Appropriate punishment for 6 yearold caught messing near match?
My 6 year old son got caught playing with match. I came into the house and coulkd smeel that distinctive freshly lit match smell. I confronted him and he blamed his little brother who had be outside the whole time and is too short to climb up high enough to obtain them. I keep the matches up very soaring out of reach.
Initially he lied about the whole entry but then admitted that he struck one out ofd curiosity. I asked him where he have put it because it wasn't int he sink or garbage. He admitted he threw it behind the dryer. I found not 1 but 6 adjectives out matches on a pile of lint sitting next to a old sock.
I am so pissed. I did the screaming and grounding routine but immediately I need something more creative. Any ideas? I am so upset and disapointed in him. Hes have been through the safety lecture masses times both at home and in school. He knows better.
show or make a creative way to show him that fires are deadly and scary when there out blown . tell him to draw a forest near beautiful green trees animals and people . then you draw a forest that is adjectives hurt animals sick people. and tell him that when you start a fire it can harm and kill in cold blood things. then make a fake opening like you are crying so he thinks your crying cover your face and brand name a crying motion . and say it hurts people and makes nation sad then tell him going on for fire fighters and how they help and how that some might get killed or hurt if when they try to put aside people ! also tell him about fire safekeeping ! Source(s): my little brother-ME
Take him to the local fire station and have him do some chores there. He can sweep and verbs the sink, some age appropriate little jobs. If you talk to the guys at the station they might be willing to bequeath that a try. Explain to him that since he is making extra work for the fire fighters then he has to do some of their work.
EDIT: I would be scared that showing him fire might singular serve as an instructional session on how to make bigger flames. It is a thin line at this age.
Im sorry but your matches werent well enough covered. He has obviously seen someone put them in attendance or went looking for them. Maybe it was your mistake. I dont mean to nouns nasty.
No, punishment was just the word needed. Together, match and little boys usually add up to fire. The threat of a fire is too serious to treat lightly. Put your son over your lap and distribute him a good spanking. He needs to know that he is too young to be handling match - or lighters, for that matter.
Show his pics of house fires. Tell him what can happen. Let him see pics of minor burn victims, nothing that will scare him too much. Just something to produce him think. I think educating him is the best way to prevent it from taking place again
Do chores around the home. And I'd even try and find a fire safety class around town for him to go to. Maybe having a fireman convey him and show him what can happen when children play with matches or other flammable things,might startle him straight.
Answers: Children are essentially curious. This is a perfect opportunity to teach. Provide a safe and creative use where on earth the child gets to start and put out a fire - or several of them. Think of it as boy scout or girl scout training about the safe use of fire.
If he learn that fires are only started Outside, In a fire pit, with shovel and water handy to put it out, consequently he will have learned a great deal just about living.
Teach safe ways to start controlled fires and the importance of water and baking soda - or a fire extinguisher. Turn a 'bad' piece into a good thing.
It is better that your child feel comfortable unfolding you the truth. Reward him for finally telling the truth.
I would put a bunch of dryer lint in a big metal bucket, take it outside, and show him how fast a clash turns into a big fire.
Punishment might not accomplish anything.
Take him to the fire dept and have a fire man talk to him give or take a few it. Stick with the punishment you have already given and save the big punishment for if it happen again, chances are it will not. But I think a trip to the fire dept will help take the message across.
What about *showing him and teaching him* why he can't play near matches? Show him why they are dangerous. Lectures don't mean a in one piece lot to a 6 year old who needs to see things to read. Show him that matches catch things on fire and can incentive problems.
Take him outside and talk with him about how match make things burn down and how fire is hot and dangerous. Maybe find some safe passageway to show him what fire does. If you have a yard you could build a small fire with him, train him how to be safe with a back courtyard fire, and then show him how the fire destroys the firewood. Talk to him about how a fire could do the same entity to the house or to the tree or even to him if he isn't careful. If you can't build a fire, grab a kleenex and light the corner of it afire and let him see how fast it is destroyed. Teach him the same point you would have with the fire.
You could also arrange a time to take him down to the local fire department and hold a fireman talk to him about how fires are dangerous. The fireman could chitchat about how fire can destroy houses and hurt people, and share an age-appropriate story to demonstrate. They probably also hold pictures of homes that have been destroyed by fire that they could show him.
Really, punishments teach that it's not okay to play next to matches, but they never teach him why, and that's what's most important. He wishes to know it's serious, but until he can actually get why, it won't mean unbelievably much. I promise that a child who has seen a field of weed destroyed in 5 seconds by a fire, or a house that is adjectives charred and burnt down, or a piece of wood destroyed in a camp fire would *not* play near matches.
I dont dream up actually punishing him will do much good..at 6 it is still hard for kids to know why it is so discouraging to play with matches and cigarette lighters..perhaps you should find some pictures of houses that hold been burned down off the internet and show him, explain to him how that playing with things approaching this can cause serious fires and even burn people to death..build him too scared to do it again!
