Im so unsure on what to do?
i have another account on here that i frequently ask for advise so im not a troll trying to motivation trouble im a 21 year old stressed out mum with lots of problems
i guess it more than a shoulder to cry on and be listened to than a ask but to make it a question has anyone else ever feel really confused on what to do in raising your child?
we had child protection grasp involved after my post natal depression got bad and i had some psychiatric treatment and im still currently on medication but tons people have planted the idea of giving him away contained by my head and some days i do honestly feel he would be better of without me i love him but he is almost 7 months antediluvian and i haven'tt spent more than 4 hours alone with him in 1 day its passionate destroying and i just don'tt know what to do i don'tt want to give him away but i cant raise him approaching this i often plan out running away and sending money to support him and then i think that hedoesn'tt deserve me because im such a horrible human being to think theses thoughts
its so hard when i hold good days i love him so much and child protection come over and tell me how bad i am and that if i don'tt do what they want they will give somebody a lift him i just don't know what to do if tried accessing support services but most wont take us because we enjoy a court order against us my partner is great but i cant talk to him as we end up within arguments and because of child protection he has lost his job as of end of the month so we cant afford relationship counselling
i a short time ago want to be a normal mum without all our problems that we dont deserve i consistency like im being punished because i asked for help i love my lil boy and want to endow with him everything but i dont know how to help myself without having him taken away
im sorry to be so long but i devise i just need to vent
thanks to adjectives who wasted their time on me
Just hang in there. If you be aware of like you will hurt yourself or someone else get someplace safe...be beside someone. You aren't the only new mom going through this...and yes you are still a NEW MOM. It's hard and when your hormones find out of whack and you get depressed it makes everything harder. I hope you are getting counselling along with medication. Counselling and have someone to talk to is very important. Surround yourself beside supportive people, spend as much time with your son as you are able too, and you will start to quality better. Good luck and take care of yourself.
The heck next to child support! Wait is it mandatory? Sorry I don't know much on this subject but just don't listen to them and keep your kid and play games with him/her and stuff.
Sorry I'm not that much of a oblige!
hey sweetie... first of adjectives, your words really show that you love your son, & that you would never hurt him, & that he means the world to you. almost everybody goes through stress emotionally, physically & even socially after birth, especially the first one. don't ever think almost giving away your child, you will regret it forever. this is just a phase you are going through & you can help yourself to get over it. i see that you are vastly emotional, obviously anyone would be when it comes to their child. start making changes from immediately on girl, get any or mainly emotional support from your mom & partner & variety yourself steady first. throw the negative thoughts away from your head & start thinking only positive thoughts. close your eyes & concentrate & devise about everything you want to do & the changes that you want to make surrounded by your life & see what you need to do to achieve adjectives that, have a clear vision & open your eyes & judge that you are newly born.
1) if theres a women & child or family or health group, join there & get assist.
2) speak to the current doctor that you are seeing & tell them about your change & ask for a rework of medicines
3) speak to the child protection guys & understand what they are expecting out of you & tell them what they want to hear. if you be aware of that they really want the best for you & ur child (that doesnt include giving him away), make the changes in you right away.
4) concentrate on yourself, start jogging or running in the early morning & evening, do exercise - it take out the bad energy & keeps you positive & brisk & fresh through out the day.
5) get a new errand
6) do social or community service - help the old or handicapped or abandoned kids - this will endow with you satisfaction & a change of mind
7) become a new & a better character
i know you can be the best mom, but pull yourself together & start working towards making your life the best. your life is surrounded by your hand sweetie. dont let anybody else run it for you. its your child, you cant let anybody hold it from you. become the person you want your child's mother to be. i know you can do it. start new. u & ur partner would make well-mannered parents for your boy. dont let him go. get out & start making a topical & a positive difference in your life as well as your child. you can do it. Good Luck!
Just dangle in there, you can do it. I know it's hard some days. I'm 19 and hold a 4 month old son. Things will hopefully get better for you.
hey your not a waste of time.
see if a family associate or someone close is willing to take in your child so you can see him.
im sorry but serious depression is serious! moms turn crazy and injure or kill their babies without even knowing why.
sweetie find someone to take protection of him that you know well. feel free to email me upuha18@yahoo.com
Email me hun, Youre run of the mill. So normal. You just need some support, Just turn your email on for a minute xx
im sorry you're going through this...just hang on to doing what they say til you can get him back...youre his mommy, and unless youre compeltely unqualified to control your actions towards him, then he should be with you...
