A sound out for stay at home mums?
im trying to make a huge decision with my time, do i stay at home or do i go back to work. i wont bore you with the reason i have for and against each decision, but i be wondering how you decided to stay at home.
what did you do before you had children? do you know what you will do when your children travel to school, and how many children do you have/intend to have? and how various years between children?
sorry if its a bit personal but your answers could help me make a decision :)
gratefulness xxx
I traveled with my husband before we have our kids. We have 3 girls, ages 9, 7, & 5. I've always known that I be going to stay at home with them, It wasn't an option & I wouldn't have it any other route. What will I do when they are all in school, I plan on working at the institution they attend. I want to be able to have the summers off so I can survey them & not leave them home alone. I want to be able to be home with them after academy too, or when they're sick. Working at their school is the best option.for me!
Schools always call for subs, volunteers, teacher aids, lunch room workers, library help & so on.
I decided to stay at home because my mum did and I loved having her around. My boys are 12 and 9 immediately and are confident, polite children, although that's more about parenting than being at home or not. I have just ever worked part time anyway, and now I am a teaching assistant, also element time, so I make sure I am at home nearly every day when they get within from school. That was a decision that be important to me.
I don't think I trusted anyone else to look after them as well as I could, and I enjoy been a tad over protective towards them.
I was definately certainly positively going hindmost to work - until I'd spent about a week at home with the baby! I didn't return for roughly speaking 12 years!
I stayed home for a while, then go back part-time. If was great have them sleeping through the night before going back to a work afternoon that didnt include my own naps. As for work, I like my work, and chose a flexible, pretty well paying corral. I like talking to adults. I really like and respect the supervision and socialization my kids get in daycare. I also like not one stressed about money, although Im still quite thrifty - and I do sneak off since work, without the kids and garage-sale.
i went back to work when my son was 18 months behind the times. at that point i decided it would be best for him to be around other kids and i was going crazy staying at home all time. i do not regret it at all. with this one tho i will have to progress back much sooner, and i am kinda sad about it (he will be in the region of 8 months old or so when i return)
I stayed at home with my first because we be in a financially secure position and I didnt want to be away from him.
Now I have my 3rd and next to the recession on i can't afford NOT to work, I'd love to be a SAHM but unfortunately its just not possible withb the current situation surrounded by the UK
Hi!
I worked full time until our first daughter was born. Then we decided that I would stay at home next to her. I love every minute of it! My daughter is now almost 2 1/2 and I am working part-time (one day a week) for my hubby. I purely enrolled her in a daycare twice a week to get some social interaction and to donate me some free time. I am currently 6 months pregnant- and hormonal lol.
We plan on 2 kids- MAYBE a 3rd, but we are not sure yet. I think when the kids start school, I will probably still work recreational job with my hubby, as well as carry involved with their school. I also currently teach JR High kids at my church on Wednesday night so I find things to do to keep my identity and have fun too!
well im a stay at home mother, i have two lil girls 23 months outdated and 5mos old . they are very close in age. so its thoroughly hard for me to go to work. i love spending all my time near them. if i went to work i would be lost.
do it
Good job there are no stay-at-home dads - otherwise, they might have feel somwhat marginalised by this.
Oh, wait...
I stayed at home for the first 14 months , I didn't wish at what point I'd go back to work but I knew it be definatly the right time for all of us.
I think I was a bit depressed at home, I don't live close to nearest and dearest or friends, couldn't afford the car without working and my hubby worked long hours.I felt vastly lonely and after getting the morning out of the way I'd be spending about 6 hours walking round town, parks , museums etc because I couldn't bare to be within the house anymore, I literally lost my mind. Plus my daughter was never a relaxed baby - she was constantly on the shift, hardly slept and would scream the house down as soon as I put her down.
Shes going to be 3yrs in October and I've taken on more hours, I very soon work mon,wed&fri 6am-4:30pm so 30 hrs a week, my job is challenging and pays well so I enjoy not only managed to afford the car I manage to get us a big family car and beside the extra money we take our daughetr lots of fun places and she gets lots of treats, we have meal together, can buy nice clothes and relax.
I remember not having any money except the child benefit and trying to make it stretch, having to choose the dog-eared fruits and veg because we couldn't afford full priced, now we have a packed fridge and cupboard so none of us turn without - and I pay for all of that so I consistency really good, plus I do a good job at work and most importantly we are adjectives happy as a family, I do over do it as a mum - I've never missed a first and I get to chat to her on the phone whilst I'm at work - and she have such a great time I know it does her good too.
Would I ever be a stay at home mum - No, my mum was a sahm to 4 kids and she's never been sunny, she wasted her life essentially - I would have a bit she'd gone to work and been a happy mum full of ambition and drive.
My sister is a "stay at home mum" but that is a pretty poor definition of it.
I think "full-time mum" is more accurate.
She does not stay surrounded by the house all day like one woman described.
