Why are parents today so concerned roughly their child fondness them?
Just wondering.
So many parents today are so focused on having their kids like them, that they frequently do not provide the appropriate boundaries on the child, out of foreboding that the child will not like them.
How can people not realize that it is more important to prepare your child for energy in the real world, than to allow them to do what they want in the moment?
The result of this phenomenon is :
1)staggering childhood size rates (because they let the kids eat whatever they want surrounded by order to make them happy)
2) Lazy kids that don't fulfill their potential (because they don't want to push them to hard, out of dismay that the child might not like them )
3) A generation of non empathetic individuals that have never be told no, therefore they have no concept of the fact that other those matter.
What's with these types of parents?
It is possible for a parent and child to close to each other and still teach them about existence. Children do sometimes need to be told no for safety and finance reason, but some people take it too far and think they hold to say no to everything at some some poor attempt at asserting dominance.
I find that people often right to be heard this stuff to justify their authoritarian ways.
Great question. I am raising my child to respect me and my decisions. We may run head to head at times in the adjectives. She may not like me at times, and I'm ok with that. The other important factor is mutual respect. Parents don't go and get respect anymore, and the children aren't respected because they have no boundaries or tools to live in the real world.
I can't say for sure, but I regard as we'll find over this next generation and the one after them that this kind of parenting is going out of rage. This really pertains to the teenagers now, right? How the teens are acting and facing the world? My parents raised me to push towards my goals, that enthusiasm isn't fair (nor should it be). I am carrying on the same parenting for my own children (ages 7 and 3).
I think as my generation's children start to grow up a bit more, it's not going to give the impression of being so out of control as it seems right now (at least possible I hope not). Unfortunately, it's us, as parents, who have to take that stand and make sure our kids are raise "right" with a good grip on the world.
They can be friends and parents. Of course parents want their children to like them. My dad never cared in the order of me liking him. He just controlled me. And guess what. He's out of my life and I DON'T want him put money on in it. He never cared if I liked him or not and I don't. Parenting doesn't other prepare the kid for the real world. Most of the time it shelters them from it. I'm sure EVERY ONE has been told no earlier. The best thing to do really is compromise. Normally that avoids an argument.
Answers: I have no theory, I KNOW, that although I have boundaries for my children that they love me ( they do not always like me, but hey, that's alright ). I enjoy seen many times where a parent is doing doesn`t matter what it takes to get the child to keep "liking" them and trying to be the "cool/hip" parent that adjectives the neighborhood kids like only to have it backfire completely. Not solitary do these kids wind up not liking their parents but have lost complete respect for them as capably, using and abusing them. In the end, many of them don't even bother w/their parents when they grow up and verbs.
My personal thought, I think it may have to do w/desire to recapture their youth, if they can befriend their children and their friends, maybe, basically maybe, they could continue to act approaching a kid.
I dunno why parents are so concerned with their children "liking" them. My son simply turned 2 so there are a lot of days that he gets time outs and hear no all day. He gets batty and throws tantrums, but i realize if i dont set boundaries and make him understand that what he is doing is wrong, 10 years from now i will be surrounded by big trouble.
I learned from working in retail how awful it looks when you see some spoiled brat come through and their parents just do doesn`t matter what they want. They get what htey want, they act how they want and their parents just agree to it go. Ive heard a 9 year old screaming at his parents because htey bought him a playstation 3 and individual 1 additional game and he wanted another one. they in truth gave in!
It scares me some days when i see how kids today stroke, i cant imagine how they are going to be as teenagers. If only parents coiuld see what indugling their childs every want and need will come to an end up doing to their children maybe they would see that you are a parent first adn then a friend
Those kind of parents wouldn't agree with your results. You can head them to water but you can't make em drink.
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So many parents today are so focused on having their kids like them, that they frequently do not provide the appropriate boundaries on the child, out of foreboding that the child will not like them.
How can people not realize that it is more important to prepare your child for energy in the real world, than to allow them to do what they want in the moment?
The result of this phenomenon is :
1)staggering childhood size rates (because they let the kids eat whatever they want surrounded by order to make them happy)
2) Lazy kids that don't fulfill their potential (because they don't want to push them to hard, out of dismay that the child might not like them )
3) A generation of non empathetic individuals that have never be told no, therefore they have no concept of the fact that other those matter.
What's with these types of parents?
It is possible for a parent and child to close to each other and still teach them about existence. Children do sometimes need to be told no for safety and finance reason, but some people take it too far and think they hold to say no to everything at some some poor attempt at asserting dominance.
I find that people often right to be heard this stuff to justify their authoritarian ways.
Great question. I am raising my child to respect me and my decisions. We may run head to head at times in the adjectives. She may not like me at times, and I'm ok with that. The other important factor is mutual respect. Parents don't go and get respect anymore, and the children aren't respected because they have no boundaries or tools to live in the real world.
I can't say for sure, but I regard as we'll find over this next generation and the one after them that this kind of parenting is going out of rage. This really pertains to the teenagers now, right? How the teens are acting and facing the world? My parents raised me to push towards my goals, that enthusiasm isn't fair (nor should it be). I am carrying on the same parenting for my own children (ages 7 and 3).
I think as my generation's children start to grow up a bit more, it's not going to give the impression of being so out of control as it seems right now (at least possible I hope not). Unfortunately, it's us, as parents, who have to take that stand and make sure our kids are raise "right" with a good grip on the world.
They can be friends and parents. Of course parents want their children to like them. My dad never cared in the order of me liking him. He just controlled me. And guess what. He's out of my life and I DON'T want him put money on in it. He never cared if I liked him or not and I don't. Parenting doesn't other prepare the kid for the real world. Most of the time it shelters them from it. I'm sure EVERY ONE has been told no earlier. The best thing to do really is compromise. Normally that avoids an argument.
Answers: I have no theory, I KNOW, that although I have boundaries for my children that they love me ( they do not always like me, but hey, that's alright ). I enjoy seen many times where a parent is doing doesn`t matter what it takes to get the child to keep "liking" them and trying to be the "cool/hip" parent that adjectives the neighborhood kids like only to have it backfire completely. Not solitary do these kids wind up not liking their parents but have lost complete respect for them as capably, using and abusing them. In the end, many of them don't even bother w/their parents when they grow up and verbs.
My personal thought, I think it may have to do w/desire to recapture their youth, if they can befriend their children and their friends, maybe, basically maybe, they could continue to act approaching a kid.
I dunno why parents are so concerned with their children "liking" them. My son simply turned 2 so there are a lot of days that he gets time outs and hear no all day. He gets batty and throws tantrums, but i realize if i dont set boundaries and make him understand that what he is doing is wrong, 10 years from now i will be surrounded by big trouble.
I learned from working in retail how awful it looks when you see some spoiled brat come through and their parents just do doesn`t matter what they want. They get what htey want, they act how they want and their parents just agree to it go. Ive heard a 9 year old screaming at his parents because htey bought him a playstation 3 and individual 1 additional game and he wanted another one. they in truth gave in!
It scares me some days when i see how kids today stroke, i cant imagine how they are going to be as teenagers. If only parents coiuld see what indugling their childs every want and need will come to an end up doing to their children maybe they would see that you are a parent first adn then a friend
Those kind of parents wouldn't agree with your results. You can head them to water but you can't make em drink.
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