We haven't have our son baptized however...not religious?
I want to add, I have spoke to one of the Nuns here at the Catholic church and she said that my husband and I would have to own our marriage blessed and at least I would have to be involved within the church before our son can be baptized there. My husband agreed to have the marital blessed...but I haven't gone to mass yet.
I think you should do what you think is best. If you would approaching to get him baptized but not practice it and you thinks that fine then do that. If you want to hold him baptized and practice and teach him that, that's ok too. Don't baptize your son because she wants you too, do it because you have an idea that it is best. If you want him to be old enough and decide for himself later let him. None of my family is religious, except for a couple of them. I don't go to church because i don't believe contained by some of the stuff they say, i chose not too. I didn't get my daughter baptized because i will let her desire what she wants, whatever works for me.I think you should do what you and your husband mull over is best. Just as a person said that if you want them to believe in god then enjoy them baptized, that has not one thing to do with it. I totally believe contained by god and i don't go to church!
If you're not practising religious and it all seems a rather complex entry to do (extra blessings, son attending church etc) then what's the point? Just tell your mother that you don't think it will come about. You could do it just to please her, but it seems like abundantly of effort. She has to realise plenty of people are not heavily religious and don't absorb in those practices.
Besides, it's quite nice if the child can choose it for themselves. I had a Christian friend who did that - granted at around age 12 she wanted to get it done so preparations were made, she get to choose how it would be done, who would be there, it was all tremendously exciting and meant a lot to her. (Interestingly, years later she also stopped going to church and end I heard she actually considers herself an atheist. But that's not the point.)
Answers: Like you said, there is no "right" answer someone else can give you. But here is what I would do.
Think / meditate / pray overpoweringly about this. Do not baptize your child just because your mother is hounding you to do it. That would be baptizing the child surrounded by the wrong spirit.
I personally would wait until my child was old-fashioned enough to make the decision for themselves, but after again, I am not Catholic. You mentioned how your mother forced the religion on you when you were younger and that turned you off to it. You can't force a belief on someone, you just own to lead by example and hope / pray that they will see the good in what you believe surrounded by and follow, offering guidance along the way if they ask.
If you truly want to raise your child in a Catholic setting, later I would start attending church regularly as the Nun you spoke to advised.
I hope that maybe this helps some, but again, pray and meditate on this edict deeply. Speaking with the Nuns as you did is also a good step. Source(s): none, strictly my personal view.
I am a Methodist and I do not practice. I don't go to Church but I DO believe there is a God. My husband has two daughters from a previous marital and both of them were NOT baptized.
We have two sons together and I had both of them baptized. Even though I don't practice - I required my kids to BELONG to a church. I know that sounds corny but that is the way that I feel. I also have a feeling that when they grow up to make their own decisions, they can be Methodist or change to anything they want to be. If they want to go to church - good for them - if not - it doesn't bother me. But I considered necessary them to belong to a religion and belong to a church.
Like you, I was raise Catholic, but not practicing now. My husband was raised next to no religion, but attended a Catholic high school.
We did not baptize our daughter. I thought it would be hypocritical to name her in a faith that I wasn't truly involved in or following. I also don't believe that a babe-in-arms needs to be absolved or washed away of sin.
We are waiting until our daughter is out-of-date enough to make a decision more or less her own faith. She is only 2.5, so we have time to desire what to do.
Well, it really comes down to the fact of what you believe in. If you believe within the christian faith, then you really do need to name him. Baptism cleanses the soul of original sin, and if the "God forbid" should ever happen then your son have been cleansed of original sin and is a child of God. It comes down to belief and faith.
If you don't believe within the Catholic and/or christian faith then what good does baptizing him do? You hold to ask yourself that.
If your asking what i would do...my son was baptized into the Lutheran faith at five and a half months antiquated. My personal choice because I believe in the premise of baptism and what it means for my son. I don't ever push that onto anyone else.
You enjoy to have faith!! Do what your heart says you believe is right. If you don't choose to name your son (and future child) then tell your mom this is the track it will be.
I've never been baptized, and until now I've never really thought of getting it done to may daughter. We're not very religious though, if we be I'm sure we would have it done because when we believe in something we have strong beliefs.
My mom comes from a VERY religious family aka going to church every sunday, adjectives holidays, reading the bible daily, singing etc.. and she never baptized me.
