16 month antediluvian girl keep pushing my 15 month aged daughter?
A friend's daughter keeps pushing my little girl over. It started when she was sitting and her little girl would push her down so she fell backwards and bumped her head.
Now she does it when they are both standing, comes full at her beside arms outstretched and goes for her neck and shoulders and pushes my daughter flat to the floor, onto her back.
This happen for the second time yesterday and I got cross with my friend and said you have to communicate her 'no' more forcefully because she just keeps doing it. It was palpable I was really annoyed.
Until then my friend had kept truism, "oh I think my daughter just thinks it's a hobby or a sport to push your daughter over" and up until that point I just went with it but I've really have enough now.
I don't want to stop seeing my friend but I couldn't sleep last dark with the anger of it all, aimed really at my friend for not telling her daughter bad properly, rather than the little girl.
Is there anything more I can do. In future I will basically step in and tell her daughter off myself but oh dear, I don't approaching this situation at all.
:(
tell ur friend to spank her or she has to leave
I think when it comes to your daughter sadly her welfare comes first in the situation. I understand you want to see your friend but your just going to hold to follow through with what your gut instinct tells you to do. It's not your fault. Even if she does deduce that her daughter thinks it's "just a game" its one that she shouldn't let her child play within the first place. Don't be afraid to get in there and protect her. By showing your daughter that you told the little girl no she will revise that it's ok to stick up for herself. Make sure she knows that no one is ever supposed to treat her like that and she doesn't hold to take it.
Tell the other child "no." Yes, your friend might be affronted by it, but let's face it, she's irresponsible for not disciplining her own child. Her daughter is inflicting pain on another child and she's allowing it to happen?! And I bet SHE isn't losing any sleep over it. Ugh.
Doesn't hurt to try. If she take offense, remember you are doing nothing wrong. You are acting like a responsible adult who is taking control of the situation...and avoiding serious injury to develop to either child.
i would step in if your friend doesn't subsequent time. i would very calmly say "no, we don't push if you can't play nice you won't play at all" yeah i know that's greatly to say to a child that age but it is also a statement to your friend. if her kid does it again and she still doesn't intervene then separate the kids for a little while. and verbs the cycle until her daughter stops or your friend steps up and teaches her own child.
Answers: Life is full of tough choices and this is one that's easy. If your friend won't correct her child's behavior, then you enjoy every right to tell her no b/c it directly involves your child's safety. You don't need to verbs more about your friends reaction than you do your child's head injury. You should stop it presently before she pushes her over while she's next to a table corner. I myself have have to take matters into my own hands, it take a bit to swallow, but you can do it.
My son, just turned 3, was being followed by a girl, perchance 2, at a playplace that kept hitting all the children there. The first time she hit him he looked at me like "What do I do presently?" I told him to let it go, that we don't hit people, the latter person aimed at the mother since she had yet to do anything about any of the hitting her child be doing. She then did it again and again to everyone. I said, as nicely as possible, that she needed to stop her daughter from hitting my son. She replied, "Doesn't look like he's going to do anything just about it." That tore it. I explained to her that I taught my child manners and not to hit people but unfortunately for her, my mother moved out that part out of my training. She just smirked and turned back to her daughter, who be still hitting all the other children. The other parents were getting visibly upset with her daughter as ably. Then her daughter went to hit my son again and before I could stop myself, I turned into my grandmother... skipped straight over my mother and went to grandma mode. In that voice we adjectives know too well with "that look" we all know too in good health, I said "Little Girl..." and that was it. She put her hand down, walked to her table, sit down, and started eating french fries :). The mother looked at all the others parents for help but adjectives they could do is laugh.
Long story short, you do what you have to do to keep your child not detrimental. No matter who's toes get stepped on.
I hold the same problem with my 16 mo. old girl and her 22 mo. antediluvian boy cousin.
He will hit or push her, and I wil say aloud, "HEY! no, no hit!" and he somewhat gets the idea.
I be telling him, "Don't hit my child!" But I let up on that, and turned to straightening out my ex inlaws kid from another man.. talk going on for no relation. BUT the key is keeping the children safe, even from eachother.
Stick up for your baby.
That be funny Betsy.