First of adjectives, no one can advise you on this with out knowing more of your circumstances. You are young at heart and being really hard on yourself. Maybe you are not giving yourself a chance here. Post free depression has a way of screwing up your manager. You don't want to make a decision that will effect the rest of your life and the go of your baby so quick. I would say follow what social services have required of you. This will be good for you even if you decide to give your little one up for adoption at a later date. You said that you love your baby, if that is true next you need to do what ever it takes to be a better mother for your baby. Telling yourself that someone else will be better for your newborn is the easy way out and it's not true. Your baby requests you. You are it's mother, you love your baby, you have problems, and we all own problems. If your partner is causing you more problems then maybe you should seize rid of him. Don't view yourself as the victim here, your not helpless your baby is helpless. Take charge of your existence. There are many churches that can help you with counseling, in that are classes for new moms (parenting classes that are free). pick up the phone book and start looking for resources that can help you get on track. You get yourself pregnant so live up to your responsibilities of being a parent. I don't understand how your partner could loose his job because of social services, That doesn't spawn Sense. He needs to get out there and find another situation. He needs to find two jobs if that is what you want to make enough money. Why are you only spending 4 hrs at a time near your child? Did they already take the baby? look there is no such point as normal, everyone has problems. You need to revise how to deal with problems. Don't waste any more time hunch sorry for yourself, stop being a victim, take charge of your go, go back to school, you catch a part time job, spend time with your infant, take some parenting classes, go find a church that will counsel you. Join a free class for mother and babies to go to. Be around other woman that you can cram from. If you do decide to leave your partner that doesn't not mean your newborn has to grow up with out a father. If he doesn't see his baby because you are not together after he is a crappy father anyways. You are young and there are many men out near to choose from. Post pardon depression doesn't last forever. I have eight children, I know what it is similar to to struggle, You do what ever it takes to provide for your family to give them a risk-free & healthy home for them to grow up in. Step up.
it seems like you're not in the right state of mind to be kind for a child. children are a lot of work. talk to friends and family and see if someone will be ready to temporarily care for him for you. you need help!
I'm sorry, I really don't know what to tell you, but you sound so sincere when you write that you love him. There must be some way you can bring help with out loosing your child. You sound so depressed. I can describe you that a lot of mothers have felt this path. Not to the extent to what you're going through. All I can suggest is when he gets up sit and hug him. Forget about your house work and everyone else and spend the day next to him. Sometimes when I'm down I do that. I take my babies to the park or for a walk or whatever, play next to them and read to them or just watch some thing he like on T.V. with him. Making them happy makes me beaming and feel apreciated, and when they're happy and you spend some extra time with them it make you feel like a really good mom. He doesn't attention to detail what child protection or other people thinks, just you. So that make you special because nobody else can be his mother the way you can.
Answers: Honey, your meds clearly are NOT working. You need to go support to your doctor and tell them this, not us.
As a PPD sufferer myself I *know* how tough it can be, especially being young. We be aware of we have missed so much of our own lives.
Your son is best of with YOU because it is so clear you love him so so much.
Please email me if you need.
Be strong.
just hang down in their things do get easier over time and you will soon learn adjectives the things you have missed you can send me a msg if you ever need to parley and im sure their is someone else in a similar situation out their that you might be able to talk next to
best of luck xx
you need to shift back to your docs and get your meds looked at as obviously the ones you are on, arent helping, you still nouns very depressed, he would not be better off without you and his daddy, you are his parents, and approaching you say you do love him, you have tried asking for help, and they agree to you down, so tell them what they want to hear and do things on your own, if you get the right medication, you will get through this, as you are thought this way due to a chemical imbalance in the brain not because you are a discouraging person, keep fighting dont administer up
omg gurl.. Please just relax.. do you own any close friends? Anyone you can confide in? Does babies daddy want to take care of your son? If so possibly he can take him.. and you can have visitation.. while you get some assistance.. Every state offer free or low cost services.. See if there is a Child and Family Service in your area.. or Healthy Start Program... they are near to help you... That way you aren't out of your sons life during your tricky times, and you can maybe slowely become more of his life... If not the babies dad then a relative or friend that may be ready to help...
