Need suggestion from any parents on kids and the bloody internet!!?
My daughter is 10 (11 next month) and lately iv noticed shes became severely secretive about what shes doing on her computer, when she was away from it i checked the history and discovered shes be looking up porn, there were graphic video, pictures, the lot!! im very upset about this and its just as very well shes staying at her grans tonight coz id have killed her! Now that iv calmed down i enjoy no idea how to deal with this as i never imagined she would do this at such a immature age, im going to phone the internet company and get advice on how to block her doing this again but im unsure if i should make the computer safe and sound and never mention what i seen to her as it might embarrass her or whether i should sit her down and tell her i know, is there anyone who can bequeath me some advice on this, perhaps a parent who's dealt near a similar situation, id be grateful for any advice given.
Set up a filter to block porn sites. Run a full antivirus and anti spyware scan because shes been browsing odd sites. My sister have to be blocked because she was going to dodgy sites browsing, they were not porn sites but had popups that would enjoy porn on them, one downloaded a adware that regularly poped up porn adds.
You should have a talk near her, shes probably just curious but she needs to know that its not ok for kids to look at that, and maybe donate the birds and the bees talk. Also I would restrict her computer use, if you don't step in now while shes still babyish and impressionable and set boundaries on it now you are going to have hell contained by her teen years.
You could tell her without letting her know you found out, that these websites can have virus. Perhaps pick up a newspaper and say out loud "It say here that rude websites will break your computer". This is an idea, i would expect what you would actually say to be more fitting and economically thought through :)
The problem with using parental controls is that kids always find a way. So this is why I suggest subtly persuading her why these sites are discouraging.
Good luck!
My friend told me his 7yr old d'ter knows how babies are made - because she saw a spirit film where the male put his article in 'her bottom'. Bless her.
Kids are just curious - I definately was, weren't you? She's in recent times finding about stuff (i.e. the human body, sex) because she feels awkward talking around it to 'parents', because lets face it, we all at some point loathed having THAT talk with them! Lol
Change the settings on your computer but confer to her about it too. Don't say that you KNOW what she's been viewing, she'll clam up from embarassment. Just articulate that you think she is old enough to know around. Maybe broach the subject when you are doing something together so that she will feel more comfortable about talking near you.
say its blocked and that you can see any entry rude that she has been looking at on the Internet. other wise do what i do and lone let her on it when your in the same room. dont verbs she is at that age where she will be Curious the thing is she should learn individual Intimate with a partner should be Special, and not like the *y women seen on porn. explain to her its not how genuine partners are together
wow my daughters nearly five, id kill her to, but if you go into ur control panel and be in motion to internet settings you can put parent control on so any sites like that which got to be 18 to enter will stop her without your password, i wouldnt articulate anything just yet, also those sites will probably flood ur computer with viriues, I don`t know shes ready for the bees n the birds chat, or she's looking for the meaning of whats sex is, or even how to do it,
first its normal for her to be curious
but it is illegal for her to look at it
sermon with her
tell her its healthy to wanna know and see sex, but that you dont want her looking up porn on the computer
and its not too precipitate to have the sex talk
she obviously is curious and know a bit, its better to inform her yourself then have her only know the bits and pieces she know
Ha ha, my mom would have slapped the **** out of me.
just put a higher filter on it and consent to her find out she cant access this stuff anymore
its obviously just curiosity
maybe you merely talk to her anyway and see what it is she is trying to find out about
She's probably just curious.
I think it's time to explain the complete sex thing to her. Talk to her about self pleasure over having sex beside boys. If she is going to have sex with boys (because you can't really stop her, unless you've a tight watch on her), explain birth control and how prominent it is.
As much as it can be embarrassing for the both of you, it needs to be talked give or take a few. And due to her looking at porn, this seems like the appropriate time!. Educate yourself tonight so you can answer any question she have, and if you don't know make sure you find out and tell her.
Explain what a penis is, what a vagina is, what sperm is, how you conceive. etc.. don't leave anything out as she'll find her answers from somewhere else, probably somewhere unreliable.
As for the internet, I wouldn't hold it in her room, I'd have it in the kitchen or the den somewhere public where on earth creeps can't persuade her since her interests in sex have be intrigued.
Best of luck to you! Just make sure she knows how to protect herself and she doesn't need to succumb to a man for pleasure.
Why are you so angry around it? That is an unhealthy attitude, sorry.
She is at the age that she is curious about that sort of thing. She is probably nearly to start puberty...libidos start going up. It is natural and nothing to be angry about.
It may embarrass her if you sit down and converse about it but perhaps you should. Don't be angry at her just yak about sex, your values, and see if she has any questions that she may want to ask.
As others said, in that are blocks you can put on the computer so she won't have access to those sites.
Crikey, what a horrible situation to find yourself in.