And I'm glad she didn't, I'm in a period (at 20) where on earth I'm like what do I really believe in and she tells me to believe surrounded by God bla bla bla, but I don't believe in the church policies. I don'tk now I'm trying to find a religion that fits me and maybe when I do I'll draw from baptized, but I think it's a personal decision and i know that you're supposed to baptize your child and angle them as God loving, church going people, but the church can be a crooked place.
So, I won't baptize my child (Oma will think I'm the spawn of satan, she already call me a sinner every time I see her ... ) But, I can't baptize my child into something that I don't fully understand myself.
I deduce this is a great question, and I'm looking forward to going back and reading others' opinions on the subject.
I considered necessary to chime in and toss in my $0.02, because like you, I'm more-or-less a non-practicing Catholic.
I struggled beside having been raised Catholic, though I hold made all of my sacrements in the Catholic church (including our wedding!). It took me getting married to grasp me back to mass, if I am being 100% honest.
As an adult, I discovered that the parish priest make a big difference - if you like the priest, you'll probably go to mass. Our priest isn't the "scary Catholic" priests I remember so vividly from my childhood.
Try going to mass (even if it's on your own) at a couple churches within your area, and see if you feel comfortable there - both beside the priests and the other parishoners. That's the church you want to join! That makes a big difference.
It sounds to me like your cross-examine isn't so much about your faith per se - you said you're not "religious." That, in my eyes, is not equal as being "spiritual" or having faith. (Boy do I hope that make sense!). I'm not a particularly religious person, but I DO consider myself to be extremely spiritual - I believe in the principles of the Catholic Church (I lift issues with some of the "man-made" edicts, but that's another debate in its entirety. I'm more the "cafeteria Catholic" you hear about), but above adjectives, I believe in the Catholic Christian principles of living a good life - I regard as they're an important way to live, and they're principles that I do in reality value. (Chances are, if you were raised Catholic too - so do you -- you a short time ago don't really think about them as being "Catholic" or "Christian" - they're newly ingrained).
And I want my son to be a part of that, and they're principles I want to teach him. I respect tradition, and I want him to respect tradition as well, and to recognize what it means to be a part of something that's bigger than he is.
If he decides to travel to church when he's older - he'll have my blessing. If he decides to convert to another confidence, he'll have my blessing. But I chose to have my son baptized, and I don't regret it.
Like you said, I can't tell you what to do, but that's my pocket on it. Best wishes to you. :)
(Oh, and I saw the name change from TTC#2 to the new date!! Congratulations!)
We didn't baptize Landon. My husband is Catholic, but it was forced on him and he was made attend private Catholic institution, so he doesn't go to church. I was raised Baptist, but seldom attend church. I have faith in God and say-so my prayers, I just don't go to church. Our family hounded us roughly speaking getting Landon baptized, but I just basically told them he is our son and we will do what we want with him. I be baptized when I was 11 and it was after I made the decision for myself. I want my son to know how to accept Jesus and make the decision to be save. Of course I will teach him and hope he makes the right decision. I honestly don't see any point contained by baptizing a baby and just tell your parents that he is your son and to rear legs off.
I would say I am just like you. I own the same exact problem. I decided to go ahead and name him (it is scheduled for September). If in the future he decide to switch to another religion... then it won't matter that he was baptized because it won't "count". If He decide on No religion.. well the same argument is true.
I don't know about you.. but I do consider myself to be spiritual... not religious but I do believe surrounded by a "higher power" so to speak. I have not yet defined it but I do believe within something.
So that is basically what I will teach him...
He will cram about Catholics more in a sense of learning of his family unit history.
But if you do not believe in anything at all... then I don't really see the point surrounded by baptizing him... other than to keep your family lively. Which isn't even a bad reason.
Tell your Mom to mind her own business that you don't believe as she does and that you ARE NOT getting the baby baptized and to operate with it! Why would you let your Mom guilt you into doing something with your Son that you don't even believe within? HELLO WAKE UP!
Let your son choose when he's old enough.
You are only paying lip service to a dependence you never really had as it is.
If you dragged the poor kid to Church he's just going to grow up thinking faith is something trivial.
I'm a Pagan,(I own a strong Faith) but I went to a Catholic School. I got sick of seeing hypocritical "Catholics" having premarital sex and using condoms etc, going to Church on Sundays later being total A**holes at school!
But now and afterwards, I'd meet someone who had a strong Faith.
