Would you be accepting?
Brayden got invited to a child from day cares birthday gala. I've actually had a few conversations with the mother of the child, and she's a sweet female, but older, (mid 30's) and I'm pretty sure that's how all the mothers at the birthday party are going to be. I don't want to look silly, anyone only 16. I'm not embarrassed of my age, I just don't want to put myself surrounded by an awkward situation, and I'm kind of nervous. To add to that, I don't even look 16, I could verbs off 14, tops.
If you were at a birthday party, and a "teen mother" come with their child, would you question it? Would you try and make conversation?
Ugh, probably I'm really paranoid. =/
Well i suggest you are justified in being a bit easily upset...but remember they are moms..just like you. More then credible the conversation will revolve around the kids and since you are a mom of one of those kids no big deal there. You are ALWAYS going to be the youngest parent at any of your kids functions...mide as well dive into it in a minute.
They might be a bit standoffish at first...but be confident and go! you never know, you might meet some women that you really connect with. Not adjectives of us in our 30's are old fuddy duddies:) Some of them might turn up their nose...but some might really connect...you never know if I don`t know some of the other moms might have a similar story. Good luck and just be confident!
Just go. I'll be frank there will be relations there that will judge you, that's their problem, you don't have to shy away from things that other mothers do newly because you are half their age. If a teen mother came along to something like that I would have an idea that, so there's a teen mum that has embraced motherhood, great. I hold two friends that were teen mums 14 years ago and they were not typical teen mums, they struggled and they faced prejudice but they also showed empire that their judgments were not correct. You have as much right to walk along as anyone else and I think that's what you should do.
i was just 18 when i got pregnant with my oldest so i would be understanding and would not believe to be you at all. also all of the mothers at my son's school are within their 30's and i just turned 24 and i always feel babyish when around them but i still go so that my kids can have fun. give it a shot i'm sure you'll soak up yourself
go!! your son will own a great time and so can you. obviously the other mother knows you are young and invited you anyway. it isn't something like your age, your just another mom. I am sure there will be all kind of mom's there (just like at the daycare..) married moms, older moms, single moms. adjectives there so their child can have a great time.
go, delight in some cake, get some cute pictures and watch your little boy have a globe!!
I'm 38 and I personally would not judge you base on your age. You can be 16 and be a great mother. There could be a 35 yr old mom there who sucks at being a mother. I would run and just be yourself. Chances are people there will see what a great mother you are will hold respect and admiration for how you are so young and take devout care of your child.
To me I would rather go and show that than avoid the situation and give up your job it up to them to wonder why I didn't come. If they judge you based on your age then they aren't the humane of friends you want anyway.
im 18. i would run. if they had a problem with it then its their heartache, not mine. i am not ashamed that im 18. im proud of myself for growing up and human being a great mom. just be yourself and they will see through your age and see that you are a great mom. if they dont then its their problem and they will be the ones that look bad. devout luck!
Once you become a parent, everyone becomes the same age.
Do not be embarrassed. If you permit your insecurities get in the way of socializing you and Brayden will miss out on so much. Who care what these older mothers think (I doubt they will say anything). Chances are you are a better mother than partially of them. Age does not have anything to do with it.
They will all be jealous of how youthful you are. Go and wallow in yourself.
I'd talk to a teen mom at a birthday party. I don't care how antiquated someone is.
Your going to run into this thing quite a bit, You may find that some do judge but you also may find some friends too. Keep trying to return with involved with the other mothers in these situations and you may find access to a world of support and knowledge that you never know existed.
I would try to make conversation and be accepting. I dont think any of MY friends with kids at or in the order of the same age as my kids would be ostracizing to a young mother any.
stir and let the kid have fun. they shouldnt be questioning your age if you hold proved to be a good mother by taking him to daycare and birthday parties. dont be ashamed, youre not the only 16 year dated mother. =)
Im only 23 with 6 year old twins.
& belive me,I've be in your position before!
I would go to the birthday gala to be polite,& I'd say "Hello"
to all the moms & usually they would be okay with me mortal
young.But I've also been in the situation where on earth some moms
werent okay with it.& If they are going to act like that consequently you
dont HAVE to talk to them.I'd just sit somewhere seprate from
them.
Mabey you could call ahead of time & ask if you could bring a
friend along?I've done this since & its a real life-saver!I just told
them she was an hoary friend visiting & that I shouldent leave her
alone at the house.