Firstly i'd say aloud dont mention you'd seen what she's been looking at, it'll only really embarass and humilate her.
Is within anyway you can make the computer be in a room that you can just meander in and see what's on, not like her in a corner beside it on ?
Then i'd say put the highest of filters on your computer.
I'm sure there's resembling internet explorers or mozilla firefoxes, that will only let you access safe websites.
Remember dont tolerate her know you've seen it.
Good luck x
i dont know your style and counsel that you take depends deeply on that. however if i were you i would confront her. instead of acussing though try asking she will any tell you the truth are lie. if she lies dont be outraged instead control yourself think just about the fact that this is just as hard for her as it is for you she will probably be really imbarassed about it. if she lies then tell her your glad it come up anyways because it is time yall had the talk because by the time kids start to get inrested they are also going through adjectives the hormones and will more than likely wind up haveing sex not to long after the fact unless the parent steps within and has the talk with them. after yall enjoy the talk if you want help in preventing it (i know its mean) transmit her about haveing babies after all it is the effect of haveing sex. you might even show her shows that come on tv like delivor me are travel online and look up birthing experiances. Not that you wanna know this but i started at 13 however if my mom had had the talk near me and showed me the vedieos i dont believe i would have sex ever.the best of luck!
Explain her why it's bad to do this and install some tracking software, like Actymac Dutywatch, it will record adjectives her internet activity so that you can control her.
hard question...but a good one.firstly i would form sure the computer is placed in a room where he whole domestic are so she cant be so secretive on it...definitely ring the internet provider to block these sights..make sure it unequivocally is HER looking at the porn sites (could it be anyone else in the family?)
you cant just cold-shoulder it, you need to make sure shes not chatting to anyone on there and giving any details out just about herself..age... address..phone etc.unfortunately some of these porn sites are used as a gateway to "groom" children e.g. your child thinks shes chatting to someone her own age and arranges to meet but its really some pervert...(frightening but true)
give an account her that you are not angry but are sad that she needs to look at these sites, tell her that most women are not close to this and that relationships should be within a loving stable partnership.
most children are just curious and it doesn't go any further than this.
shes hoary enough to be taught about stis, pregnancy etc and the risks of unprotected intercourse.above adjectives tell her you love her, and that she can always come to you and ask you ANYTHING
it will be a hard conversation but i discern its one you must have.
good luck honey.
Let it be for now ,she has hear something from school ,keep an eye on her browsing history or get a push button logger , she will soon be back to normal ,looking up things every 10 yr old looks up on the trellis , use net nanny or similar program to block such sites ,but do it discreetly so as to avoid a confrontation
I'm not a parent that's dealt with this, I go through this myself! My dad left porn up on the computer one day and that got me super curious nearly it. I didn't know why I was curious about it, I just be. I knew it was bad so I be really, really secretive. My brother caught me and told me it was very wrong. I be so embarrassed that I didn't look at porn again until I watched Pirates the porn with some friends from college as a jape.
There are a few things you need to know. First, it's not unusual. Second, it can become addicting. Three, it doesn't mean that she's a bad personage or that she will become a sex fiend.
It would be best to sit her down and talk to her. It will embarrass the crap out of her, definitely, but she'll procure over it. Tell her that while you were angry at first, you've calmed down and aren't about to kill her. Tell her that you know she know it's wrong, and that she needs to stop. You don't have to say much more roughly it beyond that, really. The embarrassment will be enough to get her to stop.
What I would do myself would be to put in the picture her that there are bad people on the internet that would resembling for little girls like her to take pictures like that, but to be precise a very, very bad item and it's very illegal but they're out there trolling through chat rooms. Actually I'd be fearful if she was going to chatrooms. Anyway, I'd tell her that there are rules around who can look at porn for a reason and that people know it's bad. Because some ancestors know it's bad they like to look at it more and it becomes addicting and it can ruin their existence. I'd tell her that while you're really, really disappointed in her, you think that the confusion is punishment enough for right now, but that if it happens again near will be very harsh consequences (I'd say without doubt no internet for one month and then parental controls to the max). If you find the history on the internet cleared out, then you can suspect that she's still doing it and deleting the accounts. If this happens go to the temporary internet files, or a moment ago search "xxx" or "sex" on your computer to find stuff.
Answers: All children are curious roughly sex and unfortunately they aren't given just the government distributed video about sex or books like we had when we be kids. It is on the internet and too who knows what they will find. She hasn't done anything wrong she is just curious. She doesn't realise how dangerous the internet can be or how sex is portrayed.
If it be me, i would make the computer safe so she cannot access anymore pornography, but i would not talk to her almost that specifically. Perhaps you could get her a book about sex (an educational book). Leave it within her room and say to her that you got her a book and that if she wants to ask you any question about what's in it, she can and if she doesn't that's fine too.
