Was at hand ever a time when you wish you be still single and childless?
I have had a lot of those... But more married beside a kid than kidless.
My son had reflux, it was all on me to settlement with it at 2 am, he's JUST now sleeping almost through the night, plus he's breastfed and eat a LOT. On top of that I think I may have a thyroid problem now! It get rough, but then I get smiles and laughs the next morning or subsequent after that, and I cry because of how guilty I feel for getting upset with HIM when its not even his fault.
I love my son, and I would be devastated and turned asunder if I ever lost him. I would do anything for him . . . he is the love of my go. However, with all that poetry being said and done, if I be to go back in time, you bet I would enjoy kept my legs shut!
eta: I just want to add, that it's not the fact that I'm a mother that make me have those thoughts. It's the circumstances in which I became and am a mother that make me have those thoughts. It's the life that I have given to both my son and me that make me have those thoughts.
If I had gotten married and had my son to start a family with my husband, then no, I can't think having those thoughts.
Sorry, I know you said that it wasn't a personal question, but I couldn't resist digging just a short time bit deeper!
Yes, and it is fleeting and I criticize myself for thinking it!
Usually it's in the evening after a long day running around, hubby is off somewhere (army) and I'm audible range about my single friends great lives. Then I look at my sleeping babes and think wow this is the best!
Honestly, never. I have asked myself the press from time to time when I see my friends or others with children say things like this, how they'd close to to be single again, but the answer is always no. Nothing has really changed in my time except having this amazing daughter (and her daddy is pretty awesome, too). I still do the same things I did before, but immediately I think of her first. It has shaped me into a better, more responsible person. While I did savour being single, having lots of money to burn (sooo wasteful), traveled the world.it was a lonely existence. My daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me, within more ways than one. Life is so much better just knowing her. I wouldn't trade one second of it to go back, even when she's misbehaving, LOL. I still see my friends. I still progress out but now I take my daughter (I never partied so this doesn't affect me). I do everything I did formerly. My girlfriends and I still get together and have girls nights. I am the type of character who craves alone time, but I get that when I need it with no problems at adjectives. We have a wonderful relationship that is by no means supreme, but we understand each other's need to hold personal time. My life has improved dramatically. It is enrich with love, joy, and different types of happiness that I've never experienced in the past my daughter was born. I live for every moment I get to spend with her. We love her more than words can say aloud, and I'm in love with my family. I couldn't picture being single again. That's a sad and lonely thought.
all the time.
I have my moments when I will all the CRAZINESS could stop... sometimes I feel very overwhelmed. But later I have a wonderful coworker or two that remind me how wonderful these crazy years really are, and they wish they could have it hindmost. I try to stay focused on that.
As far as being single... my most unhappy (on the inside) years were the years I be single. I don't make a good single person.
So, Gothika, weren't you one of the excluded Mom's?
ADD: That's so funny. I was hoping you would have to answer a Na question seriously. Did you see Smile's Na answer? It be priceless... I was laughing so hard I had tears.
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. Source(s): Mom of 4 (3 girls ages 13, 11 & 9 and 1 boy age 6)...
Yep. It's strange to me that 99% of my friends are still single and childless (and we are all in our 30's). I sometimes miss being slice of of the single and childless group.going to see bands, art shows, road trips.
i have a sneaking suspicion that every parent has those thoughts. as fleeting and as guilty as you feel for having them, they're here. i was a big partier and drinker before i got pregnant. i have no worries, no bills, no problems. and now my life is full of worries, stresses and bills. i wouldn't change it if i could but i sometimes choice i could go back there lately for a while.
i have had the thought..of being better bad single...but never better off without my kids...i cant even imagine or remember my natural life without hving thm in my life.sorry idnt be going to to sound all sappy
in good health..kinda sorta. a good friend of mine told me about all these festival he's gone to and live bands he always sees and invited me to pocket a day trip with him in the practical future. but uuuuuuh I cant because I have a baby immediately lol. I used to go out all the time and attempted to a few months ago and it just WASNT duplicate. everyone there was a young college student getting plastered and adjectives I could think about was my son. I drove home shortly after and am positive I dont live that lifestyle anymore!
Everyone, male and female have these thoughts occasionally. It doesn't tight-fisted you don't love your spouse or your child, it only means at that particular moment you are overwhelmed. Or when things are going specially bad, you wonder to yourself, where would I be if I was single and didn't own to parent these tired, ugly, bratty children. Oh, yes, everyone has those thoughts - and there is nil wrong with you. We all have them, we merely don't act on them. those that do act on them usually end up divorced and lacking their children. We just square our shoulders and go on with the hours of daylight. Don't punish yourself for these thought - just think about what is cause them, try to make changes and go on beside the day. Good luck. You are normal. Source(s): Life experiences of a wife, mother, grandmother, friend, sister, person.
well i am single and childless and i can tell you that it is tons of fun. If you want to enjoy any fun as a parent i suggest you buy some weed.
Yes, everything would be simpler.
It usually happens when I do our grocery shopping... I be set to I could live on about 10% of what we pay on groceries now.
I love them, but they are expensive, and something exceptionally irritating.
Yes there have been times when I miss my younger childless, single days. Those are the times when I am feeling over whelmed . or when I see my childless friends pick up and go on a impulse and I can no longer do that. I do miss the traveling and road trips. I try to make up for it by taking my whole family places, and immediately that they are getting older it is a but easier to do so. But i would never give up my family or husband, I a short time ago had to learn to adjust :)
Better off without a husband..yes, i've had that thought
Never thought nearly not having kids.I've always loved being next to my children.
Though I love my kids and hubby, I think that thought maybe once a day. That doesn't trade name me a bad parent. And I certainly keep the emotion to myself.
There are times I think I would have liked to stay single forever and/or childless. But I thought those thoughts prior to have them. I am a mobile person that loves travel, adventure and spontaneity... three things you rarely enjoy with a family.
And when I do finally hang out next to my single/childless friends I see what I'm missing out on.nothing.
Getting drunk and playing cards is pointless. It gets you nowhere. And who needs the calories?
I a short time ago try to adjust my desires. Instead of wishing I were out partying I go for a hurry. And I end up feeling great because I've done something productive.
Never crossed my mind. My kids are my natural life and I can't imagine not having my angels (still angels ;-))) at 15, 10 and 7 weeks),
Only once but I had major PMS and I was even angry at the grass for growing.
single yes, childless no.
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