7 year mature daughter.. strange behavior?
Ok, I am a single dad raising a 7 year old girl as my wife passed away 3 years ago. My wife and daughter were remarkably close, but she always knew mummy was under the weather. She has therapy, and does lots of extra curricular activities. Anyway, within the past few months she has been mad with nudity. I don't want to go into too much detail but roughly she can't keep her clothes on. I know this is normal behavior for a 3 or 4 year old, but not 7. What do you judge I should do? Is it worth talking to her doctor?
HI!
I work near children so i can only give the advice i would administer to any parent...
Firstly your daughter is going through a natural stage of body awareness as the early signs of hormonal change can turn out up to 4 years before the physical signs. Secondly the effect of losing her mother may have caused her to try to return to a younger state of mind (EG children commonly do this when i younger sibling is born), as this was a more stable time for her although i would say this reaction is a touch too delayed. Last of all you do need to be aware of the worst im afraid, talking to your daughter roughly speaking the people around her and what is acceptable from her and adults around, may encourage her to uncap up. Your fathers' instinct will tell you if this is worth going to the dr over im a firm believer in that! The best piece of advice i can furnish you i DO NOT make a big fuss over it infront of her, one she will enjoy the attention (children do not differentiate between good/bad attention it's simply attention!) and two you could cause her to be discomfited about her body causing hang-ups in her teens and full-size life. I hope this was a little bit of relief and good luck x
Make sure you're not reinforcing this behaviour by giving her extra attention, any positive or negative, when this behaviour occurs. Keep the discipline spot on, unemotional, and behaviour-linked. She may simply be reaching out to you, in her own immature method. Make sure you're spending lots of positive bonding time together, like going out for meals, playing in the park, helping her near homework, going for walks, board game night... things close to that.
If she's having trouble keeping her clothes on at school, or starts acting out sexual things, I would speak with her psychiatric therapist about the possibility of sexual abuse having occur. Source(s): Psych major
7yrs old girl lacking a mother is very difficult she wanted to know about her mother , a mother's affection can't be compared to anything , its better to pinch her to the doctor and explain in a smooth way so that slowly she will try to understand , courage adjectives the best
I think any behavior your uncomfortable next to is worth asking a doctor. That being said I think your daughter is acting like a typical 7 year old who is curious about her body. You should definitely set boundary'shough. Like she can be nude adjectives she wants in her room or bathroom with the door closed. She desires her privacy like any other human. Try renting some books about a girls body from the library let her move about with you and pick out a couple that peak her interest. However for her sake please do not make her grain ashamed of being comfortable in her own skin. Good luck
Answers: Most DEFINITELY worth talking to a doctor about. I don't want to speculate in the order of others in her life, but it wouldn't hurt to talk near a professional.
Ps. you are just daddy(:)) no offense, so she just may not understand why here is an issue with her nudity. Don't make a big operation, but set boundaries with that type of behavior.
Now, remember; with your daughter dealing with such a traumatic event so hasty she may NOT have gone through some of the "normal" behavior stages during her grieving process. So, now she may be going through these stages a little in arrears that's all.it will pass.
I have a close friend that has a daughter that is that road it is no big deal if you e mail me i will go into a bit more detail if it help.
set a limit. just bring up to date her that she must keep on panties at least, or let her wear a bathing suit. at that age, i don't see anything wrong next to her not wearing a shirt, as long as she's not developing yet.
and yes, you should talk to her doctor about this.
when i be 6, i would rip off all my clothes at least once a sunshine and when my mom asked me why, i told her they were choking me, even though they were loose around my neck. she took me to analysis and it turns out i was having panic attacks, and i thought the choking notion was my collar choking me.
that is definitely something for a doctor.
Why not try just talking to your daughter about it? If it's abit too shameful then try and make it into some sort of joke I don`t know? good luck :)
OK, first off try not to make a big business of it to your daughter sometimes kids are comfortable naked. My son is 7 and loves being nude (I tell him he have to wear underwear tho cause we never know when someone might knock the door) And also I don;t want my kids to be embarssed about their bodies for example if my son has a unthinking on his bottom, I;d want him to feel comfortable enough to show me so I could do the glass question paper.
secndly you could mention it to the doctor, but he might just say she's only 7, sometimes kids find clothes restricting.
