I want to influence something in the region of this, but I consistency close to its not my place?
My cousin has a 3-1/2 week old baby. Within the finishing week she has posted a couple things on facebook... She let the baby cry it out for 30 minutes since he fell asleep. She said that it broke her heart, but he has to learn to go to sleep on his own, and within his own bed. If she wants to use CIO that's her choice, but I think 3 weeks is WAY to young! Also she said that she have started putting him to bed on his belly because he seems to like that better. Her reasoning: I slept on my belly as a baby and I'm ok.
My cousin and I see respectively other fairly often, but I wouldn't call us close. I don't want to disrespect her. But I would like to offer some advise. I know what it's close to to have a baby that's hard to return with to sleep and stay asleep. But I certainly didn't let him cio at 3 weeks or lay him on his belly. I just want to confer her some suggestions about different methods she could use, from one mom to another. How can I do that delicately? Or should I just stay out of it?
Either way I expect she's going to be offended. So I would just say it. Or if your mom is close near her mom then maybe she could say something..
Personally I would never consent to my baby cry it out for 30 minutes.
3 1/2 weeks does seem rather young to be wanting him to sleep all night, he is a tot they cry because they need something, like food or a diaper changing. He should sleep on his subsidise. You can give her a hint by buying her one of those mats that baby's sleep on that holds them surrounded by place on their back, that may help. He should not be sleeping on his belly just incase.
You need to utter things like you did here, and start with "I remember when and it was so rugged for me" then you gently lead within to how much talking about it helps, and after what worked for you. That way you are sympathizing with her and sharing, versus offending.
I would speak up. What she is doing, either thing, is not healthy for her little one. The baby is too small right now and really needs her. The adjectives cio thing could lead to some psychological problems for the child in the adjectives. Just strike up a conversation with her about the baby subsequent time you see her and gradually work in your suggestions.
Yikes, I might say something within a nice but serious way. Like you know babies that young really don't understand the cry it out entity yet, they still need constant care but when they catch older and you have checked all their wishes, then you can let them cry it out. Give her facts or say you know the other daytime I ran across an article or a website about babies on their bellies sleeping..
yikes - nazi mom. 3 1/2 weeks the baby wants something, he hasn't learned the art of manipulation yet
I would not confer any advice without being asked.
Maybe you could email her, 'How's everything going near he baby?" when she replies if she mentions he's not sleeping well you could reply " I had a frozen time with mine too and this is what I did."
I would not step in and say she is wrong, she is a strange mother and doing the best she can.
People are entitled to parent there children as they see fit. Many moms do let their babies sleep on their bellies. It is their choice.
As for crying it out 3 weeks is relatively young however again, it really is not your place to say anything. Being a new mom can be extremely frustrating and tiring. I am sure adjectives of us at some point have let the baby cry for a few minutes a moment ago to finish a shower or gulp down lunch. (although 30 minutes is excessive)
If you feel compelled to offer advice as her how time as a new mommy is going, and if she asks offer. Otherwise, butt out.
Answers: I wouldn't run tell her that what she's doing is wrong, but instead casually speak to her about what YOU did when your infant was that young. Also, tell her what you've read surrounded by books, and maybe ask her if she's read any herself. You don't want to come across as 'telling her what to do' because I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate that.
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My cousin and I see respectively other fairly often, but I wouldn't call us close. I don't want to disrespect her. But I would like to offer some advise. I know what it's close to to have a baby that's hard to return with to sleep and stay asleep. But I certainly didn't let him cio at 3 weeks or lay him on his belly. I just want to confer her some suggestions about different methods she could use, from one mom to another. How can I do that delicately? Or should I just stay out of it?
Either way I expect she's going to be offended. So I would just say it. Or if your mom is close near her mom then maybe she could say something..
Personally I would never consent to my baby cry it out for 30 minutes.
3 1/2 weeks does seem rather young to be wanting him to sleep all night, he is a tot they cry because they need something, like food or a diaper changing. He should sleep on his subsidise. You can give her a hint by buying her one of those mats that baby's sleep on that holds them surrounded by place on their back, that may help. He should not be sleeping on his belly just incase.
You need to utter things like you did here, and start with "I remember when and it was so rugged for me" then you gently lead within to how much talking about it helps, and after what worked for you. That way you are sympathizing with her and sharing, versus offending.
I would speak up. What she is doing, either thing, is not healthy for her little one. The baby is too small right now and really needs her. The adjectives cio thing could lead to some psychological problems for the child in the adjectives. Just strike up a conversation with her about the baby subsequent time you see her and gradually work in your suggestions.
Yikes, I might say something within a nice but serious way. Like you know babies that young really don't understand the cry it out entity yet, they still need constant care but when they catch older and you have checked all their wishes, then you can let them cry it out. Give her facts or say you know the other daytime I ran across an article or a website about babies on their bellies sleeping..
yikes - nazi mom. 3 1/2 weeks the baby wants something, he hasn't learned the art of manipulation yet
I would not confer any advice without being asked.
Maybe you could email her, 'How's everything going near he baby?" when she replies if she mentions he's not sleeping well you could reply " I had a frozen time with mine too and this is what I did."
I would not step in and say she is wrong, she is a strange mother and doing the best she can.
People are entitled to parent there children as they see fit. Many moms do let their babies sleep on their bellies. It is their choice.
As for crying it out 3 weeks is relatively young however again, it really is not your place to say anything. Being a new mom can be extremely frustrating and tiring. I am sure adjectives of us at some point have let the baby cry for a few minutes a moment ago to finish a shower or gulp down lunch. (although 30 minutes is excessive)
If you feel compelled to offer advice as her how time as a new mommy is going, and if she asks offer. Otherwise, butt out.
Answers: I wouldn't run tell her that what she's doing is wrong, but instead casually speak to her about what YOU did when your infant was that young. Also, tell her what you've read surrounded by books, and maybe ask her if she's read any herself. You don't want to come across as 'telling her what to do' because I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate that.
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