Good Luck!
i'm 16 and i have a 2 1/2 year old and no the mothers off the other kids are really excepting and will oblige you out and stuff
look hunney i would go if she didn't want you there she would not of invited you im 18 with a 4 yr older and a 2 yr old ppl think im 16 they might ask you like why or something any answer it honestly or just straight up tell them i dont wanna talk just about it and you never know they might have skeletons hidden in in attendance closets it would be nice they might be able to help you or you never know you might be able to assist them it would be fun so goand have fu n just prove to them that even tought your young your still a wounderfull mother trademark sure they know that your not that type of teenage mother that goes out and partys your the type that takes prudence of your resposibilities
You should go!! Let your kid have fun... besides, you're all mothers next to children of the same age- that should give you plenty to talk nearly!
I know what you mean, im 22 with a one year old and adjectives the other mothers i know are a bit older and i also don't look my age. But i think if the mother invited you, she genuinely wishes you to be there. Plus im sure half the conversations are going to be about the kids so you will be fine. But you might hold to deal with the awkward questions some lose lip mother might blurt out. Good Luck!
you should go.
no one's going to look at your approaching a 'teen' unless you act like one!
good luck and god bless!
oh dear. you messed up. you should not have had a newborn so young. thats just stupid. i am not trying to be mean, but did anyone ever relate you that is is not normal to procreate so young?
I'm 31. I wouldn't question it. You might spawn some new friends and new contacts. Experienced older mothers could really own some good advice for you if you ever needed any. I would try to make conversation beside you. The women wouldn't have invited you if she didn't want you there. It's a party for the kids. If within are some catty Bit^hes there then you will know who to watch out for and you can start out. And I have some friends my age with kids that are 17 and 18 meaning they be once teen moms themselves. I say go and let your little boy own fun. Perhaps you are a little paranoid but I would be too. Meeting new moms can be nerve wracking no issue if your 16 or 50.
Previous answers are apposite so I will just add that i also think this female is extending a hand at offering a support group to you & Brayden.
Instead of judging, I think she realize that being a mother, at any age, is a rough job & she would like you to enjoy access to older mothers to hear that some are as inexperienced as you (despite age) and others are more experienced & can give you parenting tips.
I, too, was the babyish mother of parenting crowds. It's great to start developing a support system. This is done through socialization between you & child with others.
Yes, there will be those who question your teen parentage, but for me, I found it be out of concern to make sure I had a mature look on natural life and how to raise kids & if not, then they required to help me in the rough patches.
It's adjectives good. Go have fun. Build some bridges. Let Brayden learn some socializing.
I'm older than you (21) but I do look very young for my age, and my son is 19 months out-of-date and looks old for his age lol (he's nearly half my height! Though I am short...). I haven't be to anything like that, but I've been to various groups and things where on earth the mothers have been mostly in their 30s and I've have mostly good experiences. People tend to turn a blind eye to the fact that I'm younger, and I've even met a few older mums beside a toddler who've actually told me that they have a preteen or teen back at home who they have when they were very young.
I know there's a step between your age and mine, and you're perhaps more likely to be judged than I would, but I still articulate give it a go. It would be great to make some friends for your son and you might even find yourself befriend some of the older mums. I imagine there will be plenty of those there in their 20s too - if she has invited you after she's obviously not too bothered about age, and it's pretty common for relatives to be having kids in their 20s. My best friend is nearly a decade older than me and we seize on like a house on fire and don't notice the age aperture at all. As a young mum you're always going to take situations like this, whether it's now or when he's at school, and sooner or next you'll have to bite the bullet and go to these things, so it may as well be sooner! Plus, I would other go with the theory that if she is a nice woman, she is potential to pick nice friends, who are hopefully as understanding as she is! And if worst comes to the worst, and you do have a bad experience, in attendance is nothing stopping you from leaving early, but I'm sure it wouldn't come to that. I right to be heard put on your mumsiest outfit and give it a try, you may find that you have a great afternoon, and I'm sure your son will have a fab time!
DGAFAY = Dont give a **** about you? Was I right? LOL! I thought Id take a guess.
Anyways yes I would shift. Age doesnt define how good of a mother you are. I think your in recent times being paranoid but then some of the mothers may actually be the approach you mentioned. Id go, you and Bray have fun.
- jeωellчssα's мαмα *;
Hun, If I be u, I would go... I am sure they will be really helpful and they might actually backing u out with stuff! I would be proud to be a mother... I would not question u if I were at the jamboree... I would deffinately make a conversation with u... I look up to u for raising a child at 16... I love that! Keep doing what ur doing and step to the party... I also know how u feel... My mom was pregnant near my oldest sister at age 15... My oldest sister is now 35... Then my mom had my second oldest sister at age 17... She is now 33... My oldest sister have her first child at age 16... My other sister also had her first child at age 16! I am sure they will be excepting... I mean they did invite u right? If they didnt want u, dont u think u would be sitting home and not own been invited? U might as well go and unite them now cuz u will have to meet them sooner or next! I am sure u will do fine! If they dont like it, then they can just crawl lower than a rock and hide... Good luck!
hope this helps...