It may only be a phase she will grow out of.
Just say to her what I say to mine, "Its ok being in the nude in front of dad but you have to wear pants at lowest incase someone calls at the house")
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HI!
I work near children so i can only give the advice i would administer to any parent...
Firstly your daughter is going through a natural stage of body awareness as the early signs of hormonal change can turn out up to 4 years before the physical signs. Secondly the effect of losing her mother may have caused her to try to return to a younger state of mind (EG children commonly do this when i younger sibling is born), as this was a more stable time for her although i would say this reaction is a touch too delayed. Last of all you do need to be aware of the worst im afraid, talking to your daughter roughly speaking the people around her and what is acceptable from her and adults around, may encourage her to uncap up. Your fathers' instinct will tell you if this is worth going to the dr over im a firm believer in that! The best piece of advice i can furnish you i DO NOT make a big fuss over it infront of her, one she will enjoy the attention (children do not differentiate between good/bad attention it's simply attention!) and two you could cause her to be discomfited about her body causing hang-ups in her teens and full-size life. I hope this was a little bit of relief and good luck x
Make sure you're not reinforcing this behaviour by giving her extra attention, any positive or negative, when this behaviour occurs. Keep the discipline spot on, unemotional, and behaviour-linked. She may simply be reaching out to you, in her own immature method. Make sure you're spending lots of positive bonding time together, like going out for meals, playing in the park, helping her near homework, going for walks, board game night... things close to that.
If she's having trouble keeping her clothes on at school, or starts acting out sexual things, I would speak with her psychiatric therapist about the possibility of sexual abuse having occur. Source(s): Psych major
7yrs old girl lacking a mother is very difficult she wanted to know about her mother , a mother's affection can't be compared to anything , its better to pinch her to the doctor and explain in a smooth way so that slowly she will try to understand , courage adjectives the best
I think any behavior your uncomfortable next to is worth asking a doctor. That being said I think your daughter is acting like a typical 7 year old who is curious about her body. You should definitely set boundary'shough. Like she can be nude adjectives she wants in her room or bathroom with the door closed. She desires her privacy like any other human. Try renting some books about a girls body from the library let her move about with you and pick out a couple that peak her interest. However for her sake please do not make her grain ashamed of being comfortable in her own skin. Good luck
Answers: Most DEFINITELY worth talking to a doctor about. I don't want to speculate in the order of others in her life, but it wouldn't hurt to talk near a professional.
Ps. you are just daddy(:)) no offense, so she just may not understand why here is an issue with her nudity. Don't make a big operation, but set boundaries with that type of behavior.
Now, remember; with your daughter dealing with such a traumatic event so hasty she may NOT have gone through some of the "normal" behavior stages during her grieving process. So, now she may be going through these stages a little in arrears that's all.it will pass.
I have a close friend that has a daughter that is that road it is no big deal if you e mail me i will go into a bit more detail if it help.
set a limit. just bring up to date her that she must keep on panties at least, or let her wear a bathing suit. at that age, i don't see anything wrong next to her not wearing a shirt, as long as she's not developing yet.
and yes, you should talk to her doctor about this.
when i be 6, i would rip off all my clothes at least once a sunshine and when my mom asked me why, i told her they were choking me, even though they were loose around my neck. she took me to analysis and it turns out i was having panic attacks, and i thought the choking notion was my collar choking me.
that is definitely something for a doctor.
Why not try just talking to your daughter about it? If it's abit too shameful then try and make it into some sort of joke I don`t know? good luck :)
OK, first off try not to make a big business of it to your daughter sometimes kids are comfortable naked. My son is 7 and loves being nude (I tell him he have to wear underwear tho cause we never know when someone might knock the door) And also I don;t want my kids to be embarssed about their bodies for example if my son has a unthinking on his bottom, I;d want him to feel comfortable enough to show me so I could do the glass question paper.
secndly you could mention it to the doctor, but he might just say she's only 7, sometimes kids find clothes restricting.
It may only be a phase she will grow out of.
Just say to her what I say to mine, "Its ok being in the nude in front of dad but you have to wear pants at lowest incase someone calls at the house")
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