17 year ancient boyfriend, 14 years outdated. Help!?
Okayy, so basically. Me and my current boyfriend 17, im 14 have been dating for a while immediately, we broke up a while ago and he wanted me back so now we are dating again. So i dont take this, he says he loves me and what not. which when ever it is just me and him talking on the phone and whatnot he does. I can really convey. but whenever its me and him talking on the phone and whatnot and his friends are around him he wont say i love you and hell say jerkish comments. Is this average?
Help me.
What should I say when I try to talk to him about it??
Please and thank you(:
Why at 14 would you even be having a boyfriend and "whatnot". As next to most parents I also believe you are too young to have a boyfriend and "whatnot". This is an age where you should freshly be a teen, continue your education and enjoy adjectives there is to being a young teen which doesn't really include have a boyfriend, let alone a 17 year old one and "whatnot". What happens once he turns 18 and "whatnot"? Now we're conversation about statutory rape if the two of you are being intimate and now days, we simply have to assume that is the case which is base on how many young mothers are out there and "whatnot". If not, I applaud you for a prudent decision and "whatnot".
Sorry for the annoying "whatnot"s. Just trying to prove a point I guess. Teens always seem to have a sneaking suspicion that that parents and/or adults have no idea what we're talking in the order of and are just trying to make life difficult for their kids. Seriously, most of us are trying to protect or attempt to prevent our kids from making one and the same mistakes a lot of us did as kids. And, as is usually the case, when the times comes you have children, you too will be doing like peas in a pod and continue this cycle. Some listen, but the majority do not and these are life long lessons which is adjectives a part of growing up and learning to become responsible adults.
Personally, I think that as a 14 year antediluvian, you should not even be thinking about having a boyfriend, at least contained by the way we think you mean since you've stated that you broke up and are not dating again. He is going to be 18 soon and later what. Then it will be illegal if things go beyond kissing. I don't have an issue next to kids kissing, but when it goes beyond that, which is usually does, that's how we get ourselves in trouble. Since you choose to enjoy a boyfriend and there really isn't much we as adults can do about it, why would you not be with someone closer to your age. The problem is that he is too close to an age officially considered an "Adult".
As far as him only saying that he loves you when its just the two of you go, well, it could be a number of reasons. People can be outstandingly mean at times and a boy saying "I love you" with his friends around is newly opening himself up for being picked on. Boys will be boys and alot of times they will not say the words you want to hear because they don't want to be picked on.
The sincerity is that even though you say "I can really tell." you don't. You really have no perception what this kind of love even means. Sure, you can love your parents, your pet, certain types of food, movies etc., but, you enjoy no idea what true love of a prospective partner is. You really are way too young to become conscious what comes with those magical words and the responsibilities involved in a loving relationship between two people who are thinking in the region of becoming life long partners. Unfortunately, saying "I love you" is thrown around too efficiently and it doesn't hold the magic it once used to.
I for one would say, leave this boy alone and attain back to living your life as a teenager. You hold a crush or an infatuation with this boy, not true love. I'm not saying there is anything wrong beside those feelings either, I'm just wise saying you should stay within your age group. Sure, we can't always pick and choose who we feel that path towards, but you are in an age group where your choices could have severe consequences. Once you become a lawful adult, you can be with whom ever you choose to be with, capably, as long as they too are a legal adult. But from that point, if you're 18 years old, you can be next to someone who is 25, 40 or even 80 if you choose. Although I still think 18 is too young to be considered an adult, it at tiniest makes it so you gain some experience before you are allowed to make your own choices legitimately.
So, here my bottom line. I think if a boy tells you that he loves you, but is not prepared to do so when there are others around, I say either adopt that or choose not to be with him. If he feels responsible enough to voice it in private, then he should also be able to do it contained by front of others. That's one of the responsibilities of being in love, not being afraid to say aloud it, no matter what the situation.
Sorry for the long reply, but when it comes to the kids of our future, I don't feel we as adults should sugar coat our answers. A problem we seem to be to have at times is that we under estimate what they have the resources to understand and make assumptions about how they interpret our answers. We have need of to give kids more time when it comes to answering questions they have and making sure they know what we are saying. Also, as adults, we should appreciate the fact that they are willing to ask question because there are many who will just progress out on there own in attempts to find their own answers which could sometimes lead to go long repercussions.
I'd stay away from him, but if you should have this problem again with someone closer to your own age, I would say, don't be afraid to hold talks with the person and l
He sounds like a jerk. He probably just requirements sex.
Answers: You're exceedingly young still, and he is treating you poorly. He is not very mature if he can't be honest near his feelings, and if he does love you but can't say so in front of his friends he's self dishonest, or more likely, he is showing off for his friends then trying to keep hold of you in the wings because he wants sex, so he act nicely when no one is around. Either way, he is not treating you resembling he should, and you deserve someone who will respect you at all times. I'd dump the loser, and wait until you find someone who earns your trust and trusts you rear. Good luck.
you are too- young to date- shame on your parents for not being here!
you have whole lofe to date.. can get STD - or return with pregnant
this is SAD- my sister is 14... My mom would not let this happen
Hes to embearess to say it in front of his friends cause consequently they think hes a freak
Does his friends know that u're his gf? perchance he's trying to act all cool.
Ask his directly why he does that.
He's just acting resembling a typical guy. He doesn't wanna seem ''gay'' and ''soppy'' in front of his mates.
Tell him, I parley on the phone to talk to a Boyfriend (The Boy I like), this is what you asked me again for? Treat me like your girlfriend or LEave me ALone.BTW, this happens to you because your not weak enough. (IT still happens to some women older than you, but you are too childlike.)BTW I know all the girls your age date...SOme are not even a Virgen but you're too young for a 17 year old. Even though AGe DOnt Matter. Love does; i dont see love here sorry. Hope I help and hope u don't think this is another offencive comment they say here on Yahoo! But, I wouldn't want ANOTHER teen doing the wrong thing. Source(s): 19 year ripened Female.
