Do you mull over it is be a sign of or appropriate to cut my daughter's quill bad?
My daughter is a mature 8 year old who is capable of doing most things a 12 year elderly can do. The problem is that she has long hair and wants to grow it even longer. I hold repeatedly told her that if she wants long hair that she has to nick care of it. She doesn't. She doesn't always wash it despite my constant reminders and she necessarily walks around all day beside it looking like a complete mess. During the school year I would put it up for her and make it look nice and she would come home from university with it taken down and a mess. I have asked her three or four times today to go fix her spike and it looks the same as she did when she got out of bed. I have told her that I am going to cut her quill to a shorter length if she does not take personal responsibility for it. I simply do not think I should have to help yourself to care of her long hair for her. I am a full time student, a full time mother to three children (ages 2, 5, &8), I do the majority of house and yard work, and hold a soldier for a husband. My plate is full.
Do you think it is awful for me to give her another week to show me she is going to take comfort of it or we are going to get a neck length bob?
your childs hair could reflect you as a parent people might believe you don't take care of your child even though you do. Try having a heart to heart near her. Have you told her her options? Choice 1 take care of your hairor 2 cut it rotten
You're her mother and no an 8 year old still requirements help with fixing her hair. I imagine it's awful of you to think you should just cut her hair. A lot of moms including myself do a majority of everything. you have need of to just take care of your daughter and quit making her do everything herself. Maybe if you don't enjoy time to take care of your daughter you should only be in motion to school part time.
I deduce it is very appropriate and you have given a reasonable time length to get it done.
Let it be. Is hair really worth sending your kid the message that she has no say over what happen to her body, even her hair?
Let the schoolyard work its magic. The first time some kid tells her her hackle looks bad, she'll either shrug it off, thus demonstrating excellent self-esteem, or suddenly start off grooming it like never before.
You're the Mom/Dad. Its your charge to make these decisions - nothing wrong near it at all. Its not like you're shaving her head. Give her that week and if she fail, she will have learned a valuable lesson.
You've already made the threat, so if you didn't follow through with it you'd be doing more damage.
I personally would keep it short, She can grow it out when she's older and more responsible next to the personal hygeine.
Your daughter is have trouble understanding that some things carry a responsibility to maintain them. Hair, teeth, and one's nonspecific health are at the top of the list. You're correct to threaten to shorten her hair if she will not hang on to it clean and groomed. If she constantly left her bike out of the garage to be rained on and take rusty, wouldn't she lose the use of the bike? Her hair is no different.
I think it would be appropriate to cut it shorter. You can't have her going around like that. People within her class will notice. She will be made fun of. It might make er angry and upset but I think it would be better if it be shorter.
your daughter should be able to wear her quill anyway she wants. how would you like it if your mother made you cut your hair?
explain to her why it is esteemed to keep proper grooming and hygene.
suggest a pony tail on days she doesn't want the hassle.
I think cutting your babyish daughters hair would be mean and could cause heartfelt stress for her.
besides it sounds like you have more to focus on then quill.
Nope. Good idea. You have warned her. Don't be a wimpy parent that doesn't backbone up what they say. One week is plenty of time. You have been conversation to her about it all school year.
"neck length bob" ... What is that? Would it come to the top of her collar or the bottom? And how long is it? Are we talking elbow length or what?
I personally wouldn't cut it any shorter than the tops of her shoulders just but. Show her you mean business but don't make it so short that she can't even put it up in a pony tail. Tell her that her subsequent haircut will be in 1 month. If she takes correct care of it until then, it will just be a trim to maintain it looking nice and even before school starts. If she is still going around with it looking messy - you will attain it cut shorter.
Whatever you do, you have given her warnings. I can understand her coat being a mess after a day at school - but if she can't fix it when you remind her, consequently she isn't really ready to have long hair but.
I dont infer its unfair to have it cut. I would cut it up to shoulder length and then describe her if she can take care of it fine if not you will cut it shorter.
