Is something wrong beside my two year behind the times?
My two year old is a normal child until my boyfriend comes around she screams if he tries to pick her up she wont play she requirements me to hold her constently and shes always right behind me i feel so discouraging for her and he says I baby her by picking her up we have be together for a year now and she is terrified of him I dont know why and I dont know what to do.
For everyone saying this is normal behavior, I think you missed the segment where she said THEY'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A YEAR!
If this child has been around this man for a year, and is still fearful of him something is terribly wrong! That is not normal, i can understand if she be just being shy because he was contemporary, but after a year this is not normal at all, something is very wrong. I hope it's nil, but you can't be too careful.
I would get your daughter checked by a doctor and I would drop that guy ASAP!
I'm thinking three possibilities right very soon, 2 of them not so good.
I'll start with the not so good.
1. Any possibility that her father (or anyone else) is influencing her to behave this path around your new boyfriend?
2. Any chance that your boyfriend has done something to her to form her afraid of him?
Ok and the not so bad.
3. Two year olds are at that in-between stage of wanting to be babied sometimes and not wanting to be baby other times. I've noticed mine acts the way yours does when she wishes attention or feels that my attention is diverted from her. But then other times she's so independent, wants to do everything on her own.
I really hope it's not any of the first two, but I wouldn't discount the possibilities for your child's sake.
perchance he has abused her in some way or hurt her or she merely doesnt like him
I would think if she first have seen him she would be scared and that's normal. but if yall enjoy been dating for a year and she is still scared of him sounds to me when your not around he probably discipline's her and talks me to her to trademark her scared and if he is already telling you you baby your child to much i would update him to take a hike cause he isn't the parent he is purely a boyfriend..
Dump the him your baby comes first plus how economically do u trust him have they ever been alone
2 year olds get attached to population quickly and easily..if he's been surrounded by her life for a year and she's still frightened by him then #1 you need to check more into that and spawn sure there's no abuse going on and #2 maybe you shouldnt be with him-why would you want to be beside someone your child doesnt want to be around? you need to ask yourself whats more important-having a bf or your child feeling safe and immobilize.
for me that would be an easy decision to make...
Have you ever left her alone near him? If so, I'd dump him. He's done something to her, if he's been alone in a room with her, dump him. He's done something to her. There's something wrong next to HIM, not HER. Pay attention to her actions. It's been a year.
I'm not trying to accuse your boyfriend of anything but if he have ever been alone with her he could be sexually abusing her or scare her in some way. Also it could be that your daughter is just upset of him. Toddlers are funny like that some people like in attendance mom or dad they never want to leave and others they are just scared of for no point. My little cousin used to hide behind her mom and cry whenever my dad steped in the room when she be 2 and 3. Dont worry she will outgrow it if that is it. Source(s): experiencesss
Picking her up is not babying her.
I would watch the two of them, she may be picking it up if he does not approaching her. Mayby he has hurt her in some way, or mayby she is freshly jealous. Son't accuse him automatically because kids are just funny sometimes, but keep hold of an eye on him.
Cuddle your little girl every day and do not let him get surrounded by the way of that. it is important.
Put your kid first.
children are better judges of character than adults and she's probably picking up a vibe. my 'rents are still married and when i be younger, my ma had a guy friend who I knew was totally into her and she wouldn't believe me. He be and asked her if she would run away with him. Of course she didn't, but I was right about that loser and after months of hate him, I was proved right. Trust her and break up with him. If you have to choose between man a ma and a gf, the right choice is being a good ma. there is something fruitless about him. As we get older, our scarcity of judgement increases and we trust people too much. your daughter is more important.
good luck and God bless!
ps. i agree near a bunch of those people. maybe hit touched her sexually, raped, hit, or neglected her. have you ever departed them alone together. play it safe and put you girl 1st
Megan please believe me when I utter DUMP YOUR BOYFRIEND NOW!