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i guess it more than a shoulder to cry on and be listened to than a ask but to make it a question has anyone else ever feel really confused on what to do in raising your child?
we had child protection grasp involved after my post natal depression got bad and i had some psychiatric treatment and im still currently on medication but tons people have planted the idea of giving him away contained by my head and some days i do honestly feel he would be better of without me i love him but he is almost 7 months antediluvian and i haven'tt spent more than 4 hours alone with him in 1 day its passionate destroying and i just don'tt know what to do i don'tt want to give him away but i cant raise him approaching this i often plan out running away and sending money to support him and then i think that hedoesn'tt deserve me because im such a horrible human being to think theses thoughts
its so hard when i hold good days i love him so much and child protection come over and tell me how bad i am and that if i don'tt do what they want they will give somebody a lift him i just don't know what to do if tried accessing support services but most wont take us because we enjoy a court order against us my partner is great but i cant talk to him as we end up within arguments and because of child protection he has lost his job as of end of the month so we cant afford relationship counselling
i a short time ago want to be a normal mum without all our problems that we dont deserve i consistency like im being punished because i asked for help i love my lil boy and want to endow with him everything but i dont know how to help myself without having him taken away
im sorry to be so long but i devise i just need to vent
thanks to adjectives who wasted their time on me
Just hang in there. If you be aware of like you will hurt yourself or someone else get someplace safe...be beside someone. You aren't the only new mom going through this...and yes you are still a NEW MOM. It's hard and when your hormones find out of whack and you get depressed it makes everything harder. I hope you are getting counselling along with medication. Counselling and have someone to talk to is very important. Surround yourself beside supportive people, spend as much time with your son as you are able too, and you will start to quality better. Good luck and take care of yourself.
The heck next to child support! Wait is it mandatory? Sorry I don't know much on this subject but just don't listen to them and keep your kid and play games with him/her and stuff.
Sorry I'm not that much of a oblige!
hey sweetie... first of adjectives, your words really show that you love your son, & that you would never hurt him, & that he means the world to you. almost everybody goes through stress emotionally, physically & even socially after birth, especially the first one. don't ever think almost giving away your child, you will regret it forever. this is just a phase you are going through & you can help yourself to get over it. i see that you are vastly emotional, obviously anyone would be when it comes to their child. start making changes from immediately on girl, get any or mainly emotional support from your mom & partner & variety yourself steady first. throw the negative thoughts away from your head & start thinking only positive thoughts. close your eyes & concentrate & devise about everything you want to do & the changes that you want to make surrounded by your life & see what you need to do to achieve adjectives that, have a clear vision & open your eyes & judge that you are newly born.
1) if theres a women & child or family or health group, join there & get assist.
2) speak to the current doctor that you are seeing & tell them about your change & ask for a rework of medicines
3) speak to the child protection guys & understand what they are expecting out of you & tell them what they want to hear. if you be aware of that they really want the best for you & ur child (that doesnt include giving him away), make the changes in you right away.
4) concentrate on yourself, start jogging or running in the early morning & evening, do exercise - it take out the bad energy & keeps you positive & brisk & fresh through out the day.
5) get a new errand
6) do social or community service - help the old or handicapped or abandoned kids - this will endow with you satisfaction & a change of mind
7) become a new & a better character
i know you can be the best mom, but pull yourself together & start working towards making your life the best. your life is surrounded by your hand sweetie. dont let anybody else run it for you. its your child, you cant let anybody hold it from you. become the person you want your child's mother to be. i know you can do it. start new. u & ur partner would make well-mannered parents for your boy. dont let him go. get out & start making a topical & a positive difference in your life as well as your child. you can do it. Good Luck!
Just dangle in there, you can do it. I know it's hard some days. I'm 19 and hold a 4 month old son. Things will hopefully get better for you.
hey your not a waste of time.
see if a family associate or someone close is willing to take in your child so you can see him.
im sorry but serious depression is serious! moms turn crazy and injure or kill their babies without even knowing why.
sweetie find someone to take protection of him that you know well. feel free to email me upuha18@yahoo.com
Email me hun, Youre run of the mill. So normal. You just need some support, Just turn your email on for a minute xx
im sorry you're going through this...just hang on to doing what they say til you can get him back...youre his mommy, and unless youre compeltely unqualified to control your actions towards him, then he should be with you...
