Am I out of rank when I influence no to my Sister In Law?
My sister in law and I are the same age, 27. She is so overbearing when it comes to my kids. She constantly go behind my back when I say no to things and asks my husband. (When I be pregnant with my second son, she told me that I had to let his mom within the delievery room and when I said no, she went behind my back and tried to convince my husband it be HIS decision to make! No, she did not make it contained by there) A couple of weeks ago I made an appointment for my two sons to take pictures with my mother in ruling as a gift. Well out of courteousy, I asked his sister if she would like to take pictures as all right. When she accepted, she said that she would be buying their outfits. I told her no, that I already had picked them out to go buy and she lately responded with "I dont need you to pick out their outfits, I will take precision of it". I just think that maybe she should remember she is their AUNT and not their mother.
Another example, for my youngest's first birthday, insteading of wanting to come to the group that I was having for him, she planned on throwing him her own birthday party and she be going to invite her own friends and family, that i would just have to drop him bad.
Am I being too territorial with my kids? She's says that I am anyone too controlling and that I cant always have it my way because they are her nephews and she have rights..
I have the same kind of problem! Except for I am ttc and my sister surrounded by laws all fight everytime over who I am going to droop out with! Then everyone starts fighting even after I leave and they maintain fighting until I come back. Then the whole process starts spinal column up! They all try and tell me that when I have a little one they will take the baby when I'm up there (I live within the city and they all live back in my home town) so I can hang up out with my friends! I tell you one thing, they will never hold my child alone! The same with the mother in law surrounded by the delivery room! I have chosen that I want my two best friends, my husband (obviously) and my mother if she flies back up here! If she can't I at lowest want my two best friends in there! We have be friends since we were little and have gone through each others ups and downs! My sister contained by law convinced my husband to try and convince me that they get to go contained by and I said no. It's how I want it or not at all! Put your foot down girl other wise they will try and do this for the rest of your lives!
No you are not out of line. You need to remind your in-law that she is there AUNT and NOT ;within mother. if she wants to be a mother so bad tell her to own her own kids and quit trying to steal yours.
If she wont back off, you might need to hang on to her from your kids until she understands.
Also have your husband to tell her to final off.
She punched you? I would only spend time around her if I surely HAD to. She's the one with control issues who has trouble with boundaries, not you.
I would stop having this woman around your child..If she be going to give him a party and told you to just drop him bad, HE WOULD NOT BE GOING!!
Make sure you and your husband are on the same page and on the same side, then update this woman to go F*CK herself..
OMG!! No you are not being controlling...these are YOUR children, NOT hers. As far as rights as an AUNT she has NONE, unless you give them to her!
She seem to be waling all over you...don't let her! Put a stop to it NOW.
Please talk near your husband and let him know how you feel, and formulate a plan together to put a stop to her.
Do it now previously she gets worse, although I don't know how much worse she could get unless she tried to take your kids away from you, which I quality is a very good possibility if you do not stop her.
Good Luck,
Momma P
May Angels Walk Beside You
No, you were not out of line in any agency. She is over stepping her boundaries BIG time. You,and your husband need to sit her down to explain to her she can't do this. They are not her kids, she doesn't have any rights to them.
Answers: Maybe it's time to have your husband tell her to back past its sell-by date. I tends to be better received when a blood relative says they are being over stance. Your husband needs to tell her to stop trying to be mom to these kids or just stay away adjectives together.
Honestly, if she laid her hands on you I am not sure why you still have contact with her. There should never be second probability when someone crosses the line to violence. What does your husband say to adjectives of this?
You're not out of column, she is. You are their mother. She seems to think she has the right to sabotage you. She doesn't. Stand up for yourself.
Woah lady, how have you managed to hold your cool this long?! I would have been squaring up to her telling her to support off LONG ago. I had a friend just similar to your SIL, except the pressure with her probably wasn't as bad as she was only just a friend, we had no family links, but she was other trying to take my son off to places, telling me what decision I should be making (she is 21 with no kids), trying to do things behind my back - I tried subtly hinting for a long while, and eventually it freshly came down to a big showdown, and I unleashed about a year's worth of pent up frustration on her in the space of five minutes! Problem solved. Stick up for yourself. When SHE pushes a child through HER vagina, THAT'S when she can start throwing her freight about. Until then she needs to vertebrae off!
It's time some one steps up and tells her to back off!
You're allowing it, and so is hubby.
Personally, she'd have my boot up her rear closing stages, and FAST... I wouldn't tolerate it, for a minute, and she'd pretty much not be seeing my kid, until she shaped up. Period.
Um...NO You are not anyone "out of line" at all.
If my SIL behaved like that, she would be cut rotten, period.
NO CONTACT.
And if she ever got physical with me, I'd call for the cops and have her psychoass arrested for assault.
Sorry, but they are YOUR children and YES you CAN ALWAYS HAVE YOUR WAY because it's ONLY between you and your husband and everyone else can take a number because they have ZERO authority about your children.
If my sister in law...hell if my own sister, behaved similar to this I'd knock her the F out.
