12 & pregnant PLEASE HELP?
my daughter is pregnant, shes 12?
i need help,
what have i done wrong?!
is she too infantile to get an abortion
You didn't do anything wrong, relax.
Your daughter is either very loose or she get raped.
Do not get her an abortion. Yes I am an anti-abortion person.
It's disgusting and wrong. Fetuses are people too.
Let her whip responsibility for her actions. If you failed as a mother before later this is a good chance to teach her just about responsibility.
Save a life. Don't do it. Go to this website and look at the pics.
http://www.holylamb.com/abortion1.htm
She isn't too young for an abortion. Also, please ignore the citizens who say an abortion can be dangerous for her and her future fertility. That be true back when abortions were illegal and women have to go to a dirty back ally butcher to get it done, but it is not true today. Today its done by medical professionals within sterile places. An abortion would be no less dangerous then childbirth at her age. Talk to your doctor just about your options with your daughter, make sure that she understand everything that is going on as best she can so she can make good choices. Abortion can hold some serious emotional side effects as well that can be very unsafe, especially if she feels forced into things.
I don't think that playing the blame game is going to support either of you right now. I think that evaluating who your daughter spends time beside and how supervised they are might be a good plan for the future.
Answers: Don't kill her baby. Make her shift through the pregnancy AND the delivery (natural child birth) and I can guarantee you there won't be any more babies before she is 18.
And later put the baby up for adoption. I know she will be upset about that so don't discuss this with her past the baby is born (remember, she is a minor under your care so you can spawn these decisions if they are in her best interest). At 12, she should be focussing on going to school and preparing herself for maturity. She is too young for the adult responsibilities of parenting. And it isn't fair to enjoy you do all the hard work for the next six years and afterwards she takes the baby at 18 and runs. Also, if she knows that she can't preserve the fruit (the baby) of her crime (she is too young for sex), she may think twice about letting herself seize pregnant again in the future.
Also, who got her pregnant? At 12, she is too youthful to consent to sex. At the very least, it is statutory rape, but possibly straight forward rape as well. Have you notify the police that you have a 12 year old pregnant daughter? If not, you need to do this in half a shake. They can test the baby for dna (after the child is born; don't let them do this while she is pregnant as it can affect the baby) to confirm who the rapist rabble is.
As for what you did wrong, don't be so sure that you did. If you taught her self-respect and moral values, it could be that she fell to peer pressure or adolescent hormones...or she was raped. You really call for to get the police involved so they can investigate the circumstances of her pregnancy as she is a crime victim, as well as individual a wayward child.
If you need help near her pregnancy, contact your local Roman Catholic Church. They are strongly pro-life and they can put you in touch with community resources that can help you next to your daughter. And please, don't abort your grandchild. That baby is innocent and deserves the chance to live. Some family will be glad to adopt the tot.
Pax Christi!
Addendum: I nearly forgot. If she is pregnant, that means she had sex without a condom. She could enjoy a sexually transmitted disease (or more) as well. Take her to a gynecologist as soon as possible for a through gynecological exam (make sure they know she is pregnant).
First, you need to fathom out that ultimately this rests on your daughters shoulders.
Second, 12 year olds used to have babies many many years ago when marriage were at that age.
Third, realize that if you assist her in an abortion this may be the last pregnancy that she ever have. There are tons of complications that come hand in hand next to abortions. Are they rare? Yes, more so now than in former times but it should be a valid concern.
Fourth, look into adoption alternatives. Yes, your daughter may have to deal with some difficult times surrounded by the near future but part of have sex is the possibility of getting pregnant and having a child.
Last, I would look to your childrens activities.are they left alone too much? Is this going to surface again or to another one of your children if you have more?
I Think You Can Get Abortions At Any Age She Should Be Able To Get An Abortion But Do You Really Want Her To Go Through That ?.. You s Round With Probably Havent Done Nothing Wrong Its Just The People She Hangs About With The Wrong Group Of People.. But 12 Is Defo Too Young For Sex ?
No you are not a bad parent and kids just enjoy sex at very young ages. I knew a 9 year outmoded who was giving bj's cause she thought it wasn't sex and she would still be a virgin. And for the people that say aloud it's probably rape that happened it could have been done by another 12 year frail. You guys should check out 16 And Pregnant. Yes there is even a show on tv about it. Source(s): Life
You've done nothing wrong, she made a edict to have sex and didn't talk to you. Do sit her down though and talk accessibly about sex, STD's and contraception though, even though it's too late at this stage.
As for abortion, she's not too young, but it can hold devastating effects on her health and ability to have children within the future. You'd be better off getting her to a good OB, getting her the assistance she needs and letting her carry the baby as close to occupancy as her little body will allow. Talk to her about what will happen to the baby once it's born, clear it clear that you wont be raising the child for her, that if she wants to keep it, its her responsibility and perchance adoption would be a better choice.
Its a very rough situation to be in, I'd hate to see one of my children surrounded by this situation, but it's too late to do anything but deal as best you can. I would ground her till she was 18 though, that might train her some sense in the future.
umm well in that isnt an age on abortion, yes she can get one, but dont you think it would be better for her and your GRANDCHILD that she have it and afford it up for adoption, thats the thing a good parent would do.
