How can I put my child first lacking completely breaking down( it's features of long, sorry!)?
I'm a pregnant teen and i have chosen to keep my child, so after reading this please don't tell me to bring an abortion or give my baby up for adoption. I made a decision to own unprotected sex, i got pregnant as the consequence, and I am going to take responsibility for my child. Please don't underestimate my abilities merely because i am a teenager.
With that said here goes... I may not have profoundly of extra money but i do have enough to give my child the necessities if more. My child is my number one priority, above myself, and my entire life now revolves around giving him everything he needs. I am 15 years frail but i am graduating in September ( I am due in December), so i am going to finish arts school, and go to college to get my masters in speech pathology as soon as i quality our little family is stable enough, and i can afford it. The father left me a few weeks ago claiming i have no idea how having a baby will ruin his natural life and how he is not ready to be a dad (like I have no clue, right?)
That was tough enough, but i was also struggling with drug use since my pregnancy. All of my friends were into almost every drug imaginable so when I found out i was pregnant and sobered up i chose to stay away from that environment completely so that i wouldn't even be tempt. Therefore, i lost any friend i had, that i hadn't already lost because of me using in the first place.
A good friend of mine and I are immediately looking for an apartment and he has developed quite a thing for me. He would be a great hopeful for a lifetime partner and i would enjoy being with him, but i told him that i don't want to be surrounded by a relationship because right now I don't need to commit myself to anyone but my child. Well, as much as he respected that, he is now acting approaching an immature *ss because he feels he no longer has to prove that he is worthy of dating me. He is completely disrespectful to me presently and has been going out drinking every night since this happen. Now i'm unsure about living with him because i don't want that kind of a being around my baby. The only problem is that i can't afford an apartment without a roommate and he be the last responsible person, or so i thought, that i had gone as an option to live with.
I'm working 3 different jobs, I'm trying to graduate untimely, I sobered up cold turkey, I lost all of my friends, I lost my boyfriend, i have no help from my inherited, and I'm just getting overwhelmed by it all. I want to be a good mom, and I want to do what's best for my infant, but i'm getting so depressed. I've been trying to stay positive but things just keep getting worse and worse. Is at hand anything i can do to help myself stay positive, I know that me getting too stressed out is bad for the baby so how can i avoid that? Any similar stories that might be somewhat inspirational to me? Anything help?
You've already overcame an obstacle not several teens can-deciding that your child is number one and making good decisions that will affect them positively. Everything will work out in the fall and if its not worked out then its not the end! You will be great and just run it one day at a time!! Good luck!
What your toddler will need is stability, and NOT people coming in and out of their vivacity. Its a good thing you learned presently, that this friend wont stick by you, as you don't want them letting your child down someday either. Take pride in that you are doing your best, sometimes doing what's right, can be lonely.
Look into programs at colleges for single moms.Start googling - single mother college grants.
Answers: Aw sweetie.good for you for taking responsibility, and for getting off drugs! You are an amazing 15 year old...and I know this must be remarkably tough for you.
I think you should just try to look forward to all the right things that are to come. I am sure once your baby is here, your family will be on board. Everyone loves a newborn, and even if they don't love your decisions---they will not let you be on your own with nothing for your babe.
I am so sorry that your boyfriend left you in your time of need, karma will come around and endow with him what he deserves! And even thought you might be hurt from your boyfriend, I think you are smart for not wanting to get involved with the unusual boy. I think you should forget about this boy who wants you to move contained by with him. A relationship would just complicate the situation even more, and he sounds like he wouldn't be in position to handle the responsibility of helping you with the baby.
Just look toward the adjectives, and imagine your baby's smiling face! That will help you stay positive.
Good luck to you girl!! I know everything will work out for you!! Best wishes!!
I'm 19, I have a 6 month old, and my boyfriend simply left for Iraq. I'm staying with family right presently so they're helpful, but I try not to have them do too much. I really want help so I don't dance completely insane trying to do everything myself, but at the same time I don't want to depend on anyone else. I get really frustrated sometimes and feel trapped contained by this house since I can't just take off...I own to make sure someone will be around to watch him of course. Plus I miss my boyfriend very badly and worry about him...and it sucks that he has to miss so various firsts. I can't help you out much...but I just wanted you to know that you aren't the solitary one out there feeling overwhelmed. Lynz-ee@hotmail.com
Hi, I cogitate you are awesome to put your kid first and have goals!! Congratulations on your baby and for getting stale drugs.
Your male friend is no friend and would have been a lousy partner of any sort and lousy roomate also.
You involve a good place to make good friends and be around flawless and healthy people. Perhaps college may help that when you obtain to that point?