BTW... Brayden is soooooooooo cute!! Go have fun near Brayden! Source(s): My mom and sisters...
i wouldnt judge a young mom as long as shes a good mom and even after i would be kind..its not my kid/life...my mom always taught me to be genus and to say nothing if i have nought nice to say to say.
in other words i would treat u as if i would treat anyone else.
Age is just a number, and your a mother simply like all of them. Dont deprive your son from having a great time because your insecure. Having a child isnt somthing you should be ashamed of, i know where on earth your comming from because im 18 and i just had my son and i know how it feels to see other parents look down to you. But dont agree to it get you down, who knows...maybe at hand will be another teen mom there.
I would go if I were you. If they authority, they judge, you're there so Brayden can have fun right?
You're adjectives mothers so you should try and make conversation with the other mums. If they're snooty to you then freshly hang out with Brayden and leave as soon as you can.
But at tiniest give it a shot, you never know, the other women could be sweet like the mother you know.
i be 18 when i got invited to my first birthday party with my 8 month antiquated son.
the mother who invited me was in her late 30s, i be very surprised of this because she treated me no different to any of the "normal aged" mothers who also were invited.
Being a mother change everything in life. Your age has no impact on weather you can do the things an elder mother can. Sometimes being a younger mother has it's advantages, for example: being competent to grow up with your children, being more energetic to play for longer and more intensely, when your child is adjectives grown up and ready to leave home, you will still be young and competent to have a life other than children.
These other mums will probably focus of you as a great woman, you are strong enough to go through with such a easier said than done job, doing it by yourself, your an inspiration to other young mums, who are in your position, how copious mums do you see getting pregnant at such a young age adn still wanting to continue with studies? That's fantastic.
I hope i've be of some assistance, but i think your doing a great job, there is no involve for people to judge and if they do, they're the ones with the small minds, not you!
Francine xx Source(s): be in your possition,
Answers: I would go, the mother would not have invited you in the first place if she didnt want you to be in attendance. Since she has talked to you then she know how old you are, I say go and own fun. Dont deprive Brayden because you are insecure, I would not blink if I saw a teen mother at a birthday party with her child, but then thats purely me, lol. Go, have fun.
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If you were at a birthday party, and a "teen mother" come with their child, would you question it? Would you try and make conversation?
Ugh, probably I'm really paranoid. =/
Well i suggest you are justified in being a bit easily upset...but remember they are moms..just like you. More then credible the conversation will revolve around the kids and since you are a mom of one of those kids no big deal there. You are ALWAYS going to be the youngest parent at any of your kids functions...mide as well dive into it in a minute.
They might be a bit standoffish at first...but be confident and go! you never know, you might meet some women that you really connect with. Not adjectives of us in our 30's are old fuddy duddies:) Some of them might turn up their nose...but some might really connect...you never know if I don`t know some of the other moms might have a similar story. Good luck and just be confident!
Just go. I'll be frank there will be relations there that will judge you, that's their problem, you don't have to shy away from things that other mothers do newly because you are half their age. If a teen mother came along to something like that I would have an idea that, so there's a teen mum that has embraced motherhood, great. I hold two friends that were teen mums 14 years ago and they were not typical teen mums, they struggled and they faced prejudice but they also showed empire that their judgments were not correct. You have as much right to walk along as anyone else and I think that's what you should do.
i was just 18 when i got pregnant with my oldest so i would be understanding and would not believe to be you at all. also all of the mothers at my son's school are within their 30's and i just turned 24 and i always feel babyish when around them but i still go so that my kids can have fun. give it a shot i'm sure you'll soak up yourself
go!! your son will own a great time and so can you. obviously the other mother knows you are young and invited you anyway. it isn't something like your age, your just another mom. I am sure there will be all kind of mom's there (just like at the daycare..) married moms, older moms, single moms. adjectives there so their child can have a great time.
go, delight in some cake, get some cute pictures and watch your little boy have a globe!!
I'm 38 and I personally would not judge you base on your age. You can be 16 and be a great mother. There could be a 35 yr old mom there who sucks at being a mother. I would run and just be yourself. Chances are people there will see what a great mother you are will hold respect and admiration for how you are so young and take devout care of your child.