It's time to stop "being nice" mommy, it's time to lay down the law.
"SIL, not asking you, I'm telling you, if you don't revise your place and back the phuck off, you'll never see these kids again"
She's the aunt, she has ZERO rights over the children, unless you compromise her rights. Ask anybody, if you and your hubby mysteriously dissappeared, god forbid, the kids would go to the state before they would go to her, she'd enjoy to petition for rights.so NO she's mistaken, she doesn't have jackshit besides a bad attitude and some boundary issues.
Tell her to back the hell rotten.
no she is out of line big time, yes they are her NEPHEWS not her KIDS they are yours and you enjoy every right to say no to her, she has no right saying what go on with anything. when it comes to them she has no say surrounded by anything really. as far as the birthday thats messed up i owuld never ever let that happen. those people dont know your child, if that be my sister or sister in law i would definatly say something
There's no way I'd be allowing her to act approaching that. Those are your kids, you make the final decisions period. Talk to your husband. He should settle to his sister and tell her to back off. If he doesn't, afterwards perhaps *he's* the one to blame for her behavior. Maybe he's giving her some indication that she's within her rights to make decision for her nephews.
Barring that - I'd tell her straight up, "Look honey, these are my kids. When you have your own kids, you get to bring in your own rules for them. But with my kids, I set the rules. And that's how it's always going to be so deal beside it. If you can't respect my role as their mother, then I don't want you around them at all because you obviously don't know what your boundaries are." And swing up on the b*tch.
I would have a sit down talk with both your husband and your mother-in-law almost her.
She does NOT have any special rights as their Aunt. How outlandish that she thinks so. I'd find it beyond creepy that she wanted to throw him a birthday party and that you be not invited. If it were me, I'd dig in next to both heels and limit contact with her as much as possible. This scenario would just label me feel very uncomfortable.
You are NOT controlling for making decision as YOUR children's MOM!
She may be their aunt, but you are their mother and she wants to start doing what you ask/don't ask.
You have far too many rights to what happens to your children than she does. They are your sons, you should desire what to wear in their pictures, not her.
You really need to sit down with her and articulate to her about everything. If she doesn't listen and she keeps trying to take over your sons, you own the right to keep them from her until she understands where you are coming from.
OMG!! I think I would dance nuts if someone tried to do that to me! Maybe try to include yourself more in her plans or just tell her NO! I do not chew over you are in the wrong at all. Stand your ground! Try talking to your husband and bring up to date him how it makes you feel and if that does not work just ask his familial why they do this so you can all try to work things out together. Try to avoid confrontation because just like you they a moment ago want the best for your children. You may not agree what is best, but they are your children and you make the final decision.
Weird that she's being so weird. I'm to filch it that she's single with no children of her own, correct? This is why I feel it is sometimes necessary to move away from family connections on both sides to have your own space. Of course, how she sounds, she probably wouldn't let you move!
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Another example, for my youngest's first birthday, insteading of wanting to come to the group that I was having for him, she planned on throwing him her own birthday party and she be going to invite her own friends and family, that i would just have to drop him bad.
Am I being too territorial with my kids? She's says that I am anyone too controlling and that I cant always have it my way because they are her nephews and she have rights..
I have the same kind of problem! Except for I am ttc and my sister surrounded by laws all fight everytime over who I am going to droop out with! Then everyone starts fighting even after I leave and they maintain fighting until I come back. Then the whole process starts spinal column up! They all try and tell me that when I have a little one they will take the baby when I'm up there (I live within the city and they all live back in my home town) so I can hang up out with my friends! I tell you one thing, they will never hold my child alone! The same with the mother in law surrounded by the delivery room! I have chosen that I want my two best friends, my husband (obviously) and my mother if she flies back up here! If she can't I at lowest want my two best friends in there! We have be friends since we were little and have gone through each others ups and downs! My sister contained by law convinced my husband to try and convince me that they get to go contained by and I said no. It's how I want it or not at all! Put your foot down girl other wise they will try and do this for the rest of your lives!
No you are not out of line. You need to remind your in-law that she is there AUNT and NOT ;within mother. if she wants to be a mother so bad tell her to own her own kids and quit trying to steal yours.
If she wont back off, you might need to hang on to her from your kids until she understands.
Also have your husband to tell her to final off.
She punched you? I would only spend time around her if I surely HAD to. She's the one with control issues who has trouble with boundaries, not you.
I would stop having this woman around your child..If she be going to give him a party and told you to just drop him bad, HE WOULD NOT BE GOING!!
Make sure you and your husband are on the same page and on the same side, then update this woman to go F*CK herself..
OMG!! No you are not being controlling...these are YOUR children, NOT hers. As far as rights as an AUNT she has NONE, unless you give them to her!
She seem to be waling all over you...don't let her! Put a stop to it NOW.
Please talk near your husband and let him know how you feel, and formulate a plan together to put a stop to her.
Do it now previously she gets worse, although I don't know how much worse she could get unless she tried to take your kids away from you, which I quality is a very good possibility if you do not stop her.