Don't punish her she hasn't actually done anything wrong she is basically a curious kid xx
Personally, I wouldn't say a thing. She's just curious! It's not approaching you can show your daughter what sex is, so she's going out on her own looking to find out. I think it's normal! I'm pretty sure a ton of girls and guys have done that at a really childish age. But the internet is powerful. I would just keep it in the fund of your head and let it go. Bring up the birds & bees when you're both organized.
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Set up a filter to block porn sites. Run a full antivirus and anti spyware scan because shes been browsing odd sites. My sister have to be blocked because she was going to dodgy sites browsing, they were not porn sites but had popups that would enjoy porn on them, one downloaded a adware that regularly poped up porn adds.
You should have a talk near her, shes probably just curious but she needs to know that its not ok for kids to look at that, and maybe donate the birds and the bees talk. Also I would restrict her computer use, if you don't step in now while shes still babyish and impressionable and set boundaries on it now you are going to have hell contained by her teen years.
You could tell her without letting her know you found out, that these websites can have virus. Perhaps pick up a newspaper and say out loud "It say here that rude websites will break your computer". This is an idea, i would expect what you would actually say to be more fitting and economically thought through :)
The problem with using parental controls is that kids always find a way. So this is why I suggest subtly persuading her why these sites are discouraging.
Good luck!
My friend told me his 7yr old d'ter knows how babies are made - because she saw a spirit film where the male put his article in 'her bottom'. Bless her.
Kids are just curious - I definately was, weren't you? She's in recent times finding about stuff (i.e. the human body, sex) because she feels awkward talking around it to 'parents', because lets face it, we all at some point loathed having THAT talk with them! Lol
Change the settings on your computer but confer to her about it too. Don't say that you KNOW what she's been viewing, she'll clam up from embarassment. Just articulate that you think she is old enough to know around. Maybe broach the subject when you are doing something together so that she will feel more comfortable about talking near you.
say its blocked and that you can see any entry rude that she has been looking at on the Internet. other wise do what i do and lone let her on it when your in the same room. dont verbs she is at that age where she will be Curious the thing is she should learn individual Intimate with a partner should be Special, and not like the *y women seen on porn. explain to her its not how genuine partners are together
wow my daughters nearly five, id kill her to, but if you go into ur control panel and be in motion to internet settings you can put parent control on so any sites like that which got to be 18 to enter will stop her without your password, i wouldnt articulate anything just yet, also those sites will probably flood ur computer with viriues, I don`t know shes ready for the bees n the birds chat, or she's looking for the meaning of whats sex is, or even how to do it,
first its normal for her to be curious
but it is illegal for her to look at it
sermon with her
tell her its healthy to wanna know and see sex, but that you dont want her looking up porn on the computer
and its not too precipitate to have the sex talk
she obviously is curious and know a bit, its better to inform her yourself then have her only know the bits and pieces she know
Ha ha, my mom would have slapped the **** out of me.
just put a higher filter on it and consent to her find out she cant access this stuff anymore
its obviously just curiosity
maybe you merely talk to her anyway and see what it is she is trying to find out about
She's probably just curious.
I think it's time to explain the complete sex thing to her. Talk to her about self pleasure over having sex beside boys. If she is going to have sex with boys (because you can't really stop her, unless you've a tight watch on her), explain birth control and how prominent it is.
As much as it can be embarrassing for the both of you, it needs to be talked give or take a few. And due to her looking at porn, this seems like the appropriate time!. Educate yourself tonight so you can answer any question she have, and if you don't know make sure you find out and tell her.
Explain what a penis is, what a vagina is, what sperm is, how you conceive. etc.. don't leave anything out as she'll find her answers from somewhere else, probably somewhere unreliable.
As for the internet, I wouldn't hold it in her room, I'd have it in the kitchen or the den somewhere public where on earth creeps can't persuade her since her interests in sex have be intrigued.
Best of luck to you! Just make sure she knows how to protect herself and she doesn't need to succumb to a man for pleasure.
Why are you so angry around it? That is an unhealthy attitude, sorry.
She is at the age that she is curious about that sort of thing. She is probably nearly to start puberty...libidos start going up. It is natural and nothing to be angry about.
It may embarrass her if you sit down and converse about it but perhaps you should. Don't be angry at her just yak about sex, your values, and see if she has any questions that she may want to ask.
As others said, in that are blocks you can put on the computer so she won't have access to those sites.
Crikey, what a horrible situation to find yourself in.
Firstly i'd say aloud dont mention you'd seen what she's been looking at, it'll only really embarass and humilate her.
Is within anyway you can make the computer be in a room that you can just meander in and see what's on, not like her in a corner beside it on ?
Then i'd say put the highest of filters on your computer.
I'm sure there's resembling internet explorers or mozilla firefoxes, that will only let you access safe websites.
Remember dont tolerate her know you've seen it.