She spends every working hour taking the children out. They get up early and go for a long hoof it with the dog then they clean the house and afterwards they go to all the local playgroups and then jump home and cook the evening meal and play together before it's bath and bed.
They travel to all the local activities that are going on - markets and festival and annual events.
She has done all of this stuff since he was a couple of month older and he is now three.
I know that everyone loves their children, but her little boy is amazing.
He is so well socialised and articulate. He can communicate so well and i'm not adage he is super intelligent, but he is head and shoulders above a lot of children his age when it comes to his ability to comprehend situations and environments.
He is starting nursery surrounded by September and my sister plans to take up part-time work so that she can still spend as much time possible with him.
They are close to best friends. They don't need to be with each other, they are smiling to spend time with other people but they just want to be next to each other.
She has one child and i don't think she have plans for anymore, but that might change when he goes to proper school.
Answers: My kids are 6 and almost 4, with number 3 due in November (will probably be last one). I am also a full time childminder (with 4 other kids) Luckily they will adjectives be at school until at least 12.30pm in September. I found that it worked best for me as I seize to be at home if my kids are sick, am able to do homework with them (which is not always a blessing lol) and for this reason I know how they are getting on at school. I get to see them as soon as they comehome from school, so if they are upset or annoyed, i am competent to talk things through with them, without a stranger recounting me later when I pick them up. (this doesnt mean that I have anything against anyone who does be in motion out to work - everyone is different).
They also both go to friends houses after school, so also get to enjoy a social life and I am able to return the favour, plus our house is other full of kids so there is always someone to play with. I also work 2 evening a week within a shop, just to get a bit of adult company and dance to mother and toddler groups or I would go completely insane. My house is rarely tidy, but thats the price you pay for have lots of kids about.
If you want to stay at home but you still need to earn a living, childminder is a great way to earn a few extra pounds plus be at home beside your kids - just make sure that you get out and in the order of with the kids :)
I stayed at home with my little girl after when she was 2 1/2 and my son was 8 months I had to travel to work b/c my husband lost his job.
I loved the freedom and not being cooped up in the house adjectives day but I missed so much in his life that a mother should be here for. My husband would tell my funny things that he did that day and I would want to cry when I should have required to laugh along with him.
Now we're expecting our 3rd and I will stay at home as long as I can I feel it's the most far-reaching thing for a mother.
Of course, I'm not going to neglect going to work if we need the income because later i would be a worse mother not doing everything I can to give them what they need.
I personally don't have an idea that you should if it's not neccissary but everyone has they're own oppinion and if you want to work then that's your choice- don't let anyone product you feel bad for workig.
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what did you do before you had children? do you know what you will do when your children travel to school, and how many children do you have/intend to have? and how various years between children?
sorry if its a bit personal but your answers could help me make a decision :)
gratefulness xxx
I traveled with my husband before we have our kids. We have 3 girls, ages 9, 7, & 5. I've always known that I be going to stay at home with them, It wasn't an option & I wouldn't have it any other route. What will I do when they are all in school, I plan on working at the institution they attend. I want to be able to have the summers off so I can survey them & not leave them home alone. I want to be able to be home with them after academy too, or when they're sick. Working at their school is the best option.for me!
Schools always call for subs, volunteers, teacher aids, lunch room workers, library help & so on.
I decided to stay at home because my mum did and I loved having her around. My boys are 12 and 9 immediately and are confident, polite children, although that's more about parenting than being at home or not. I have just ever worked part time anyway, and now I am a teaching assistant, also element time, so I make sure I am at home nearly every day when they get within from school. That was a decision that be important to me.
I don't think I trusted anyone else to look after them as well as I could, and I enjoy been a tad over protective towards them.
I was definately certainly positively going hindmost to work - until I'd spent about a week at home with the baby! I didn't return for roughly speaking 12 years!
I stayed home for a while, then go back part-time. If was great have them sleeping through the night before going back to a work afternoon that didnt include my own naps. As for work, I like my work, and chose a flexible, pretty well paying corral. I like talking to adults. I really like and respect the supervision and socialization my kids get in daycare. I also like not one stressed about money, although Im still quite thrifty - and I do sneak off since work, without the kids and garage-sale.
i went back to work when my son was 18 months behind the times. at that point i decided it would be best for him to be around other kids and i was going crazy staying at home all time. i do not regret it at all. with this one tho i will have to progress back much sooner, and i am kinda sad about it (he will be in the region of 8 months old or so when i return)
I stayed at home with my first because we be in a financially secure position and I didnt want to be away from him.
Now I have my 3rd and next to the recession on i can't afford NOT to work, I'd love to be a SAHM but unfortunately its just not possible withb the current situation surrounded by the UK
Hi!
I worked full time until our first daughter was born. Then we decided that I would stay at home next to her. I love every minute of it! My daughter is now almost 2 1/2 and I am working part-time (one day a week) for my hubby. I purely enrolled her in a daycare twice a week to get some social interaction and to donate me some free time. I am currently 6 months pregnant- and hormonal lol.
