My kids obligation 24/7 assistance!?
I am a mom of a five year old daughter and 3 year old quad's and they can be a hassle. I have very soon realized I can't even go to the bathroom without audible range a bang, boom, or crash! For example today while all my 5 kids were sensibly watching TV I figured i could go outside and make a early phone call. I came back to find they have gotten inside the fridge and was playing with the flour, throwing it at eachother, playing with it, and throwing it surrounded by the air and pretended it was snowing. I was gone for 5 minutes tops. Also I needed to jump to the bathroom, about 50 seconds. I came hindmost and my daughter had jumped off the kitchen table and cut her arm on a stool, needing 7 stitches. This stuff happens every day, and one a single mom I don't make enough money for a nanny and most teens I hire for babysitters can not handle my kids, and quit. They dance to preschool during the year but now that its summer they go to a 3 hour camp fallowing a 2 hour siesta, so once it's 1 o'clock its mommy dudy untill 8 o'clock the next morning. What should i do? I need to work to make money but they are so unreserved I cannot do that.
First past its sell-by date, I don't know how you do it, when I first had my daughter (just one kid) I almost went nuts.
Okay now, does your 5 yr matured help out at all? Even with little things similar to helping to keep the little ones entertained? My SIL has 2 boys and her oldest son is the big brother and he jump at the chance to help mommy with everything. Try getting her to tie in with some "big sister help" like helping find a favorite toy or blanket at bedtime. She'll steal on bigger things when she's ready but the more she helps the more important she'll be aware of.
When you know you are going to need 30 minutes to clean the kitchen and start dinner, try setting them up with a simple craft project similar to paper plate masks or letting them play with playdoh. If they really wallow in themselves let them keep going until you absolutely requirement them to stop (Like if they are at the kitchen table and you need to start eating.) Then maybe you could even carry 5-10 minutes to talk on the phone. But don't go outside, try not to even go contained by another room. Stay in there with them so you can avert any upcoming crisis since it happens (like the daughter jumping off the table or kids within the flour). Try setting aside times of the day where they can jump and cry and dance and be crazy, but then also make times where on earth they have to just sit quietly and read or color or keep under surveillance tv. Start getting them into a routine with it and it will get easier. It's not going to happen over dark though you have to be patient and stick with it. After everyone go to bed tonight get a notebook or a day-to-day calendar and start writing out your plans.
8:00 wake up
8:30 eat breakfast
9:00 Watch tv (mom cleans kitchen
etc etc.
Make out your complete day based on your needs, and don't forget to set aside crazy & whispered times (30-60 minutes for each) If your budget allows, buy some new movies that they haven't seen and new cds they haven't hear (even if you get them used so you're not spending so much money) because a kid will more likely sit through a new movie for the complete thing than a movie they only kinda like for the 100th time.
Make sure you stick to the routine EVERY year no matter what. If they cry and whine that they don't want to do it then they might need to start getting time outs. Everyone told me when I become a mom that kids crave structure and I didn't understand that fully until I was able to set a routine and stick to it.
i dont have n answer.
but to kookytes can u image have five kids oldest five?? i mean her daughter was 2 when the babies was born..u cant a moment ago say hey learn to punish them..shes a single mom with adjectives these kids tryin to work..shes got her hands full i think she have a lil right for her kids to be a lil outta control..now it would be a diff. story if it was only 2 or 3 kids
I'd really like to see what family say (hopefully not the harsh usual "maybe you shouldn't own had so many kids") because I now hold 5 kids pretty much by myself since my fiance works constantly and we cant afford daycare either. I have a 7, 3, and a newborn and my fiance has 2 of his own that are here for the summer that are 6 and 4. Its so firm and I cant get a min to myself either!!
You certainly have a daunting job doing this on your own. Unless anyone have been in your position (4 three yr. olds plus 1) they really can not begin to become conscious. However, as the mother of 6 children (one at a time...haha) I had 2 basic rules when they were young-looking.
#1.you have to really be strict about them obeying you. They are 3 immediately. If you wait any longer, you'll be in a lot of trouble once they conquer their teen years.
#2...Have a very strict schedule. Little children thrive on routine. They feel really sheltered when they know what is coming next. You know.
...a.breakfast at .8
...b.then wash up, brush teeth and find dressed
...c.everyone goes to the bathroom
...d.EVERYONE sits by the bathroom door while Mommy "goes".
