Would this be a even-handed assumption?
If I mention in passing that I don't go to restaurants much at the moment because my 18 month older is in a real tough patch and throws tantrums everywhere I go, would it be do to assume that I don't discipline him?
Reason being, I asked a question earlier today asking for thinking for things to do with my son over summer, and mentioned this point. I received an answer from someone who made no effort to answer my question, and instead suggested I tried disciplining him, and afterwards after I responded saying I did, she added on stating that the fact I a) ask on Yahoo for ideas for summer happenings, and b) allow my son's tantrums to dictate where I do and don't go, proves that I don't discipline him, and this she would know because she has two children.
For the journal, I DO discipline my son and I'm trying my best to get him out of this rough patch, but in the meanwhile (as obviously the situation is inoperable overnight) I choose not to go to quiet places to eat that aren't already full of kids because I don't wallow in bothering people who thought they were going to have a relaxing teatime out just to make a point of showing my son who's boss, when I can just as smoothly go somewhere child friendly and not have to worry in the region of upsetting other people. And also, I would personally like to progress somewhere where both my son and I can enjoy ourselves - which, tantrums aside, is another reason I don't repeatedly choose to sit in a quiet restaurant with him stuck surrounded by an uncomfortable wooden highchair not being able to build any noise or get down, when I could just as slickly get food elsewhere where I can let him hold a run about and he can babble happily away short me having to shush him due to annoyed glares!
Has anybody else been surrounded by a situation where their toddler/baby, when in a difficult patch, has intended that they wouldn't go to certain places? Or did that woman have a unbiased point? Am I a terrible parent with no concept of discipline just because I mould my enthusiasm to fit around my son?
I don't think you are a impossible parent at all. I think you got some doomed to failure advice from that person. When my kids were that age I only just took them to restaurants - not because they were bad kids - they just attain bored and would act up - it's normal. No kid at 18 months wants to be stuck within a high chair and be told to be quiet every 5 minutes - it's not fun for you or your child.
no you are not
I thank you for limiting the places you go with a tempremental 18 month older. At that age, they are unpredictable, uncontrollable, and unable to reason next to oftentimes. I would not assume you didn't discipline him if I saw you in public. I would empathize and be thankful my daughter is very soon 6.
People who judge other parents on grounds like these are often unfurnished souls who build themselves up by tearing others down. They are not better parents, I assure you.
Please don't let one those answer get you upset. No, you are not a bad parent. I remember when my children were small and my youngest be always terrible to take anywhere. It get to where I couldn't even take her grocery shopping. She was that bleak. People would tell me, "You're going to have trouble with that one. If she's that desperate now and you can't control her then watch out when she get to be a teenager. You'll have a handful." She turned out fine. She's 29, has two kids, a career at the city courts and is going to further her education in law. She and I find along just fine and she's a great human being. Your son will grow out of this stage and then as he get older you can show him new things to learn. God Bless. :)
If thats her opinion then every parent that have internet access MUST be the devil incarnate!
I look on all sorts of websites for fun ideas to do with my kids during the summer holidays, and other go for the cheaper option.
I wouldn't take my kids to a fancy/posh restaurant, nor would I bring them to places that didn't have a play area.
You can't expect to have a child contained by a restaurant and for them to behave, kids will always REACT out of boredom no matter what age they are.
taking them to places like Brewsters works for us if we want to put away out, there's a soft ball play area the kids can run wild within, which has a qualified supervisor (our local one has an ex-nursey teacher and is a fully trained first aider)
Parents can wallow in thier meal and have a quiet cup of wine or pint of beer and relax.
This woman had no right to say anything to you, I'm quite ready to bet that her own children acted up from time to time especially at 18 months.
Just Ignore her,theres always someone who thinks they are better than other people, or hold better kids than some people and do better jobs. she knows zilch of your personal situation, and considering your child is 1.5years, he's gonna push the boundaries, I'd be more worried if he wasn't throwing the odd temper tantrum
No, that's not fair to assume. Disciplining an 18 month old isnt exactly the easiest piece to do, considering that they're still learning and trying to comprehend, and understand new words... it's not even a business of him doing something wrong, it's a matter of him not knowing, and you still trying to teach him. He's still a baby. I would hold told that "mother" to screw off.
Answers: F**k what other people think!!
My dad put it all surrounded by perspective when my oldest boy was about 3. He was doing a show for his pre-school. The mentor and my (then) wife were reprimanding him on stage because he was hamming it up. My dad had a exceptionally annoyed look and I felt horrible and angry at my son. At the end my dad said "Oh, why dont they leave him alone!! Hes simply 3 years old and he stole the show!! If it werent for him the show would have been a dismal bore!"