I don't have any great answers for you but just wanted to post here and show support because I have a sneaking suspicion that you are great and doing the right thing.
If you have a hobby or religious interest these groups may be good sources to find brand new friends. Volunteering for a charity or non profit you like might also be a good way to formulate new friends.
Sorta similar to yours but I was 22, have you tried looking into some government assistance, especially near housing?? It sometimes takes a blow to your pride to have to accept assistance similar to that, but the way I looked at it is that it was for my kids... on another note what a stong personage you are! If your guy friend/roomate cannot see that the child should always come first then you dont need him hun, he definitely is not ready to handle a relationship where children are involved... k put money on to the housing situation... if you graduate eary, were you planning on going straight to college? some college's have dorms that are family living spaces and you can enjoy children in there, there are also programs for childcare assistance. Along next to this since you have a child, you should get everything paid for at college through financial aid. I took me in the order of two years to get everything fully situated with my kids, it is stressful to have kids and be a single mom at any age, but I really commend you for what you are doing. do you own any family that can help you at all?? I didnt hold anyone helping till recently..it does take a toll on your nerves, but take any give support to you can get... ever need to just vent around something or just talk feel free to email me k :)
you are very become fully grown for your age, and i applaude you for your bravery. you have your babys best intrests in mind. you dont need drama and instability surrounded by your childs life. so its good you found out what kind of personage he really is now. keep on your path. graduate untimely, enroll in college. do the best you can to enrich your babys life and future. check out income base apartments. your gaurdian may need to sign something so you can stay on your own and they cant be liable. you could also go to your state health and human services department(i assume you are on medicaide, because of your age) try out foodstamps, they will assistance cover food, and ask about gov. housing. they provide nice homes, at a low low cost. 1,2, &3 bedroom. you dont need a roomate. you can make it lacking one. and if you cant, try to go for someone who would rarely be there. or someone you really trust. this will be frozen, but you already know that. from what i have read, you know where you are going in life span, and know what you need to give your child a good vivacity. if i were your family i would be so proud of you. screw your babys daddy. he isnt mature satisfactory to handle you, or your child. you would just end up raise him and your kid. you can do this on your own! dont get so down on yourself, you've got a little one you are going to be blessed near. i have been trying to conceive for 3 years. you are so lucky to be able to own children, and be a good parent, not a crackhead underage teen, who could give a crap less nearly the impact this baby is going to make on your life, within more than one way. you are doing such a good thing:) honourable luck, and have fun with the struggles. they make you the personage your child will look up to.
Okay, well I was in a VERY similar situation a short time ago a little over three years ago...
So I found out I was pregnant when I was 14. I be pretty much the last person you would have thought would obtain pregnant. I was a competitive gymnast, did well in institution, came from a good family, have tons of friends, but it happened to me quite simply because I thought it couldn't happen to me. I wasn't on the pill, and we did use condoms, which I'm sure you know aren't 100% potent, especially when being used by confused young teenagers.
I finally told my parents, and the were angry beyond belief. I come from a terribly, VERY conservative Roman Catholic family who essentially disowned me when they found out I was having sex previously marriage. So I moved in with my boyfriend and his parents for a while, but his parents kicked both of us out when we wouldn't agree to put the tot up for adoption.
Then, we found an appartment and moved in together. And I'm not going to lie, it was concrete. Working and going to school while pregnant and living on your own, well I'm sure you know how hard that is to say. Thankfully, we still had our stable relationship.
The summer before I was going into 10th level and my boyfriend had just graduated, our daughter, Ariana Olivia be born. He started working full time, and I went to a school for teen moms that offered daycare services, and worked part time.
That be honestly the most difficult time of my life. We barely had plenty money for food and bills, and I swear I got no more than three hours of sleep each night in the past starting another exhausting day. But we made it through because we had to.
The first two years were the hardest, but after that things started getting so much better. I in recent times graduated and plan on going to nursing school once our daughter is in kindergarten, and my boyfriend (soon to be husband!) in a minute has a steady job with a really really well-mannered salary. It's still not easy, but we make it work.
I know that within so many ways we beat the odds. We both finished highschool, are together within a relationship, are not poor, and did most of it on our own. Just remember, you can do it if you set your mind to it. And every time you feel like you're going to collapse from exhaustion, lately remember why you're doing this. Your child. That's all that matters.
God Bless,
Addison
Kudo's to Addison
Groove Child: you do not enjoy the emotional and other hep and support in form of a partner but i pray there is a style out for you. God bless you.
i don't have any good stories or anything but don't verbs.
