1yr prehistoric, custody, separation?

My ex husband and i have a 16 month old, we have be officially divorced/broken up for some time now...but until recently stopped human being intimate. For the last year he has wanted to whip our son every other weekend. Since we were so back and forth for so long..most the time he would just come pop in our son or randomly take him on certain night. we tried this for two weekends and now he uses every excuse such as; hes to tired from work, or he has work the next light of day so he wants to relax/ or a game is on, or a friend is in town..he doesn't remuneration child support, never has... and wont take our son for me me to get a break, he say only when he wants to take him. Basically im getting frustrated cuz at times he is my simply help with our son. Lately tho, theres nothing he will do. There enjoy been soo many nights of me getting permit down cuz he will disappear on the nights he is suppose to take him. finally after a month of this. i decided to stop answering his call...just cut him out of my life, he treats me horribly most the time! i dont know the right way to travel about this. i have always worried give or take a few him taking my son on his own (his friends are bad news and do drugs) and so just only just i was finally getting comfortable with him taking our son.and now this is the spanking new issue. should i feel bad that i want nothing to do near him? a part of me knows he been in attendance for me soo much. but that was when we were together/intimate. if we wont always be together, and this is what i own to deal with what should i do? also... i know theres always court, but to me its not markedly comforting because i would like to be able to check on my son. i would want to at least own some communication with his father IF hes gonna be watching him.
He never had to pay child support if you two be married and together.


It sounds like you will have to take it to court.

Two weekends out of respectively month is not difficult to agree with and the least he can do.You should let him know where on earth you are at.Let him know that your son deserves to have his father in his life in need walking in and out of it .If he doesn't want to see his child on a regular basis, then bring up to date him to not bother calling you.
"hes to tired from work, or he has work the next day so he requirements to relax/ or a game is on, or a friend is in town..he doesn't pay child support, never has"

He should not know how to see your son at all.
Answers:    If you got divorced, you did it through the court and you would NOT be able to finalize the divorce minus a custody agreement of some sort in place. You need to start the court process before he does.

First, move about to the local child support services and file for child support. You can use some of the money to pay a babysitter to give you a break every once surrounded by a while.

Keep evidence of when he is supposed to be there for your child and when he doesn't show up. Gather evidence of his friends and the people he hangs out near as being druggies. Get any evidence you can to show that he is unfit to see your child unsupervised.

Start the process for a legal divorce if you haven't done so already and for goodness sake, stop sleeping beside him. If he is a drug user, you could end up with all kind of things.

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