At 8 I am not sure she should hold full responsibility for her hair, but she should help! She at least should know how to brush it and bring you the stuff to put it up if she can't alone. I was about her age when I refused to brush my fuzz and my mother had it cut from the middle of my back to chin length. I am now almost 30, and can not seize a short hair cut. Just below my shoulders is as far as I will go. Her hair does want to be at a length you can both manage, but don't cut her hair because you are angry. It has stable effects on her!!
If I were you, I would cut it to her shoulders to show her that you are not joking around next to her. If she continues this behavior, then I would get a neck length bob.
just because she acts mature doesnt parsimonious she is going to be like that in every aspect. at only 8 years older i wouldn't think she would be mature enough to pocket care it it by herself or even care enough to, she's a kid, she probably doesn;t fastidiousness to much about personal appearance at that age. For now I would just progress with her to wash her hair and minister to her brush it until she starts to do it by herself
Well u should cut her hair all u hold to do is find a hairdo that looks nice with shorter hair, that u and your daughter both will be lively with.
No I'd cut it. But not too short. The length your talking something like is fine. You have told her many times. She refuses to listen. Just don't formulate her look like Kate Gosselin. Now that would be mean!! Hair always grows. She can agree to it grow back. But don't cut it to the point she can't pull it up!! :)
not simply should you cut it off...but you should donate it to locks of love. They make wigs for kids who own had chemo or other medical issues that make them lose thier hair. They one and only need 10 inches of clean hair and in attendance are salons that will give a free haircut if you donate the fleece. I have done it a few times and have a ponytail I need to post off. Check out the details at http:// www.locksoflove.org Source(s): personal experience. My daughter did not get her first haircut until she be 5.
I do not think it is mean or indecorous. I had to do the same thing to my daughter. She did not similar to to have it brushed. She would scream and make a huge fuss everytime. So I told her to clear the choice: Either learn to live with the "pain" of brushing, or it was getting cut. Needless to read out we were at the stylist's in less than a week.
Doesn't strike me as unfair at all. If she wants long hackle, she needs to take responsibility for it.
My son wanted to grow his out some. I said fine, so long as you cart care of it, and it looks nice. (He's 12.) Trying to get that kid to comb it, much less dry it so it wouldn't stand up funny be like pulling teeth.
He's back to having completely short, wash and wear hair.
Answers: You are definitely right! My son is 5 and he take very good care of himself. A year ago he considered necessary a mohawk. I told him he has to take care of it and since his pelt is going to be kind of long he would need to brush it so it didn't look like crap when it wasn't spiked up. He kept it for a year but he started loosing interest contained by it and didn't take care of it the way he be supposed to so I threatened to cut his hair off short if he didn't take aid of it. He didn't take care of it in the extension and so we took him to get it cut off. He was wacky but after a few days he loved his new hair and said that he missed the mohawk but was tired of taking safekeeping of it.
Since your girl is so much older she should definitely be responsible for her hair. You should offer her one more week to keep it long. I would go ahead and bid while she's in the room for an appointment a week from today to get her haircut. That method she knows if she's not taking care of her hair she's already get an appointment to get it chopped off but if she does take meticulousness of it, all it takes is a phone call to end it. Make sure she knows that! When the time comes if she hasn't taken care of it, drag her kicking and screaming to get it chopped stale. She'll hate you for a few days, but you're a mom, I'm sure you'll handle it somehow.
Good Luck
If she cannot or will not take care of it properly, then why dispense her another week? You claim you made it clear in the past she was to clutch care of the hair or it had to travel. I'd take her to a salon today and donate it to "locks of love" (if it's long enough).
Tell her she can re-grow it as long as you see she's taking care of it. If it's not taken care of after it'll continue to be cut short until she's an adult and can make her own decision about it.
My mom did the same thing to me as a child for the same rationale. And of course as a kid, it was so horrible, but now as a parent, I can totally fathom out. I think it would be just find and really drive home your point. Besides, hair grows stern.
If you KNOW she wants to grow her hair out and you pay no attention to her wishes because it isn't convenient for YOU and you don't like how she cares or doesn't care of HER own mane - then YES I think it would be mean and unkind/thoughtless and possibly emotionally traumatic to FORCE her to cut it - or you to cut it! Come on she is just 8. If she didn't take care of her TEETH would you pull them adjectives out? Of course you wouldn't. You do your part - fix it in the morning and then SO WHAT if she can't hold it in perfect ORDER the rest of the day? Is it really SO momentous or is it just important to YOU?
