1 yr outmoded bad feeling tantrum??!?
my son turned 1 a couple weeks ago and has been throwing these nasty annoyance tantrums whenever we say no and take something away from him (like the remote).
sometimes he even lays on his belly and cries. I have a couple planning for how to deal with these outbursts but i am curious to see what has worked for other moms... please share me ur story or give me advice... etc!
anything appreciated :D
thanks
Abby
Whenever Evie can't bring no for an answer I pop her into her play pen with anything she might be tempted to hit herself with out. Then its simply a crust of waiting until she stops. When she eventually does I pick her up give her a cuddle and let her play again...
Me and my husband try to occupy her interest with something else. If she gets mad because we took the remote away, we'll shift and get a favorite toy of hers, and entice her to play with it. That usually works since children at that age still have a short attention span. If we can't obtain a toy, we'll try to play a game like peek-a-boo or patty cake...something so that she is interacted near before it becomes an all-out tantrum. We try to avert tantrums before they obtain that bad so that she doesn't think "if I throw a tantrum, I get _______". She have only had a few all out tantrums back they could be averted...they seem to be egged on by her being sleepy and taking an object away, so we'll make available her her blanket or stuffed animal and she will calm herself. So far none of her tantrums appear to have less than two reason. Generally, she doesn't get mad even at taking something away unless she's tired too. Although we don't usually realize she's tired until she's gotten so mad and upset.
resentment tatrums are the only way young toddlers can express their emotion since they cant speak yet. when my son throws a fit, I usualy say SORRY! and go more or less what I was doing and ignore him. I cant exactly reason beside him and explain why I took it, but I'll say ""yucky" or "OUCH" to explain why lol. If he freaks out because Itooksomething out of his hand, I usually just distract him near something else and he's fine.
LOL..my son is purely about 15months and this just started!! I tend to ignore it, or if i steal something away i will give him something else that is ok for him to have. Sometimes I try to still him down, but that doesn't do anything, so depending on the situation i just try to use my best judgement...and I will admit I give surrounded by sometimes to whatever it is that he wants...sorry i couldn't help! lol
Answers: My daughter started this when she be about 18 months old. After getting too frusterated myself, I started to tell her that she can throw a fit if that's what will take home he feel better, but it will not result in what she wants. She is in a minute 21-months and she seems to have less of them. At one point, I be in the bathroom washing up before the evening Lent church service (so nearly March or April). I told her she had to stay in the bathroom with me (I did not hold the foresight to close the door; I'm not sure why). When she stood in the doorway and pitched her fit, I told her she could do it, and it was fine, at least I could see her.
Sure, she still tries it, but they don't typically last too long, since she knows I very credible won't give in. (I know a girl who has only been graduated from college, but still very spoiled. She STILL have meltdowns because she is used to usually getting what she wants and doesn't understand things like staying on hold on her cell racks up the bill, because she doesn't wages the bill.)
I figure I have to tackle it very soon before I DO have a teenaged spoiled brat. It will make for a stronger, more independent developed.
Same situation here. We try to ignore it, but only within reason--he's basically a baby, after all. That's not to say we donate in and give him what he wants, but we do try to facilitate him calm down. I'll hug and cuddle him, or when he really freaks, we vacuum, which has always calmed him since he be born. Mainly, I just try to distract him.
do I remember this, its a stage they travel threw every kids different but I paid less attention to the tantrums and act approaching he had no outburst at all its not hurting him to cry just mommy's emotion. its stop when they see that they get no reaction.
My daughter also throws tantrums when she doesn't get her way. If I take something from her and she starts screaming and crying, I discount her. She quickly gets the message that I don't care and moves on to do something else.Try it, works every time
He probablly didn't understand it until now.
My first daughter is 3 and she merely started understanding no a year ago
she did the same thing
I only just had a girl who is now 8 months and still doesn't understand it
I'm crossing my fingers
He'll win used to it
Good luck!!
well adjectives I can say is one thing when he turns 2 he will be doing more then tantrums approaching hiting you and stuff. The doctor calls it the terrible 2s not cause your child is hideous its the way they act your son is probly getting a head start.
Just pay no attention to them and don't let him see you upset over it. He'll see that his tantrums have no effect (but that probably wont stop them)
ignore the distrustful behaviors & redirect him. always reward positive behaviors & remain patient and consistent.
Say it, indicate it, follow through with it. Redirect the bad behavior with a different behavior. "Son, we don't play beside the remote. Please give Mommy the remote and go play with your blocks."