I never cared what others thought after that (except my dad, of course)
I think that it is absolutely unnecessary the method people answer questions on her and i don't think it is right to assume that if a child doesn't work correctly its because their parents don't discipline them. I've seen plenty of kids who ave been disciplined beyond belief (i.e. spankings for nothing, person yelled at) and they act like little brats. So for somebody to assume that your child is not disciplined base on the fact that he's only 18 months old and doesn't close to to sit still for any period of time.
But molding your life to fit your sons every need it a bit to much because contained by the future that's gonna be hard to do. But as always its your child and your errand to raise him the way you deem fit and nobody should second guess that unless your in some mode abusing him.
PFFT, seriously ? My son is FOUR and I still find it awkward to bring him out to McDonald's, he can get so hyper. Kids are hyper, especially boys not matter how in good health you discipline them. I'm sorry but anyone who feels they can bring their young children to a fancyish restaurant is training their children to be robots.
Don't listen to that woman, you don't sound approaching a bad parent, you just sound resembling the parent of a child who's entering his 'terrible twos' a little early. Every kid have that stage of out-and-out misbehaviour when they're too young to be easily disciplined but old adequate to try and get their way. it happens.
And THANK YOU for one courteous to others and not bringing your child to places where he doesn't belong if you think he'll disrupt people! I come up with people like that are awesome parents.
I would read out its safe to assume that women's got her head up her.
Give me a break, your child is a year and a partly, children that young have short attention spans and don't like to be contained. My daughter is 2 and we can hardly go anywhere for long. Forget about sitting in a restaurant for an hour or so. It have nothing to do with discipline it has to do next to the age range. Small children can be loud, and impatient regardless of discipline
I go and answered your other question and I agree with her (not the way she said it). My toddler is going through the tantrum stage and we adjectives know they can be a handful. I don't go to restaurants during the busy lunch or dinner time frame but a toddler should be able to sit in a highchair for you to enjoy lunch.
As a teacher, you can tell who moulds their life around their child. This can be flawless or bad. Those usually are the kids that come to school and the parents and child expects me to mould the classroom around the child.
Toddlers aren't babies and are capable of erudition what acceptable behavior is.
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Reason being, I asked a question earlier today asking for thinking for things to do with my son over summer, and mentioned this point. I received an answer from someone who made no effort to answer my question, and instead suggested I tried disciplining him, and afterwards after I responded saying I did, she added on stating that the fact I a) ask on Yahoo for ideas for summer happenings, and b) allow my son's tantrums to dictate where I do and don't go, proves that I don't discipline him, and this she would know because she has two children.
For the journal, I DO discipline my son and I'm trying my best to get him out of this rough patch, but in the meanwhile (as obviously the situation is inoperable overnight) I choose not to go to quiet places to eat that aren't already full of kids because I don't wallow in bothering people who thought they were going to have a relaxing teatime out just to make a point of showing my son who's boss, when I can just as smoothly go somewhere child friendly and not have to worry in the region of upsetting other people. And also, I would personally like to progress somewhere where both my son and I can enjoy ourselves - which, tantrums aside, is another reason I don't repeatedly choose to sit in a quiet restaurant with him stuck surrounded by an uncomfortable wooden highchair not being able to build any noise or get down, when I could just as slickly get food elsewhere where I can let him hold a run about and he can babble happily away short me having to shush him due to annoyed glares!
Has anybody else been surrounded by a situation where their toddler/baby, when in a difficult patch, has intended that they wouldn't go to certain places? Or did that woman have a unbiased point? Am I a terrible parent with no concept of discipline just because I mould my enthusiasm to fit around my son?
I don't think you are a impossible parent at all. I think you got some doomed to failure advice from that person. When my kids were that age I only just took them to restaurants - not because they were bad kids - they just attain bored and would act up - it's normal. No kid at 18 months wants to be stuck within a high chair and be told to be quiet every 5 minutes - it's not fun for you or your child.
no you are not
I thank you for limiting the places you go with a tempremental 18 month older. At that age, they are unpredictable, uncontrollable, and unable to reason next to oftentimes. I would not assume you didn't discipline him if I saw you in public. I would empathize and be thankful my daughter is very soon 6.
People who judge other parents on grounds like these are often unfurnished souls who build themselves up by tearing others down. They are not better parents, I assure you.
