Mothers to lone one child! (answer)?
I was just wondering for the women who decided or solely could have one child..my fiances an only child an now that be engaged his mothers been alot nicer to him..she was other kind of bitchy to him but since our relationship got serious shes changed alot to this totally different person! and I be wondering does she feel thretend? I can understand she only have one kid an don't want to lose him but how do most women with one child usually go about it?? presently my future MIL is always trying to spend time with him & self soo sweet & I just think its weird..but is this natrual? also..when we own kids of our own do you think she'll want to see them alot? or treat the girls differently then the boys since she only raise a son? (if we have daughters) Anways.. this is the main stuff I wanted to know..Im not aphorism all mothers with an only child deed like this or change all of the sudden but Im a short time ago young and wondering..Ok Thanks!
Of course she feels threatened!
She is realising that if she doesn't treat him pleasantly, next you will fill her shoes and she will be completely redundant. She has no other children to focus on, so he has be her life and purpose of being. The question is, will she try to befriend you so that she gain a daughter, or will she try to subtly push you out by showing up your (imaginary) flaws, so that he will keep her as his number one woman?
Be smart, stay watchful and make every application to be friendly with her. Do not criticise her under any circumstances, you and he need to be on like side. Once you have kids, it will become clear what her agenda truly is. Hopefully she hasn't got one...
Good luck!
i think it is nil to do with whether your husband is an only child or not, a lot of MILs own problem facing the truth that their sons has another woman in their life. I regard as since your future MIL realize you and her son's relationship is getting serious, she is feeling more threaten and jealous, then again she is showing you that she still has control over your husband (her son) ... oh well, it is all so identifiable to me, honey, it is just the beginning (sorry to say).
Answers: I am a mother to only one child (daughter) , she is 37 now and married .. Has no children ,, Yoru MIL reaction , I suppose are
normal , she knows that you will be his wife soon and maybe
insecurities are abounding immediately , although they shouldn't be ..
If she was bitchy towards him before then her movements now
are unfounded . I encourgaged my daughter to move forward with her energy , gave her direction when needed .. If you have children boys or girls I don't think within will be much of a conflict , she will always want
a relationship with her son ...Not all mothers of a single child are
threatend nor do they perceive neglected by their only child .
Most only children are very prudent and they know what they need to
do .. They know being an only child , they have to learn differnet
things , and they also knew when to share and when to love ..
Sweetie ,, Your man loves you , You are not marrying his mother
you are marry a man that you love ... If I had been blessed to be
a grandmother I would have go with my daughters wishes and her husbands , on when I can see them , I wasn't because she and him both have problems that prevented having children ..
Just shift with your plans sweetie , it will all work out ,
Just for the record , My son-in-law is resembling the son I never had , and Im sure from your sweet note , you will be like the daughter she never have ..
Hold on dear , the best is yet to come .
Congrats on your upcoming marriage ..
I think y'adjectives should just try to enjoy the good but be on your guard until you are sure if it will last.
I am a single mom and I was raised by a single mom. It seem like she and I got along a lot better once she saw that I be capable of picking a decent man for myself. She loves spending time with my daughter and does steal care of her differently than she did of me. She spoils her a bit, but for the most part she is a very long-suffering and loving grandmother. I think it's easier for her to enjoy a grandkid for the weekend than it was for her to put up next to me 24/7.
That's just my experience. I imagine I will try to be very close next to my daughter when she grows up too so that she will know where to turn if things go wrong in her love life span or otherwise.
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Of course she feels threatened!
She is realising that if she doesn't treat him pleasantly, next you will fill her shoes and she will be completely redundant. She has no other children to focus on, so he has be her life and purpose of being. The question is, will she try to befriend you so that she gain a daughter, or will she try to subtly push you out by showing up your (imaginary) flaws, so that he will keep her as his number one woman?
Be smart, stay watchful and make every application to be friendly with her. Do not criticise her under any circumstances, you and he need to be on like side. Once you have kids, it will become clear what her agenda truly is. Hopefully she hasn't got one...
Good luck!
i think it is nil to do with whether your husband is an only child or not, a lot of MILs own problem facing the truth that their sons has another woman in their life. I regard as since your future MIL realize you and her son's relationship is getting serious, she is feeling more threaten and jealous, then again she is showing you that she still has control over your husband (her son) ... oh well, it is all so identifiable to me, honey, it is just the beginning (sorry to say).
Answers: I am a mother to only one child (daughter) , she is 37 now and married .. Has no children ,, Yoru MIL reaction , I suppose are
normal , she knows that you will be his wife soon and maybe
insecurities are abounding immediately , although they shouldn't be ..
If she was bitchy towards him before then her movements now
are unfounded . I encourgaged my daughter to move forward with her energy , gave her direction when needed .. If you have children boys or girls I don't think within will be much of a conflict , she will always want
a relationship with her son ...Not all mothers of a single child are
threatend nor do they perceive neglected by their only child .
Most only children are very prudent and they know what they need to
do .. They know being an only child , they have to learn differnet
things , and they also knew when to share and when to love ..
Sweetie ,, Your man loves you , You are not marrying his mother
you are marry a man that you love ... If I had been blessed to be
a grandmother I would have go with my daughters wishes and her husbands , on when I can see them , I wasn't because she and him both have problems that prevented having children ..
Just shift with your plans sweetie , it will all work out ,
Just for the record , My son-in-law is resembling the son I never had , and Im sure from your sweet note , you will be like the daughter she never have ..
Hold on dear , the best is yet to come .
Congrats on your upcoming marriage ..
I think y'adjectives should just try to enjoy the good but be on your guard until you are sure if it will last.
I am a single mom and I was raised by a single mom. It seem like she and I got along a lot better once she saw that I be capable of picking a decent man for myself. She loves spending time with my daughter and does steal care of her differently than she did of me. She spoils her a bit, but for the most part she is a very long-suffering and loving grandmother. I think it's easier for her to enjoy a grandkid for the weekend than it was for her to put up next to me 24/7.
That's just my experience. I imagine I will try to be very close next to my daughter when she grows up too so that she will know where to turn if things go wrong in her love life span or otherwise.
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