Is it unwholesome to my 3 yr outdated (emotionally/mentally) to pinch away the pacifier cold turkey?
She keeps asking for something to suck on. Should I have weaned her off it? I took it away on Monday evening. And the purpose behind my doing it was because she wasn't listening.
And yes I take I've waited too long.
Yes, basically take it away. She does not yet have intent permanence in her brain development and she will soon forget more or less it. Don't take it away as a punishment, though. Just tell her she is a big girl now and does not call for binky.
Why don't you give her old pacifiers to " a baby who requirements it"..as in go to the toy store and have her pick out a toy he like then say "oh that toy is only for big girls who don't use their binkies". Tell your daughter that she is going to assist you pack all her pacis in a box and mail after out to a baby who needs them and after you guys return from the post office you can stop by the toy store and buy her that "big girl" toy. Set a date, approaching next wednesday and count the days off but get her excited almost her new toy. Let her help you pack the pacifiers in a small box, video the box closed, even have her draw nice pictures "for the babies", and put a stamp on it. She will feel like a big girl helping you near the pacifier box, take her with you to the post office and above the box only tape a note to please toss in the scrap b/c they are old pacifiers.
Even if you don't like this method, know that cold turkey is rough, its not going to damage her emotionally but it will be a week of hell for you. Understand that a pacifier at that age is a mental and emotionally dependency that you allowed to escalate to that point. Substitute the paci for something else, a toy bear,a nice sippy cup or a doll or something that might bring her comfort and give her that sense of comfort she felt near the pacifier.
Maybe you should update her you've given it to another baby who needs it and she's a big girl now and doesn't call for it.
I think you done the right thing by going cold turkey. It may be some time before she stops asking for it but I wouldn't appendage it back to her now. It would be harder taking it away again.
Well to be honest I would hold done it gradually as its her little comforter.Promise to get her something special and do something special for being a big girl,taking something away from her that she have had all her life isn't really the right point to do.When my girls were little I persuaded them to put them in a rucksack and leave them for father xmas,I then left them a special present from father xmas for man good girls.Good luck
It is done now so I wouldn't give it back. Just keep hold of enforcing what a big girl she is now. Give her hugs and let her know you love her. It be time to give it up. I broke my son from a bottle by putting everything into a soda can. It was a compromise that neither of us felt unpromising about, and it only lasted a couple of months. He never looked-for anything to do with a pacifier, nothing came out of it.
I don't follow the part about taking it away for not listening? You took it away as a punishment? I would rethink that approach within the future. You took away a source of comfort and security that you have no intention of giving hindmost if she begins listening. I believe taking away a treasured goal is only effective if once the behavior is corrected the item is returned. And the item taken should relate to the problematic behavior.
Please get that child a "big girl" binky.I approaching the suggestion of the straw with all the twists & turns in it. Source(s): Parenting courses and books, 20 years of parenting.
dont beat yourself up about letting her enjoy it too long already, whats done is done. the question is now. if you have already taken it away from her, stand firm ! dont vertebrae down now ! you already have the battle partially won !! she will forget about, its ok. i really dont think she will be mentally or emotionally damaged. its not that serious.
well brought-up luck ! Source(s): mother of three, have bought aprox 30 binkys when i lost them and my kid had to have them by we eventually weaned them from it.
Answers: You know you should have taken it away earlier, and I hope you know that you shouldn't own tied it to her behavior*, but no it isn't harmful in the long run to take it away cold turkey. She won't be sitting within a shrinks office in her college years sucking her thumb and relating how her mother took away her security. Many parents enjoy a little ceremony where they have the child throw away their infirm pacifiers or give them to a new baby. There the child is stopping cold turkey as very well.
My rule of thumb is that if the child is old enough to ask for bottles or pacifiers, especially in complete sentences, they are passageway too old to have them.
*Effective punishment should always fit the crime. What lesson do you want her to remember from the punishment? Even though it's tough, it's best to try to avoid impulsive unrelated punishments, like taking the pacifier because she wasn't listen.
what?!
are you kidding me?
i have it in mind that the nicest way possible but you better stop babying her or you're gonna be in for a rude awakening at what you are creating for the years to come.
she should hold been off that thing at the lowest possible, a year and a half ago. she is a big girl now, and there is no room for an infant pacifier. she wishes to stop being a baby and start living the life as a big girl :)
i do not think that it is fair to her to lately take it away cold turkey. i think it is best if you start by only letting her own it when she is sleeping/going to sleep and taking it away when she is awake. eventually she wont want it during the day and you can take it away for good. i hope this help. Source(s): family
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And yes I take I've waited too long.