Please don't let one those answer get you upset. No, you are not a bad parent. I remember when my children were small and my youngest be always terrible to take anywhere. It get to where I couldn't even take her grocery shopping. She was that bleak. People would tell me, "You're going to have trouble with that one. If she's that desperate now and you can't control her then watch out when she get to be a teenager. You'll have a handful." She turned out fine. She's 29, has two kids, a career at the city courts and is going to further her education in law. She and I find along just fine and she's a great human being. Your son will grow out of this stage and then as he get older you can show him new things to learn. God Bless. :)
If thats her opinion then every parent that have internet access MUST be the devil incarnate!
I look on all sorts of websites for fun ideas to do with my kids during the summer holidays, and other go for the cheaper option.
I wouldn't take my kids to a fancy/posh restaurant, nor would I bring them to places that didn't have a play area.
You can't expect to have a child contained by a restaurant and for them to behave, kids will always REACT out of boredom no matter what age they are.
taking them to places like Brewsters works for us if we want to put away out, there's a soft ball play area the kids can run wild within, which has a qualified supervisor (our local one has an ex-nursey teacher and is a fully trained first aider)
Parents can wallow in thier meal and have a quiet cup of wine or pint of beer and relax.
This woman had no right to say anything to you, I'm quite ready to bet that her own children acted up from time to time especially at 18 months.
Just Ignore her,theres always someone who thinks they are better than other people, or hold better kids than some people and do better jobs. she knows zilch of your personal situation, and considering your child is 1.5years, he's gonna push the boundaries, I'd be more worried if he wasn't throwing the odd temper tantrum
No, that's not fair to assume. Disciplining an 18 month old isnt exactly the easiest piece to do, considering that they're still learning and trying to comprehend, and understand new words... it's not even a business of him doing something wrong, it's a matter of him not knowing, and you still trying to teach him. He's still a baby. I would hold told that "mother" to screw off.
Answers: F**k what other people think!!
My dad put it all surrounded by perspective when my oldest boy was about 3. He was doing a show for his pre-school. The mentor and my (then) wife were reprimanding him on stage because he was hamming it up. My dad had a exceptionally annoyed look and I felt horrible and angry at my son. At the end my dad said "Oh, why dont they leave him alone!! Hes simply 3 years old and he stole the show!! If it werent for him the show would have been a dismal bore!"
I never cared what others thought after that (except my dad, of course)
I think that it is absolutely unnecessary the method people answer questions on her and i don't think it is right to assume that if a child doesn't work correctly its because their parents don't discipline them. I've seen plenty of kids who ave been disciplined beyond belief (i.e. spankings for nothing, person yelled at) and they act like little brats. So for somebody to assume that your child is not disciplined base on the fact that he's only 18 months old and doesn't close to to sit still for any period of time.
But molding your life to fit your sons every need it a bit to much because contained by the future that's gonna be hard to do. But as always its your child and your errand to raise him the way you deem fit and nobody should second guess that unless your in some mode abusing him.
PFFT, seriously ? My son is FOUR and I still find it awkward to bring him out to McDonald's, he can get so hyper. Kids are hyper, especially boys not matter how in good health you discipline them. I'm sorry but anyone who feels they can bring their young children to a fancyish restaurant is training their children to be robots.
Don't listen to that woman, you don't sound approaching a bad parent, you just sound resembling the parent of a child who's entering his 'terrible twos' a little early. Every kid have that stage of out-and-out misbehaviour when they're too young to be easily disciplined but old adequate to try and get their way. it happens.
And THANK YOU for one courteous to others and not bringing your child to places where he doesn't belong if you think he'll disrupt people! I come up with people like that are awesome parents.
I would read out its safe to assume that women's got her head up her.
Give me a break, your child is a year and a partly, children that young have short attention spans and don't like to be contained. My daughter is 2 and we can hardly go anywhere for long. Forget about sitting in a restaurant for an hour or so. It have nothing to do with discipline it has to do next to the age range. Small children can be loud, and impatient regardless of discipline
I go and answered your other question and I agree with her (not the way she said it). My toddler is going through the tantrum stage and we adjectives know they can be a handful. I don't go to restaurants during the busy lunch or dinner time frame but a toddler should be able to sit in a highchair for you to enjoy lunch.
As a teacher, you can tell who moulds their life around their child. This can be flawless or bad. Those usually are the kids that come to school and the parents and child expects me to mould the classroom around the child.
Toddlers aren't babies and are capable of erudition what acceptable behavior is.
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