To me I would rather go and show that than avoid the situation and give up your job it up to them to wonder why I didn't come. If they judge you based on your age then they aren't the humane of friends you want anyway.
im 18. i would run. if they had a problem with it then its their heartache, not mine. i am not ashamed that im 18. im proud of myself for growing up and human being a great mom. just be yourself and they will see through your age and see that you are a great mom. if they dont then its their problem and they will be the ones that look bad. devout luck!
Once you become a parent, everyone becomes the same age.
Do not be embarrassed. If you permit your insecurities get in the way of socializing you and Brayden will miss out on so much. Who care what these older mothers think (I doubt they will say anything). Chances are you are a better mother than partially of them. Age does not have anything to do with it.
They will all be jealous of how youthful you are. Go and wallow in yourself.
I'd talk to a teen mom at a birthday party. I don't care how antiquated someone is.
Your going to run into this thing quite a bit, You may find that some do judge but you also may find some friends too. Keep trying to return with involved with the other mothers in these situations and you may find access to a world of support and knowledge that you never know existed.
I would try to make conversation and be accepting. I dont think any of MY friends with kids at or in the order of the same age as my kids would be ostracizing to a young mother any.
stir and let the kid have fun. they shouldnt be questioning your age if you hold proved to be a good mother by taking him to daycare and birthday parties. dont be ashamed, youre not the only 16 year dated mother. =)
Im only 23 with 6 year old twins.
& belive me,I've be in your position before!
I would go to the birthday gala to be polite,& I'd say "Hello"
to all the moms & usually they would be okay with me mortal
young.But I've also been in the situation where on earth some moms
werent okay with it.& If they are going to act like that consequently you
dont HAVE to talk to them.I'd just sit somewhere seprate from
them.
Mabey you could call ahead of time & ask if you could bring a
friend along?I've done this since & its a real life-saver!I just told
them she was an hoary friend visiting & that I shouldent leave her
alone at the house.
Good Luck!
i'm 16 and i have a 2 1/2 year old and no the mothers off the other kids are really excepting and will oblige you out and stuff
look hunney i would go if she didn't want you there she would not of invited you im 18 with a 4 yr older and a 2 yr old ppl think im 16 they might ask you like why or something any answer it honestly or just straight up tell them i dont wanna talk just about it and you never know they might have skeletons hidden in in attendance closets it would be nice they might be able to help you or you never know you might be able to assist them it would be fun so goand have fu n just prove to them that even tought your young your still a wounderfull mother trademark sure they know that your not that type of teenage mother that goes out and partys your the type that takes prudence of your resposibilities
You should go!! Let your kid have fun... besides, you're all mothers next to children of the same age- that should give you plenty to talk nearly!
I know what you mean, im 22 with a one year old and adjectives the other mothers i know are a bit older and i also don't look my age. But i think if the mother invited you, she genuinely wishes you to be there. Plus im sure half the conversations are going to be about the kids so you will be fine. But you might hold to deal with the awkward questions some lose lip mother might blurt out. Good Luck!
you should go.
no one's going to look at your approaching a 'teen' unless you act like one!
good luck and god bless!
oh dear. you messed up. you should not have had a newborn so young. thats just stupid. i am not trying to be mean, but did anyone ever relate you that is is not normal to procreate so young?
I'm 31. I wouldn't question it. You might spawn some new friends and new contacts. Experienced older mothers could really own some good advice for you if you ever needed any. I would try to make conversation beside you. The women wouldn't have invited you if she didn't want you there. It's a party for the kids. If within are some catty Bit^hes there then you will know who to watch out for and you can start out. And I have some friends my age with kids that are 17 and 18 meaning they be once teen moms themselves. I say go and let your little boy own fun. Perhaps you are a little paranoid but I would be too. Meeting new moms can be nerve wracking no issue if your 16 or 50.
Previous answers are apposite so I will just add that i also think this female is extending a hand at offering a support group to you & Brayden.
Instead of judging, I think she realize that being a mother, at any age, is a rough job & she would like you to enjoy access to older mothers to hear that some are as inexperienced as you (despite age) and others are more experienced & can give you parenting tips.
I, too, was the babyish mother of parenting crowds. It's great to start developing a support system. This is done through socialization between you & child with others.
Yes, there will be those who question your teen parentage, but for me, I found it be out of concern to make sure I had a mature look on natural life and how to raise kids & if not, then they required to help me in the rough patches.
It's adjectives good. Go have fun. Build some bridges. Let Brayden learn some socializing.
