Do you consider spanking rough up?
honestly, i don't. I think a swat on the bum is simple discipline and i don't know why people complain it's "abuse." It's not similar to you're giving them a black eye. what do you think?
It depends on how you spank your child. I personally think that spanking beside anything but a hand or spanking the child until there red or anything is wrong. But spanking your child once or twice with your appendage there is nothing wrong with it. Especially since yes time outs work and some other things do work but also sometimes kids wont swot up until it actually hurts them a little than they realize its wrong.
I think it depends upon how the spanking is administered and the intention behind it. If it is done firmly and does not leave the child writhing contained by pain, and one has the intention of instruction, then it is not foul language. If it is done violently, leaves the child in pain (ie, beside bruises, cuts, broken bones) and one has the intention of instilling terror in the child, next it is abuse.
A simple swat on the bum, like you say, is not name-calling. Some people can't tell the difference, though, and see any physical altercation between a child and an adult as "knock about."
Answers: I think that people who sign spanking as abuse have never ever known what mishandle is. There is a huge difference between the two and it is disgusting that one is even compared to the other.
Personally I find it hypocritical to tell my daughter that its not nice to hit someone and if she doesn't like something they are doing she should speak about them rather than to hit them but for me to then hit her when I don't like something she's doing.
I also don't believe that it teach a child anything. When Mehgan is naughty I explain why she's being punished and why what she's doing isn't right i.e. Mehgan it's not nice to bite people, it hurts and you wouldn't approaching people doing it to you would you? That way Mehgan understands not one and only that something is wrong but also why something is wrong. With spanking they don't get the why something is wrong but just that something is wrong and if they don't understand why something is wrong they are more promising to repeat that behaviour so you have to repeat your punishment. My daughter occasionally forgets that biting isn't nice but only once contained by a blue moon.
Also as a child that was spanked, I didn't behave because I knew what I was doing wrong, I behave because I was afraid of my parents and I never want my daughter to be afraid of me. I was punched, kicked, screamed at, the lot. I behave not because I knew something was wrong, because I was afraid of my mum. I do know what treat roughly is and I still believe that spanking is wrong, no matter how small the spank is.
I don't believe people when they say time outs don't work for their children, given time they do work. You can't only stop a punishment the moment the child gets up and walks off or they start crying, they're not supposed to close to their punishment that's the whole point of them and if you work with a reward chart as well, your child get positive re-enforcement when they behave and are more likely to behave for the re-enforcement from you.
I occasionally tap her hand if she's within danger, i.e. she's sat on the kitchen work surface with a vessel and a wooden spoon "playing the drums" whilst I'm cooking and she goes to put her hand near the hob. I slap her hand as a shock tactic to keep her hand away from the hob. I'd much fairly shock her like that than have her burn her hand on the hob.
I don't presume there is ever a need to raise a appendage to a child, it's assault if you raise a hand to an adult who can protect themselves, but apparently not to a adjectives child who can't protect themselves, in my eyes that's not right or acceptable. If you slap someone at work, you don't have to supply them a black eye for the police to call it assault and that person at work can defend themselves.
But apparently it is to some ethnic group and I can't call them bad parents for that, nor would I ever, I just don't find it right that it's okay contained by the eyes of the law to raise a hand to a child, it's a short time ago my opinion and I would never try to make someone feel similar to a bad parent because of it.
With regards to the law, I conjecture "reasonable force" is a load of rubbish, what is reasonable to one parent, isn't to another, at hand is too much room for interpretation in the UK laws and I think it requests to be more clearly defined. To one parent reasonable force is just a small tap on a clothed bum, to another parent likely force IS abuse i.e. punching etc.
It needs to be more clearly defined, not to outlaw smacking altogether as obviously it does work for some parents but to protect children better from TRUE physical abuse that they can't protect themselves from.
I agree that a swat on the bum is not wounding. A lot of people may disagree. Now that I'm a grandmother, I have to admit though that my spanking days are over. I go off that up to the parents!
No, I don't. I feel that it's silly to equate the two. I regard that a spanking should be given while the naughty boy or girl is positioned over the spanker's lap. It's safer for the one getting spanked and being put contained by this position signifies that a punishment is happening.
Yes, putting a hand on someone and physically hurting them is assault.
No, as long as it's a swat on the down and doesn't leave a mark it's fine. It's certainly not invective. I think that the stigma that spanking now carries is abundantly of the reason why some parents are afraid to discipline their children.
When you compare the discipline used by parents in the 30`s , 40`s , and 50`s , and the generation of law abiding citizens they produced ; versus the "political correctness" BS discipline specifically responsible for this present day generation of the "Wild Bunch" ; it is obvious to anyone next to a hint of common sense which form of discipline was the correct channel ! Source(s): Proverbs 22 : 6 ~ Train up a child in the way he should go : and when he is feeble , he will not depart from it .Proverbs 23 : 13 ~ Withhold not correction from the child : for if thou beatest him with the rod , he shall not die !.KJB
I think that if you do it beside extreme control and just hard enough for the child to surface it than no. But, if at any point it becomes excessive force than yes. There is a line between discipline and abuse.
