36 weeks pregnant and so stressed.what do i do?
OK I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and I cheated on my boyfriend in August of 08 with a 20 year old and I told him in the order of it when I was seven months pregnant.(I know the baby isnt the guy I had sex next to because I would have had her by now and I concieved concluding November.) Well that is all I here about presently and not even 3 weeks ago I found out that he was sending emails over myspace to girls he didnt even know talking about he looked-for to have sex with them and stuff..He expects me to get over it and in recent times forget about but everytime we get into a fight he brings up the time I cheated.Im not going to move out him because I honestly love him with all my heart and I will do anything for him but what do i do so we will stop fighting..
Also closing night we were arguing over i dont know what.but he started saying really stupid and have it in mind stuff and then told me to put our baby up for adoption..He told me he didnt mean it after we both cooled down.
Today we started arguing while we be in the shower and he brung up the time I cheated and said I ruined our relationship and stuff and I told him if I ruined the relationship so much then why was he beside me and he said he didnt know..he told me he wants to be with me and then he walk home and when I called him about an hour ago we apoligized and stuff.but I still dont feel confident that he desires to be with me..what can i do for reassurance or what can I do to relax some..and please dont tell me to break up with him because that is to say out of the question
It is normal to argue a bit and fight a bit, you are both young, and as time pass you will both become more settled. Hopefully you will stay together. It will be exciting when the baby comes, try to include him in everything and get him to relief if possible, and don't spend all your time with the child and none for him, even though babies require all your time.
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Try not to argue so much. It takes two to argue. Try to utter things like "it upsets me when you say that" and "let's talk give or take a few something else, please" to reduce the tension. Always say how you get the impression, dont tell him how he feels (some girls do this) Speak to your mom and dad about how to cope.
You are both pretty stressed right now. Having a child, even when you are elder is stressful. You need to refocus your energy on that baby. If he can't concordat with that right now, limit your time next to him. Realize that this is a lot for a 16 year old boy to deal beside right now, too. Back off a bit, take safekeeping of YOU and BABY and let him come to you as he feels ready. If you instigate acting like the grown up you now need to be, he will follow...or not, but you can't control that right in a minute. Everything happens for a reason, even if you're not sure what that reason is at the time it's stirring.
Answers: First of all, this is typical behavior for a 16 year old boy. The cold complex facts are that you will probably not stay together, You are both babies. Instead of arguing over who cheated on who, have wither of you come up with a plan to raise the child you are about to have?
If you are fighting in a minute, wait until the baby gets here and you're not sleeping lying on everything else.
The best thing you can do is live your life. If he chooses to walk down the sme pathway you do then great, if not then you enjoy to deal with it. If you chase him he will only run away faster.
You don't want me to bring up to date you to break up with him, then you have to listen to what I utter and follow it to the T. You need to act like he is no big business. If he doesn't see you running after him, pinning him down, he is going to stop walking away and think why isn't she chasing me anymore.
If he brings up the cheating thing again, calmly short raising your voice or acting upset in front of him, say "Yes, I made a mistake, I told you going on for it and I apologized. That is all I can do, if you are not able to accept my appology and forget what I hold done and stop throwing it up in my face then we shouldn't be together, and I will take if you leave." Say nothing else, don't react to anything he say, stay calm and act as if his walking out would be no big deal.
I garentee not solely will he not walk out he will be more interested but the key is you have to accomplishment like you don't care if he does.
you are both too childlike for kids. do you watch mtv "16 and pregnant"? None of those kids are ready and they are very stressed and can't toy with it. Whether you fight a lot or not, you should finish your education and trademark something of yourself before you raise a child. It only get harder and children cost a lot of money.
His adoption comment sounds like a good view. There are so many couples with secure job, nice houses, and an empty nursery because they cannot conceive and they want to adopt.
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Also closing night we were arguing over i dont know what.but he started saying really stupid and have it in mind stuff and then told me to put our baby up for adoption..He told me he didnt mean it after we both cooled down.
Today we started arguing while we be in the shower and he brung up the time I cheated and said I ruined our relationship and stuff and I told him if I ruined the relationship so much then why was he beside me and he said he didnt know..he told me he wants to be with me and then he walk home and when I called him about an hour ago we apoligized and stuff.but I still dont feel confident that he desires to be with me..what can i do for reassurance or what can I do to relax some..and please dont tell me to break up with him because that is to say out of the question
It is normal to argue a bit and fight a bit, you are both young, and as time pass you will both become more settled. Hopefully you will stay together. It will be exciting when the baby comes, try to include him in everything and get him to relief if possible, and don't spend all your time with the child and none for him, even though babies require all your time.
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Try not to argue so much. It takes two to argue. Try to utter things like "it upsets me when you say that" and "let's talk give or take a few something else, please" to reduce the tension. Always say how you get the impression, dont tell him how he feels (some girls do this) Speak to your mom and dad about how to cope.
You are both pretty stressed right now. Having a child, even when you are elder is stressful. You need to refocus your energy on that baby. If he can't concordat with that right now, limit your time next to him. Realize that this is a lot for a 16 year old boy to deal beside right now, too. Back off a bit, take safekeeping of YOU and BABY and let him come to you as he feels ready. If you instigate acting like the grown up you now need to be, he will follow...or not, but you can't control that right in a minute. Everything happens for a reason, even if you're not sure what that reason is at the time it's stirring.
Answers: First of all, this is typical behavior for a 16 year old boy. The cold complex facts are that you will probably not stay together, You are both babies. Instead of arguing over who cheated on who, have wither of you come up with a plan to raise the child you are about to have?
If you are fighting in a minute, wait until the baby gets here and you're not sleeping lying on everything else.
The best thing you can do is live your life. If he chooses to walk down the sme pathway you do then great, if not then you enjoy to deal with it. If you chase him he will only run away faster.
You don't want me to bring up to date you to break up with him, then you have to listen to what I utter and follow it to the T. You need to act like he is no big business. If he doesn't see you running after him, pinning him down, he is going to stop walking away and think why isn't she chasing me anymore.
If he brings up the cheating thing again, calmly short raising your voice or acting upset in front of him, say "Yes, I made a mistake, I told you going on for it and I apologized. That is all I can do, if you are not able to accept my appology and forget what I hold done and stop throwing it up in my face then we shouldn't be together, and I will take if you leave." Say nothing else, don't react to anything he say, stay calm and act as if his walking out would be no big deal.
I garentee not solely will he not walk out he will be more interested but the key is you have to accomplishment like you don't care if he does.
you are both too childlike for kids. do you watch mtv "16 and pregnant"? None of those kids are ready and they are very stressed and can't toy with it. Whether you fight a lot or not, you should finish your education and trademark something of yourself before you raise a child. It only get harder and children cost a lot of money.
His adoption comment sounds like a good view. There are so many couples with secure job, nice houses, and an empty nursery because they cannot conceive and they want to adopt.
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