We plan on 2 kids- MAYBE a 3rd, but we are not sure yet. I think when the kids start school, I will probably still work recreational job with my hubby, as well as carry involved with their school. I also currently teach JR High kids at my church on Wednesday night so I find things to do to keep my identity and have fun too!
well im a stay at home mother, i have two lil girls 23 months outdated and 5mos old . they are very close in age. so its thoroughly hard for me to go to work. i love spending all my time near them. if i went to work i would be lost.
do it
Good job there are no stay-at-home dads - otherwise, they might have feel somwhat marginalised by this.
Oh, wait...
I stayed at home for the first 14 months , I didn't wish at what point I'd go back to work but I knew it be definatly the right time for all of us.
I think I was a bit depressed at home, I don't live close to nearest and dearest or friends, couldn't afford the car without working and my hubby worked long hours.I felt vastly lonely and after getting the morning out of the way I'd be spending about 6 hours walking round town, parks , museums etc because I couldn't bare to be within the house anymore, I literally lost my mind. Plus my daughter was never a relaxed baby - she was constantly on the shift, hardly slept and would scream the house down as soon as I put her down.
Shes going to be 3yrs in October and I've taken on more hours, I very soon work mon,wed&fri 6am-4:30pm so 30 hrs a week, my job is challenging and pays well so I enjoy not only managed to afford the car I manage to get us a big family car and beside the extra money we take our daughetr lots of fun places and she gets lots of treats, we have meal together, can buy nice clothes and relax.
I remember not having any money except the child benefit and trying to make it stretch, having to choose the dog-eared fruits and veg because we couldn't afford full priced, now we have a packed fridge and cupboard so none of us turn without - and I pay for all of that so I consistency really good, plus I do a good job at work and most importantly we are adjectives happy as a family, I do over do it as a mum - I've never missed a first and I get to chat to her on the phone whilst I'm at work - and she have such a great time I know it does her good too.
Would I ever be a stay at home mum - No, my mum was a sahm to 4 kids and she's never been sunny, she wasted her life essentially - I would have a bit she'd gone to work and been a happy mum full of ambition and drive.
My sister is a "stay at home mum" but that is a pretty poor definition of it.
I think "full-time mum" is more accurate.
She does not stay surrounded by the house all day like one woman described.
She spends every working hour taking the children out. They get up early and go for a long hoof it with the dog then they clean the house and afterwards they go to all the local playgroups and then jump home and cook the evening meal and play together before it's bath and bed.
They travel to all the local activities that are going on - markets and festival and annual events.
She has done all of this stuff since he was a couple of month older and he is now three.
I know that everyone loves their children, but her little boy is amazing.
He is so well socialised and articulate. He can communicate so well and i'm not adage he is super intelligent, but he is head and shoulders above a lot of children his age when it comes to his ability to comprehend situations and environments.
He is starting nursery surrounded by September and my sister plans to take up part-time work so that she can still spend as much time possible with him.
They are close to best friends. They don't need to be with each other, they are smiling to spend time with other people but they just want to be next to each other.
She has one child and i don't think she have plans for anymore, but that might change when he goes to proper school.
Answers: My kids are 6 and almost 4, with number 3 due in November (will probably be last one). I am also a full time childminder (with 4 other kids) Luckily they will adjectives be at school until at least 12.30pm in September. I found that it worked best for me as I seize to be at home if my kids are sick, am able to do homework with them (which is not always a blessing lol) and for this reason I know how they are getting on at school. I get to see them as soon as they comehome from school, so if they are upset or annoyed, i am competent to talk things through with them, without a stranger recounting me later when I pick them up. (this doesnt mean that I have anything against anyone who does be in motion out to work - everyone is different).
They also both go to friends houses after school, so also get to enjoy a social life and I am able to return the favour, plus our house is other full of kids so there is always someone to play with. I also work 2 evening a week within a shop, just to get a bit of adult company and dance to mother and toddler groups or I would go completely insane. My house is rarely tidy, but thats the price you pay for have lots of kids about.
If you want to stay at home but you still need to earn a living, childminder is a great way to earn a few extra pounds plus be at home beside your kids - just make sure that you get out and in the order of with the kids :)
I stayed at home with my little girl after when she was 2 1/2 and my son was 8 months I had to travel to work b/c my husband lost his job.
I loved the freedom and not being cooped up in the house adjectives day but I missed so much in his life that a mother should be here for. My husband would tell my funny things that he did that day and I would want to cry when I should have required to laugh along with him.
Now we're expecting our 3rd and I will stay at home as long as I can I feel it's the most far-reaching thing for a mother.
Of course, I'm not going to neglect going to work if we need the income because later i would be a worse mother not doing everything I can to give them what they need.
I personally don't have an idea that you should if it's not neccissary but everyone has they're own oppinion and if you want to work then that's your choice- don't let anyone product you feel bad for workig.
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