THE SEXUAL DANGERS
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A mild form of it, it's still assault even if it did't hurt and some one did something to offend you, why's it different just because it's a child?
not at adjectives, a few smacks on the butt never killed anyone.
Any punishment given out of anger or frustration is abusive. Spanking steadily is not, even when it is harsh.
An open-hand swat or two across the buttocks is NOT abuse. Putting a sting on their can is discipline. Making it so they can't sit *at all* is not abuse any...it's Assault with Intent to do Bodily Harm...
When I was young, I be spanked, and do NOT begrudge a single spanking on my folks. In fact, I appreciate them all the more for it!
Good Luck!
No, Spare the rod, Spoil the child!
now if you are bruising your child than yes, but newly a spanking no way.
Well, you wouldn't get away beside hitting anyone else, would you? It wouldn't be tolerated if you were in work and just arranged to hit someone, so why should it be any different just because it's your child. It's even worse when it's a child, since they're smaller and can't defend themselves.
I think it's simply lazy parenting, and people do it because they either don't know how to use other methods of discipline, or they simply can't be bothered because it requires profusely more patience and hard work.
I do not think that spanking is name-calling. It just depend on what extent you take it to.
If you did it to an adult, it would count as abuse so why not for kids?
There are other ways to discipline children and some parents obtain a kick out of the assumed power gained from hitting/punching someone.
Not at all
No.
People who think it is obviously hold no idea what abuse is.
oh my god enough with the spanking question!
(not you just people on this generally)
i don't. it's discipline. but of course, it depends on how and why you're disciplining the child.
I definitely get the impression it's inappropriate. I look at it this way, if you do something wrong as an adult and someone "hits" you, that's considered assault and freestyle... We always tell our kids that it's not nice to hit and then turn right around and hit them. It sends mixed messages. It's not right to lay a mitt on a child out of anger or frustration. The only thing they should feel from a parents' hand is love and safety. There are better and more effective ways to discipline a child than spanking.
I do not, UNLESS it is done while the spanker is angry.
YES! FOR THE THREE MILLIONTH TIME YES!
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It depends on how you spank your child. I personally think that spanking beside anything but a hand or spanking the child until there red or anything is wrong. But spanking your child once or twice with your appendage there is nothing wrong with it. Especially since yes time outs work and some other things do work but also sometimes kids wont swot up until it actually hurts them a little than they realize its wrong.
I think it depends upon how the spanking is administered and the intention behind it. If it is done firmly and does not leave the child writhing contained by pain, and one has the intention of instruction, then it is not foul language. If it is done violently, leaves the child in pain (ie, beside bruises, cuts, broken bones) and one has the intention of instilling terror in the child, next it is abuse.
A simple swat on the bum, like you say, is not name-calling. Some people can't tell the difference, though, and see any physical altercation between a child and an adult as "knock about."
Answers: I think that people who sign spanking as abuse have never ever known what mishandle is. There is a huge difference between the two and it is disgusting that one is even compared to the other.
Personally I find it hypocritical to tell my daughter that its not nice to hit someone and if she doesn't like something they are doing she should speak about them rather than to hit them but for me to then hit her when I don't like something she's doing.
I also don't believe that it teach a child anything. When Mehgan is naughty I explain why she's being punished and why what she's doing isn't right i.e. Mehgan it's not nice to bite people, it hurts and you wouldn't approaching people doing it to you would you? That way Mehgan understands not one and only that something is wrong but also why something is wrong. With spanking they don't get the why something is wrong but just that something is wrong and if they don't understand why something is wrong they are more promising to repeat that behaviour so you have to repeat your punishment. My daughter occasionally forgets that biting isn't nice but only once contained by a blue moon.
Also as a child that was spanked, I didn't behave because I knew what I was doing wrong, I behave because I was afraid of my parents and I never want my daughter to be afraid of me. I was punched, kicked, screamed at, the lot. I behave not because I knew something was wrong, because I was afraid of my mum. I do know what treat roughly is and I still believe that spanking is wrong, no matter how small the spank is.
I don't believe people when they say time outs don't work for their children, given time they do work. You can't only stop a punishment the moment the child gets up and walks off or they start crying, they're not supposed to close to their punishment that's the whole point of them and if you work with a reward chart as well, your child get positive re-enforcement when they behave and are more likely to behave for the re-enforcement from you.
I occasionally tap her hand if she's within danger, i.e. she's sat on the kitchen work surface with a vessel and a wooden spoon "playing the drums" whilst I'm cooking and she goes to put her hand near the hob. I slap her hand as a shock tactic to keep her hand away from the hob. I'd much fairly shock her like that than have her burn her hand on the hob.