So you call that character a friend? How is that? If that was me in your shoes I would confront the friend and the little girl. That child needs some type of discipline and you call for to be the one to do it if her mother is allowing it to go on and in your house. Put the girl on a time out, away from her mom and make her sit nearby for 3 minutes, to start. Let her know that it is not nice for her to be pushing people down, that it hurts. Ask her if she would like it if your child pushed her down for no reason. Let her know that she have to apologize also that if she continues to do it that you will have to spank her. If you are not willing to spank her , then share her that she wont be able to come and play anymore. I am not saying that you have to be have it in mind by lightly popping her but it will show her that you are in charge. If her mom doesn't like it permit her know that you do not let your child get away with stuff approaching that and you are not going to sit back and let your kid get hurt because she cant discipline her kid. I know that adjectives kids that come into my house are treated the same, I let the parents know before mitt and then when time comes they are aware that they might have different rules but they are your rules in your house. If they didn't resembling it then they wouldn't keep coming back to play.
You can relay her to be gentle. Explain that your daughter is not very stable and that friends are for playing with - not pushing. Also, lift her hand and make her gently stroke your daughter's arm while you repeat "Gentle. Gentle. See how to be nice to Mary?" Children will grasp eventually, but you'll have to repeat this maneuver several times.
This is pretty normal behavior at this age, so be patient.
I heard something similar to this, but it involved pit bulls. Apparently if you toughen up your daughter a bit she won't take crap from nobody. If you start presently, I bet she'd be able to take you out by the end of the summer.
In the meantime, I suggest you train to become a coop fighter so you can throw your friend through a wall or swingset. That, or you can sleep with her husband... You obviously both put out.
Don't hesitate to tell your friends child "no" yourself.
Some parents of late see no bad in their child and I've learned from my own experience it is of late easier to take control.
Your friends child will more likely listen to you as your not her mother and from my own experience when i have have to discipline my nieces & nephews they don't like it when their Aunt is upset with them so they will listen to what I say.
It is with the sole purpose worth a try. You're not doing it for your friend your doing it for your daughter, so if she has a problem with is just explain politely you don't want any child to end up getting badly injured.
First they both are babies so telling off a 16month antediluvian isn't going to work what you could do is the next time they are playing keep your eye on them while they are playing and if she goes to push her next step in and redirect her or say no that not nice her mother should stop this class of behavior i am sure if it was directed at her daughter she would just watch the when they are playing that roughly speaking the only thing you can do
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Now she does it when they are both standing, comes full at her beside arms outstretched and goes for her neck and shoulders and pushes my daughter flat to the floor, onto her back.
This happen for the second time yesterday and I got cross with my friend and said you have to communicate her 'no' more forcefully because she just keeps doing it. It was palpable I was really annoyed.
Until then my friend had kept truism, "oh I think my daughter just thinks it's a hobby or a sport to push your daughter over" and up until that point I just went with it but I've really have enough now.
I don't want to stop seeing my friend but I couldn't sleep last dark with the anger of it all, aimed really at my friend for not telling her daughter bad properly, rather than the little girl.
Is there anything more I can do. In future I will basically step in and tell her daughter off myself but oh dear, I don't approaching this situation at all.
:(
tell ur friend to spank her or she has to leave
I think when it comes to your daughter sadly her welfare comes first in the situation. I understand you want to see your friend but your just going to hold to follow through with what your gut instinct tells you to do. It's not your fault. Even if she does deduce that her daughter thinks it's "just a game" its one that she shouldn't let her child play within the first place. Don't be afraid to get in there and protect her. By showing your daughter that you told the little girl no she will revise that it's ok to stick up for herself. Make sure she knows that no one is ever supposed to treat her like that and she doesn't hold to take it.
Tell the other child "no." Yes, your friend might be affronted by it, but let's face it, she's irresponsible for not disciplining her own child. Her daughter is inflicting pain on another child and she's allowing it to happen?! And I bet SHE isn't losing any sleep over it. Ugh.
Doesn't hurt to try. If she take offense, remember you are doing nothing wrong. You are acting like a responsible adult who is taking control of the situation...and avoiding serious injury to develop to either child.
i would step in if your friend doesn't subsequent time. i would very calmly say "no, we don't push if you can't play nice you won't play at all" yeah i know that's greatly to say to a child that age but it is also a statement to your friend. if her kid does it again and she still doesn't intervene then separate the kids for a little while. and verbs the cycle until her daughter stops or your friend steps up and teaches her own child.
