all the best, try focusing on your nurse training and your career, your time will come, x
Hi hun
I really suggest u get ur partner to have a sperm test. My fiance freshly got 1 done and he has 0% morphology (which is no normal sperm) and i also enjoy PCOS. We are hoping it was a 'bad month' for him when he got tested because we hold been pregnant before. We are awaiting a appointment with the fertility expert but until afterwards we are going to keep trying and 'hope' we will get pregnant again soon.
We have be trying for a year since my m/c but before i got pregnant we was ttc for 6 months.
I will you all the best huni and tons of sticky baby dust really hope we get our BFPs material soon chick :D xxxx Source(s): ttc#1 after m/c twins
I know how you quality hun iv been trying for monthsss now, But im a little bit more hopeful this months hun, My sister get pregnant 15 months after trying to conceive the only thing she did is use preseed its a lubicricant that mimics cervical mucus or something lol ive done research and quite a fiew individuals have had sucess stories, my sister was givein the adjectives clear by the doc turned out my brother in law had low sperm count if this is the travel case with your fella this could realy do the trick, Iv tried it this month but still in my 2ww , Il let you no how it go lovely, xox all the best, all if ur not using opks use this , on positive opk day and pref similar to a day or two before of when you think you ovulate so you pick up it, xx Source(s): my lovely sister lol
its hard when its something you want so defectively. Take time out with your other half - without babe-in-arms or sex talk and enjoy each other.
Have you tried the elderly cushion under your bum trick after trying? its the only way I be able to conceive both times.
Make sure you have time for you and your other without the pressures of child making its so easy to focus so much on it - I've been there.
hey sweet, same here, neither am i! 19mths later and passed all tests beside flying colours!
Back on Clomid and wait for IUI, which is approx 11mths, great!
I'd be a bit peeved at your partner though in truth if i were you, sorry to be blunt, but if he to truthfully wants to conceive, he needs that test, if somethings up, at lowest you will move forward and look at getting pregnant another way, so he needs to go i give attention to, its not fair.
I understand he is worried no doubt, but wretchedly if you are struggling, you may not have the luxury for much longer of him ignoring it.
I have be sooooooo busy making bags til 11pm most nights and wkends and working 8-4.30pm also, i work approx 13-15hrs a day and im super distracted but ending couple days been on my mind a fair bit, but otherwise been pretty relaxed - but, still waiting!
Take prudence hun, chin up and keep suggesting testing spermies!!
Good luck babe xxx Source(s): TTC 19mths xxx
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