Two year old do not act like that for no justification. Your daughter does not have the vocabulary to express to you what is going on but she is telling you in other ways. Don't cut her. Your job as a Mom is to protect her do not let her down. Men will come and go but to be exact your child.
Where I live a man killed his girlfriends two year old son by beating him so scantily that he broke every bone in the boys body. He also burned him with a chemical house cleaning agent while the mom was at work. She suspected that the boyfriend be up to no good. But he turned the table on her by saying the baby is purely spoiled etc etc. Now her baby is dead and she if facing neglect charges.
Don't be approaching this girl. Listen to your baby please?
Please? Please? Please? I am begging you with adjectives of my heart take her to see a Dr. and explain what you just said.
Please Megan Please?
Is she that way around anyone else? If not, you might necessitate to start looking for a new boyfriend. It may be nothing, but your child's fears should come first. There's something about your boyfriend that's frightening her. I be seeing a guy with a beard and my daughter was scared to loss of him. He wouldn't shave his beard, so I ended the relationship. Good Luck!
I'm not an expert on kids, but from the few I've seen grow up they go through stages and one in finicky I remember very well - the "leave me alone, adjectives I want is mom" stage. It comes suddenly and then suddenly goes away. The people who usually are "shunned" are distant relatives and general public that they only see weekly and not on a day to day idea. Ask yourself, does she do this with other people or just your bf? and How long have this been happening?
Its also possible that she knows when he's around that you want to spend time next to him and she's afraid you will leave her if she doesn't hang on to you.
Dear Megan
Take her to a doctor and get professional medical advice.
If your daughter is mortal abused by your boyfriend you are going to feel really silly explaining to the police you took advice from people on YA.
I know your precious two year mature is worth more than some cheap free advice from a bunch of strangers. Who could be abusers themselves. (no offense anyone)
Take her to the ER NOW!
God Bless!
Answers: Let me get this straight.
She have known him for half of her life and she is still afraid of him?
It sounds more than fishy to me. It sounds similar to classic symptoms of an abused child. I would get that precious little girl medical attention right away.
Does she act like that around anyone else? The father, grandfather, anyone?
PS remember that a womans intuition is 99% proof. Source(s): I am a nurse for 12 years.
It sounds like she is not scared out of your wits of your bf, she is just addicted to you. You are the only person she wishes to be around, and I think your bf is itterupting that. She only wants to be up below only you all the time.
She's just impracticable to him is all...and he say's you baby her for picking her up? SHES ONLY 2 YEARS OLD! anyways this is perfecty normal your child freshly doesnt feel trust in him... shes not used to seeing a newface and thats how babys act in response...
i think your BF should make her trust him... let him play around beside her let him get to no her make her hoot make funny faces... buy her toys... bond with the kid...
hope i help :) Source(s): I'v Been in your place.
i don't know, but your two year old sounds fearful of him.
don't take this the wrong way, but a suggestion as to why, maybe he hit your child? lately trying to help.
maybe she thinks the guy is treacherous, and she probably doesnt trust him. its probably normal of a kid to do that. some kids dont like there moms boyfriends. a moment ago dont hang out with the guy alot. she will eventually grow out of it. talk to her around it, even though she wont understand cause shes so young, but she might return with something out of it, talk to a counselor with your child.
she may be jealous that u are giving him 2 much attention and if you do infant her when she acts like that then shell other do it, also children can read vibes maybe his is bad...
She is probably suffering from seraration anxiety which is common at this age. You are not babying her, she a short time ago needs to know you are there for her when she needs you. To assist her cope with your boyfriend all of you spend some time together
She probably just uncommon to seeing a strange man(strange to her) and she just gets startled. It's normal.