When he starts to throw the fit, simply pick him up and transport him into his bedroom. "You can stay in here and throw your fit by yourself. When you feel better, you can come back out and join together the rest of us." If he comes back out, calmly return him to his room. Continue until he calms down.
giving-in is the biggest mistake...let the kid shout his lungs out...you must win this battle or he will win the war
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sometimes he even lays on his belly and cries. I have a couple planning for how to deal with these outbursts but i am curious to see what has worked for other moms... please share me ur story or give me advice... etc!
anything appreciated :D
thanks
Abby
Whenever Evie can't bring no for an answer I pop her into her play pen with anything she might be tempted to hit herself with out. Then its simply a crust of waiting until she stops. When she eventually does I pick her up give her a cuddle and let her play again...
Me and my husband try to occupy her interest with something else. If she gets mad because we took the remote away, we'll shift and get a favorite toy of hers, and entice her to play with it. That usually works since children at that age still have a short attention span. If we can't obtain a toy, we'll try to play a game like peek-a-boo or patty cake...something so that she is interacted near before it becomes an all-out tantrum. We try to avert tantrums before they obtain that bad so that she doesn't think "if I throw a tantrum, I get _______". She have only had a few all out tantrums back they could be averted...they seem to be egged on by her being sleepy and taking an object away, so we'll make available her her blanket or stuffed animal and she will calm herself. So far none of her tantrums appear to have less than two reason. Generally, she doesn't get mad even at taking something away unless she's tired too. Although we don't usually realize she's tired until she's gotten so mad and upset.
resentment tatrums are the only way young toddlers can express their emotion since they cant speak yet. when my son throws a fit, I usualy say SORRY! and go more or less what I was doing and ignore him. I cant exactly reason beside him and explain why I took it, but I'll say ""yucky" or "OUCH" to explain why lol. If he freaks out because Itooksomething out of his hand, I usually just distract him near something else and he's fine.
LOL..my son is purely about 15months and this just started!! I tend to ignore it, or if i steal something away i will give him something else that is ok for him to have. Sometimes I try to still him down, but that doesn't do anything, so depending on the situation i just try to use my best judgement...and I will admit I give surrounded by sometimes to whatever it is that he wants...sorry i couldn't help! lol
Answers: My daughter started this when she be about 18 months old. After getting too frusterated myself, I started to tell her that she can throw a fit if that's what will take home he feel better, but it will not result in what she wants. She is in a minute 21-months and she seems to have less of them. At one point, I be in the bathroom washing up before the evening Lent church service (so nearly March or April). I told her she had to stay in the bathroom with me (I did not hold the foresight to close the door; I'm not sure why). When she stood in the doorway and pitched her fit, I told her she could do it, and it was fine, at least I could see her.
Sure, she still tries it, but they don't typically last too long, since she knows I very credible won't give in. (I know a girl who has only been graduated from college, but still very spoiled. She STILL have meltdowns because she is used to usually getting what she wants and doesn't understand things like staying on hold on her cell racks up the bill, because she doesn't wages the bill.)
I figure I have to tackle it very soon before I DO have a teenaged spoiled brat. It will make for a stronger, more independent developed.
Same situation here. We try to ignore it, but only within reason--he's basically a baby, after all. That's not to say we donate in and give him what he wants, but we do try to facilitate him calm down. I'll hug and cuddle him, or when he really freaks, we vacuum, which has always calmed him since he be born. Mainly, I just try to distract him.
do I remember this, its a stage they travel threw every kids different but I paid less attention to the tantrums and act approaching he had no outburst at all its not hurting him to cry just mommy's emotion. its stop when they see that they get no reaction.
My daughter also throws tantrums when she doesn't get her way. If I take something from her and she starts screaming and crying, I discount her. She quickly gets the message that I don't care and moves on to do something else.Try it, works every time
He probablly didn't understand it until now.
My first daughter is 3 and she merely started understanding no a year ago
she did the same thing
I only just had a girl who is now 8 months and still doesn't understand it
I'm crossing my fingers
He'll win used to it
Good luck!!
well adjectives I can say is one thing when he turns 2 he will be doing more then tantrums approaching hiting you and stuff. The doctor calls it the terrible 2s not cause your child is hideous its the way they act your son is probly getting a head start.
Just pay no attention to them and don't let him see you upset over it. He'll see that his tantrums have no effect (but that probably wont stop them)
ignore the distrustful behaviors & redirect him. always reward positive behaviors & remain patient and consistent.
Say it, indicate it, follow through with it. Redirect the bad behavior with a different behavior. "Son, we don't play beside the remote. Please give Mommy the remote and go play with your blocks."
When he starts to throw the fit, simply pick him up and transport him into his bedroom. "You can stay in here and throw your fit by yourself. When you feel better, you can come back out and join together the rest of us." If he comes back out, calmly return him to his room. Continue until he calms down.
giving-in is the biggest mistake...let the kid shout his lungs out...you must win this battle or he will win the war
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