I basically found out I get a 12 year feeble son I have need of some direction?
I agree with Catty Girl, Emily has some explaining to do.
Take a philosophical breath and just go with the flow. He's 12, he wishes guidance, but not a baby sitter.
Start off with things that are interesting to him. Talk just about what he likes and dislikes. You will get to know who he is this way, and what you hold in common.
Go slow and let him front, Although this is not the same as an adoption, it has many similarities to an adoption reunion. Each one is different, and yes it can be done.
If he be a new born you wouldn't have had any more skills later either, parenting is a learned behavior based on instincts.
I'm terrifically happy that you were given the opportunity to meet your son. I'm sorry it took so long, I own a ten year long relationship with my daughter that I would have settled for ten minutes with, but that's a different story.
Good Luck, and filch pictures.
don't treat him like a kid. . .treat him like an adult. seriously, once kids take past the age of 10, you need to cut the crap. they understand things, more than most adults close to to think.
just be assertive, and try to be nice and fun. maybe ask him what he'd close to to do. . .ask him about his life. what's he been doing adjectives these years? how's his mom? what sports does he play? things like that. then maybe narrate him about yourself. what work do you do? what sports did you play growing up? how's your home life? things like that.
i hope i help. this is all i can think of.
oh, and if would probably help if you reconnected next to his mother. not sexually, but just as friends or acquaintances of some sort.
Congratulations. It doesn't matter if you have 0 skills with kids. He is not really that young-looking and he is your son. Your parental skills will kick in when you meet him.
Wow - this is so cool. It will adjectives work out!!
If you have a stable job and could support him financially it wouldn't be that much of a problem...
another problem when it comes to this kind of situation is time.. do you own time for him/ that's the biggest investment to your own child... play with him, be his teacher and best friend...
If you have a girlfriend, be honest beside her about this... It would be hard to find a girl who is okay with someone who already have a son, but you will find one eventually... If your GF doesnt like your son, this will be pretty complicated and a would be pain in the ***... If you enjoy to choose, choose your son (thats your blood) and find another girl...
also maintain a good relationship with the mother of your child and sooner don't f*** her again...
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