God wouldn't have blessed you with a child had you not be able to handle it.
these little things are just obstacle that you have to get around, they will only variety you stronger.
feel free to email me if you need to talk to anyone
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With that said here goes... I may not have profoundly of extra money but i do have enough to give my child the necessities if more. My child is my number one priority, above myself, and my entire life now revolves around giving him everything he needs. I am 15 years frail but i am graduating in September ( I am due in December), so i am going to finish arts school, and go to college to get my masters in speech pathology as soon as i quality our little family is stable enough, and i can afford it. The father left me a few weeks ago claiming i have no idea how having a baby will ruin his natural life and how he is not ready to be a dad (like I have no clue, right?)
That was tough enough, but i was also struggling with drug use since my pregnancy. All of my friends were into almost every drug imaginable so when I found out i was pregnant and sobered up i chose to stay away from that environment completely so that i wouldn't even be tempt. Therefore, i lost any friend i had, that i hadn't already lost because of me using in the first place.
A good friend of mine and I are immediately looking for an apartment and he has developed quite a thing for me. He would be a great hopeful for a lifetime partner and i would enjoy being with him, but i told him that i don't want to be surrounded by a relationship because right now I don't need to commit myself to anyone but my child. Well, as much as he respected that, he is now acting approaching an immature *ss because he feels he no longer has to prove that he is worthy of dating me. He is completely disrespectful to me presently and has been going out drinking every night since this happen. Now i'm unsure about living with him because i don't want that kind of a being around my baby. The only problem is that i can't afford an apartment without a roommate and he be the last responsible person, or so i thought, that i had gone as an option to live with.
I'm working 3 different jobs, I'm trying to graduate untimely, I sobered up cold turkey, I lost all of my friends, I lost my boyfriend, i have no help from my inherited, and I'm just getting overwhelmed by it all. I want to be a good mom, and I want to do what's best for my infant, but i'm getting so depressed. I've been trying to stay positive but things just keep getting worse and worse. Is at hand anything i can do to help myself stay positive, I know that me getting too stressed out is bad for the baby so how can i avoid that? Any similar stories that might be somewhat inspirational to me? Anything help?
You've already overcame an obstacle not several teens can-deciding that your child is number one and making good decisions that will affect them positively. Everything will work out in the fall and if its not worked out then its not the end! You will be great and just run it one day at a time!! Good luck!
What your toddler will need is stability, and NOT people coming in and out of their vivacity. Its a good thing you learned presently, that this friend wont stick by you, as you don't want them letting your child down someday either. Take pride in that you are doing your best, sometimes doing what's right, can be lonely.
Look into programs at colleges for single moms.Start googling - single mother college grants.
Answers: Aw sweetie.good for you for taking responsibility, and for getting off drugs! You are an amazing 15 year old...and I know this must be remarkably tough for you.
I think you should just try to look forward to all the right things that are to come. I am sure once your baby is here, your family will be on board. Everyone loves a newborn, and even if they don't love your decisions---they will not let you be on your own with nothing for your babe.
I am so sorry that your boyfriend left you in your time of need, karma will come around and endow with him what he deserves! And even thought you might be hurt from your boyfriend, I think you are smart for not wanting to get involved with the unusual boy. I think you should forget about this boy who wants you to move contained by with him. A relationship would just complicate the situation even more, and he sounds like he wouldn't be in position to handle the responsibility of helping you with the baby.
Just look toward the adjectives, and imagine your baby's smiling face! That will help you stay positive.
Good luck to you girl!! I know everything will work out for you!! Best wishes!!
I'm 19, I have a 6 month old, and my boyfriend simply left for Iraq. I'm staying with family right presently so they're helpful, but I try not to have them do too much. I really want help so I don't dance completely insane trying to do everything myself, but at the same time I don't want to depend on anyone else. I get really frustrated sometimes and feel trapped contained by this house since I can't just take off...I own to make sure someone will be around to watch him of course. Plus I miss my boyfriend very badly and worry about him...and it sucks that he has to miss so various firsts. I can't help you out much...but I just wanted you to know that you aren't the solitary one out there feeling overwhelmed. Lynz-ee@hotmail.com
Hi, I cogitate you are awesome to put your kid first and have goals!! Congratulations on your baby and for getting stale drugs.
Your male friend is no friend and would have been a lousy partner of any sort and lousy roomate also.
You involve a good place to make good friends and be around flawless and healthy people. Perhaps college may help that when you obtain to that point?
I don't have any great answers for you but just wanted to post here and show support because I have a sneaking suspicion that you are great and doing the right thing.