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i need help,
what have i done wrong?!
is she too infantile to get an abortion
You didn't do anything wrong, relax.
Your daughter is either very loose or she get raped.
Do not get her an abortion. Yes I am an anti-abortion person.
It's disgusting and wrong. Fetuses are people too.
Let her whip responsibility for her actions. If you failed as a mother before later this is a good chance to teach her just about responsibility.
Save a life. Don't do it. Go to this website and look at the pics.
http://www.holylamb.com/abortion1.htm
She isn't too young for an abortion. Also, please ignore the citizens who say an abortion can be dangerous for her and her future fertility. That be true back when abortions were illegal and women have to go to a dirty back ally butcher to get it done, but it is not true today. Today its done by medical professionals within sterile places. An abortion would be no less dangerous then childbirth at her age. Talk to your doctor just about your options with your daughter, make sure that she understand everything that is going on as best she can so she can make good choices. Abortion can hold some serious emotional side effects as well that can be very unsafe, especially if she feels forced into things.
I don't think that playing the blame game is going to support either of you right now. I think that evaluating who your daughter spends time beside and how supervised they are might be a good plan for the future.
Answers: Don't kill her baby. Make her shift through the pregnancy AND the delivery (natural child birth) and I can guarantee you there won't be any more babies before she is 18.
And later put the baby up for adoption. I know she will be upset about that so don't discuss this with her past the baby is born (remember, she is a minor under your care so you can spawn these decisions if they are in her best interest). At 12, she should be focussing on going to school and preparing herself for maturity. She is too young for the adult responsibilities of parenting. And it isn't fair to enjoy you do all the hard work for the next six years and afterwards she takes the baby at 18 and runs. Also, if she knows that she can't preserve the fruit (the baby) of her crime (she is too young for sex), she may think twice about letting herself seize pregnant again in the future.
Also, who got her pregnant? At 12, she is too youthful to consent to sex. At the very least, it is statutory rape, but possibly straight forward rape as well. Have you notify the police that you have a 12 year old pregnant daughter? If not, you need to do this in half a shake. They can test the baby for dna (after the child is born; don't let them do this while she is pregnant as it can affect the baby) to confirm who the rapist rabble is.
As for what you did wrong, don't be so sure that you did. If you taught her self-respect and moral values, it could be that she fell to peer pressure or adolescent hormones...or she was raped. You really call for to get the police involved so they can investigate the circumstances of her pregnancy as she is a crime victim, as well as individual a wayward child.
If you need help near her pregnancy, contact your local Roman Catholic Church. They are strongly pro-life and they can put you in touch with community resources that can help you next to your daughter. And please, don't abort your grandchild. That baby is innocent and deserves the chance to live. Some family will be glad to adopt the tot.
Pax Christi!
Addendum: I nearly forgot. If she is pregnant, that means she had sex without a condom. She could enjoy a sexually transmitted disease (or more) as well. Take her to a gynecologist as soon as possible for a through gynecological exam (make sure they know she is pregnant).
First, you need to fathom out that ultimately this rests on your daughters shoulders.
Second, 12 year olds used to have babies many many years ago when marriage were at that age.
Third, realize that if you assist her in an abortion this may be the last pregnancy that she ever have. There are tons of complications that come hand in hand next to abortions. Are they rare? Yes, more so now than in former times but it should be a valid concern.
Fourth, look into adoption alternatives. Yes, your daughter may have to deal with some difficult times surrounded by the near future but part of have sex is the possibility of getting pregnant and having a child.
Last, I would look to your childrens activities.are they left alone too much? Is this going to surface again or to another one of your children if you have more?
I Think You Can Get Abortions At Any Age She Should Be Able To Get An Abortion But Do You Really Want Her To Go Through That ?.. You s Round With Probably Havent Done Nothing Wrong Its Just The People She Hangs About With The Wrong Group Of People.. But 12 Is Defo Too Young For Sex ?
No you are not a bad parent and kids just enjoy sex at very young ages. I knew a 9 year outmoded who was giving bj's cause she thought it wasn't sex and she would still be a virgin. And for the people that say aloud it's probably rape that happened it could have been done by another 12 year frail. You guys should check out 16 And Pregnant. Yes there is even a show on tv about it. Source(s): Life
You've done nothing wrong, she made a edict to have sex and didn't talk to you. Do sit her down though and talk accessibly about sex, STD's and contraception though, even though it's too late at this stage.
As for abortion, she's not too young, but it can hold devastating effects on her health and ability to have children within the future. You'd be better off getting her to a good OB, getting her the assistance she needs and letting her carry the baby as close to occupancy as her little body will allow. Talk to her about what will happen to the baby once it's born, clear it clear that you wont be raising the child for her, that if she wants to keep it, its her responsibility and perchance adoption would be a better choice.
Its a very rough situation to be in, I'd hate to see one of my children surrounded by this situation, but it's too late to do anything but deal as best you can. I would ground her till she was 18 though, that might train her some sense in the future.
umm well in that isnt an age on abortion, yes she can get one, but dont you think it would be better for her and your GRANDCHILD that she have it and afford it up for adoption, thats the thing a good parent would do.
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