They didn't shout the loudest about it, they newly led by example instead of boasting about their Church.
Don't take the Faith insubstantially. It's not something to be "seen" to do. If you really want to get back into Catholic habits, travel to church yourself. If you really re-gain your faith, perhaps you could take your Son to church when he's ancient enough (And I don't mean Pre-teen!), to really understand.
I'm not a huge adherent of the Core beliefs of Catholicism, but I knew enough decent Catholics growing up. The School Chaplain (Priest) would not hold allowed you to baptize your son without a strong reason.
He even allowed non-catholics to budge for the Eucharist. His exact words were
"It's your faith and your actions that God care about"
Pretty rare words from a Priest!
really
do what you want
if u want them to believe contained by God, then baptise him
but if not
then dont
i one-sidedly think its better for a child to start off with a religion and next choose what to believe once they are old enough and understand what they are doing.
Do it, it cleanses your child of original sin. Should anything bad happen to your child he will be free of that sin.Catholic is appropriate. If he wants to choose a different faith down the road let him.
I do not make out infant baptisms. Baptism is to wash away all the sins but how can something so small and innocent own sin? I just don't understand that concept.
In my religin (LDS) we don't do baptism until age 8. By afterwards the children are old enough to make decision and understand right from wrong.
If you are both not religious than why baptize the child? Baptizing is entering him into anything church - if you don't practice why force him into it?
Let him decide when he is older what he wants to do - at hand is no reason to get religious just because you have a child.
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This question from earlier on this morning might interest you.
*If you guys are not practicing Catholics it would be VERY difficult for you to progress about baptizing him in a Parish. Baptismal Classes and the endless charge of getting your marriage recognized by the Church and your husband needing to shift through Adult Catechism classes.
I am Orthodox Catholic so I am not sure if other denominations baptize infants in the same high regard as we do but I do know there are "dedications" in other religions. Maybe that would satisfy your mother plenty so you won't have to get too far into the deal. When you are not sure you will even verbs the Catholic lifestyle for yourself or your child.
People need comfort when it comes to eternity. It might just construct your mother feel better, like she's taking care of her grandchild. I don't see any impair in it, even if you don't plan on practicing. It's a nice ritual that makes people get the impression good without hurting anyone.
My Russian child is going to be athiest since he's russian. And my Mexican Baby is going to be Catholic. Picking religions is fun!
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I think you should do what you think is best. If you would approaching to get him baptized but not practice it and you thinks that fine then do that. If you want to hold him baptized and practice and teach him that, that's ok too. Don't baptize your son because she wants you too, do it because you have an idea that it is best. If you want him to be old enough and decide for himself later let him. None of my family is religious, except for a couple of them. I don't go to church because i don't believe contained by some of the stuff they say, i chose not too. I didn't get my daughter baptized because i will let her desire what she wants, whatever works for me.I think you should do what you and your husband mull over is best. Just as a person said that if you want them to believe in god then enjoy them baptized, that has not one thing to do with it. I totally believe contained by god and i don't go to church!
If you're not practising religious and it all seems a rather complex entry to do (extra blessings, son attending church etc) then what's the point? Just tell your mother that you don't think it will come about. You could do it just to please her, but it seems like abundantly of effort. She has to realise plenty of people are not heavily religious and don't absorb in those practices.
Besides, it's quite nice if the child can choose it for themselves. I had a Christian friend who did that - granted at around age 12 she wanted to get it done so preparations were made, she get to choose how it would be done, who would be there, it was all tremendously exciting and meant a lot to her. (Interestingly, years later she also stopped going to church and end I heard she actually considers herself an atheist. But that's not the point.)
Answers: Like you said, there is no "right" answer someone else can give you. But here is what I would do.
Think / meditate / pray overpoweringly about this. Do not baptize your child just because your mother is hounding you to do it. That would be baptizing the child surrounded by the wrong spirit.
I personally would wait until my child was old-fashioned enough to make the decision for themselves, but after again, I am not Catholic. You mentioned how your mother forced the religion on you when you were younger and that turned you off to it. You can't force a belief on someone, you just own to lead by example and hope / pray that they will see the good in what you believe surrounded by and follow, offering guidance along the way if they ask.
If you truly want to raise your child in a Catholic setting, later I would start attending church regularly as the Nun you spoke to advised.
I hope that maybe this helps some, but again, pray and meditate on this edict deeply. Speaking with the Nuns as you did is also a good step. Source(s): none, strictly my personal view.
