15 year mature son? Need lend a hand ASAP!?
I am a single mother and 4 days ago my 15 year old son said he needed to talk to me about something personal. I figure he probably want to talk about sex or something, you know, teenage stuff. Well, he didn’t bring it up again so I settled to ask him what it is that he wanted to talk about and he said “err…uh nought.” I didn’t make that big a deal about it because I figure he would come around. Well, I work night shifts and I got home that night around 11:30 p.m. and realize he wasn’t there. I searched the house and just get done calling 2 of his friends that hadn’t seen him when he walked in the front door totally drunk! I help him to his bed and he kept saying he wasn’t tired then he told we “need” to talk and up to that time I could even say anything he started crying! I told him we would talk in the morning because I figure he really needed sleep. He fell asleep and he woke up about 15 minutes later to vomit and he kept saying we “need” to parley. I told him I am here for him and will always love him no matter what and I asked what he “needs” to tell me. He only just kept crying and wouldn’t tell me what ever is bothering him. about it. I asked repeatedly. I told him just to walk to sleep and I stayed up at the foot up his bed all night to make sure he slept on his side and that he be alright. Everyone told me to make his hangover hell so he wouldn’t do it again but I decided I needed to hold off on the punishment until I know what is wrong. The subsequent day he wasn’t bringing anything up so I asked what he had wanted to enlighten me. He said “Oh that. Nothing… never mind.” I told him he can come to me with anything and I won’t get angry. He got upset and yell “DAMN! I said it was nothing!” Then he tried to leave, but I would not permit him. He got upset and locked himself in his room. We still haven’t talked but I enjoy a feeling it is something bad. People have suggested I don`t know he got a girl pregnant, which is a big deal, but I do not get why he would cry this much and keep hold of shying away from talking about it. Others have suggested that he may own been molested. Please tell me your thoughts and how I should confront him with out upsetting him. If you mull over it is something, please give me an idea of how to ask him about it!
I sometimes talk to my son beforehand he falls a sleep. I go into his room and let him know that I can't help him if he doesn't let somebody know me what's going on.
Then I make jokes..to break the ice.
As for your son...it could be a girl getting pregnant or he tried something that he doesn't want you to know going on for...like sex with another (guy)...?! maybe.
If you close to try this...
I love you and no matter what I will always love you. So if a girl is pregnant...let me know we can assistance her out...I wouldn't mind grand children...and go on from there.
Good luck..
if you can look at his phone and ask his friends where on earth he's getting the booze and where he was getting drunk.
He any commited a crime, maybe he's gay, or was molested. Not sure.
Answers: First of adjectives, it might have to do with the drinking. Make sure he stays home the next few days and newly dont mention the "thing" again. Give him lots of love and care.
I think he'll tell you when he's arranged. I'm 14, and I'm sometimes afraid to talk to my parents about things because of their possible reactions.
It's virtuous that you let him know you're not going to be upset and you'll love him no matter what. That means so much to someone when they're not recitation you something.
Things it could be:
-Friend issues
-Girl problems
-Pressure (to do things he wouldnt want to do)
-Might be gay?
-Has a serious problem with drugs/drinking
-Or the two things you suggested.
Whatever it is, I wish you both the best of luck. Take care =]
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I sometimes talk to my son beforehand he falls a sleep. I go into his room and let him know that I can't help him if he doesn't let somebody know me what's going on.
Then I make jokes..to break the ice.
As for your son...it could be a girl getting pregnant or he tried something that he doesn't want you to know going on for...like sex with another (guy)...?! maybe.
If you close to try this...
I love you and no matter what I will always love you. So if a girl is pregnant...let me know we can assistance her out...I wouldn't mind grand children...and go on from there.
Good luck..
if you can look at his phone and ask his friends where on earth he's getting the booze and where he was getting drunk.
He any commited a crime, maybe he's gay, or was molested. Not sure.
Answers: First of adjectives, it might have to do with the drinking. Make sure he stays home the next few days and newly dont mention the "thing" again. Give him lots of love and care.
I think he'll tell you when he's arranged. I'm 14, and I'm sometimes afraid to talk to my parents about things because of their possible reactions.
It's virtuous that you let him know you're not going to be upset and you'll love him no matter what. That means so much to someone when they're not recitation you something.
Things it could be:
-Friend issues
-Girl problems
-Pressure (to do things he wouldnt want to do)
-Might be gay?
-Has a serious problem with drugs/drinking
-Or the two things you suggested.
Whatever it is, I wish you both the best of luck. Take care =]
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