I think you are worrying and stressing almost something that you do need to LET be her problem. Be clear with her that you expect her to let you fix her spike once a day and YOU think she really isn't taking proper care of it - your belief WILL ONE DAY MATTER to her and one day taking care of her own hair more thoroughly WILL issue to her too. She is behaving VERY normally for her age. Trimming it would be ok but unless she agrees and wants it cut short too - I regard it would be wrong to do it.
Just my opinion, as a mother of 3 daughters (and one son). MY daughters let me brush & french braid their waist length hair until they be probably 12 and then they wanted to take control of it themselves and it be theirs to do or NOT do as they wished. <how rude 3 thumbs downs! I think this is a perfectly terrific and accurate answer!!>
You have to remember she is eight and not twelve despite some of the maturity you see within her. She is your oldest and we moms tend to be the hardest on them. I cut my seven year old daughter's hair from long to short for some of the same reason. My daughter does not generally care too much about her fuzz so I was surprised by her reaction. I prepared her with pictures and planning on what the cut would look like...but when she saw how short it was she started to cry. It broke my heart.
I say permit her have it long if she wants it so. It is her body and her hair and you hold taught her how to manage it.it may not be done to your expectations but that is her problem not yours. You should not lift on the responsibility of her long hair... if it is something you don't want to do...I say let the crude consequences of her choice of carelessness take it course. She will find out how hard it is to do paperwork long hair without your help. I see three things that could occur: One, she will soon want short hair. Two, she will start taking better care of her hair, or three, she will hold on to doing what she has been doing, but will feel more standard and at peace with her mom because that friction will be gone.
The question is can you do that without notion burdened? I wish you luck.
Eh, yes and no.
You say that she is mature but she won't listen to you or take pride surrounded by her hair like most people. So possibly she's not ready to have long hair?
But if you do cut it, don't cut it into a bob. Cut it to a length purely past her shoulders. I cut my hair really short when I was that age and I've never be able to grow it all the way rear. =(
DeDe- How in the world are we supposed to know where you live? Most of us probably don't live near you!
If you cut her fuzz you can sell it at: http://hairbuyer.com
All you have to do is wash her hackle once a week and maybe spend 5 minutes a day brushing it for her - that hardly seem onerous. She is eight and you are her mother. I think you need to consider your attitude to this child! She is too young at heart to be expected to wash her own hair.
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Do you think it is awful for me to give her another week to show me she is going to take comfort of it or we are going to get a neck length bob?
your childs hair could reflect you as a parent people might believe you don't take care of your child even though you do. Try having a heart to heart near her. Have you told her her options? Choice 1 take care of your hairor 2 cut it rotten
You're her mother and no an 8 year old still requirements help with fixing her hair. I imagine it's awful of you to think you should just cut her hair. A lot of moms including myself do a majority of everything. you have need of to just take care of your daughter and quit making her do everything herself. Maybe if you don't enjoy time to take care of your daughter you should only be in motion to school part time.
I deduce it is very appropriate and you have given a reasonable time length to get it done.
Let it be. Is hair really worth sending your kid the message that she has no say over what happen to her body, even her hair?
Let the schoolyard work its magic. The first time some kid tells her her hackle looks bad, she'll either shrug it off, thus demonstrating excellent self-esteem, or suddenly start off grooming it like never before.
You're the Mom/Dad. Its your charge to make these decisions - nothing wrong near it at all. Its not like you're shaving her head. Give her that week and if she fail, she will have learned a valuable lesson.
You've already made the threat, so if you didn't follow through with it you'd be doing more damage.
I personally would keep it short, She can grow it out when she's older and more responsible next to the personal hygeine.
Your daughter is have trouble understanding that some things carry a responsibility to maintain them. Hair, teeth, and one's nonspecific health are at the top of the list. You're correct to threaten to shorten her hair if she will not hang on to it clean and groomed. If she constantly left her bike out of the garage to be rained on and take rusty, wouldn't she lose the use of the bike? Her hair is no different.