If you have a hobby or religious interest these groups may be good sources to find brand new friends. Volunteering for a charity or non profit you like might also be a good way to formulate new friends.
Sorta similar to yours but I was 22, have you tried looking into some government assistance, especially near housing?? It sometimes takes a blow to your pride to have to accept assistance similar to that, but the way I looked at it is that it was for my kids... on another note what a stong personage you are! If your guy friend/roomate cannot see that the child should always come first then you dont need him hun, he definitely is not ready to handle a relationship where children are involved... k put money on to the housing situation... if you graduate eary, were you planning on going straight to college? some college's have dorms that are family living spaces and you can enjoy children in there, there are also programs for childcare assistance. Along next to this since you have a child, you should get everything paid for at college through financial aid. I took me in the order of two years to get everything fully situated with my kids, it is stressful to have kids and be a single mom at any age, but I really commend you for what you are doing. do you own any family that can help you at all?? I didnt hold anyone helping till recently..it does take a toll on your nerves, but take any give support to you can get... ever need to just vent around something or just talk feel free to email me k :)
you are very become fully grown for your age, and i applaude you for your bravery. you have your babys best intrests in mind. you dont need drama and instability surrounded by your childs life. so its good you found out what kind of personage he really is now. keep on your path. graduate untimely, enroll in college. do the best you can to enrich your babys life and future. check out income base apartments. your gaurdian may need to sign something so you can stay on your own and they cant be liable. you could also go to your state health and human services department(i assume you are on medicaide, because of your age) try out foodstamps, they will assistance cover food, and ask about gov. housing. they provide nice homes, at a low low cost. 1,2, &3 bedroom. you dont need a roomate. you can make it lacking one. and if you cant, try to go for someone who would rarely be there. or someone you really trust. this will be frozen, but you already know that. from what i have read, you know where you are going in life span, and know what you need to give your child a good vivacity. if i were your family i would be so proud of you. screw your babys daddy. he isnt mature satisfactory to handle you, or your child. you would just end up raise him and your kid. you can do this on your own! dont get so down on yourself, you've got a little one you are going to be blessed near. i have been trying to conceive for 3 years. you are so lucky to be able to own children, and be a good parent, not a crackhead underage teen, who could give a crap less nearly the impact this baby is going to make on your life, within more than one way. you are doing such a good thing:) honourable luck, and have fun with the struggles. they make you the personage your child will look up to.
Okay, well I was in a VERY similar situation a short time ago a little over three years ago...
So I found out I was pregnant when I was 14. I be pretty much the last person you would have thought would obtain pregnant. I was a competitive gymnast, did well in institution, came from a good family, have tons of friends, but it happened to me quite simply because I thought it couldn't happen to me. I wasn't on the pill, and we did use condoms, which I'm sure you know aren't 100% potent, especially when being used by confused young teenagers.
I finally told my parents, and the were angry beyond belief. I come from a terribly, VERY conservative Roman Catholic family who essentially disowned me when they found out I was having sex previously marriage. So I moved in with my boyfriend and his parents for a while, but his parents kicked both of us out when we wouldn't agree to put the tot up for adoption.
Then, we found an appartment and moved in together. And I'm not going to lie, it was concrete. Working and going to school while pregnant and living on your own, well I'm sure you know how hard that is to say. Thankfully, we still had our stable relationship.
The summer before I was going into 10th level and my boyfriend had just graduated, our daughter, Ariana Olivia be born. He started working full time, and I went to a school for teen moms that offered daycare services, and worked part time.
That be honestly the most difficult time of my life. We barely had plenty money for food and bills, and I swear I got no more than three hours of sleep each night in the past starting another exhausting day. But we made it through because we had to.
The first two years were the hardest, but after that things started getting so much better. I in recent times graduated and plan on going to nursing school once our daughter is in kindergarten, and my boyfriend (soon to be husband!) in a minute has a steady job with a really really well-mannered salary. It's still not easy, but we make it work.
I know that within so many ways we beat the odds. We both finished highschool, are together within a relationship, are not poor, and did most of it on our own. Just remember, you can do it if you set your mind to it. And every time you feel like you're going to collapse from exhaustion, lately remember why you're doing this. Your child. That's all that matters.
God Bless,
Addison
Kudo's to Addison
Groove Child: you do not enjoy the emotional and other hep and support in form of a partner but i pray there is a style out for you. God bless you.
i don't have any good stories or anything but don't verbs.
God wouldn't have blessed you with a child had you not be able to handle it.
these little things are just obstacle that you have to get around, they will only variety you stronger.
feel free to email me if you need to talk to anyone
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