Answers: Life is full of tough choices and this is one that's easy. If your friend won't correct her child's behavior, then you enjoy every right to tell her no b/c it directly involves your child's safety. You don't need to verbs more about your friends reaction than you do your child's head injury. You should stop it presently before she pushes her over while she's next to a table corner. I myself have have to take matters into my own hands, it take a bit to swallow, but you can do it.
My son, just turned 3, was being followed by a girl, perchance 2, at a playplace that kept hitting all the children there. The first time she hit him he looked at me like "What do I do presently?" I told him to let it go, that we don't hit people, the latter person aimed at the mother since she had yet to do anything about any of the hitting her child be doing. She then did it again and again to everyone. I said, as nicely as possible, that she needed to stop her daughter from hitting my son. She replied, "Doesn't look like he's going to do anything just about it." That tore it. I explained to her that I taught my child manners and not to hit people but unfortunately for her, my mother moved out that part out of my training. She just smirked and turned back to her daughter, who be still hitting all the other children. The other parents were getting visibly upset with her daughter as ably. Then her daughter went to hit my son again and before I could stop myself, I turned into my grandmother... skipped straight over my mother and went to grandma mode. In that voice we adjectives know too well with "that look" we all know too in good health, I said "Little Girl..." and that was it. She put her hand down, walked to her table, sit down, and started eating french fries :). The mother looked at all the others parents for help but adjectives they could do is laugh.
Long story short, you do what you have to do to keep your child not detrimental. No matter who's toes get stepped on.
I hold the same problem with my 16 mo. old girl and her 22 mo. antediluvian boy cousin.
He will hit or push her, and I wil say aloud, "HEY! no, no hit!" and he somewhat gets the idea.
I be telling him, "Don't hit my child!" But I let up on that, and turned to straightening out my ex inlaws kid from another man.. talk going on for no relation. BUT the key is keeping the children safe, even from eachother.
Stick up for your baby.
That be funny Betsy.
So you call that character a friend? How is that? If that was me in your shoes I would confront the friend and the little girl. That child needs some type of discipline and you call for to be the one to do it if her mother is allowing it to go on and in your house. Put the girl on a time out, away from her mom and make her sit nearby for 3 minutes, to start. Let her know that it is not nice for her to be pushing people down, that it hurts. Ask her if she would like it if your child pushed her down for no reason. Let her know that she have to apologize also that if she continues to do it that you will have to spank her. If you are not willing to spank her , then share her that she wont be able to come and play anymore. I am not saying that you have to be have it in mind by lightly popping her but it will show her that you are in charge. If her mom doesn't like it permit her know that you do not let your child get away with stuff approaching that and you are not going to sit back and let your kid get hurt because she cant discipline her kid. I know that adjectives kids that come into my house are treated the same, I let the parents know before mitt and then when time comes they are aware that they might have different rules but they are your rules in your house. If they didn't resembling it then they wouldn't keep coming back to play.
You can relay her to be gentle. Explain that your daughter is not very stable and that friends are for playing with - not pushing. Also, lift her hand and make her gently stroke your daughter's arm while you repeat "Gentle. Gentle. See how to be nice to Mary?" Children will grasp eventually, but you'll have to repeat this maneuver several times.
This is pretty normal behavior at this age, so be patient.
I heard something similar to this, but it involved pit bulls. Apparently if you toughen up your daughter a bit she won't take crap from nobody. If you start presently, I bet she'd be able to take you out by the end of the summer.
In the meantime, I suggest you train to become a coop fighter so you can throw your friend through a wall or swingset. That, or you can sleep with her husband... You obviously both put out.
Don't hesitate to tell your friends child "no" yourself.
Some parents of late see no bad in their child and I've learned from my own experience it is of late easier to take control.
Your friends child will more likely listen to you as your not her mother and from my own experience when i have have to discipline my nieces & nephews they don't like it when their Aunt is upset with them so they will listen to what I say.
It is with the sole purpose worth a try. You're not doing it for your friend your doing it for your daughter, so if she has a problem with is just explain politely you don't want any child to end up getting badly injured.
First they both are babies so telling off a 16month antediluvian isn't going to work what you could do is the next time they are playing keep your eye on them while they are playing and if she goes to push her next step in and redirect her or say no that not nice her mother should stop this class of behavior i am sure if it was directed at her daughter she would just watch the when they are playing that roughly speaking the only thing you can do
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