I think it would be appropriate to cut it shorter. You can't have her going around like that. People within her class will notice. She will be made fun of. It might make er angry and upset but I think it would be better if it be shorter.
your daughter should be able to wear her quill anyway she wants. how would you like it if your mother made you cut your hair?
explain to her why it is esteemed to keep proper grooming and hygene.
suggest a pony tail on days she doesn't want the hassle.
I think cutting your babyish daughters hair would be mean and could cause heartfelt stress for her.
besides it sounds like you have more to focus on then quill.
Nope. Good idea. You have warned her. Don't be a wimpy parent that doesn't backbone up what they say. One week is plenty of time. You have been conversation to her about it all school year.
"neck length bob" ... What is that? Would it come to the top of her collar or the bottom? And how long is it? Are we talking elbow length or what?
I personally wouldn't cut it any shorter than the tops of her shoulders just but. Show her you mean business but don't make it so short that she can't even put it up in a pony tail. Tell her that her subsequent haircut will be in 1 month. If she takes correct care of it until then, it will just be a trim to maintain it looking nice and even before school starts. If she is still going around with it looking messy - you will attain it cut shorter.
Whatever you do, you have given her warnings. I can understand her coat being a mess after a day at school - but if she can't fix it when you remind her, consequently she isn't really ready to have long hair but.
I dont infer its unfair to have it cut. I would cut it up to shoulder length and then describe her if she can take care of it fine if not you will cut it shorter.
At 8 I am not sure she should hold full responsibility for her hair, but she should help! She at least should know how to brush it and bring you the stuff to put it up if she can't alone. I was about her age when I refused to brush my fuzz and my mother had it cut from the middle of my back to chin length. I am now almost 30, and can not seize a short hair cut. Just below my shoulders is as far as I will go. Her hair does want to be at a length you can both manage, but don't cut her hair because you are angry. It has stable effects on her!!
If I were you, I would cut it to her shoulders to show her that you are not joking around next to her. If she continues this behavior, then I would get a neck length bob.
just because she acts mature doesnt parsimonious she is going to be like that in every aspect. at only 8 years older i wouldn't think she would be mature enough to pocket care it it by herself or even care enough to, she's a kid, she probably doesn;t fastidiousness to much about personal appearance at that age. For now I would just progress with her to wash her hair and minister to her brush it until she starts to do it by herself
Well u should cut her hair all u hold to do is find a hairdo that looks nice with shorter hair, that u and your daughter both will be lively with.
No I'd cut it. But not too short. The length your talking something like is fine. You have told her many times. She refuses to listen. Just don't formulate her look like Kate Gosselin. Now that would be mean!! Hair always grows. She can agree to it grow back. But don't cut it to the point she can't pull it up!! :)
not simply should you cut it off...but you should donate it to locks of love. They make wigs for kids who own had chemo or other medical issues that make them lose thier hair. They one and only need 10 inches of clean hair and in attendance are salons that will give a free haircut if you donate the fleece. I have done it a few times and have a ponytail I need to post off. Check out the details at http:// www.locksoflove.org Source(s): personal experience. My daughter did not get her first haircut until she be 5.
I do not think it is mean or indecorous. I had to do the same thing to my daughter. She did not similar to to have it brushed. She would scream and make a huge fuss everytime. So I told her to clear the choice: Either learn to live with the "pain" of brushing, or it was getting cut. Needless to read out we were at the stylist's in less than a week.
Doesn't strike me as unfair at all. If she wants long hackle, she needs to take responsibility for it.
My son wanted to grow his out some. I said fine, so long as you cart care of it, and it looks nice. (He's 12.) Trying to get that kid to comb it, much less dry it so it wouldn't stand up funny be like pulling teeth.
He's back to having completely short, wash and wear hair.
Answers: You are definitely right! My son is 5 and he take very good care of himself. A year ago he considered necessary a mohawk. I told him he has to take care of it and since his pelt is going to be kind of long he would need to brush it so it didn't look like crap when it wasn't spiked up. He kept it for a year but he started loosing interest contained by it and didn't take care of it the way he be supposed to so I threatened to cut his hair off short if he didn't take aid of it. He didn't take care of it in the extension and so we took him to get it cut off. He was wacky but after a few days he loved his new hair and said that he missed the mohawk but was tired of taking safekeeping of it.