I am a Methodist and I do not practice. I don't go to Church but I DO believe there is a God. My husband has two daughters from a previous marital and both of them were NOT baptized.
We have two sons together and I had both of them baptized. Even though I don't practice - I required my kids to BELONG to a church. I know that sounds corny but that is the way that I feel. I also have a feeling that when they grow up to make their own decisions, they can be Methodist or change to anything they want to be. If they want to go to church - good for them - if not - it doesn't bother me. But I considered necessary them to belong to a religion and belong to a church.
Like you, I was raise Catholic, but not practicing now. My husband was raised next to no religion, but attended a Catholic high school.
We did not baptize our daughter. I thought it would be hypocritical to name her in a faith that I wasn't truly involved in or following. I also don't believe that a babe-in-arms needs to be absolved or washed away of sin.
We are waiting until our daughter is out-of-date enough to make a decision more or less her own faith. She is only 2.5, so we have time to desire what to do.
Well, it really comes down to the fact of what you believe in. If you believe within the christian faith, then you really do need to name him. Baptism cleanses the soul of original sin, and if the "God forbid" should ever happen then your son have been cleansed of original sin and is a child of God. It comes down to belief and faith.
If you don't believe within the Catholic and/or christian faith then what good does baptizing him do? You hold to ask yourself that.
If your asking what i would do...my son was baptized into the Lutheran faith at five and a half months antiquated. My personal choice because I believe in the premise of baptism and what it means for my son. I don't ever push that onto anyone else.
You enjoy to have faith!! Do what your heart says you believe is right. If you don't choose to name your son (and future child) then tell your mom this is the track it will be.
I've never been baptized, and until now I've never really thought of getting it done to may daughter. We're not very religious though, if we be I'm sure we would have it done because when we believe in something we have strong beliefs.
My mom comes from a VERY religious family aka going to church every sunday, adjectives holidays, reading the bible daily, singing etc.. and she never baptized me.
And I'm glad she didn't, I'm in a period (at 20) where on earth I'm like what do I really believe in and she tells me to believe surrounded by God bla bla bla, but I don't believe in the church policies. I don'tk now I'm trying to find a religion that fits me and maybe when I do I'll draw from baptized, but I think it's a personal decision and i know that you're supposed to baptize your child and angle them as God loving, church going people, but the church can be a crooked place.
So, I won't baptize my child (Oma will think I'm the spawn of satan, she already call me a sinner every time I see her ... ) But, I can't baptize my child into something that I don't fully understand myself.
I deduce this is a great question, and I'm looking forward to going back and reading others' opinions on the subject.
I considered necessary to chime in and toss in my $0.02, because like you, I'm more-or-less a non-practicing Catholic.
I struggled beside having been raised Catholic, though I hold made all of my sacrements in the Catholic church (including our wedding!). It took me getting married to grasp me back to mass, if I am being 100% honest.
As an adult, I discovered that the parish priest make a big difference - if you like the priest, you'll probably go to mass. Our priest isn't the "scary Catholic" priests I remember so vividly from my childhood.
Try going to mass (even if it's on your own) at a couple churches within your area, and see if you feel comfortable there - both beside the priests and the other parishoners. That's the church you want to join! That makes a big difference.
It sounds to me like your cross-examine isn't so much about your faith per se - you said you're not "religious." That, in my eyes, is not equal as being "spiritual" or having faith. (Boy do I hope that make sense!). I'm not a particularly religious person, but I DO consider myself to be extremely spiritual - I believe in the principles of the Catholic Church (I lift issues with some of the "man-made" edicts, but that's another debate in its entirety. I'm more the "cafeteria Catholic" you hear about), but above adjectives, I believe in the Catholic Christian principles of living a good life - I regard as they're an important way to live, and they're principles that I do in reality value. (Chances are, if you were raised Catholic too - so do you -- you a short time ago don't really think about them as being "Catholic" or "Christian" - they're newly ingrained).
And I want my son to be a part of that, and they're principles I want to teach him. I respect tradition, and I want him to respect tradition as well, and to recognize what it means to be a part of something that's bigger than he is.
If he decides to travel to church when he's older - he'll have my blessing. If he decides to convert to another confidence, he'll have my blessing. But I chose to have my son baptized, and I don't regret it.