Yes, basically take it away. She does not yet have intent permanence in her brain development and she will soon forget more or less it. Don't take it away as a punishment, though. Just tell her she is a big girl now and does not call for binky.
Why don't you give her old pacifiers to " a baby who requirements it"..as in go to the toy store and have her pick out a toy he like then say "oh that toy is only for big girls who don't use their binkies". Tell your daughter that she is going to assist you pack all her pacis in a box and mail after out to a baby who needs them and after you guys return from the post office you can stop by the toy store and buy her that "big girl" toy. Set a date, approaching next wednesday and count the days off but get her excited almost her new toy. Let her help you pack the pacifiers in a small box, video the box closed, even have her draw nice pictures "for the babies", and put a stamp on it. She will feel like a big girl helping you near the pacifier box, take her with you to the post office and above the box only tape a note to please toss in the scrap b/c they are old pacifiers.
Even if you don't like this method, know that cold turkey is rough, its not going to damage her emotionally but it will be a week of hell for you. Understand that a pacifier at that age is a mental and emotionally dependency that you allowed to escalate to that point. Substitute the paci for something else, a toy bear,a nice sippy cup or a doll or something that might bring her comfort and give her that sense of comfort she felt near the pacifier.
Maybe you should update her you've given it to another baby who needs it and she's a big girl now and doesn't call for it.
I think you done the right thing by going cold turkey. It may be some time before she stops asking for it but I wouldn't appendage it back to her now. It would be harder taking it away again.
Well to be honest I would hold done it gradually as its her little comforter.Promise to get her something special and do something special for being a big girl,taking something away from her that she have had all her life isn't really the right point to do.When my girls were little I persuaded them to put them in a rucksack and leave them for father xmas,I then left them a special present from father xmas for man good girls.Good luck
It is done now so I wouldn't give it back. Just keep hold of enforcing what a big girl she is now. Give her hugs and let her know you love her. It be time to give it up. I broke my son from a bottle by putting everything into a soda can. It was a compromise that neither of us felt unpromising about, and it only lasted a couple of months. He never looked-for anything to do with a pacifier, nothing came out of it.
I don't follow the part about taking it away for not listening? You took it away as a punishment? I would rethink that approach within the future. You took away a source of comfort and security that you have no intention of giving hindmost if she begins listening. I believe taking away a treasured goal is only effective if once the behavior is corrected the item is returned. And the item taken should relate to the problematic behavior.
Please get that child a "big girl" binky.I approaching the suggestion of the straw with all the twists & turns in it. Source(s): Parenting courses and books, 20 years of parenting.
dont beat yourself up about letting her enjoy it too long already, whats done is done. the question is now. if you have already taken it away from her, stand firm ! dont vertebrae down now ! you already have the battle partially won !! she will forget about, its ok. i really dont think she will be mentally or emotionally damaged. its not that serious.
well brought-up luck ! Source(s): mother of three, have bought aprox 30 binkys when i lost them and my kid had to have them by we eventually weaned them from it.
Answers: You know you should have taken it away earlier, and I hope you know that you shouldn't own tied it to her behavior*, but no it isn't harmful in the long run to take it away cold turkey. She won't be sitting within a shrinks office in her college years sucking her thumb and relating how her mother took away her security. Many parents enjoy a little ceremony where they have the child throw away their infirm pacifiers or give them to a new baby. There the child is stopping cold turkey as very well.
My rule of thumb is that if the child is old enough to ask for bottles or pacifiers, especially in complete sentences, they are passageway too old to have them.
*Effective punishment should always fit the crime. What lesson do you want her to remember from the punishment? Even though it's tough, it's best to try to avoid impulsive unrelated punishments, like taking the pacifier because she wasn't listen.
what?!
are you kidding me?
i have it in mind that the nicest way possible but you better stop babying her or you're gonna be in for a rude awakening at what you are creating for the years to come.
she should hold been off that thing at the lowest possible, a year and a half ago. she is a big girl now, and there is no room for an infant pacifier. she wishes to stop being a baby and start living the life as a big girl :)
i do not think that it is fair to her to lately take it away cold turkey. i think it is best if you start by only letting her own it when she is sleeping/going to sleep and taking it away when she is awake. eventually she wont want it during the day and you can take it away for good. i hope this help. Source(s): family
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