How do I stop my 7 year infirm child from hitting me and his little brother?
I am almost 9 months pregnant and stressed to my limit. My 7 year old son hits his brother constantly, and every time I attempt to punish him he resorts to hitting or pushing me. He only exhibits this behavior when dad is not home. I enjoy tried every sort of punishment that I can think of, time outs, writing, taking away privileges, and I am not physically able to spank him because he is tremendously big for his age (almost as tall as me and 70lbs) It irritates me because he does not act like this for anyone except us at home. He spends every other weekend with his grandparents who refer to him as an angel, though I rarely see this side of him. I have tried to gossip to him and comfort him because I know that a new baby on the way can bring in him feel insecure, but nothing is working. Please help!!
try and scare him some how show him that your the boss not him.
Send him to his room and don't let him come out until he have learned his lesson. Don't let him watch t.v or play video games. Just maintain taking things away from him that he plays with eventually he will get the idea.
if he feels insecure maybe is because he is not feeling loved and does not know how to enlighten you that, maybe he feels that the only agency for you to notice him is by being bad, transmit him that you love him, and people have the capacity to love plentifully of people, as he loves his dad too.
good luck,
a child psychologist can help
Lock him surrounded by the bathroom for about 4 hours, or bounce him off the wall a couple of times.
Amongst all this ..where on earth is your old man? can't he deal with this little joggle? "wait till your father gets home" worked wonders for me.
I can't believe your kid hits you. I know they fight with each other, mine do. My oldest is almost 4 and hasn't done that on the other hand. Does your husband wrestle with him? Maybe that is what does it. My youngin started getting rough with his brother when my husband started wrestlilng beside him. Sorry I don't have much to help you with.
Answers: Sorry if this isnt the answer your looking for.. but it is majority boy behaviour. Trust me, I have three boys and the two elder boys do nothing but disagree each other and me all the time. The only time they behave is when their dad is home from work or when they move about to their grandmothers or uncle's house. They say oh they were perfect... oh such honest boys...
I would love to set up a camera and show them how perfect they really are. Have your hubby speak to your son and tell him it is NOT acceptable, especially to be hitting you when your so far pregnant.
Sorry to read out, but when the baby is born, watch your son. Have you ever thought that your son is jealous of the current baby coming? My eldest was. He hated that he have to share mummy and daddy.
1st he needs 2 work out that ur the boss and what u say goes
2nd u need 2 stick 2 the punishment no business how long it takes 4 him 2 get it
3rd he needs 2 no that hitting is a no no and that hitting mom is wrong and u have need of 2 stop him from hitting u b4 he thinks its ok.and whenever he hit u send him 2 his room(while he's n his room there is no playing or anything similar to that) or n time out and he can not come out until u call him and then he needs 2 voice sorry and dont do it again
hopefully this helps you Source(s): mother of 3.ages from 6-15
Maybe you CAN'T put him over your knees, but you CAN have him bend over or lie across his bed for a spanking. I would raise your concerns near your husband. Perhaps, he can have a serious talk with your son. Set up consequences within advance and let your son know what will happen if his behavior does not advance.
Well seem clear he feels 'free' to hit you because you somehow don't dish out enough CONSEQUENCE to make a difference within his behavior. Not meant as a criticism either - but perhaps DAD desires to step in here and make a different kind of attempt and summary on him. OR - alternatively, instead of punishment maybe he just needs more WORK, more chores, some positive reinforcement for some GOOD behavior & avoid even recognize the bad behavior to see first if that might curb the violent outbursts - which typically is a CRY for attention of some sort.
He seems a bit OLD to be intuition insecure about a baby coming. Is he busy, active, colonized to help him let OUT some of the aggression he is feeling? Maybe he desires some personnal interest opportunity - karate, soccer, swimming lessons, tennis, something just for HIM that gives him a physical OUTLET for his inner frustrations I'm thinking..
