How do I get hold of my 4 1/2 yr behind the times to sleep contained by her own bed?
She states that she dislikes her own bed, there are shadows in her room and she would prefer her room be painted PINK. If we try the tough love and make her sleep surrounded by her own bed she cries until she gets sick...I mean this girl will literally puke in her own bed. Her father and I do not know what to do...we own tried everything. We have even offered to let her share rooms with her little 2 yr aged sister...but she is not agreeing with that either. Any ideas?
the fear within itself is irrational, so try to figure out what the true reason for her getting sick when shes alone in her bed is. it could be cause by a daytime anxiety u havent thought of yet because its not directly connected to her bedroom or sleeping. children often own problems we cant imagine, and they dont have the words to express them.
thats one thing.
consequently, u can also try to create a soothing bedtime ritual with her. the most common one would be : reading her a story, turning on a dim light beside her bed, hugging and kissing her goodnight, reminding her that u're not far away, disappearing the door ajar.
I would suggest a 20-30 minute wind down routine that involves quiet happenings in her bedroom, like being read to and exchanging stories. Do anything you can to associate her bedroom and her bed next to things that are comforting and exciting; making a big deal out of her "big girl bed" is a must.
When you do finish your wind down routine and it's time to go to sleep, you or your husband can report to her you will lie down(or sit) next to her while she falls asleep and then you'll be within the next room if she wakes up. If she does wake up, consult to her soothingly and take her back to bed where you will stay near her while she drifts off to sleep again. This may seem like it's too much of your time but this can be a startling transition and one that merits extra special attention, time and understanding. Good luck, I'm sure you will all come through this wonderfully! Source(s): http://life.familyeducation.com/behavioral-problems/sleep/41809.html
try letting her fall asleep with u later putting her in her bed after shes asleep...she will get used 2 waking up near..it may help...plus make her bed a fun place 2 b...maybe a sun shelter like shes a princess..worked 4 my lil girl...hopefully this helps..good luck
-soft music
-paint her room pink
-tell her if she gets up out of bed u will take away her _______ (fav toy)
-night light
-tell her here is nothing to be affraid of
-theres no shadows her mind is playing with her
-make her go to bed a partially an hour early if she gets out of bed the last darkness
-always put her in bed at 8
Answers: There are shadows everywhere. Sounds close to she's got you all wrapped around her cute little finger. The first couple of nights, only just use a thin sheet or blanket and wrap a towel around the bed and tuck it under so if she throws up, you can just run the towel off and leave the room without speaking to her aside from to influence, "Goodnight. We love you and we'll see you in the morning." Do it Supernanny style. Don't speak to her and continually pick her up and put her back in her bed when she comes out. The first darkness it may take a couple of hours. The second it will be less time, etc. until she goes down in need a hitch. It doesn't matter if her room's pink or the lights are left on--she won't sleep in in that either way unless she's forced to. Turn out the lights and let her business with it.
Maybe get hold of her a night lite. Or do some kind of reward system for her when she sleeps all darkness in her own bed.
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the fear within itself is irrational, so try to figure out what the true reason for her getting sick when shes alone in her bed is. it could be cause by a daytime anxiety u havent thought of yet because its not directly connected to her bedroom or sleeping. children often own problems we cant imagine, and they dont have the words to express them.
thats one thing.
consequently, u can also try to create a soothing bedtime ritual with her. the most common one would be : reading her a story, turning on a dim light beside her bed, hugging and kissing her goodnight, reminding her that u're not far away, disappearing the door ajar.
I would suggest a 20-30 minute wind down routine that involves quiet happenings in her bedroom, like being read to and exchanging stories. Do anything you can to associate her bedroom and her bed next to things that are comforting and exciting; making a big deal out of her "big girl bed" is a must.
When you do finish your wind down routine and it's time to go to sleep, you or your husband can report to her you will lie down(or sit) next to her while she falls asleep and then you'll be within the next room if she wakes up. If she does wake up, consult to her soothingly and take her back to bed where you will stay near her while she drifts off to sleep again. This may seem like it's too much of your time but this can be a startling transition and one that merits extra special attention, time and understanding. Good luck, I'm sure you will all come through this wonderfully! Source(s): http://life.familyeducation.com/behavioral-problems/sleep/41809.html
try letting her fall asleep with u later putting her in her bed after shes asleep...she will get used 2 waking up near..it may help...plus make her bed a fun place 2 b...maybe a sun shelter like shes a princess..worked 4 my lil girl...hopefully this helps..good luck
-soft music
-paint her room pink
-tell her if she gets up out of bed u will take away her _______ (fav toy)
-night light
-tell her here is nothing to be affraid of
-theres no shadows her mind is playing with her
-make her go to bed a partially an hour early if she gets out of bed the last darkness
-always put her in bed at 8
Answers: There are shadows everywhere. Sounds close to she's got you all wrapped around her cute little finger. The first couple of nights, only just use a thin sheet or blanket and wrap a towel around the bed and tuck it under so if she throws up, you can just run the towel off and leave the room without speaking to her aside from to influence, "Goodnight. We love you and we'll see you in the morning." Do it Supernanny style. Don't speak to her and continually pick her up and put her back in her bed when she comes out. The first darkness it may take a couple of hours. The second it will be less time, etc. until she goes down in need a hitch. It doesn't matter if her room's pink or the lights are left on--she won't sleep in in that either way unless she's forced to. Turn out the lights and let her business with it.
Maybe get hold of her a night lite. Or do some kind of reward system for her when she sleeps all darkness in her own bed.
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