Good Luck,
Momma P
May Angels Walk Beside You
No, you were not out of line in any agency. She is over stepping her boundaries BIG time. You,and your husband need to sit her down to explain to her she can't do this. They are not her kids, she doesn't have any rights to them.
Answers: Maybe it's time to have your husband tell her to back past its sell-by date. I tends to be better received when a blood relative says they are being over stance. Your husband needs to tell her to stop trying to be mom to these kids or just stay away adjectives together.
Honestly, if she laid her hands on you I am not sure why you still have contact with her. There should never be second probability when someone crosses the line to violence. What does your husband say to adjectives of this?
You're not out of column, she is. You are their mother. She seems to think she has the right to sabotage you. She doesn't. Stand up for yourself.
Woah lady, how have you managed to hold your cool this long?! I would have been squaring up to her telling her to support off LONG ago. I had a friend just similar to your SIL, except the pressure with her probably wasn't as bad as she was only just a friend, we had no family links, but she was other trying to take my son off to places, telling me what decision I should be making (she is 21 with no kids), trying to do things behind my back - I tried subtly hinting for a long while, and eventually it freshly came down to a big showdown, and I unleashed about a year's worth of pent up frustration on her in the space of five minutes! Problem solved. Stick up for yourself. When SHE pushes a child through HER vagina, THAT'S when she can start throwing her freight about. Until then she needs to vertebrae off!
It's time some one steps up and tells her to back off!
You're allowing it, and so is hubby.
Personally, she'd have my boot up her rear closing stages, and FAST... I wouldn't tolerate it, for a minute, and she'd pretty much not be seeing my kid, until she shaped up. Period.
Um...NO You are not anyone "out of line" at all.
If my SIL behaved like that, she would be cut rotten, period.
NO CONTACT.
And if she ever got physical with me, I'd call for the cops and have her psychoass arrested for assault.
Sorry, but they are YOUR children and YES you CAN ALWAYS HAVE YOUR WAY because it's ONLY between you and your husband and everyone else can take a number because they have ZERO authority about your children.
If my sister in law...hell if my own sister, behaved similar to this I'd knock her the F out.
It's time to stop "being nice" mommy, it's time to lay down the law.
"SIL, not asking you, I'm telling you, if you don't revise your place and back the phuck off, you'll never see these kids again"
She's the aunt, she has ZERO rights over the children, unless you compromise her rights. Ask anybody, if you and your hubby mysteriously dissappeared, god forbid, the kids would go to the state before they would go to her, she'd enjoy to petition for rights.so NO she's mistaken, she doesn't have jackshit besides a bad attitude and some boundary issues.
Tell her to back the hell rotten.
no she is out of line big time, yes they are her NEPHEWS not her KIDS they are yours and you enjoy every right to say no to her, she has no right saying what go on with anything. when it comes to them she has no say surrounded by anything really. as far as the birthday thats messed up i owuld never ever let that happen. those people dont know your child, if that be my sister or sister in law i would definatly say something
There's no way I'd be allowing her to act approaching that. Those are your kids, you make the final decisions period. Talk to your husband. He should settle to his sister and tell her to back off. If he doesn't, afterwards perhaps *he's* the one to blame for her behavior. Maybe he's giving her some indication that she's within her rights to make decision for her nephews.
Barring that - I'd tell her straight up, "Look honey, these are my kids. When you have your own kids, you get to bring in your own rules for them. But with my kids, I set the rules. And that's how it's always going to be so deal beside it. If you can't respect my role as their mother, then I don't want you around them at all because you obviously don't know what your boundaries are." And swing up on the b*tch.
I would have a sit down talk with both your husband and your mother-in-law almost her.
She does NOT have any special rights as their Aunt. How outlandish that she thinks so. I'd find it beyond creepy that she wanted to throw him a birthday party and that you be not invited. If it were me, I'd dig in next to both heels and limit contact with her as much as possible. This scenario would just label me feel very uncomfortable.
You are NOT controlling for making decision as YOUR children's MOM!
She may be their aunt, but you are their mother and she wants to start doing what you ask/don't ask.
You have far too many rights to what happens to your children than she does. They are your sons, you should desire what to wear in their pictures, not her.
You really need to sit down with her and articulate to her about everything. If she doesn't listen and she keeps trying to take over your sons, you own the right to keep them from her until she understands where you are coming from.
OMG!! I think I would dance nuts if someone tried to do that to me! Maybe try to include yourself more in her plans or just tell her NO! I do not chew over you are in the wrong at all. Stand your ground! Try talking to your husband and bring up to date him how it makes you feel and if that does not work just ask his familial why they do this so you can all try to work things out together. Try to avoid confrontation because just like you they a moment ago want the best for your children. You may not agree what is best, but they are your children and you make the final decision.
Weird that she's being so weird. I'm to filch it that she's single with no children of her own, correct? This is why I feel it is sometimes necessary to move away from family connections on both sides to have your own space. Of course, how she sounds, she probably wouldn't let you move!
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