Step-children's stop by go poorly?
My husband has been having horrible mental problems for 6 mos.
His children come from out of state and within three days he took them to their aunt's because he couldn't cope.
He told them it was my fault.
I have a good relationship with these girls, but I can't imagine how this will restore to health. I've spoken with their mother and I think she sort of understands, but it's really impossible to have a handle on. I can't image how the kids feel. They can't even stay with their dad, and he lead them to believe that I'm the reason.
He's so sick, and he refused to go to the dr yesterday, but that's beside the point.
What, if anything, should I do?
As far as the kids progress : If he is having horrible mental problems he shouldn't be around them right now. He needs to gain help, then try to mend the relationship. Children should be in a past the worst environment.
For you: I'd split. He's blaming YOU for his problems. He probably always will regardless of if he gets help or not. Cut your losses and be glad you don't enjoy kids with him. Find someone who isn't causing drama. You deserve to be happy.
By blaming it on you, he kept the children from thinking their dad be in the wrong. Take what you can get. If he doesn't go to a DR, you can own him evaluated being his wife. Speak to the public health offices something like having someone come to your home, otherwise next time it may be CPS for the visiting children.
Answers: Don't do anything
They will sort out their relationship
Don't try to fix anything
When they name and wish to see or talk to their father allow it
when they visit be pleasant and move off them alone with their father while you go to a quiet space within the house, read a book, do your nails and hair. Let them draw conclusions about their father on their own
Treat them pleasant on the phone and present him messages, prepare something for their visit and leave it, they must choose not to take it but be off something
Don't tell them about their father either.
If he wont walk to the docs then you don't have a lot of option. Set up the appointment and take him or leave.
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His children come from out of state and within three days he took them to their aunt's because he couldn't cope.
He told them it was my fault.
I have a good relationship with these girls, but I can't imagine how this will restore to health. I've spoken with their mother and I think she sort of understands, but it's really impossible to have a handle on. I can't image how the kids feel. They can't even stay with their dad, and he lead them to believe that I'm the reason.
He's so sick, and he refused to go to the dr yesterday, but that's beside the point.
What, if anything, should I do?
As far as the kids progress : If he is having horrible mental problems he shouldn't be around them right now. He needs to gain help, then try to mend the relationship. Children should be in a past the worst environment.
For you: I'd split. He's blaming YOU for his problems. He probably always will regardless of if he gets help or not. Cut your losses and be glad you don't enjoy kids with him. Find someone who isn't causing drama. You deserve to be happy.
By blaming it on you, he kept the children from thinking their dad be in the wrong. Take what you can get. If he doesn't go to a DR, you can own him evaluated being his wife. Speak to the public health offices something like having someone come to your home, otherwise next time it may be CPS for the visiting children.
Answers: Don't do anything
They will sort out their relationship
Don't try to fix anything
When they name and wish to see or talk to their father allow it
when they visit be pleasant and move off them alone with their father while you go to a quiet space within the house, read a book, do your nails and hair. Let them draw conclusions about their father on their own
Treat them pleasant on the phone and present him messages, prepare something for their visit and leave it, they must choose not to take it but be off something
Don't tell them about their father either.
If he wont walk to the docs then you don't have a lot of option. Set up the appointment and take him or leave.
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