Adults that are with the sole purpose children?
now, as an adult, do you wish you have siblings? i've heard that many only children wish they had siblings as a child; are happy that they're only children as a teen; regret that they dont enjoy siblings as an adult.
any thoughts? i'm asking because i cant decide about have another kid and i'm just wondering.
I just wanted to say this be a great question :) I have an older brother (he's four years older) and growing up we didn't go and get along much, but now that we're older (25 and 29), we get along great and verbalize all the time and I know I will need him when THAT (I don't even want to say it) happen.
With that said, I have a 3.5 year old son and used to be so sure I wanted him as an with the sole purpose (mostly because we are extremely close and I'd feel bad if he even felt the lowest possible bit like he was being put on the stern burner because of baby) I still sort of feel that way until I think of what it is going to be similar to for him as an adult.
I don't think it's a reason to own a child, but in a way I can understand it :)
I did not have problems as a kid - was raise in a large city, in a professional family connections, lots of my friends were only children, we had lots of friends. But as an fully fledged I am very sad about have no network of relatives either for myself or for my kids (no aunts, no uncles, no cousins). Also being the one and only one and seeing your parents get older and sicker is very frightening.
My ex is an just child too, so our sons have only each other - no cousins, aunts or uncles any. At least their future kids are guaranteed 2 uncles and, hopefully, a bunch of cousins too.
Of course, many siblings are not friends as adults, but surrounded by a crisis at least there is a chance that they serve each other.
I ended up having 3 wonderful, respectable children (now 22, 19 and 16), and am very happy about it and grateful to future.
Btw, I would have been oK With 2 kids, but soon after we had the 2nd child, two o our friends have their children diagnosed with leukemia. One of hem came from a big family and done up getting a bone marrow transplant from brother, and she is now in her 20s. The other child had no sibs, and they could not find a donor. Tragically, he passed away at the age of 9.
At that time, my ex-husband and I granted to take a chance and have a new child to try to create a network of support and a pool of biological donors for our kids , if - God forbid, it ever becomes necessary.
when my first baby was born i was palnnin on subsequent one starit away didnt happend till my gilr was 18 months i give a birth to her brother and that was the best judgment ever when they little they lear to share they dont get spoil and when they older they always enjoy someone to go if they need a chat atm my little ones cant live without respectively other so if u know u can do it mean if u not short with money cause specifically always an issue do it u br very happy and suprised how two of them gain along
My husband is an only child but he grew up around abundantly of family and cousins so his childhood wasn't lonely at all, however he does wish that he have a sibling now. I was in your situation a few years ago debating on have another child or not. We didn't want our daughter to be an only child but i still wasn't sold on having another one. Let me tell you i am SO glad we fixed to do it and my decision came down to this: The greatest gift i could ever bequeath my daughter is a sibling. Someone who she can share her whole life with! I required my daughter to know what its like to be a big sister so that we can share that connection. Being a big sister has other been such a big part of who i am and i wanted her to enjoy that too. Having two kids is awesome!
No they would enjoy annoyed me & I wouldnt have had the financial privalege of being the just child, which wasnt much.
I'm not an just child. But I will say that being an only child results to trunk spoiling. Not that you have to do it on purpose. But if there's no one near they have to share with or get along next to.. Well, you can imagine what sort of problems can occur later on surrounded by life. My mom was an only child for 30-some years. My grandpa get remarried a few years after my grandma died. And ever since my mom has despised her step-siblings. She was so used to getting all the attention. And she have no idea how to cope now. I only own 1 child right now. But I will defitinely have at least 1 more to keep hold of him from turning into a spoiled brat.
Answers: Growing up as an only child was fine. As an full-size though, I'm not so sure. My husband has a sister and I always wonder how that feels. He have someone he knows he can always lean on especially after his parents are gone. He has someone else within the world that knows what it was like growing up contained by his house.
I can tell you as an only child my son will have a brother or sister at the tremendously least. Even if they don't get along they will have respectively other, it's a bond I will never have.
I am a twin and I hated it growing up. I shared my food, my bed, underwear , and tv time for 18 years. as an adult having twin is cool.
There is a female in my church who is an only child who's parents were single children. She is in her 80's. She once told me having only 1 child is the meanest article you can do! She has no siblings, no cousins, no one to share memories with! Her husband have passed away and 1 of her children. She now has 2 children left and near children. She wishes should would of had someone to remember her childhood with! Someone other then her that remembers her parents. She say being an only child is very lonely.
That one said, don't have another baby just for your child. Have one because you don't judge your life is yet complete, you have the time, perkiness and patience for another child. I thought I wanted another baby, I enjoy 3, but when I help with family babies, I realize I don't own the time to take care of any one else!!
