Very dreadful that my child is ignore me ! Instead, he responds to my supporter. I feel SO helpless... Please lend a hand..?
Tonight isn't a good start. I intentionally came home early right after work to spend part time with my 5 mth old son. But when I got home at 7pm, he be asleep. When he woke up 2 hours later, I played & talked to him, he wasn't interested. Instead , when my helper walk in, he keeps looking at her and smiled when she cooed him.
I felt green with envy and angry at the same time. I am angry with my son ( i know that's silly ) and with the PA. I scolded my son that I am his mom and he's not responding to me, how am I suppose to feel ? He seemed to figure out and cried so hard. It happened to be his feeding time so I asked my PA to prepare the milk. I tried to feed him, he rejected and kept on crying. Until I had no choice but to ask my helper to filch over and feed him instead. Immediately, my son calmed down, stopped crying and drank his milk. This is the first time my son reacted this way. It simply surprised me because he seem to understand.
Decided not to give up hope yet, I told the PA to switch with me while I feed him the milk. He again rejected and after awhile, I could see he's forcing himself to drink. I got silly with the helper and scolded her while feed my boy. My boy looked at me , stopped drinking his milk and cry again. I felt really at a lost !
I noticed that eversince my boy hit his 5th month this monday, he became more aware of his surroundings and establishment to recognize people as well.
But how do I enlighten a 5 mth old that im his mother, esp when i work from 830 am till 630 pm and by the time I get home, im only disappeared with that little time before his next sleep. Or worse, sometimes I attain home and hes already asleep. I felt awful not having the whole light of day to spend time with him and weekends with him are always a moment ago too short.
Do any moms out there face the same problem as me ? How do I win my son to be close to me ? I dont breastfeed him anymore. Im really helpless at this time and feeling really sad tonight that I scolded my son and because he isnt respond to me at adjectives.
Please tell me what to do...
I'm feeing jealous, sad and fustrated..
Thanks
Oh, yeah I have been there. Recently, my son be the same way with, capably it seemed like EVERYONE but me! I was really upset, and even cried more or less it, but it was just a phase, and pretty soon he was following me around to the point I be going NUTS. TRUST me, he is just a baby, he doesn't know how you feel, and he wont for a while. Just realize it is a phase, and he will be cooing beside you very soon!
I know it's hard, but when he starts seeing you first, you will see his little eyes light up, and he'll manage for you, and only you!
Your baby spends more time with his nanny. You are at work for long hours. It is with the sole purpose natural for him to have this bond with her. You necessitate to evaluate your feelings. Your son does not deserve to be scolded for this. He is a baby, and loves his nanny. He loves you too, you are his mom...but anyone who spends the entire daytime with him will also be loved by him.
Answers: Why are you making this in the order of you and what YOU want?
You have a happy son who obviously is ably cared for while you are away What more could you ask?
He cries because he feels your anger and frustration. Approach him in a relaxed and glowing state of mind, not one of demands or orders.
Grow up and get over yourself. Your son loves the PA because she doesn't yell at him over stupid things. He is more comfortable with her because she spends more awake time with him. You should be HAPPY this wonderful woman is contained by your life that can be there for your son. You should be GRATEFUL your son feels a nouns with the helper and that he doesn't cry all daylight for you. Sigh.
Why on earth would you yell at a 5 month old? Geeze.
You scolded him? No wonder he doesn't want you to hold/feed him. Take a page from your helper and treat your 5 month ancient better!
Why in the world is your 'helper' there after you are home from work anyways?
well i kinda have a problem close to that except i am a stay at home mom and my hubby is gone at work all day but when he is home i will try to feed him (breastfeed) and he of late stares at his daddy the whole time... then i will hold him up to stand and talk to him and he will a moment ago look at his daddy and smile while DADDY IS PLAYING VIDEO GAMES lol i am trying to play with him but he's not intrested... he doesn't cry but he WONT look at me,. so i decide that it's daddy time and hand him sour and then when my hubby is holding him he is all happy and smiley.
you shouldn't be batty at you're helper or Son it's not their fault.
And PLEASE DONT YELL AT YOUR SON :( that makes me disappointed. i know it gets frusterating but you can't get to that piont. Source(s): (when Daddys not home he is interested in me)4 month out-of-date boy.
Just hang up in there. It's tough. But one positive thing you have need of to remind yourself is that attachments, no matter to whom, are very important for nouns. He is attached to his caregiver because she gets to feed him more not because he loves her more or is trying to upset you; simply because his basic obligation is food and she is able to give it to him more frequently.
Don't beat yourself up. You are working to provide him near a nice life. Just spend as much time with him as possible and stay calm. Don't tell off him. He doesn't understand why you are upset. However, he may be able to tell you are upset and he's feed off that anxiety. Try feeding him in a soft room away from your helper with low lights to help near your anxiety. If you are able to handle the situation in a at ease manner he may come around to calming down and taking a bottle from you as well.
