A interrogate on couples and relationships etc (for the moderate...)?
OK, I know this is the wrong section, mostly, but family and relationships is full of 15 year old girls who don't make out this question (I tried.)
Also, note that I am undercover to protect the innocent, but I am a regular on here... so I know you guys usually give great answers ! LOL
I've be in a happy stable couple for near ten years. We hold a baby and are still madly in love. Before human being together, we were both pretty wild, as in promiscuous. (So we both know that sex doesn't necessarily plan love...) We have both been faithful for almost a decade, and we intend to spend the rest of our lives together.
The topic of three-somes or other group sex have been a recurring fantasy. Lately, it have been coming up more and more, and not always in the bedroom. We know a couple who hold admitted to having an 'open' relationship so this has species of brought it to the forefront. We've been sorta dangling the idea for years now, but immediately it's starting to actually sound like we might put it into doings.
We love and trust each other very much, and I'm not worried about him falling contained by love with some other chick. Still, it's a big step from fantasy to reality, and it feel like a no-return point.
Just wondering what are opinions on the question ? Do you muse it would inevitably break our couple ? (although are friends are still very much in love, it seems) Are we just sick freaks LOL ? Would you do it or hold you done it?
Also, if we do decide to go forth with this, would we be better rotten with our friends or someone we don't know as well (Kinda scared to break a long friendship too, but we're already severely comfortable hanging around them which is crucial to any sexcapade so IDK.)
The topic have come up with us as well but we know it would tear us apart. Not because we are stick within the muds, or lacking trust but because physically seeing someone putting their penis inside of my or watching my husband physically put his penis in someone else is devastating. sometimes the idea sounds kinky and sexy, but within the end we agreed it wouldn't be healthy. sometimes monogamy is beautiful.
I estimate having fantasy is one thing. Going through next to it could ultimately be something you regret. The fantasy part is usually the sexiest part!
I wouldn't recommend it simply because you enjoy children and if you are considering the impact of this on you as a couple/family (which is wise) then it isn't worth the risk. That's why you are questioning it...your gut is saying no.
Get kinky some other passageway...just the two of you.
You're not freaks but it is something that in rougher patches for the adjectives...can be used against each other OR something you can't get out of your head as have done.
I wouldn't risk the family. That applies to being close to these couples too because the temptation will other be there to question your final decision (if it's a no). You don't hold to disown them! But stay off topic at least.
Just my opinion.
Answers: I certainly wouldn't call you a bunch of sick freaks. ;)
The verdict to make a relationship open or polyamorous definitely requires like mad of thinking, open discussion, trust, and honesty. It sounds like you're giving it a lot of thought since putting it into action, which is good. It's definitely not a road you want to lately go sprinting toward.
Overall, I can't make the decision for you (nor can anyone else here), but my guidance would be to continue to talk to other open couples, and perchance look for groups of open or swinging couples in your area. I would acquaint yourself with yourself very well with the lifestyle earlier you decide to make the change.
I would also keep hold of communication very open and frequent with your partner. Make sure that both of you enjoy a very explicitly stated agreement about your relationships. For example, you might have a rule that you other use protection with other partners, or another possible rule could be that if either of you desire you want to back out and become monogamous again, then both of you have to support out of your open relationships and become a strictly monogamous couple. These are just examples, but I would definitely net sure you have a list of "rules" or guidelines that you must follow if you decide to be in motion for it.
As far as whether or not to pursue outside relationships with current existing friends or making new friends, I don't know if I really have a strong nouns there. Both have pros and cons, so it would really be up to you all to stir with your instinct and decide what would work best for you.
Bottom line, brand sure you do a lot of thinking, discussing, and questioning. If you have any doubts, don't second guess yourself. Sometimes, our gut instincts are right on, so don't be afraid to follow them.
although it apparently works for some, i wouldn't do it even if i required to because i don't think it would be good for our relationship, and it has broken up it's disinterested share of couples..i know my hub would never consider it, bc he would want to kill someone else for trying to 'install' something in my, lol.and i am the same path, i do NOT want to see him with anyone else..i just think abundantly of times, it enhances any small insecurities and trust issues you may have.and some ppl who know that sex doesn't equal love, can still find themselves having emotional state for someone it they are with them enough.that level of intimacy can be powerful, even when someone doesn't plan it; maybe she does something u don't do, or something u wouldn't do; perhaps she looks like his first love, etc..if u r comfortable with it, and not concerned that it will pull your relationship, then u have your answer..we can't answer that for you..and i would be SURE that both wear protection, as ppl who frequently change partner are much higher risk of having stds even though they may not be aware of it... Source(s): and make sure it is something that YOU want to do, not purely something to please him...