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What should I say when I try to talk to him about it??
Please and thank you(:
Why at 14 would you even be having a boyfriend and "whatnot". As next to most parents I also believe you are too young to have a boyfriend and "whatnot". This is an age where you should freshly be a teen, continue your education and enjoy adjectives there is to being a young teen which doesn't really include have a boyfriend, let alone a 17 year old one and "whatnot". What happens once he turns 18 and "whatnot"? Now we're conversation about statutory rape if the two of you are being intimate and now days, we simply have to assume that is the case which is base on how many young mothers are out there and "whatnot". If not, I applaud you for a prudent decision and "whatnot".
Sorry for the annoying "whatnot"s. Just trying to prove a point I guess. Teens always seem to have a sneaking suspicion that that parents and/or adults have no idea what we're talking in the order of and are just trying to make life difficult for their kids. Seriously, most of us are trying to protect or attempt to prevent our kids from making one and the same mistakes a lot of us did as kids. And, as is usually the case, when the times comes you have children, you too will be doing like peas in a pod and continue this cycle. Some listen, but the majority do not and these are life long lessons which is adjectives a part of growing up and learning to become responsible adults.
Personally, I think that as a 14 year antediluvian, you should not even be thinking about having a boyfriend, at least contained by the way we think you mean since you've stated that you broke up and are not dating again. He is going to be 18 soon and later what. Then it will be illegal if things go beyond kissing. I don't have an issue next to kids kissing, but when it goes beyond that, which is usually does, that's how we get ourselves in trouble. Since you choose to enjoy a boyfriend and there really isn't much we as adults can do about it, why would you not be with someone closer to your age. The problem is that he is too close to an age officially considered an "Adult".
As far as him only saying that he loves you when its just the two of you go, well, it could be a number of reasons. People can be outstandingly mean at times and a boy saying "I love you" with his friends around is newly opening himself up for being picked on. Boys will be boys and alot of times they will not say the words you want to hear because they don't want to be picked on.
The sincerity is that even though you say "I can really tell." you don't. You really have no perception what this kind of love even means. Sure, you can love your parents, your pet, certain types of food, movies etc., but, you enjoy no idea what true love of a prospective partner is. You really are way too young to become conscious what comes with those magical words and the responsibilities involved in a loving relationship between two people who are thinking in the region of becoming life long partners. Unfortunately, saying "I love you" is thrown around too efficiently and it doesn't hold the magic it once used to.
I for one would say, leave this boy alone and attain back to living your life as a teenager. You hold a crush or an infatuation with this boy, not true love. I'm not saying there is anything wrong beside those feelings either, I'm just wise saying you should stay within your age group. Sure, we can't always pick and choose who we feel that path towards, but you are in an age group where your choices could have severe consequences. Once you become a lawful adult, you can be with whom ever you choose to be with, capably, as long as they too are a legal adult. But from that point, if you're 18 years old, you can be next to someone who is 25, 40 or even 80 if you choose. Although I still think 18 is too young to be considered an adult, it at tiniest makes it so you gain some experience before you are allowed to make your own choices legitimately.
So, here my bottom line. I think if a boy tells you that he loves you, but is not prepared to do so when there are others around, I say either adopt that or choose not to be with him. If he feels responsible enough to voice it in private, then he should also be able to do it contained by front of others. That's one of the responsibilities of being in love, not being afraid to say aloud it, no matter what the situation.
Sorry for the long reply, but when it comes to the kids of our future, I don't feel we as adults should sugar coat our answers. A problem we seem to be to have at times is that we under estimate what they have the resources to understand and make assumptions about how they interpret our answers. We have need of to give kids more time when it comes to answering questions they have and making sure they know what we are saying. Also, as adults, we should appreciate the fact that they are willing to ask question because there are many who will just progress out on there own in attempts to find their own answers which could sometimes lead to go long repercussions.
I'd stay away from him, but if you should have this problem again with someone closer to your own age, I would say, don't be afraid to hold talks with the person and l
He sounds like a jerk. He probably just requirements sex.
Answers: You're exceedingly young still, and he is treating you poorly. He is not very mature if he can't be honest near his feelings, and if he does love you but can't say so in front of his friends he's self dishonest, or more likely, he is showing off for his friends then trying to keep hold of you in the wings because he wants sex, so he act nicely when no one is around. Either way, he is not treating you resembling he should, and you deserve someone who will respect you at all times. I'd dump the loser, and wait until you find someone who earns your trust and trusts you rear. Good luck.
you are too- young to date- shame on your parents for not being here!
you have whole lofe to date.. can get STD - or return with pregnant
this is SAD- my sister is 14... My mom would not let this happen
Hes to embearess to say it in front of his friends cause consequently they think hes a freak
Does his friends know that u're his gf? perchance he's trying to act all cool.
Ask his directly why he does that.
He's just acting resembling a typical guy. He doesn't wanna seem ''gay'' and ''soppy'' in front of his mates.
Tell him, I parley on the phone to talk to a Boyfriend (The Boy I like), this is what you asked me again for? Treat me like your girlfriend or LEave me ALone.BTW, this happens to you because your not weak enough. (IT still happens to some women older than you, but you are too childlike.)BTW I know all the girls your age date...SOme are not even a Virgen but you're too young for a 17 year old. Even though AGe DOnt Matter. Love does; i dont see love here sorry. Hope I help and hope u don't think this is another offencive comment they say here on Yahoo! But, I wouldn't want ANOTHER teen doing the wrong thing. Source(s): 19 year ripened Female.
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