I would also see if you can silently video tape his behavior on a few occasions - partially for the SHOCK effect but also to SHOW HIM how he looks & act, and you can then show his Dad, his grandparents too so they SEE lst hand what you are dealing with and might proffer other suggestions or help.
He doesn't need comforting - he needs an outlet, positive imput to counter the distrustful he is feeling and some real consequences that MATTER to him as well.
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try and scare him some how show him that your the boss not him.
Send him to his room and don't let him come out until he have learned his lesson. Don't let him watch t.v or play video games. Just maintain taking things away from him that he plays with eventually he will get the idea.
if he feels insecure maybe is because he is not feeling loved and does not know how to enlighten you that, maybe he feels that the only agency for you to notice him is by being bad, transmit him that you love him, and people have the capacity to love plentifully of people, as he loves his dad too.
good luck,
a child psychologist can help
Lock him surrounded by the bathroom for about 4 hours, or bounce him off the wall a couple of times.
Amongst all this ..where on earth is your old man? can't he deal with this little joggle? "wait till your father gets home" worked wonders for me.
I can't believe your kid hits you. I know they fight with each other, mine do. My oldest is almost 4 and hasn't done that on the other hand. Does your husband wrestle with him? Maybe that is what does it. My youngin started getting rough with his brother when my husband started wrestlilng beside him. Sorry I don't have much to help you with.
Answers: Sorry if this isnt the answer your looking for.. but it is majority boy behaviour. Trust me, I have three boys and the two elder boys do nothing but disagree each other and me all the time. The only time they behave is when their dad is home from work or when they move about to their grandmothers or uncle's house. They say oh they were perfect... oh such honest boys...
I would love to set up a camera and show them how perfect they really are. Have your hubby speak to your son and tell him it is NOT acceptable, especially to be hitting you when your so far pregnant.
Sorry to read out, but when the baby is born, watch your son. Have you ever thought that your son is jealous of the current baby coming? My eldest was. He hated that he have to share mummy and daddy.
1st he needs 2 work out that ur the boss and what u say goes
2nd u need 2 stick 2 the punishment no business how long it takes 4 him 2 get it
3rd he needs 2 no that hitting is a no no and that hitting mom is wrong and u have need of 2 stop him from hitting u b4 he thinks its ok.and whenever he hit u send him 2 his room(while he's n his room there is no playing or anything similar to that) or n time out and he can not come out until u call him and then he needs 2 voice sorry and dont do it again
hopefully this helps you Source(s): mother of 3.ages from 6-15
Maybe you CAN'T put him over your knees, but you CAN have him bend over or lie across his bed for a spanking. I would raise your concerns near your husband. Perhaps, he can have a serious talk with your son. Set up consequences within advance and let your son know what will happen if his behavior does not advance.
Well seem clear he feels 'free' to hit you because you somehow don't dish out enough CONSEQUENCE to make a difference within his behavior. Not meant as a criticism either - but perhaps DAD desires to step in here and make a different kind of attempt and summary on him. OR - alternatively, instead of punishment maybe he just needs more WORK, more chores, some positive reinforcement for some GOOD behavior & avoid even recognize the bad behavior to see first if that might curb the violent outbursts - which typically is a CRY for attention of some sort.
He seems a bit OLD to be intuition insecure about a baby coming. Is he busy, active, colonized to help him let OUT some of the aggression he is feeling? Maybe he desires some personnal interest opportunity - karate, soccer, swimming lessons, tennis, something just for HIM that gives him a physical OUTLET for his inner frustrations I'm thinking..
I would also see if you can silently video tape his behavior on a few occasions - partially for the SHOCK effect but also to SHOW HIM how he looks & act, and you can then show his Dad, his grandparents too so they SEE lst hand what you are dealing with and might proffer other suggestions or help.
He doesn't need comforting - he needs an outlet, positive imput to counter the distrustful he is feeling and some real consequences that MATTER to him as well.
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