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Also, note that I am undercover to protect the innocent, but I am a regular on here... so I know you guys usually give great answers ! LOL
I've be in a happy stable couple for near ten years. We hold a baby and are still madly in love. Before human being together, we were both pretty wild, as in promiscuous. (So we both know that sex doesn't necessarily plan love...) We have both been faithful for almost a decade, and we intend to spend the rest of our lives together.
The topic of three-somes or other group sex have been a recurring fantasy. Lately, it have been coming up more and more, and not always in the bedroom. We know a couple who hold admitted to having an 'open' relationship so this has species of brought it to the forefront. We've been sorta dangling the idea for years now, but immediately it's starting to actually sound like we might put it into doings.
We love and trust each other very much, and I'm not worried about him falling contained by love with some other chick. Still, it's a big step from fantasy to reality, and it feel like a no-return point.
Just wondering what are opinions on the question ? Do you muse it would inevitably break our couple ? (although are friends are still very much in love, it seems) Are we just sick freaks LOL ? Would you do it or hold you done it?
Also, if we do decide to go forth with this, would we be better rotten with our friends or someone we don't know as well (Kinda scared to break a long friendship too, but we're already severely comfortable hanging around them which is crucial to any sexcapade so IDK.)
The topic have come up with us as well but we know it would tear us apart. Not because we are stick within the muds, or lacking trust but because physically seeing someone putting their penis inside of my or watching my husband physically put his penis in someone else is devastating. sometimes the idea sounds kinky and sexy, but within the end we agreed it wouldn't be healthy. sometimes monogamy is beautiful.
I estimate having fantasy is one thing. Going through next to it could ultimately be something you regret. The fantasy part is usually the sexiest part!
I wouldn't recommend it simply because you enjoy children and if you are considering the impact of this on you as a couple/family (which is wise) then it isn't worth the risk. That's why you are questioning it...your gut is saying no.
Get kinky some other passageway...just the two of you.
You're not freaks but it is something that in rougher patches for the adjectives...can be used against each other OR something you can't get out of your head as have done.
I wouldn't risk the family. That applies to being close to these couples too because the temptation will other be there to question your final decision (if it's a no). You don't hold to disown them! But stay off topic at least.
Just my opinion.
Answers: I certainly wouldn't call you a bunch of sick freaks. ;)
The verdict to make a relationship open or polyamorous definitely requires like mad of thinking, open discussion, trust, and honesty. It sounds like you're giving it a lot of thought since putting it into action, which is good. It's definitely not a road you want to lately go sprinting toward.
Overall, I can't make the decision for you (nor can anyone else here), but my guidance would be to continue to talk to other open couples, and perchance look for groups of open or swinging couples in your area. I would acquaint yourself with yourself very well with the lifestyle earlier you decide to make the change.
I would also keep hold of communication very open and frequent with your partner. Make sure that both of you enjoy a very explicitly stated agreement about your relationships. For example, you might have a rule that you other use protection with other partners, or another possible rule could be that if either of you desire you want to back out and become monogamous again, then both of you have to support out of your open relationships and become a strictly monogamous couple. These are just examples, but I would definitely net sure you have a list of "rules" or guidelines that you must follow if you decide to be in motion for it.
As far as whether or not to pursue outside relationships with current existing friends or making new friends, I don't know if I really have a strong nouns there. Both have pros and cons, so it would really be up to you all to stir with your instinct and decide what would work best for you.
Bottom line, brand sure you do a lot of thinking, discussing, and questioning. If you have any doubts, don't second guess yourself. Sometimes, our gut instincts are right on, so don't be afraid to follow them.
although it apparently works for some, i wouldn't do it even if i required to because i don't think it would be good for our relationship, and it has broken up it's disinterested share of couples..i know my hub would never consider it, bc he would want to kill someone else for trying to 'install' something in my, lol.and i am the same path, i do NOT want to see him with anyone else..i just think abundantly of times, it enhances any small insecurities and trust issues you may have.and some ppl who know that sex doesn't equal love, can still find themselves having emotional state for someone it they are with them enough.that level of intimacy can be powerful, even when someone doesn't plan it; maybe she does something u don't do, or something u wouldn't do; perhaps she looks like his first love, etc..if u r comfortable with it, and not concerned that it will pull your relationship, then u have your answer..we can't answer that for you..and i would be SURE that both wear protection, as ppl who frequently change partner are much higher risk of having stds even though they may not be aware of it... Source(s): and make sure it is something that YOU want to do, not purely something to please him...
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