I don't presume there is ever a need to raise a appendage to a child, it's assault if you raise a hand to an adult who can protect themselves, but apparently not to a adjectives child who can't protect themselves, in my eyes that's not right or acceptable. If you slap someone at work, you don't have to supply them a black eye for the police to call it assault and that person at work can defend themselves.
But apparently it is to some ethnic group and I can't call them bad parents for that, nor would I ever, I just don't find it right that it's okay contained by the eyes of the law to raise a hand to a child, it's a short time ago my opinion and I would never try to make someone feel similar to a bad parent because of it.
With regards to the law, I conjecture "reasonable force" is a load of rubbish, what is reasonable to one parent, isn't to another, at hand is too much room for interpretation in the UK laws and I think it requests to be more clearly defined. To one parent reasonable force is just a small tap on a clothed bum, to another parent likely force IS abuse i.e. punching etc.
It needs to be more clearly defined, not to outlaw smacking altogether as obviously it does work for some parents but to protect children better from TRUE physical abuse that they can't protect themselves from.
I agree that a swat on the bum is not wounding. A lot of people may disagree. Now that I'm a grandmother, I have to admit though that my spanking days are over. I go off that up to the parents!
No, I don't. I feel that it's silly to equate the two. I regard that a spanking should be given while the naughty boy or girl is positioned over the spanker's lap. It's safer for the one getting spanked and being put contained by this position signifies that a punishment is happening.
Yes, putting a hand on someone and physically hurting them is assault.
No, as long as it's a swat on the down and doesn't leave a mark it's fine. It's certainly not invective. I think that the stigma that spanking now carries is abundantly of the reason why some parents are afraid to discipline their children.
When you compare the discipline used by parents in the 30`s , 40`s , and 50`s , and the generation of law abiding citizens they produced ; versus the "political correctness" BS discipline specifically responsible for this present day generation of the "Wild Bunch" ; it is obvious to anyone next to a hint of common sense which form of discipline was the correct channel ! Source(s): Proverbs 22 : 6 ~ Train up a child in the way he should go : and when he is feeble , he will not depart from it .Proverbs 23 : 13 ~ Withhold not correction from the child : for if thou beatest him with the rod , he shall not die !.KJB
I think that if you do it beside extreme control and just hard enough for the child to surface it than no. But, if at any point it becomes excessive force than yes. There is a line between discipline and abuse.
THE SEXUAL DANGERS
OF SPANKING CHILDREN
http://nospank.net/sexdngrs.htm
http://nospank.net/pt2007.htm
A mild form of it, it's still assault even if it did't hurt and some one did something to offend you, why's it different just because it's a child?
not at adjectives, a few smacks on the butt never killed anyone.
Any punishment given out of anger or frustration is abusive. Spanking steadily is not, even when it is harsh.
An open-hand swat or two across the buttocks is NOT abuse. Putting a sting on their can is discipline. Making it so they can't sit *at all* is not abuse any...it's Assault with Intent to do Bodily Harm...
When I was young, I be spanked, and do NOT begrudge a single spanking on my folks. In fact, I appreciate them all the more for it!
Good Luck!
No, Spare the rod, Spoil the child!
now if you are bruising your child than yes, but newly a spanking no way.
Well, you wouldn't get away beside hitting anyone else, would you? It wouldn't be tolerated if you were in work and just arranged to hit someone, so why should it be any different just because it's your child. It's even worse when it's a child, since they're smaller and can't defend themselves.
I think it's simply lazy parenting, and people do it because they either don't know how to use other methods of discipline, or they simply can't be bothered because it requires profusely more patience and hard work.
I do not think that spanking is name-calling. It just depend on what extent you take it to.
If you did it to an adult, it would count as abuse so why not for kids?
There are other ways to discipline children and some parents obtain a kick out of the assumed power gained from hitting/punching someone.
Not at all
No.
People who think it is obviously hold no idea what abuse is.
oh my god enough with the spanking question!
(not you just people on this generally)
i don't. it's discipline. but of course, it depends on how and why you're disciplining the child.
I definitely get the impression it's inappropriate. I look at it this way, if you do something wrong as an adult and someone "hits" you, that's considered assault and freestyle... We always tell our kids that it's not nice to hit and then turn right around and hit them. It sends mixed messages. It's not right to lay a mitt on a child out of anger or frustration. The only thing they should feel from a parents' hand is love and safety. There are better and more effective ways to discipline a child than spanking.
I do not, UNLESS it is done while the spanker is angry.
YES! FOR THE THREE MILLIONTH TIME YES!
Sasha: I want to marry you! Run away with me to the Casbah where we will raise hundreds of loving, ably behaved children!!
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