Good luck x
i dont know your style and counsel that you take depends deeply on that. however if i were you i would confront her. instead of acussing though try asking she will any tell you the truth are lie. if she lies dont be outraged instead control yourself think just about the fact that this is just as hard for her as it is for you she will probably be really imbarassed about it. if she lies then tell her your glad it come up anyways because it is time yall had the talk because by the time kids start to get inrested they are also going through adjectives the hormones and will more than likely wind up haveing sex not to long after the fact unless the parent steps within and has the talk with them. after yall enjoy the talk if you want help in preventing it (i know its mean) transmit her about haveing babies after all it is the effect of haveing sex. you might even show her shows that come on tv like delivor me are travel online and look up birthing experiances. Not that you wanna know this but i started at 13 however if my mom had had the talk near me and showed me the vedieos i dont believe i would have sex ever.the best of luck!
Explain her why it's bad to do this and install some tracking software, like Actymac Dutywatch, it will record adjectives her internet activity so that you can control her.
hard question...but a good one.firstly i would form sure the computer is placed in a room where he whole domestic are so she cant be so secretive on it...definitely ring the internet provider to block these sights..make sure it unequivocally is HER looking at the porn sites (could it be anyone else in the family?)
you cant just cold-shoulder it, you need to make sure shes not chatting to anyone on there and giving any details out just about herself..age... address..phone etc.unfortunately some of these porn sites are used as a gateway to "groom" children e.g. your child thinks shes chatting to someone her own age and arranges to meet but its really some pervert...(frightening but true)
give an account her that you are not angry but are sad that she needs to look at these sites, tell her that most women are not close to this and that relationships should be within a loving stable partnership.
most children are just curious and it doesn't go any further than this.
shes hoary enough to be taught about stis, pregnancy etc and the risks of unprotected intercourse.above adjectives tell her you love her, and that she can always come to you and ask you ANYTHING
it will be a hard conversation but i discern its one you must have.
good luck honey.
Let it be for now ,she has hear something from school ,keep an eye on her browsing history or get a push button logger , she will soon be back to normal ,looking up things every 10 yr old looks up on the trellis , use net nanny or similar program to block such sites ,but do it discreetly so as to avoid a confrontation
I'm not a parent that's dealt with this, I go through this myself! My dad left porn up on the computer one day and that got me super curious nearly it. I didn't know why I was curious about it, I just be. I knew it was bad so I be really, really secretive. My brother caught me and told me it was very wrong. I be so embarrassed that I didn't look at porn again until I watched Pirates the porn with some friends from college as a jape.
There are a few things you need to know. First, it's not unusual. Second, it can become addicting. Three, it doesn't mean that she's a bad personage or that she will become a sex fiend.
It would be best to sit her down and talk to her. It will embarrass the crap out of her, definitely, but she'll procure over it. Tell her that while you were angry at first, you've calmed down and aren't about to kill her. Tell her that you know she know it's wrong, and that she needs to stop. You don't have to say much more roughly it beyond that, really. The embarrassment will be enough to get her to stop.
What I would do myself would be to put in the picture her that there are bad people on the internet that would resembling for little girls like her to take pictures like that, but to be precise a very, very bad item and it's very illegal but they're out there trolling through chat rooms. Actually I'd be fearful if she was going to chatrooms. Anyway, I'd tell her that there are rules around who can look at porn for a reason and that people know it's bad. Because some ancestors know it's bad they like to look at it more and it becomes addicting and it can ruin their existence. I'd tell her that while you're really, really disappointed in her, you think that the confusion is punishment enough for right now, but that if it happens again near will be very harsh consequences (I'd say without doubt no internet for one month and then parental controls to the max). If you find the history on the internet cleared out, then you can suspect that she's still doing it and deleting the accounts. If this happens go to the temporary internet files, or a moment ago search "xxx" or "sex" on your computer to find stuff.
Answers: All children are curious roughly sex and unfortunately they aren't given just the government distributed video about sex or books like we had when we be kids. It is on the internet and too who knows what they will find. She hasn't done anything wrong she is just curious. She doesn't realise how dangerous the internet can be or how sex is portrayed.
If it be me, i would make the computer safe so she cannot access anymore pornography, but i would not talk to her almost that specifically. Perhaps you could get her a book about sex (an educational book). Leave it within her room and say to her that you got her a book and that if she wants to ask you any question about what's in it, she can and if she doesn't that's fine too.
Don't punish her she hasn't actually done anything wrong she is basically a curious kid xx
Personally, I wouldn't say a thing. She's just curious! It's not approaching you can show your daughter what sex is, so she's going out on her own looking to find out. I think it's normal! I'm pretty sure a ton of girls and guys have done that at a really childish age. But the internet is powerful. I would just keep it in the fund of your head and let it go. Bring up the birds & bees when you're both organized.
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