Does Lying net me A Bad Person?
First off my name is Brandon and I just turn 16. My parents died nearly 5 months ago in a shooting in a restaurant. So in my parents will they didn't want me to live next to any of my relatives because they didn't think they would best fit me/ wouldn't be able to support me. And for educational purposes.
So they looked-for me to move in with my moms friend Liz who is one of the nicest and caring women surrounded by the world. I moved in with her and her family and its be great.
She has a daughter Kelly who the same age as me. And she's been through seriously like I have. And since I've been living here she's a great listener and really helping crawl the void of loss I had. She's been helping me become a better being and I love her.
She's told me everything about her and how she's had some drug problems and that by me listening to her I help her stop the drugs and has been drug free for a while. She told me she loved me and didn't want to ever see me get hurt.
We've be going out for the last 4 months and I love her.( I know I'm a teenager I don't know what love is) but we haven't told anybody yet. We don't want to report to her mom because we have no idea how she'll react person under the same roof and everything
She would probably would set up all these rules and try to scrutinize us constantly and I like the freedom. I mean we can fall asleep on the couch and look completely innocent. We can walk into each others room and close the door and do anything we want with out being suspected of anything.
Kelly desires to keep it a secret for a couple of more months. But I'm starting to feel fruitless about sneaking around Liz back after how nice and loving she has be.
Should I tell Liz about our relationship? Does it make me a bleak person if I don't? any other advice? Does hiding this make me a discouraging person? I just want what best for Kelly and I don’t want Liz to think that I be a mistake of hers by bringing me into her household?
I want to be looked as a mature person if I’m keeping secrets from her she’ll can`t stand me. I don’t want to be selfish person and I don’t want to lose two more people I love. What should I do?
Please don't speak about me how normally teenage relationships don't work please do try to ruin my day
It sounds similar to you have really good intentions. I think it might be best to enlighten her. It would be way better than her finding out on her own I think. She might respect you more if you tell her.
Just relay her what you told us. That you want what's best for Kelly.
This is just my opinion. Ultimately you should trust you're own instincts I think, because you know the situation better than anyone. Good luck.
This reminds me of friends of mine who took in a boy as a foster son, then adopted him when he be 17. When they moved to a different town, their 14 yr-old daugther chose to stay behind and live with extended family. She told her parents next that she was having un-sisterly feelings roughly speaking Shawn. Anyway, they were married many years later.
My warning, is that you both be honest with Liz about your feelings for respectively other and agree to ground rules for living in the same house. If your love is true, it will out-last the years you'll have to lurk. If not, hopefully you can come out of it with a good friend for life.
Well I don't think she would kick you out or anything, but you have to deduce that she might not like the idea of you and her daughter dating and living together, some couples who are dating in their 20's don't even live together. She have every right to set boundaries and rules if you 2 are 'together'
I dont think it makes you a bad soul if you dont say anything, but just be aware that things will change once the mom know whats going on.
Good Luck!
It doesn't brand u a bad person. it just method u want a little privacy. just tell her u approaching her daughter and that u want her to still give u the privacy shes been giving u.
hope i could help. accurate luck!
Answers: short reading your whole post and going on your question...I have other taught my kids that the worst people on earth are liars and thieve.
it doesn't make you a bad person. but i doubt that Liz is stupid. she have so have some idea this might happen... i stingy 2 people of around the same age and not related living below the same roof? she probably knew there be a chance and probably already has plans in her herald for this if it came around. she took you into her home, brought you into her family and is supporting you... she deserves at least to know what is stirring between you and her daughter and under her own roof. but if you decide not to tell her, it doesn't produce you a bad person... just a kid.
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So they looked-for me to move in with my moms friend Liz who is one of the nicest and caring women surrounded by the world. I moved in with her and her family and its be great.
She has a daughter Kelly who the same age as me. And she's been through seriously like I have. And since I've been living here she's a great listener and really helping crawl the void of loss I had. She's been helping me become a better being and I love her.
She's told me everything about her and how she's had some drug problems and that by me listening to her I help her stop the drugs and has been drug free for a while. She told me she loved me and didn't want to ever see me get hurt.
We've be going out for the last 4 months and I love her.( I know I'm a teenager I don't know what love is) but we haven't told anybody yet. We don't want to report to her mom because we have no idea how she'll react person under the same roof and everything
She would probably would set up all these rules and try to scrutinize us constantly and I like the freedom. I mean we can fall asleep on the couch and look completely innocent. We can walk into each others room and close the door and do anything we want with out being suspected of anything.
Kelly desires to keep it a secret for a couple of more months. But I'm starting to feel fruitless about sneaking around Liz back after how nice and loving she has be.
Should I tell Liz about our relationship? Does it make me a bleak person if I don't? any other advice? Does hiding this make me a discouraging person? I just want what best for Kelly and I don’t want Liz to think that I be a mistake of hers by bringing me into her household?
I want to be looked as a mature person if I’m keeping secrets from her she’ll can`t stand me. I don’t want to be selfish person and I don’t want to lose two more people I love. What should I do?
Please don't speak about me how normally teenage relationships don't work please do try to ruin my day
It sounds similar to you have really good intentions. I think it might be best to enlighten her. It would be way better than her finding out on her own I think. She might respect you more if you tell her.
Just relay her what you told us. That you want what's best for Kelly.
This is just my opinion. Ultimately you should trust you're own instincts I think, because you know the situation better than anyone. Good luck.
This reminds me of friends of mine who took in a boy as a foster son, then adopted him when he be 17. When they moved to a different town, their 14 yr-old daugther chose to stay behind and live with extended family. She told her parents next that she was having un-sisterly feelings roughly speaking Shawn. Anyway, they were married many years later.
My warning, is that you both be honest with Liz about your feelings for respectively other and agree to ground rules for living in the same house. If your love is true, it will out-last the years you'll have to lurk. If not, hopefully you can come out of it with a good friend for life.
Well I don't think she would kick you out or anything, but you have to deduce that she might not like the idea of you and her daughter dating and living together, some couples who are dating in their 20's don't even live together. She have every right to set boundaries and rules if you 2 are 'together'
I dont think it makes you a bad soul if you dont say anything, but just be aware that things will change once the mom know whats going on.
Good Luck!
It doesn't brand u a bad person. it just method u want a little privacy. just tell her u approaching her daughter and that u want her to still give u the privacy shes been giving u.
hope i could help. accurate luck!
Answers: short reading your whole post and going on your question...I have other taught my kids that the worst people on earth are liars and thieve.
it doesn't make you a bad person. but i doubt that Liz is stupid. she have so have some idea this might happen... i stingy 2 people of around the same age and not related living below the same roof? she probably knew there be a chance and probably already has plans in her herald for this if it came around. she took you into her home, brought you into her family and is supporting you... she deserves at least to know what is stirring between you and her daughter and under her own roof. but if you decide not to tell her, it doesn't produce you a bad person... just a kid.
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