I'm older than you (21) but I do look very young for my age, and my son is 19 months out-of-date and looks old for his age lol (he's nearly half my height! Though I am short...). I haven't be to anything like that, but I've been to various groups and things where on earth the mothers have been mostly in their 30s and I've have mostly good experiences. People tend to turn a blind eye to the fact that I'm younger, and I've even met a few older mums beside a toddler who've actually told me that they have a preteen or teen back at home who they have when they were very young.
I know there's a step between your age and mine, and you're perhaps more likely to be judged than I would, but I still articulate give it a go. It would be great to make some friends for your son and you might even find yourself befriend some of the older mums. I imagine there will be plenty of those there in their 20s too - if she has invited you after she's obviously not too bothered about age, and it's pretty common for relatives to be having kids in their 20s. My best friend is nearly a decade older than me and we seize on like a house on fire and don't notice the age aperture at all. As a young mum you're always going to take situations like this, whether it's now or when he's at school, and sooner or next you'll have to bite the bullet and go to these things, so it may as well be sooner! Plus, I would other go with the theory that if she is a nice woman, she is potential to pick nice friends, who are hopefully as understanding as she is! And if worst comes to the worst, and you do have a bad experience, in attendance is nothing stopping you from leaving early, but I'm sure it wouldn't come to that. I right to be heard put on your mumsiest outfit and give it a try, you may find that you have a great afternoon, and I'm sure your son will have a fab time!
DGAFAY = Dont give a **** about you? Was I right? LOL! I thought Id take a guess.
Anyways yes I would shift. Age doesnt define how good of a mother you are. I think your in recent times being paranoid but then some of the mothers may actually be the approach you mentioned. Id go, you and Bray have fun.
- jeωellчssα's мαмα *;
Hun, If I be u, I would go... I am sure they will be really helpful and they might actually backing u out with stuff! I would be proud to be a mother... I would not question u if I were at the jamboree... I would deffinately make a conversation with u... I look up to u for raising a child at 16... I love that! Keep doing what ur doing and step to the party... I also know how u feel... My mom was pregnant near my oldest sister at age 15... My oldest sister is now 35... Then my mom had my second oldest sister at age 17... She is now 33... My oldest sister have her first child at age 16... My other sister also had her first child at age 16! I am sure they will be excepting... I mean they did invite u right? If they didnt want u, dont u think u would be sitting home and not own been invited? U might as well go and unite them now cuz u will have to meet them sooner or next! I am sure u will do fine! If they dont like it, then they can just crawl lower than a rock and hide... Good luck!
hope this helps...
BTW... Brayden is soooooooooo cute!! Go have fun near Brayden! Source(s): My mom and sisters...
i wouldnt judge a young mom as long as shes a good mom and even after i would be kind..its not my kid/life...my mom always taught me to be genus and to say nothing if i have nought nice to say to say.
in other words i would treat u as if i would treat anyone else.
Age is just a number, and your a mother simply like all of them. Dont deprive your son from having a great time because your insecure. Having a child isnt somthing you should be ashamed of, i know where on earth your comming from because im 18 and i just had my son and i know how it feels to see other parents look down to you. But dont agree to it get you down, who knows...maybe at hand will be another teen mom there.
I would go if I were you. If they authority, they judge, you're there so Brayden can have fun right?
You're adjectives mothers so you should try and make conversation with the other mums. If they're snooty to you then freshly hang out with Brayden and leave as soon as you can.
But at tiniest give it a shot, you never know, the other women could be sweet like the mother you know.
i be 18 when i got invited to my first birthday party with my 8 month antiquated son.
the mother who invited me was in her late 30s, i be very surprised of this because she treated me no different to any of the "normal aged" mothers who also were invited.
Being a mother change everything in life. Your age has no impact on weather you can do the things an elder mother can. Sometimes being a younger mother has it's advantages, for example: being competent to grow up with your children, being more energetic to play for longer and more intensely, when your child is adjectives grown up and ready to leave home, you will still be young and competent to have a life other than children.
These other mums will probably focus of you as a great woman, you are strong enough to go through with such a easier said than done job, doing it by yourself, your an inspiration to other young mums, who are in your position, how copious mums do you see getting pregnant at such a young age adn still wanting to continue with studies? That's fantastic.
I hope i've be of some assistance, but i think your doing a great job, there is no involve for people to judge and if they do, they're the ones with the small minds, not you!
Francine xx Source(s): be in your possition,
Answers: I would go, the mother would not have invited you in the first place if she didnt want you to be in attendance. Since she has talked to you then she know how old you are, I say go and own fun. Dont deprive Brayden because you are insecure, I would not blink if I saw a teen mother at a birthday party with her child, but then thats purely me, lol. Go, have fun.
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