...e.you may watch your show(video) while Mom gets dressed. While you are watching your show, be putting on your shoes because Mom will be vertebrae from getting dressed in 6 min.
...f.outside to play...You play with them(sorry, but necessary)
Play ball, run race, they ride their big wheels, learn to hop or
skip or jump, sprinkle them beside a hose, play in the sandbox
...g.depending on the weather, stay outside one to two hrs.
.h.Go inside...potty, wash up, watch TV or Video for a few min while
Mom prepares lunch (everyone eat the same thing)
sandwich or soup or veggies to dip in applesauce mixed
yogurt, fruit, cheese, cottage cheese
..e. potty again and wash
f.EVERYONE nap (If they must, let them take a book to their bed)
MAJOR BEDTIME RULE: No one gets out of bed until Mom
comes for you. For my kids it be
1 1/2 hrs. During this time, Mom
either takes a shower, or cleans up
the house or does some laundry.
i always put a nouns of clothes in
as soon as I got up in the AM and
another during lunch so that I could
fold them during the naptime. Big
sister can assist with this.
..g When the little ones get up, read about 3 nice stories to them and
afford them a snack of fruit or cheese and crackers Plan a little,
simple craft project for them. If weather allows, take them out
side again. The more you take them out and preserve them active,
the happier and better behaved they will be.
...h.IF you let them scrutinize TV or a video, let it be while you are
preparing supper for them.
I tried to always have my kids within bed by 8 at the latest until they are 10
Have bathtime right after supper and read a bedtime story and some little songs before tucking them in. You can verbs up the kitchen once they go to bed. My tip to you.it is so hard to do this alone and I sympathize. I can not begin to grasp because I have a very helpful husband. However, I hold been a teacher and a childcare provider and a mom of 6 and I KNOW for a fact that routine ( doing pretty much like peas in a pod thing every day) makes them feel out of danger and lots of supervised, well directed activity does wonders for active little .children. . Water play is fun and for them soothing. Put a couple of inches of hose in a plastic pool and let them pour and splash.
Watch as little TV and videos as possible.it purely is not helpful in the long run.
And for you...go to bed as precipitate as possible. You need your energy. They are precious, beautiful blessings, but right presently it certainly must be hard for you to believe this...haha
Some day, you'll voice,"I can't believe I did it" but You CAN do it
Just think schedule, schedule, agenda ! Good luck I just read the add on about your husband. I am soooo sorry God bless you.
try and capture some volunteers from church..or a tv show
Have their father give support to out in some way. I'm sorry that it's so hard for you, but how surrounded by the world did you saddle yourself with 5 kids as a single mother?
Either go to court and ask for enough money to money for help, or start dropping the kids off with their dad. Could you split up the bunch and hold a few go to one grandparents, and a few to another?
I don't know how you do it, it's a pain watching my brother's two kids and there's a whole house of relatives here.
I hope someone comes up with a really good answer for you:)
Answers: If the father(s) are paying child support, you should have enough to hire a professional adult babysitter. Where are their father anyway? And if the father's of the children are not paying child support, then you have to get a advocate and drag them into court for a declaration of paternity and court-ordered child support (make sure the combined support covers their medical care, day assistance costs, and leaves a little extra to cover rent, food, etc.)
As for the kitchen (do it in the bathroom too), put a lock on the fridge and the cupboards (not to deprive them of food but to protect them from getting into danger and hurting themselves). Also, put a newborn gate in the doorway of the room you wish to temporarily confine them surrounded by, and make it a spanking offense for them to open the baby total admission money.
Also, you need to institute a strict sleep/nap program. At that age, children need a good 12 plus hours of sleep per year. They should be put to bed at 9 pm at night and not permitted to get out of bed before 7 am (if awake, they can calmly look at picture books in their cribs/bed). And they should have an hour nap every morning from 11 am until noontime, and a two hour nap in the afternoon (from 3-5 pm). Don't forget to put motion-detecting alarm on the children's bedroom door and window so you can be warn if they leave their room.
This regular nap program should give you plenty time to take care of your personal needs (bathing, receiver time, chores, etc.). And at the same time, you need to teach them to start to behave and "play quietly" when you involve to leave them for a few minutes.
Good luck!
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. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . _\. . . . . ._,-%. . . ..`\ Source(s): Geez, why did you let them find like that in the first place?
They're spoiled brats!
Learn to punish them!
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First past its sell-by date, I don't know how you do it, when I first had my daughter (just one kid) I almost went nuts.
