My nephew have a LOT of anger and frustration issues... a moment or two backing please?
Soooooo...how can I show him there are better ways to show that you are angry or frustrated without screaming, hitting or kicking. He's in time out right very soon (second time today, not bad), and keeps screaming he's sorry. All day today he's been relating me he's sorry. When I told him we we're going to have to make him a doctors appointment(every time he pees he complains that it hurts and burns, I'm pretty concerned about that) and he started crying dictum he was sorry. I know this has a lot to do near his environment before he came here but I really want him to know that I'm not going to punish him for having state of mind. He gets really frustrated when he can't do something and starts screaming and crying which is understandable but then again I freshly want him to calm down and take a breath. When he crys I calmly ask him what is making him upset and it's close to he's afraid to say the wrong thing so he doesn't say anything at adjectives..are there any techniques I could use to show him that its okay to have morale in my house and he doesn't have to be afraid of me?
run away and keep a baseball bat next to your bed
trust me iv be in this situation before the bat is a very big part
I'm not a doctor, but it sounds like he has a urinary tract infection [burning pee].
As for the feeling afraid, win on your knees, or where you are at his level -- and when he won't say anything, move slowly, and tender him a huge hug, soothe his hair, and tell him its okay... that you still love him, no matter what..After doing that satisfactory times, he should open up.
How long has he been living w/ you? This sounds approaching a situation that is going to take a little time and self-control. Maybe you could start by "pretending" to have a very bad year at work and then come home and express your anger/frustration in a productive way.
As for the hurting/burning: Doctor-ASAP! Then explain that the doctor isn't going to pass him any shots or hurt him in any way, but it will make him grain much, much better.
Good luck to you!
Awww..poor little guy (and you too). Sounds like he has a UTI too. :(
How behind the times is your nephew? Hitting and kicking are things all small children do sometimes, and learning language (and seeing that those respond to that--which may require time for him to trust you if he's come from a less than desirable home) are the antidotes.
Talk to him about ways to handle his anger and frustration. Tell him how you and your spouse/significant other or other momentous people in his life bar being angry. Many adults don't handle anger or frustration well, any. Find calming activities that help him (taking wide breaths together, special area of the house with soft pillow to "chill out", etc.). Help him identify concrete things he can do when he feels angry or frustrated and remind him of them when prerequisite. Or, better yet, do an art project together with the ideas you two come up with that he can refer to at his leisure.
A parenting book about ambience that I LOVE is called "Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids". There are feelings and needs cards (and loads and loads of games to play next to small children to help them learn about morale and better ways of expressing themselves, as well as conflict resolution skills) in the back of the book that are designed to be copied and printed out to use with your children. We have a set for my 2.5 year old that he help color before we laminated them. He enjoys pointing at the pictures and identifying emotion, and I think that's a great start. We can talk about how he might be reaction and why and what are some things he might do, etc.
Good luck hon, you're doing a great job!
Answers: I work with kids and one surrounded by particular had somewhat of a similar problem. What we did was steal pictures of him with a camera expressing how he felt...(we did this on a good afternoon so it would be fun, not a chore.)
We took lots of pictures...asking him "Show me your mad face" "show me a silly face" How about a happy face" etc until we have about 10 different emotions. We laminated them and put them in an envelope stapled to a poster board that said "Today Im Feeling ________."
And the picture would stir there.
He really liked it and the trick is asking how he would feel formerly giving him a situation where he would get upset. It gave him a second to imagine about how he would feel, instead of acting on impulse.
Ex: "You own a lot of homework today. What if you had to do it all in the past you go outside?"
If he placed a happy card there, after you could tell him that your glad he understands and have him do it. If he put an angry card, you will be capable of talk about why he feels that road and at least prepare yourself for what is about to come. Source(s): B.S.
Work with kids contained by foster care/group homes/and the reunification procees between child and biological parents.
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run away and keep a baseball bat next to your bed
trust me iv be in this situation before the bat is a very big part
I'm not a doctor, but it sounds like he has a urinary tract infection [burning pee].
As for the feeling afraid, win on your knees, or where you are at his level -- and when he won't say anything, move slowly, and tender him a huge hug, soothe his hair, and tell him its okay... that you still love him, no matter what..After doing that satisfactory times, he should open up.
How long has he been living w/ you? This sounds approaching a situation that is going to take a little time and self-control. Maybe you could start by "pretending" to have a very bad year at work and then come home and express your anger/frustration in a productive way.
As for the hurting/burning: Doctor-ASAP! Then explain that the doctor isn't going to pass him any shots or hurt him in any way, but it will make him grain much, much better.
Good luck to you!
Awww..poor little guy (and you too). Sounds like he has a UTI too. :(
How behind the times is your nephew? Hitting and kicking are things all small children do sometimes, and learning language (and seeing that those respond to that--which may require time for him to trust you if he's come from a less than desirable home) are the antidotes.
Talk to him about ways to handle his anger and frustration. Tell him how you and your spouse/significant other or other momentous people in his life bar being angry. Many adults don't handle anger or frustration well, any. Find calming activities that help him (taking wide breaths together, special area of the house with soft pillow to "chill out", etc.). Help him identify concrete things he can do when he feels angry or frustrated and remind him of them when prerequisite. Or, better yet, do an art project together with the ideas you two come up with that he can refer to at his leisure.
A parenting book about ambience that I LOVE is called "Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids". There are feelings and needs cards (and loads and loads of games to play next to small children to help them learn about morale and better ways of expressing themselves, as well as conflict resolution skills) in the back of the book that are designed to be copied and printed out to use with your children. We have a set for my 2.5 year old that he help color before we laminated them. He enjoys pointing at the pictures and identifying emotion, and I think that's a great start. We can talk about how he might be reaction and why and what are some things he might do, etc.
Good luck hon, you're doing a great job!
Answers: I work with kids and one surrounded by particular had somewhat of a similar problem. What we did was steal pictures of him with a camera expressing how he felt...(we did this on a good afternoon so it would be fun, not a chore.)
We took lots of pictures...asking him "Show me your mad face" "show me a silly face" How about a happy face" etc until we have about 10 different emotions. We laminated them and put them in an envelope stapled to a poster board that said "Today Im Feeling ________."
And the picture would stir there.
He really liked it and the trick is asking how he would feel formerly giving him a situation where he would get upset. It gave him a second to imagine about how he would feel, instead of acting on impulse.
Ex: "You own a lot of homework today. What if you had to do it all in the past you go outside?"
If he placed a happy card there, after you could tell him that your glad he understands and have him do it. If he put an angry card, you will be capable of talk about why he feels that road and at least prepare yourself for what is about to come. Source(s): B.S.
Work with kids contained by foster care/group homes/and the reunification procees between child and biological parents.
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