What are the effects of a mother who never did right by her kids?
I remember the whole world revolving around my mum & us 4 kids were basically neglected.There be never any affection, no one said "good morning" or nice things like that, it be all arguements and bizarre behaviour.
It made me rebel as a teen to procure attention , I have low self esteem and awkward in certain situations - even drinking at a table is very uncomfortable for me.
I have my own daughter very soon and its made me over the top as a mum I think, I cuddle her lots , tell her how amazing she is, how proud I am of her, constantly encouraging her , do so much for her and spend most of my money on her - I know its not right to spoil but she is well mannered and I suppose most of it comes from what I would hold like to have been treated resembling as a child.
It rips my heart out to think of putting her through what I went through, I just could never do it within a million years because I love her so much - I guess that makes me wonder if my parents ever did love me & my siblings.
Depression
Low Self Esteem
Anxiety
Not being able to trust your own judgement
Inability to love properly or to allow anyone to return with close to you
My mother tried to overdose me when I was a kid and I was taken into care as a result. She's an evil b*tch and I haven't see her for almost 11 years now.
I don't feel too bad roughly speaking myself, but I have issues with not being competent to trust people.
I don't let my past affect how I thought for my own children though.
LOSING SOMEONE THAT U COULD HAVE POSSIBLY LOVED AND CARED FOR NOW THATS ALL GONE AWAY
if you didnt give them enough attention they will proberly insurgent to gain your attention
if you are nasty to them they will probely never get over it
and if they just never listen to you
later its not your fault its just kids in standard
a lifetime of never feeling righteous or worthy enough of someones love
they might grow up thinking it is normal to mistreat their children as well.
Answers: From my point of vies:
I have low self-esteem because my mother was other telling me I wasn't good enough, I wasn't immaculate enough, I was the reason my dad moved out her etc.
I have low body confidence because my mum consistently called me fat and obese etc, even when I be trying to recover from a major eating disorder.
During my closing few years at home, I rebelled because the only time I ever got attention from her be when I was doing something she hated.
I don't believe my fiancé when he says he loves me, because, why would anyone love me?
I still capture myself almost saying the stuff my mother said to me, to my daughter when I'm angry with her.
Whilst I excelled in sports and university work, I have no social skills because I'm so paranoid that people just pretend to be my friend, this stems from her pretending to be nice so I would budge see her so she could start the abuse all over again.
The list is ceaseless.
Abuse and neglect affects all children in a different channel.
Some will because shy and quiet, others will try their hardest to throw off the abuse, and prove that they are perfect enough for the love they so desperately want.
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