Okay now, does your 5 yr matured help out at all? Even with little things similar to helping to keep the little ones entertained? My SIL has 2 boys and her oldest son is the big brother and he jump at the chance to help mommy with everything. Try getting her to tie in with some "big sister help" like helping find a favorite toy or blanket at bedtime. She'll steal on bigger things when she's ready but the more she helps the more important she'll be aware of.
When you know you are going to need 30 minutes to clean the kitchen and start dinner, try setting them up with a simple craft project similar to paper plate masks or letting them play with playdoh. If they really wallow in themselves let them keep going until you absolutely requirement them to stop (Like if they are at the kitchen table and you need to start eating.) Then maybe you could even carry 5-10 minutes to talk on the phone. But don't go outside, try not to even go contained by another room. Stay in there with them so you can avert any upcoming crisis since it happens (like the daughter jumping off the table or kids within the flour). Try setting aside times of the day where they can jump and cry and dance and be crazy, but then also make times where on earth they have to just sit quietly and read or color or keep under surveillance tv. Start getting them into a routine with it and it will get easier. It's not going to happen over dark though you have to be patient and stick with it. After everyone go to bed tonight get a notebook or a day-to-day calendar and start writing out your plans.
8:00 wake up
8:30 eat breakfast
9:00 Watch tv (mom cleans kitchen
etc etc.
Make out your complete day based on your needs, and don't forget to set aside crazy & whispered times (30-60 minutes for each) If your budget allows, buy some new movies that they haven't seen and new cds they haven't hear (even if you get them used so you're not spending so much money) because a kid will more likely sit through a new movie for the complete thing than a movie they only kinda like for the 100th time.
Make sure you stick to the routine EVERY year no matter what. If they cry and whine that they don't want to do it then they might need to start getting time outs. Everyone told me when I become a mom that kids crave structure and I didn't understand that fully until I was able to set a routine and stick to it.
i dont have n answer.
but to kookytes can u image have five kids oldest five?? i mean her daughter was 2 when the babies was born..u cant a moment ago say hey learn to punish them..shes a single mom with adjectives these kids tryin to work..shes got her hands full i think she have a lil right for her kids to be a lil outta control..now it would be a diff. story if it was only 2 or 3 kids
I'd really like to see what family say (hopefully not the harsh usual "maybe you shouldn't own had so many kids") because I now hold 5 kids pretty much by myself since my fiance works constantly and we cant afford daycare either. I have a 7, 3, and a newborn and my fiance has 2 of his own that are here for the summer that are 6 and 4. Its so firm and I cant get a min to myself either!!
You certainly have a daunting job doing this on your own. Unless anyone have been in your position (4 three yr. olds plus 1) they really can not begin to become conscious. However, as the mother of 6 children (one at a time...haha) I had 2 basic rules when they were young-looking.
#1.you have to really be strict about them obeying you. They are 3 immediately. If you wait any longer, you'll be in a lot of trouble once they conquer their teen years.
#2...Have a very strict schedule. Little children thrive on routine. They feel really sheltered when they know what is coming next. You know.
...a.breakfast at .8
...b.then wash up, brush teeth and find dressed
...c.everyone goes to the bathroom
...d.EVERYONE sits by the bathroom door while Mommy "goes".
...e.you may watch your show(video) while Mom gets dressed. While you are watching your show, be putting on your shoes because Mom will be vertebrae from getting dressed in 6 min.
...f.outside to play...You play with them(sorry, but necessary)
Play ball, run race, they ride their big wheels, learn to hop or
skip or jump, sprinkle them beside a hose, play in the sandbox
...g.depending on the weather, stay outside one to two hrs.
.h.Go inside...potty, wash up, watch TV or Video for a few min while
Mom prepares lunch (everyone eat the same thing)
sandwich or soup or veggies to dip in applesauce mixed
yogurt, fruit, cheese, cottage cheese
..e. potty again and wash
f.EVERYONE nap (If they must, let them take a book to their bed)
MAJOR BEDTIME RULE: No one gets out of bed until Mom
comes for you. For my kids it be
1 1/2 hrs. During this time, Mom
either takes a shower, or cleans up
the house or does some laundry.
i always put a nouns of clothes in
as soon as I got up in the AM and
another during lunch so that I could
fold them during the naptime. Big
sister can assist with this.
..g When the little ones get up, read about 3 nice stories to them and
afford them a snack of fruit or cheese and crackers Plan a little,
simple craft project for them. If weather allows, take them out
side again. The more you take them out and preserve them active,
the happier and better behaved they will be.
