Would you consent to your child be held by someone who smokes?

In my local news there was a report almost something called 3rd hand smoke.

Basically the just of it is:
-smoke resedue, and chemicals stick to things that they come contained by touch with.like furniture, flooring, walls, and the people who smoke.

There are modern studdies now comming out that state that these things are just as dangerous as second have smoke becasue its in a higher concentration.

Now ontop of all of that... I enjoy severe allergies and asthma, and smoke really flairs up those problems. My baby is showing similar signs of these symptoms as well.

So my question is...

Would you tolerate your baby be held by someone who smokes?

It just happens that the someone who other wants to hold my baby is my sister! So this make things even harder.

She is constantly trying to hold my daughter whenever I see her...and allot of the time she have just finished smoking.

She is a very heavy smoker and smokes basically under 1 pack a day.

I have told her that she can hold my daughter just if she:
-washes her hands and face
-changes her shirt
-and puls her hair rear legs (since my daugher likes chewing on hair)

She thinks that I am being unresonable. and will merely wash her hands, since she doesn't want to wash her makeup bad or ruin her hair style or change her clothes.

I know this is my baby and its ultimitely my choice... but I newly wanted to see what some other opinions were.

I should also mention that her best friend have a baby around the same age, and both her and her best friend smoke infront of that baby. They also hold pictures of that baby (11months) with a lit cigerette in his mouth!
Chewing gum doesn't do much as smoke residue get exhaled every time they breathe out.
The risk from this is lower than being struck by a meteor and lightning at the same time. I understand you're concerned nearly your baby's health, but this is nothing less than massive hypochondria.
You're not man unreasonable. I don't even want to talk about the LIT cigarette picture. That is awful. Show her the new studies and remind her roughly speaking your allergies. You can even tell her what you notice about your babe with the allergies too. I'm the only non-smoker in my family unit and my husbands family. We have a 7 month old very soon. I get so annoyed when one of them holds her that smokes and then her hair, clothes, etc smells similar to it too. Ugh.
i would let someone who is smoker hold my child. i wouldn't leave someone smoke around him or bring him to a house with smoke contained by it but i would let them hold him. there's alot of chemicals and toxins floating around in the air we breath as it is. you can try protect your newborn for as long as you can but eventually whether it be in day care contained by school or in a shop your child will be exposed to these things. your child may go to conservatory with another child who's parents smoke around them and it will be stuck all over their clothes. its unavoidable. anything about making them wash their hands until that time holding her it may come off a little crazy to tell someone to modify their clothes or fix their hair. just my opinion.
Answers:    Your not mortal unrational. Its your child and you have all rights who holds her. If your sister states that "its stupid" or whatever, make clear to her that you have severe allergies and that your daughter has signs of it also. Ask her would she rather do these minor things or see her neice surrounded by the hospital. (Dont really know if it could happen- but just to scare your sister) Or tell her if you really looked-for to be unrational you can say if you smoked at all that day you cant hold her until you achieve a shower, fresh clothes and brush your teeth.

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