First of adjectives, no one can advise you on this with out knowing more of your circumstances. You are young at heart and being really hard on yourself. Maybe you are not giving yourself a chance here. Post free depression has a way of screwing up your manager. You don't want to make a decision that will effect the rest of your life and the go of your baby so quick. I would say follow what social services have required of you. This will be good for you even if you decide to give your little one up for adoption at a later date. You said that you love your baby, if that is true next you need to do what ever it takes to be a better mother for your baby. Telling yourself that someone else will be better for your newborn is the easy way out and it's not true. Your baby requests you. You are it's mother, you love your baby, you have problems, and we all own problems. If your partner is causing you more problems then maybe you should seize rid of him. Don't view yourself as the victim here, your not helpless your baby is helpless. Take charge of your existence. There are many churches that can help you with counseling, in that are classes for new moms (parenting classes that are free). pick up the phone book and start looking for resources that can help you get on track. You get yourself pregnant so live up to your responsibilities of being a parent. I don't understand how your partner could loose his job because of social services, That doesn't spawn Sense. He needs to get out there and find another situation. He needs to find two jobs if that is what you want to make enough money. Why are you only spending 4 hrs at a time near your child? Did they already take the baby? look there is no such point as normal, everyone has problems. You need to revise how to deal with problems. Don't waste any more time hunch sorry for yourself, stop being a victim, take charge of your go, go back to school, you catch a part time job, spend time with your infant, take some parenting classes, go find a church that will counsel you. Join a free class for mother and babies to go to. Be around other woman that you can cram from. If you do decide to leave your partner that doesn't not mean your newborn has to grow up with out a father. If he doesn't see his baby because you are not together after he is a crappy father anyways. You are young and there are many men out near to choose from. Post pardon depression doesn't last forever. I have eight children, I know what it is similar to to struggle, You do what ever it takes to provide for your family to give them a risk-free & healthy home for them to grow up in. Step up.
it seems like you're not in the right state of mind to be kind for a child. children are a lot of work. talk to friends and family and see if someone will be ready to temporarily care for him for you. you need help!
I'm sorry, I really don't know what to tell you, but you sound so sincere when you write that you love him. There must be some way you can bring help with out loosing your child. You sound so depressed. I can describe you that a lot of mothers have felt this path. Not to the extent to what you're going through. All I can suggest is when he gets up sit and hug him. Forget about your house work and everyone else and spend the day next to him. Sometimes when I'm down I do that. I take my babies to the park or for a walk or whatever, play next to them and read to them or just watch some thing he like on T.V. with him. Making them happy makes me beaming and feel apreciated, and when they're happy and you spend some extra time with them it make you feel like a really good mom. He doesn't attention to detail what child protection or other people thinks, just you. So that make you special because nobody else can be his mother the way you can.
Answers: Honey, your meds clearly are NOT working. You need to go support to your doctor and tell them this, not us.
As a PPD sufferer myself I *know* how tough it can be, especially being young. We be aware of we have missed so much of our own lives.
Your son is best of with YOU because it is so clear you love him so so much.
Please email me if you need.
Be strong.
just hang down in their things do get easier over time and you will soon learn adjectives the things you have missed you can send me a msg if you ever need to parley and im sure their is someone else in a similar situation out their that you might be able to talk next to
best of luck xx
you need to shift back to your docs and get your meds looked at as obviously the ones you are on, arent helping, you still nouns very depressed, he would not be better off without you and his daddy, you are his parents, and approaching you say you do love him, you have tried asking for help, and they agree to you down, so tell them what they want to hear and do things on your own, if you get the right medication, you will get through this, as you are thought this way due to a chemical imbalance in the brain not because you are a discouraging person, keep fighting dont administer up
omg gurl.. Please just relax.. do you own any close friends? Anyone you can confide in? Does babies daddy want to take care of your son? If so possibly he can take him.. and you can have visitation.. while you get some assistance.. Every state offer free or low cost services.. See if there is a Child and Family Service in your area.. or Healthy Start Program... they are near to help you... That way you aren't out of your sons life during your tricky times, and you can maybe slowely become more of his life... If not the babies dad then a relative or friend that may be ready to help...
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