Take her to a baby expert or just be merciful. As she matures she will wont act so strange around your boyfriend. It might seem discouraging now, but make the most of your child's attention, when she becomes a young person she wont need your attention as much and you will miss it!
he might have abused or sexually abused her,
not trying to be have it in mind.have you ever left her alone with him?
really i take her to a doctor ,,,, that not normal in a child ,,
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For everyone saying this is normal behavior, I think you missed the segment where she said THEY'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A YEAR!
If this child has been around this man for a year, and is still fearful of him something is terribly wrong! That is not normal, i can understand if she be just being shy because he was contemporary, but after a year this is not normal at all, something is very wrong. I hope it's nil, but you can't be too careful.
I would get your daughter checked by a doctor and I would drop that guy ASAP!
I'm thinking three possibilities right very soon, 2 of them not so good.
I'll start with the not so good.
1. Any possibility that her father (or anyone else) is influencing her to behave this path around your new boyfriend?
2. Any chance that your boyfriend has done something to her to form her afraid of him?
Ok and the not so bad.
3. Two year olds are at that in-between stage of wanting to be babied sometimes and not wanting to be baby other times. I've noticed mine acts the way yours does when she wishes attention or feels that my attention is diverted from her. But then other times she's so independent, wants to do everything on her own.
I really hope it's not any of the first two, but I wouldn't discount the possibilities for your child's sake.
perchance he has abused her in some way or hurt her or she merely doesnt like him
I would think if she first have seen him she would be scared and that's normal. but if yall enjoy been dating for a year and she is still scared of him sounds to me when your not around he probably discipline's her and talks me to her to trademark her scared and if he is already telling you you baby your child to much i would update him to take a hike cause he isn't the parent he is purely a boyfriend..
Dump the him your baby comes first plus how economically do u trust him have they ever been alone
2 year olds get attached to population quickly and easily..if he's been surrounded by her life for a year and she's still frightened by him then #1 you need to check more into that and spawn sure there's no abuse going on and #2 maybe you shouldnt be with him-why would you want to be beside someone your child doesnt want to be around? you need to ask yourself whats more important-having a bf or your child feeling safe and immobilize.
for me that would be an easy decision to make...
Have you ever left her alone near him? If so, I'd dump him. He's done something to her, if he's been alone in a room with her, dump him. He's done something to her. There's something wrong next to HIM, not HER. Pay attention to her actions. It's been a year.
I'm not trying to accuse your boyfriend of anything but if he have ever been alone with her he could be sexually abusing her or scare her in some way. Also it could be that your daughter is just upset of him. Toddlers are funny like that some people like in attendance mom or dad they never want to leave and others they are just scared of for no point. My little cousin used to hide behind her mom and cry whenever my dad steped in the room when she be 2 and 3. Dont worry she will outgrow it if that is it. Source(s): experiencesss
Picking her up is not babying her.
I would watch the two of them, she may be picking it up if he does not approaching her. Mayby he has hurt her in some way, or mayby she is freshly jealous. Son't accuse him automatically because kids are just funny sometimes, but keep hold of an eye on him.
Cuddle your little girl every day and do not let him get surrounded by the way of that. it is important.
Put your kid first.
children are better judges of character than adults and she's probably picking up a vibe. my 'rents are still married and when i be younger, my ma had a guy friend who I knew was totally into her and she wouldn't believe me. He be and asked her if she would run away with him. Of course she didn't, but I was right about that loser and after months of hate him, I was proved right. Trust her and break up with him. If you have to choose between man a ma and a gf, the right choice is being a good ma. there is something fruitless about him. As we get older, our scarcity of judgement increases and we trust people too much. your daughter is more important.
good luck and God bless!
ps. i agree near a bunch of those people. maybe hit touched her sexually, raped, hit, or neglected her. have you ever departed them alone together. play it safe and put you girl 1st
Megan please believe me when I utter DUMP YOUR BOYFRIEND NOW!
Two year old do not act like that for no justification. Your daughter does not have the vocabulary to express to you what is going on but she is telling you in other ways. Don't cut her. Your job as a Mom is to protect her do not let her down. Men will come and go but to be exact your child.