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Initially he lied about the whole entry but then admitted that he struck one out ofd curiosity. I asked him where he have put it because it wasn't int he sink or garbage. He admitted he threw it behind the dryer. I found not 1 but 6 adjectives out matches on a pile of lint sitting next to a old sock.
I am so pissed. I did the screaming and grounding routine but immediately I need something more creative. Any ideas? I am so upset and disapointed in him. Hes have been through the safety lecture masses times both at home and in school. He knows better.
show or make a creative way to show him that fires are deadly and scary when there out blown . tell him to draw a forest near beautiful green trees animals and people . then you draw a forest that is adjectives hurt animals sick people. and tell him that when you start a fire it can harm and kill in cold blood things. then make a fake opening like you are crying so he thinks your crying cover your face and brand name a crying motion . and say it hurts people and makes nation sad then tell him going on for fire fighters and how they help and how that some might get killed or hurt if when they try to put aside people ! also tell him about fire safekeeping ! Source(s): my little brother-ME
Take him to the local fire station and have him do some chores there. He can sweep and verbs the sink, some age appropriate little jobs. If you talk to the guys at the station they might be willing to bequeath that a try. Explain to him that since he is making extra work for the fire fighters then he has to do some of their work.
EDIT: I would be scared that showing him fire might singular serve as an instructional session on how to make bigger flames. It is a thin line at this age.
Im sorry but your matches werent well enough covered. He has obviously seen someone put them in attendance or went looking for them. Maybe it was your mistake. I dont mean to nouns nasty.
No, punishment was just the word needed. Together, match and little boys usually add up to fire. The threat of a fire is too serious to treat lightly. Put your son over your lap and distribute him a good spanking. He needs to know that he is too young to be handling match - or lighters, for that matter.
Show his pics of house fires. Tell him what can happen. Let him see pics of minor burn victims, nothing that will scare him too much. Just something to produce him think. I think educating him is the best way to prevent it from taking place again
Do chores around the home. And I'd even try and find a fire safety class around town for him to go to. Maybe having a fireman convey him and show him what can happen when children play with matches or other flammable things,might startle him straight.
Answers: Children are essentially curious. This is a perfect opportunity to teach. Provide a safe and creative use where on earth the child gets to start and put out a fire - or several of them. Think of it as boy scout or girl scout training about the safe use of fire.
If he learn that fires are only started Outside, In a fire pit, with shovel and water handy to put it out, consequently he will have learned a great deal just about living.
Teach safe ways to start controlled fires and the importance of water and baking soda - or a fire extinguisher. Turn a 'bad' piece into a good thing.
It is better that your child feel comfortable unfolding you the truth. Reward him for finally telling the truth.
I would put a bunch of dryer lint in a big metal bucket, take it outside, and show him how fast a clash turns into a big fire.
Punishment might not accomplish anything.
Take him to the fire dept and have a fire man talk to him give or take a few it. Stick with the punishment you have already given and save the big punishment for if it happen again, chances are it will not. But I think a trip to the fire dept will help take the message across.
What about *showing him and teaching him* why he can't play near matches? Show him why they are dangerous. Lectures don't mean a in one piece lot to a 6 year old who needs to see things to read. Show him that matches catch things on fire and can incentive problems.
Take him outside and talk with him about how match make things burn down and how fire is hot and dangerous. Maybe find some safe passageway to show him what fire does. If you have a yard you could build a small fire with him, train him how to be safe with a back courtyard fire, and then show him how the fire destroys the firewood. Talk to him about how a fire could do the same entity to the house or to the tree or even to him if he isn't careful. If you can't build a fire, grab a kleenex and light the corner of it afire and let him see how fast it is destroyed. Teach him the same point you would have with the fire.
You could also arrange a time to take him down to the local fire department and hold a fireman talk to him about how fires are dangerous. The fireman could chitchat about how fire can destroy houses and hurt people, and share an age-appropriate story to demonstrate. They probably also hold pictures of homes that have been destroyed by fire that they could show him.
Really, punishments teach that it's not okay to play next to matches, but they never teach him why, and that's what's most important. He wishes to know it's serious, but until he can actually get why, it won't mean unbelievably much. I promise that a child who has seen a field of weed destroyed in 5 seconds by a fire, or a house that is adjectives charred and burnt down, or a piece of wood destroyed in a camp fire would *not* play near matches.
I dont dream up actually punishing him will do much good..at 6 it is still hard for kids to know why it is so discouraging to play with matches and cigarette lighters..perhaps you should find some pictures of houses that hold been burned down off the internet and show him, explain to him how that playing with things approaching this can cause serious fires and even burn people to death..build him too scared to do it again!
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