...h.IF you let them scrutinize TV or a video, let it be while you are
preparing supper for them.
I tried to always have my kids within bed by 8 at the latest until they are 10
Have bathtime right after supper and read a bedtime story and some little songs before tucking them in. You can verbs up the kitchen once they go to bed. My tip to you.it is so hard to do this alone and I sympathize. I can not begin to grasp because I have a very helpful husband. However, I hold been a teacher and a childcare provider and a mom of 6 and I KNOW for a fact that routine ( doing pretty much like peas in a pod thing every day) makes them feel out of danger and lots of supervised, well directed activity does wonders for active little .children. . Water play is fun and for them soothing. Put a couple of inches of hose in a plastic pool and let them pour and splash.
Watch as little TV and videos as possible.it purely is not helpful in the long run.
And for you...go to bed as precipitate as possible. You need your energy. They are precious, beautiful blessings, but right presently it certainly must be hard for you to believe this...haha
Some day, you'll voice,"I can't believe I did it" but You CAN do it
Just think schedule, schedule, agenda ! Good luck I just read the add on about your husband. I am soooo sorry God bless you.
try and capture some volunteers from church..or a tv show
Have their father give support to out in some way. I'm sorry that it's so hard for you, but how surrounded by the world did you saddle yourself with 5 kids as a single mother?
Either go to court and ask for enough money to money for help, or start dropping the kids off with their dad. Could you split up the bunch and hold a few go to one grandparents, and a few to another?
I don't know how you do it, it's a pain watching my brother's two kids and there's a whole house of relatives here.
I hope someone comes up with a really good answer for you:)
Answers: If the father(s) are paying child support, you should have enough to hire a professional adult babysitter. Where are their father anyway? And if the father's of the children are not paying child support, then you have to get a advocate and drag them into court for a declaration of paternity and court-ordered child support (make sure the combined support covers their medical care, day assistance costs, and leaves a little extra to cover rent, food, etc.)
As for the kitchen (do it in the bathroom too), put a lock on the fridge and the cupboards (not to deprive them of food but to protect them from getting into danger and hurting themselves). Also, put a newborn gate in the doorway of the room you wish to temporarily confine them surrounded by, and make it a spanking offense for them to open the baby total admission money.
Also, you need to institute a strict sleep/nap program. At that age, children need a good 12 plus hours of sleep per year. They should be put to bed at 9 pm at night and not permitted to get out of bed before 7 am (if awake, they can calmly look at picture books in their cribs/bed). And they should have an hour nap every morning from 11 am until noontime, and a two hour nap in the afternoon (from 3-5 pm). Don't forget to put motion-detecting alarm on the children's bedroom door and window so you can be warn if they leave their room.
This regular nap program should give you plenty time to take care of your personal needs (bathing, receiver time, chores, etc.). And at the same time, you need to teach them to start to behave and "play quietly" when you involve to leave them for a few minutes.
Good luck!
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. . . . .. . . . . . ..,/. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ”:,
. . . . . . . .. .,?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\,
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. . . . . . .?. . . __. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . :`. . . ./
. . . . . . . /__.(. . .“~-,_. . . . . . . . . . . . . . ,:`. . . .. ./
. . . . . . /(_. . ”~,_. . . ..“~,_. . . . . . . . . .,:`. . . . _/
. . . .. .{.._$;_. . .”=,_. . . .“-,_. . . ,.-~-,}, .~”; /. .. .}
. . .. . .((. . .*~_. . . .”=-._. . .“;,,./`. . /” . . . ./. .. ../
. . . .. . .\`~,. . ..“~.,. . . . . . . . . ..`. . .}. . . . . . ../
. . . . . .(. ..`=-,,. . . .`. . . . . . . . . . . ..(. . . ;_,,-”
. . . . . ../.`~,. . ..`-.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..\. . /\
. . . . . . \`~.*-,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..|,./..\,__
,,_. . . . . }.>-._\. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .|. . . . . . ..`=~-,
. .. `=~-,_\_. . . `\,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\
. . . . . . . . . .`=~-,,.\,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . `:,, . . . . . . . . . . . . . `\. . . . . . ..__
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .`=-,. . . . . . . . . .,%`>--==``
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . _\. . . . . ._,-%. . . ..`\ Source(s): Geez, why did you let them find like that in the first place?
They're spoiled brats!
Learn to punish them!
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