Like you said, I can't tell you what to do, but that's my pocket on it. Best wishes to you. :)
(Oh, and I saw the name change from TTC#2 to the new date!! Congratulations!)
We didn't baptize Landon. My husband is Catholic, but it was forced on him and he was made attend private Catholic institution, so he doesn't go to church. I was raised Baptist, but seldom attend church. I have faith in God and say-so my prayers, I just don't go to church. Our family hounded us roughly speaking getting Landon baptized, but I just basically told them he is our son and we will do what we want with him. I be baptized when I was 11 and it was after I made the decision for myself. I want my son to know how to accept Jesus and make the decision to be save. Of course I will teach him and hope he makes the right decision. I honestly don't see any point contained by baptizing a baby and just tell your parents that he is your son and to rear legs off.
I would say I am just like you. I own the same exact problem. I decided to go ahead and name him (it is scheduled for September). If in the future he decide to switch to another religion... then it won't matter that he was baptized because it won't "count". If He decide on No religion.. well the same argument is true.
I don't know about you.. but I do consider myself to be spiritual... not religious but I do believe surrounded by a "higher power" so to speak. I have not yet defined it but I do believe within something.
So that is basically what I will teach him...
He will cram about Catholics more in a sense of learning of his family unit history.
But if you do not believe in anything at all... then I don't really see the point surrounded by baptizing him... other than to keep your family lively. Which isn't even a bad reason.
Tell your Mom to mind her own business that you don't believe as she does and that you ARE NOT getting the baby baptized and to operate with it! Why would you let your Mom guilt you into doing something with your Son that you don't even believe within? HELLO WAKE UP!
Let your son choose when he's old enough.
You are only paying lip service to a dependence you never really had as it is.
If you dragged the poor kid to Church he's just going to grow up thinking faith is something trivial.
I'm a Pagan,(I own a strong Faith) but I went to a Catholic School. I got sick of seeing hypocritical "Catholics" having premarital sex and using condoms etc, going to Church on Sundays later being total A**holes at school!
But now and afterwards, I'd meet someone who had a strong Faith.
They didn't shout the loudest about it, they newly led by example instead of boasting about their Church.
Don't take the Faith insubstantially. It's not something to be "seen" to do. If you really want to get back into Catholic habits, travel to church yourself. If you really re-gain your faith, perhaps you could take your Son to church when he's ancient enough (And I don't mean Pre-teen!), to really understand.
I'm not a huge adherent of the Core beliefs of Catholicism, but I knew enough decent Catholics growing up. The School Chaplain (Priest) would not hold allowed you to baptize your son without a strong reason.
He even allowed non-catholics to budge for the Eucharist. His exact words were
"It's your faith and your actions that God care about"
Pretty rare words from a Priest!
really
do what you want
if u want them to believe contained by God, then baptise him
but if not
then dont
i one-sidedly think its better for a child to start off with a religion and next choose what to believe once they are old enough and understand what they are doing.
Do it, it cleanses your child of original sin. Should anything bad happen to your child he will be free of that sin.Catholic is appropriate. If he wants to choose a different faith down the road let him.
I do not make out infant baptisms. Baptism is to wash away all the sins but how can something so small and innocent own sin? I just don't understand that concept.
In my religin (LDS) we don't do baptism until age 8. By afterwards the children are old enough to make decision and understand right from wrong.
If you are both not religious than why baptize the child? Baptizing is entering him into anything church - if you don't practice why force him into it?
Let him decide when he is older what he wants to do - at hand is no reason to get religious just because you have a child.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
This question from earlier on this morning might interest you.
*If you guys are not practicing Catholics it would be VERY difficult for you to progress about baptizing him in a Parish. Baptismal Classes and the endless charge of getting your marriage recognized by the Church and your husband needing to shift through Adult Catechism classes.
I am Orthodox Catholic so I am not sure if other denominations baptize infants in the same high regard as we do but I do know there are "dedications" in other religions. Maybe that would satisfy your mother plenty so you won't have to get too far into the deal. When you are not sure you will even verbs the Catholic lifestyle for yourself or your child.
People need comfort when it comes to eternity. It might just construct your mother feel better, like she's taking care of her grandchild. I don't see any impair in it, even if you don't plan on practicing. It's a nice ritual that makes people get the impression good without hurting anyone.
My Russian child is going to be athiest since he's russian. And my Mexican Baby is going to be Catholic. Picking religions is fun!
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