What would you do surrounded by my situation? I could destroy my brother and sis 4 putting me into it.?
Ok this may be long but thanks for your opinions.
I am 28, my brother and sister are 18 and 16.5. My mom has be visiting family in NY for 2 weeks...dad departed yesterday to go pick her up and will be gone till friday.
My sister in the past be very depressed and cut herself among other things. Thankfully we are going on 4 years of her being happy again and she tell me everything and mom most things. My mom knows that there are some things I do not tell her (to KEEP MYSELF knowing what is going on to construct sure sis is OK, but I promised mom anything life threatening and I would tell her).
Ok well my sis and brother let somebody know me yesterday am they are planning a party while my parents are gone. I set out rules for them (after begging then not to and them "promising") such as no liquor, lone 3-4 friends each that have to sleep over, I took my brothers keys and call and and checked on them till 2am and my husband went there at 11:00 pm
SO in my situation what would you own done? I am so upset and sick over this. I did not want to worry my mom over something she could not help or betray my sisters trust but I feel impossible.
I am really pissed at the kids for putting me in this situation.
Sorry, but it's not your place to interpose yourself between your parents and your siblings. The only trust they should own in you is that you will do the right thing whether it makes them angry or not. You should recount your parents what went on, but first tell the sibs that is exactly what you are going to do and supply them the chance to 'fess up first.
Anything illegal, I would have call the cops. Otherwise, I wouldn't hold yourself responsible for them again. They have taken advantage of you and obviously don't respect you...I am sorry you hold to even think about this. :(
Answers: Well, it sounds like you did the best you could. It also sounds like you are purely upset about the idea of having to preserve this from your parents...as it sort of pools you into the sneaky betrayal catagory with them, and you didn't want the party to occur.
But within all honesty, 3 or 4 friends over each is not that many when you consider some of the crazy party kids have nowdays. And if there was no drugs or drinking, another bonus!
Maybe sit down near yoru sibblings and let them know how you feel, and that maybe they should come verbs with your parents. If they don't, they don't. Your decision to "tattle" is up to you. Even though you are all of an age to be in charge for behavior, and you clearly an adult, it is still a matter of sibblings keeping a secret or tattlings on one another. That is up to you. I can realize how you feel in a hard spot though.trying to maintain in good standing with adjectives involved. You can't be split in two though!
I would be pissed too so I feel ya. What you can do today, is sit down with them and give an account them you don't feel comfortable with keeping this from your parents and that you are going to let them know. You can other tell your parents that they asked if it was cool if they each have a few friends over and that you said it was okay and gave them rules which they followed. Its a tough situation because if you do tell your mom you don't want them not trusting you but if you don't notify her they will expect it from now on and continue to take lead of the situation.
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I am 28, my brother and sister are 18 and 16.5. My mom has be visiting family in NY for 2 weeks...dad departed yesterday to go pick her up and will be gone till friday.
My sister in the past be very depressed and cut herself among other things. Thankfully we are going on 4 years of her being happy again and she tell me everything and mom most things. My mom knows that there are some things I do not tell her (to KEEP MYSELF knowing what is going on to construct sure sis is OK, but I promised mom anything life threatening and I would tell her).
Ok well my sis and brother let somebody know me yesterday am they are planning a party while my parents are gone. I set out rules for them (after begging then not to and them "promising") such as no liquor, lone 3-4 friends each that have to sleep over, I took my brothers keys and call and and checked on them till 2am and my husband went there at 11:00 pm
SO in my situation what would you own done? I am so upset and sick over this. I did not want to worry my mom over something she could not help or betray my sisters trust but I feel impossible.
I am really pissed at the kids for putting me in this situation.
Sorry, but it's not your place to interpose yourself between your parents and your siblings. The only trust they should own in you is that you will do the right thing whether it makes them angry or not. You should recount your parents what went on, but first tell the sibs that is exactly what you are going to do and supply them the chance to 'fess up first.
Anything illegal, I would have call the cops. Otherwise, I wouldn't hold yourself responsible for them again. They have taken advantage of you and obviously don't respect you...I am sorry you hold to even think about this. :(
Answers: Well, it sounds like you did the best you could. It also sounds like you are purely upset about the idea of having to preserve this from your parents...as it sort of pools you into the sneaky betrayal catagory with them, and you didn't want the party to occur.
But within all honesty, 3 or 4 friends over each is not that many when you consider some of the crazy party kids have nowdays. And if there was no drugs or drinking, another bonus!
Maybe sit down near yoru sibblings and let them know how you feel, and that maybe they should come verbs with your parents. If they don't, they don't. Your decision to "tattle" is up to you. Even though you are all of an age to be in charge for behavior, and you clearly an adult, it is still a matter of sibblings keeping a secret or tattlings on one another. That is up to you. I can realize how you feel in a hard spot though.trying to maintain in good standing with adjectives involved. You can't be split in two though!
I would be pissed too so I feel ya. What you can do today, is sit down with them and give an account them you don't feel comfortable with keeping this from your parents and that you are going to let them know. You can other tell your parents that they asked if it was cool if they each have a few friends over and that you said it was okay and gave them rules which they followed. Its a tough situation because if you do tell your mom you don't want them not trusting you but if you don't notify her they will expect it from now on and continue to take lead of the situation.
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