Since your girl is so much older she should definitely be responsible for her hair. You should offer her one more week to keep it long. I would go ahead and bid while she's in the room for an appointment a week from today to get her haircut. That method she knows if she's not taking care of her hair she's already get an appointment to get it chopped off but if she does take meticulousness of it, all it takes is a phone call to end it. Make sure she knows that! When the time comes if she hasn't taken care of it, drag her kicking and screaming to get it chopped stale. She'll hate you for a few days, but you're a mom, I'm sure you'll handle it somehow.
Good Luck
If she cannot or will not take care of it properly, then why dispense her another week? You claim you made it clear in the past she was to clutch care of the hair or it had to travel. I'd take her to a salon today and donate it to "locks of love" (if it's long enough).
Tell her she can re-grow it as long as you see she's taking care of it. If it's not taken care of after it'll continue to be cut short until she's an adult and can make her own decision about it.
My mom did the same thing to me as a child for the same rationale. And of course as a kid, it was so horrible, but now as a parent, I can totally fathom out. I think it would be just find and really drive home your point. Besides, hair grows stern.
If you KNOW she wants to grow her hair out and you pay no attention to her wishes because it isn't convenient for YOU and you don't like how she cares or doesn't care of HER own mane - then YES I think it would be mean and unkind/thoughtless and possibly emotionally traumatic to FORCE her to cut it - or you to cut it! Come on she is just 8. If she didn't take care of her TEETH would you pull them adjectives out? Of course you wouldn't. You do your part - fix it in the morning and then SO WHAT if she can't hold it in perfect ORDER the rest of the day? Is it really SO momentous or is it just important to YOU?
I think you are worrying and stressing almost something that you do need to LET be her problem. Be clear with her that you expect her to let you fix her spike once a day and YOU think she really isn't taking proper care of it - your belief WILL ONE DAY MATTER to her and one day taking care of her own hair more thoroughly WILL issue to her too. She is behaving VERY normally for her age. Trimming it would be ok but unless she agrees and wants it cut short too - I regard it would be wrong to do it.
Just my opinion, as a mother of 3 daughters (and one son). MY daughters let me brush & french braid their waist length hair until they be probably 12 and then they wanted to take control of it themselves and it be theirs to do or NOT do as they wished. <how rude 3 thumbs downs! I think this is a perfectly terrific and accurate answer!!>
You have to remember she is eight and not twelve despite some of the maturity you see within her. She is your oldest and we moms tend to be the hardest on them. I cut my seven year old daughter's hair from long to short for some of the same reason. My daughter does not generally care too much about her fuzz so I was surprised by her reaction. I prepared her with pictures and planning on what the cut would look like...but when she saw how short it was she started to cry. It broke my heart.
I say permit her have it long if she wants it so. It is her body and her hair and you hold taught her how to manage it.it may not be done to your expectations but that is her problem not yours. You should not lift on the responsibility of her long hair... if it is something you don't want to do...I say let the crude consequences of her choice of carelessness take it course. She will find out how hard it is to do paperwork long hair without your help. I see three things that could occur: One, she will soon want short hair. Two, she will start taking better care of her hair, or three, she will hold on to doing what she has been doing, but will feel more standard and at peace with her mom because that friction will be gone.
The question is can you do that without notion burdened? I wish you luck.
Eh, yes and no.
You say that she is mature but she won't listen to you or take pride surrounded by her hair like most people. So possibly she's not ready to have long hair?
But if you do cut it, don't cut it into a bob. Cut it to a length purely past her shoulders. I cut my hair really short when I was that age and I've never be able to grow it all the way rear. =(
DeDe- How in the world are we supposed to know where you live? Most of us probably don't live near you!
If you cut her fuzz you can sell it at: http://hairbuyer.com
All you have to do is wash her hackle once a week and maybe spend 5 minutes a day brushing it for her - that hardly seem onerous. She is eight and you are her mother. I think you need to consider your attitude to this child! She is too young at heart to be expected to wash her own hair.
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