Just remember you are doing your best! Your son is thriving and you are lucky to own a caregiver in your home that loves your son. And your son is lucky to have a mother that is providing for him, loves him and an attachment to more than one personality. Take care!
try slaping him one time and when he cries try to make him feel better consequently play with him alone
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I felt green with envy and angry at the same time. I am angry with my son ( i know that's silly ) and with the PA. I scolded my son that I am his mom and he's not responding to me, how am I suppose to feel ? He seemed to figure out and cried so hard. It happened to be his feeding time so I asked my PA to prepare the milk. I tried to feed him, he rejected and kept on crying. Until I had no choice but to ask my helper to filch over and feed him instead. Immediately, my son calmed down, stopped crying and drank his milk. This is the first time my son reacted this way. It simply surprised me because he seem to understand.
Decided not to give up hope yet, I told the PA to switch with me while I feed him the milk. He again rejected and after awhile, I could see he's forcing himself to drink. I got silly with the helper and scolded her while feed my boy. My boy looked at me , stopped drinking his milk and cry again. I felt really at a lost !
I noticed that eversince my boy hit his 5th month this monday, he became more aware of his surroundings and establishment to recognize people as well.
But how do I enlighten a 5 mth old that im his mother, esp when i work from 830 am till 630 pm and by the time I get home, im only disappeared with that little time before his next sleep. Or worse, sometimes I attain home and hes already asleep. I felt awful not having the whole light of day to spend time with him and weekends with him are always a moment ago too short.
Do any moms out there face the same problem as me ? How do I win my son to be close to me ? I dont breastfeed him anymore. Im really helpless at this time and feeling really sad tonight that I scolded my son and because he isnt respond to me at adjectives.
Please tell me what to do...
I'm feeing jealous, sad and fustrated..
Thanks
Oh, yeah I have been there. Recently, my son be the same way with, capably it seemed like EVERYONE but me! I was really upset, and even cried more or less it, but it was just a phase, and pretty soon he was following me around to the point I be going NUTS. TRUST me, he is just a baby, he doesn't know how you feel, and he wont for a while. Just realize it is a phase, and he will be cooing beside you very soon!
I know it's hard, but when he starts seeing you first, you will see his little eyes light up, and he'll manage for you, and only you!
Your baby spends more time with his nanny. You are at work for long hours. It is with the sole purpose natural for him to have this bond with her. You necessitate to evaluate your feelings. Your son does not deserve to be scolded for this. He is a baby, and loves his nanny. He loves you too, you are his mom...but anyone who spends the entire daytime with him will also be loved by him.
Answers: Why are you making this in the order of you and what YOU want?
You have a happy son who obviously is ably cared for while you are away What more could you ask?
He cries because he feels your anger and frustration. Approach him in a relaxed and glowing state of mind, not one of demands or orders.
Grow up and get over yourself. Your son loves the PA because she doesn't yell at him over stupid things. He is more comfortable with her because she spends more awake time with him. You should be HAPPY this wonderful woman is contained by your life that can be there for your son. You should be GRATEFUL your son feels a nouns with the helper and that he doesn't cry all daylight for you. Sigh.
Why on earth would you yell at a 5 month old? Geeze.
You scolded him? No wonder he doesn't want you to hold/feed him. Take a page from your helper and treat your 5 month ancient better!
Why in the world is your 'helper' there after you are home from work anyways?
well i kinda have a problem close to that except i am a stay at home mom and my hubby is gone at work all day but when he is home i will try to feed him (breastfeed) and he of late stares at his daddy the whole time... then i will hold him up to stand and talk to him and he will a moment ago look at his daddy and smile while DADDY IS PLAYING VIDEO GAMES lol i am trying to play with him but he's not intrested... he doesn't cry but he WONT look at me,. so i decide that it's daddy time and hand him sour and then when my hubby is holding him he is all happy and smiley.
you shouldn't be batty at you're helper or Son it's not their fault.
And PLEASE DONT YELL AT YOUR SON :( that makes me disappointed. i know it gets frusterating but you can't get to that piont. Source(s): (when Daddys not home he is interested in me)4 month out-of-date boy.
Just hang up in there. It's tough. But one positive thing you have need of to remind yourself is that attachments, no matter to whom, are very important for nouns. He is attached to his caregiver because she gets to feed him more not because he loves her more or is trying to upset you; simply because his basic obligation is food and she is able to give it to him more frequently.
Don't beat yourself up. You are working to provide him near a nice life. Just spend as much time with him as possible and stay calm. Don't tell off him. He doesn't understand why you are upset. However, he may be able to tell you are upset and he's feed off that anxiety. Try feeding him in a soft room away from your helper with low lights to help near your anxiety. If you are able to handle the situation in a at ease manner he may come around to calming down and taking a bottle from you as well.
Just remember you are doing your best! Your son is thriving and you are lucky to own a caregiver in your home that loves your son. And your son is lucky to have a mother that is providing for him, loves him and an attachment to more than one personality. Take care!
try slaping him one time and when he cries try to make him feel better consequently play with him alone
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