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any thoughts? i'm asking because i cant decide about have another kid and i'm just wondering.
I just wanted to say this be a great question :) I have an older brother (he's four years older) and growing up we didn't go and get along much, but now that we're older (25 and 29), we get along great and verbalize all the time and I know I will need him when THAT (I don't even want to say it) happen.
With that said, I have a 3.5 year old son and used to be so sure I wanted him as an with the sole purpose (mostly because we are extremely close and I'd feel bad if he even felt the lowest possible bit like he was being put on the stern burner because of baby) I still sort of feel that way until I think of what it is going to be similar to for him as an adult.
I don't think it's a reason to own a child, but in a way I can understand it :)
I did not have problems as a kid - was raise in a large city, in a professional family connections, lots of my friends were only children, we had lots of friends. But as an fully fledged I am very sad about have no network of relatives either for myself or for my kids (no aunts, no uncles, no cousins). Also being the one and only one and seeing your parents get older and sicker is very frightening.
My ex is an just child too, so our sons have only each other - no cousins, aunts or uncles any. At least their future kids are guaranteed 2 uncles and, hopefully, a bunch of cousins too.
Of course, many siblings are not friends as adults, but surrounded by a crisis at least there is a chance that they serve each other.
I ended up having 3 wonderful, respectable children (now 22, 19 and 16), and am very happy about it and grateful to future.
Btw, I would have been oK With 2 kids, but soon after we had the 2nd child, two o our friends have their children diagnosed with leukemia. One of hem came from a big family and done up getting a bone marrow transplant from brother, and she is now in her 20s. The other child had no sibs, and they could not find a donor. Tragically, he passed away at the age of 9.
At that time, my ex-husband and I granted to take a chance and have a new child to try to create a network of support and a pool of biological donors for our kids , if - God forbid, it ever becomes necessary.
when my first baby was born i was palnnin on subsequent one starit away didnt happend till my gilr was 18 months i give a birth to her brother and that was the best judgment ever when they little they lear to share they dont get spoil and when they older they always enjoy someone to go if they need a chat atm my little ones cant live without respectively other so if u know u can do it mean if u not short with money cause specifically always an issue do it u br very happy and suprised how two of them gain along
My husband is an only child but he grew up around abundantly of family and cousins so his childhood wasn't lonely at all, however he does wish that he have a sibling now. I was in your situation a few years ago debating on have another child or not. We didn't want our daughter to be an only child but i still wasn't sold on having another one. Let me tell you i am SO glad we fixed to do it and my decision came down to this: The greatest gift i could ever bequeath my daughter is a sibling. Someone who she can share her whole life with! I required my daughter to know what its like to be a big sister so that we can share that connection. Being a big sister has other been such a big part of who i am and i wanted her to enjoy that too. Having two kids is awesome!
No they would enjoy annoyed me & I wouldnt have had the financial privalege of being the just child, which wasnt much.
I'm not an just child. But I will say that being an only child results to trunk spoiling. Not that you have to do it on purpose. But if there's no one near they have to share with or get along next to.. Well, you can imagine what sort of problems can occur later on surrounded by life. My mom was an only child for 30-some years. My grandpa get remarried a few years after my grandma died. And ever since my mom has despised her step-siblings. She was so used to getting all the attention. And she have no idea how to cope now. I only own 1 child right now. But I will defitinely have at least 1 more to keep hold of him from turning into a spoiled brat.
Answers: Growing up as an only child was fine. As an full-size though, I'm not so sure. My husband has a sister and I always wonder how that feels. He have someone he knows he can always lean on especially after his parents are gone. He has someone else within the world that knows what it was like growing up contained by his house.
I can tell you as an only child my son will have a brother or sister at the tremendously least. Even if they don't get along they will have respectively other, it's a bond I will never have.
I am a twin and I hated it growing up. I shared my food, my bed, underwear , and tv time for 18 years. as an adult having twin is cool.
There is a female in my church who is an only child who's parents were single children. She is in her 80's. She once told me having only 1 child is the meanest article you can do! She has no siblings, no cousins, no one to share memories with! Her husband have passed away and 1 of her children. She now has 2 children left and near children. She wishes should would of had someone to remember her childhood with! Someone other then her that remembers her parents. She say being an only child is very lonely.
That one said, don't have another baby just for your child. Have one because you don't judge your life is yet complete, you have the time, perkiness and patience for another child. I thought I wanted another baby, I enjoy 3, but when I help with family babies, I realize I don't own the time to take care of any one else!!
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