Mother-in-law woes-it's really getting to me!?
Yeah you're overreacting. why can't they both be nana? Both my grandmothers who are now great grandmothers to my son and neices. they are still both call nana. as we got a little older conceivably 3-4 and we were referring to one of them we would use the last name. If she requests to be called nana she wants to be called that. IMO you're overreacting to something ridiculous
EDIT- hold your DH talk to her about the soohther thing and taking her when she's crying.
Time to set some boundaries with MIL, the sooner the better. Your husband should do as she will never forgive you (unappreciative daughter-in-law). He needs to tell her how much her oblige is appreciated but . . . and layout the things that have to change in the relationship. As far as the Nana/Grandma article. . .pick your battles, this may be the least of your problems. If the name "Nana" is hugely important, can you change it to "Nana Last Name" since the first names are matching? Besides the kid will not be talking for a while yet anyway :) Best of luck!
get a grip u should be so glad to have a mother in statute that wants to help and loves your baby, would u hold like it the other way around if she ignored u never help and only came to check her son and left u out,you unkind * she is excited don't take that away from her ,that is your baby and not a soul can change that' stupid 'so what if granny is all obsess if she does something you do not close to just say so ,and do it the way u similar to it, please you are annoyed about nothing get over yourself,make available granny a chance all mother in law that love there daughter-inlaws and grandchildren act that way you should touch special
I would be upset too! My mom will be an Oma and Hubbys mom will be granny. ( I don't judge an old scot lady will want to be called Oma so I'm within the clear for that, but I can foresee all the other problems around the corner).
I don't know how you've kept your cool so far, I would have blown up along time ago.
You necessitate to sit down with hubby first. Tell him what's bothering you and why it's bothering you (even if you feel this is absolutely ridiculous). Once you enjoy his support or how he feels on the issue, you'll feel better about approaching her and conceivably you and hubby could come up with some sort of boundary she needs to abide by. Tell her that you are grandma not nana and please don't tell my daughter otherwise. All the other grand-kids nickname you Grandma let's not start changing your name.
My aunt wants to be call great Oma... and I feel really weird towards that. I don't know how to tell her I don't want her to be call this, as she's not the great grandma, she's my aunt, and will be a great aunt to the baby. So, my plan, just telling my mom I don't close to this, getting reassurance from her, and then telling my aunt. I don't know why, but I always requirement to talk to my mom first haha and get her opinion, because she'll other tell me if I'm over-reacting or not and give me a way to word it better.
So, try that too, report your mom how you feel. She'll listen to your rant, and either set you straight right away, or give you some different points of view that you never considered before.
Best of luck. MIL's can be difficult and challenged in the respecting the daughter surrounded by laws space and wishes... (can't wait for a whole latest chapter of MIL stuff to start... yay... )
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