Adopting a newborn or babe-in-arms... Mommies what do you devise?
Lately I have been thinking of my boys. I have two pretty lil guys, Brody William, age 3 and Riley James, 1 yr old. Due in October with my 3rd son and final newborn, Finley Jonathan. I have some medical problems and at 35 years old, I just come up with my body has had all it can help yourself to with pregnancies. (I had 2 miscarriages in between Brody and Riley). But as a woman, I sometimes long to enjoy a daughter. I am wondering if this will change as my boys grow. My boys are my life, I love them with my full heart, but know one day they will be closer to dad, fishing, hunting, playing football... Whatever. My mother, my sister & I have wonderful relationships. I know that I will never have this.
So, I be talking to hubby about when Finley goes to arts school the idea of adopting a baby. Would you consider adopt a little one?
Or do you think it would be hard on our boys? We are purely talking about it for now... but curious. Your thoughts & opinion?
Lyn
Do ya want my wife? You can make her your investigational daughter.
I would absolutely love to adopt a child. But we simply can't afford it. I did a lot of research a few years ago, and found that adopting a newborn can cost upwards of $15,000 (I researched public and private adoption agencies, did not look at surrogates - but I heard that surrogates can be even more expensive. I'm not entirely sure in the order of this).
So while we would absolutely adopt in a heartbeat - we don't know when we could afford it.
I don't give attention to it will be hard on your boys at all. I would explain to them the significance of adoption and how special it is to provide a needy child next to a family and how everyone, including them are involved.
I would reconsider adopt when your youngest goes to school. You may not be able to adopt an infant when you or your husband go beyond 40 years of age. Some agencies have a policy that that is too old.
I would check into that ASAP if your mind is on adoption and you want an infant.
Yes i seriously would ! But i also want 3 biological children of my own. If i were you i would really consider adopting a little girl, first of adjectives you seem like a good mother & it sounds approaching you want the best for all your children [ i dont know you personally, so i'm only going by what you typed. ] I infer you should really adopt a baby, all of these children out here in the world that need's to be adopt plenty of people would really appreactiate it !
Its wonderful, I adopted twins 3 years ago, they were not babies, but I love them so much. They are immediately 9 years old and the loves of my life.
I'll send my sister over when she gets fund from Rehab Ranch.
I think that is a great idea!! My husband and I own considered adoption or maybe foster care. We may consider it in the adjectives when are girls are older. But we would love 2 more ourselves ;)
If you are considering oprivate adoption i would put your name on a document now. It can take years to match a suitable parent to child.
I don't know how the adoption system works completely, but from what I own read on here it can take a while.
I think you are wonderful for choosing to adopt :)
I think it would perfect for you guys. You are both so welcoming to you different babies that an adopted baby would fit in so okay. The boys would be fine I think. Brody will just think of it as getting another sibling freshly like when Riley and Finley joined him. For Riley it will be a chance to properly experiencing becoming a big brother as he is not going to remember much of becoming one beside Finley. And for Finley he wouldn't be the youngest anymore and will love becoming a big brother also. They will love getting a new baby sister. They will be perfect age for helping out next to her and being a great big brother to her.
Make sure you look into it though because if you leave to looking through things when Finley is in conservatory it maybe too late. Before you know it Brody may already be a lot elder than you want him to be as the oldest.
I know you will make the right decision for the family especially how you surface things are working out after Finley is born. I know many people who have have 3 kids and thought they were done but felt that it made the family atypical so have had another child or have adopt.
Good luck
Answers: Hi Lyn,
Athough I can understand your desire to have a daughter, to me adopting a child simply out of a strictly egocentric desire to have a girl would never enter my mind, adopting a child should be done for the reason of giving a deserving child a loving home regardless of masculinity. If I were to adopt I would not Request a certain sex.
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So, I be talking to hubby about when Finley goes to arts school the idea of adopting a baby. Would you consider adopt a little one?
Or do you think it would be hard on our boys? We are purely talking about it for now... but curious. Your thoughts & opinion?
Lyn
Do ya want my wife? You can make her your investigational daughter.
I would absolutely love to adopt a child. But we simply can't afford it. I did a lot of research a few years ago, and found that adopting a newborn can cost upwards of $15,000 (I researched public and private adoption agencies, did not look at surrogates - but I heard that surrogates can be even more expensive. I'm not entirely sure in the order of this).
So while we would absolutely adopt in a heartbeat - we don't know when we could afford it.
I don't give attention to it will be hard on your boys at all. I would explain to them the significance of adoption and how special it is to provide a needy child next to a family and how everyone, including them are involved.
I would reconsider adopt when your youngest goes to school. You may not be able to adopt an infant when you or your husband go beyond 40 years of age. Some agencies have a policy that that is too old.
I would check into that ASAP if your mind is on adoption and you want an infant.
Yes i seriously would ! But i also want 3 biological children of my own. If i were you i would really consider adopting a little girl, first of adjectives you seem like a good mother & it sounds approaching you want the best for all your children [ i dont know you personally, so i'm only going by what you typed. ] I infer you should really adopt a baby, all of these children out here in the world that need's to be adopt plenty of people would really appreactiate it !
Its wonderful, I adopted twins 3 years ago, they were not babies, but I love them so much. They are immediately 9 years old and the loves of my life.
I'll send my sister over when she gets fund from Rehab Ranch.
I think that is a great idea!! My husband and I own considered adoption or maybe foster care. We may consider it in the adjectives when are girls are older. But we would love 2 more ourselves ;)
If you are considering oprivate adoption i would put your name on a document now. It can take years to match a suitable parent to child.
I don't know how the adoption system works completely, but from what I own read on here it can take a while.
I think you are wonderful for choosing to adopt :)
I think it would perfect for you guys. You are both so welcoming to you different babies that an adopted baby would fit in so okay. The boys would be fine I think. Brody will just think of it as getting another sibling freshly like when Riley and Finley joined him. For Riley it will be a chance to properly experiencing becoming a big brother as he is not going to remember much of becoming one beside Finley. And for Finley he wouldn't be the youngest anymore and will love becoming a big brother also. They will love getting a new baby sister. They will be perfect age for helping out next to her and being a great big brother to her.
Make sure you look into it though because if you leave to looking through things when Finley is in conservatory it maybe too late. Before you know it Brody may already be a lot elder than you want him to be as the oldest.
I know you will make the right decision for the family especially how you surface things are working out after Finley is born. I know many people who have have 3 kids and thought they were done but felt that it made the family atypical so have had another child or have adopt.
Good luck
Answers: Hi Lyn,
Athough I can understand your desire to have a daughter, to me adopting a child simply out of a strictly egocentric desire to have a girl would never enter my mind, adopting a child should be done for the reason of giving a deserving child a loving home regardless of masculinity. If I were to adopt I would not Request a certain sex.
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