Where I live a man killed his girlfriends two year old son by beating him so scantily that he broke every bone in the boys body. He also burned him with a chemical house cleaning agent while the mom was at work. She suspected that the boyfriend be up to no good. But he turned the table on her by saying the baby is purely spoiled etc etc. Now her baby is dead and she if facing neglect charges.
Don't be approaching this girl. Listen to your baby please?
Please? Please? Please? I am begging you with adjectives of my heart take her to see a Dr. and explain what you just said.
Please Megan Please?
Is she that way around anyone else? If not, you might necessitate to start looking for a new boyfriend. It may be nothing, but your child's fears should come first. There's something about your boyfriend that's frightening her. I be seeing a guy with a beard and my daughter was scared to loss of him. He wouldn't shave his beard, so I ended the relationship. Good Luck!
I'm not an expert on kids, but from the few I've seen grow up they go through stages and one in finicky I remember very well - the "leave me alone, adjectives I want is mom" stage. It comes suddenly and then suddenly goes away. The people who usually are "shunned" are distant relatives and general public that they only see weekly and not on a day to day idea. Ask yourself, does she do this with other people or just your bf? and How long have this been happening?
Its also possible that she knows when he's around that you want to spend time next to him and she's afraid you will leave her if she doesn't hang on to you.
Dear Megan
Take her to a doctor and get professional medical advice.
If your daughter is mortal abused by your boyfriend you are going to feel really silly explaining to the police you took advice from people on YA.
I know your precious two year mature is worth more than some cheap free advice from a bunch of strangers. Who could be abusers themselves. (no offense anyone)
Take her to the ER NOW!
God Bless!
Answers: Let me get this straight.
She have known him for half of her life and she is still afraid of him?
It sounds more than fishy to me. It sounds similar to classic symptoms of an abused child. I would get that precious little girl medical attention right away.
Does she act like that around anyone else? The father, grandfather, anyone?
PS remember that a womans intuition is 99% proof. Source(s): I am a nurse for 12 years.
It sounds like she is not scared out of your wits of your bf, she is just addicted to you. You are the only person she wishes to be around, and I think your bf is itterupting that. She only wants to be up below only you all the time.
She's just impracticable to him is all...and he say's you baby her for picking her up? SHES ONLY 2 YEARS OLD! anyways this is perfecty normal your child freshly doesnt feel trust in him... shes not used to seeing a newface and thats how babys act in response...
i think your BF should make her trust him... let him play around beside her let him get to no her make her hoot make funny faces... buy her toys... bond with the kid...
hope i help :) Source(s): I'v Been in your place.
i don't know, but your two year old sounds fearful of him.
don't take this the wrong way, but a suggestion as to why, maybe he hit your child? lately trying to help.
maybe she thinks the guy is treacherous, and she probably doesnt trust him. its probably normal of a kid to do that. some kids dont like there moms boyfriends. a moment ago dont hang out with the guy alot. she will eventually grow out of it. talk to her around it, even though she wont understand cause shes so young, but she might return with something out of it, talk to a counselor with your child.
she may be jealous that u are giving him 2 much attention and if you do infant her when she acts like that then shell other do it, also children can read vibes maybe his is bad...
She is probably suffering from seraration anxiety which is common at this age. You are not babying her, she a short time ago needs to know you are there for her when she needs you. To assist her cope with your boyfriend all of you spend some time together
She probably just uncommon to seeing a strange man(strange to her) and she just gets startled. It's normal.
Take her to a baby expert or just be merciful. As she matures she will wont act so strange around your boyfriend. It might seem discouraging now, but make the most of your child's attention, when she becomes a young person she wont need your attention as much and you will miss it!
he might have abused or sexually abused her,
not trying to be have it in mind.have you ever left her alone with him?
really i take her to a doctor ,,,, that not normal in a child ,,
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