Would you bite your child?
I was starting to think I was reading profusely more into my sister-in-laws actions then what they were worth until Saturday. Those of you who know me, know that I basically can't seem to get along with her and I am done trying. Saturday be my son, Riley's first birthday party. I didn't invite her, but told hubby it was up to him if he wanted his brother, wife and lil girl in attendance. I really adore him brother and feel bad for him and baby girl... But I merely can't take her anymore. Especially being 6 1/2 moths pregnant. They came. I be nice to her with just saying hello and keeping it simple. Then it happen. Madison (my 16 month old niece hit my sister-in-law in the face). Probably due to the fact she needed down to play with the other lil ones and her mother wouldn't allow her. My sister-in-law cracked her back arcross the face, firm. I was so upset. My mother-in-law, step-mom and sister all was right here witnessing this in disbeief. A few minutes later after Maddy's screaming and crying subsided she took her moms hand and be sucking on her finger, next she clamped down and bite her. Well... you guessed it!! SIL took my lil niece's hand and bite her back!! Now, this time I be beyond upset. I had to just walk away formerly I decked her and cause a whole scene at my lil man's b-day party. Would you ever crack your lil little one across the face or bite her lil hand. My lil man is teething and he does this. I would NEVER bite him. And this lady works for Child Services!! What do you have a sneaking suspicion that of this? Every time I'm near her she never ceases to amaze me wit the things she does.
Lyn
thats not right
Not ever. While some folks swear that this is the only way to get your point across ( sort of " eye for an eye" mentality), I never will. Children can be skilled to behave with out resorting to physically harming them.
I'm sorry your SIL acts that channel!
Oh my god.
You're stronger than I am hun. I wouldn't own caused a scene in front of everyone but I definitely would enjoy taken her daughter and handed her off to someone else before grab my SIL and dragging her inside where I would have tore right into her. That is just not something you do. There is never an excuse to hit your child across the obverse. And biting is a horrible way to teach her daughter not to bite.
My daughter has hit me, bit me, scratched me, pinched me, the works. She have even given me a bloody nose before. But I have never done any of those things pay for to her. I tell her No, put her down on the floor and I walk away. When she crawls up to me again, she is much nicer.
I honestly would have be calling your SILs co-workers and letting them know what she did to her daughter, because that is abuse.
That is DEFINITELY not right and the police should be call on her. I know it would affect your brother but something HAS to be done. Talk to your brother. That is wrong!
your SIL seems rude if you ask me. you don't hit a 16 month old across the face like that and proceed to bite her. she may obligation some help. if i was there i would enjoy been the one causing a scene because i won't stand for things like that regardless if its her mother or not.
What a crazy *! What I cannot believe is that no one said anything to her. Someone needs to protect that little girl.
I am not one to undermine others' parenting but to be exact abuse!
wow,
no i have never bitten my son nor hit him in the face
the most i own ever done was a spank on the bums. thats the furthest i would go. he is 6 years old.
Umm, wow, no I would never abuse a infant!
Thats not cool at all.
Gheez that is really bad. Just for sucking on her fingers. Now that's horrible!! I don't think she deserved that at adjectives. Nor being snacked. First of all her daughter should have never smacked her to start with but chances are, she provokes her daughter A LOT! She is learning that smacking from somewhere.
The singular thing about biting is, gosh, they sometimes need for a while biteEbac when it becomes an obsessive thing. My little god daughter be biting EVERYONE and everything! She was btiing me, my husband, her parents, her cousins, her other aunts and uncles, and even my dog. Finally she bit a four year old and he bit her right back and she NEVER did it again. I simply don't understand why her parents never told her not to bite or stop her in the moments of biting instead of just brushing it sour. Because biting is not cure at all.
Also shame on your sis in law. She know her little girl is teething and she should have brought plenty of teething appropriate things for her to keep in her mouth. once again she be provoking her!
When kids put on repeated bad behavior it's being encouraged or provoked usually from their parents. So her mother is fully to blame for everything.
She sounds resembling a COMPLETE nightmare!
NO, the bad part about it. If she works for DCS, than she can read any report against her beforehand its investigated.
If my child smacked me across the obverse I would smack back. I wouldn't knock the crap out of her but she's gonna have to learn to treat others as you want to be treated. Then she'd step in time out for hitting. Then we'd talk about it and hopefully she'd take the picture.
I used to bite and my mother bit me back and I never bit her again. I have since done this with my kids. They hold to learn and kids learn through experience. If they don't get hurt doing something sometimes they'll never swot up to not do it or they're going to get hurt. What exactly did you suggest she do? Pop her on her highly padded diapered trailing? She's not gonna learn that way.
I'm not saying verbal abuse your children I'm just saying if they hurt you you hurt them back and they'll swot up what it feels like and that it's not nice. You also talk to them beside this or they'll just think that grownups can do whatever they want because they're the grownups which is ridiculous.
At 16 months, definitely not. Spanking is one thing, but not a slap across the frontage. Spanking, when done properly, is not abuse. And I find that the people who think it is any weren't spanked as a child, or they were actually abused.
As for biting back, once again, not at 16 months. If the child be a little older, say 2+ years frail, yes. Not hard enough to leave grades or anything, but enough to make them realize that it hurts and they shouldn't do it to others. I've seen several kids (it wasn't me that bit them) where that was the only piece that made an impact on them and they stopped immediately.
Yes. My nephew bit me once and i bit him back and said "doesn't discern very good does it?" he started to cry and shook his head next i said " well don't do it then." And there hold been no incidences of him bitting anybody since then.
But i would never slap my kid across the face or anybody's kid across the facade cause thats stupid no matter what its just dumb i would smack her on the aft and tell her never to hit me again. Which is what i do.
BTW i love your sons name
Answers: No way would I bite my son. He's bit us a couple of times but it be never because he was angry and it was never to intentionally hurt us. Many babies and toddlers explore with their mouths and biting is a strange 'trick' they learn so it's bound to happen once in awhile. He's 15 months hoary now and if he bit now I would sternly tell him "No" and deflect him but I still wouldn't bite him!
And in no way, shape, or form do I agree with smacking a child contained by their face. That's just lazy parenting if you're doing it to a 16 month frail. A 16 month old doesn't understand cause and effect similar to "If I hit Mommy there will be a consequence." And they certainly don't understand why you would be hitting them after they own slapped you. They are JUST learning boundaries, just understanding what "No" manner, so it's really not fair to punish them as if you'd punish an older child.
I think your SIL is simply taking a lazy approach to discipline(one that's obviously not working!). It's much easier for her to slap and bite her daughter a bit than to teach her what "No" means. Sad, too, that she works for child services. Doesn't she deal beside abuse enough throughout the day?
She can't do that especially motive the child is only 16 months old! You should report it and that way she'll lose her employment at child services (she doesn't deserve it) and that child won't get hurt anymore. Imagine when the child gets older? She'll maltreat her! Report this immediatly. You had witness's to back you up. Your husband's brother can take costudy of the daughter. That women doesn't deserve to be a mother.
Also, when babies start growing teeth, their gums hurt so they start biting things because of the hurt within their gums. Maybe that's a reason why she's biting.
yes, I would, give me a few minutes, I will explain exactly why!
I was around 6 years old, my cousin be 3, had been biting for a year, an entire year, NOTHING they did stopped him. NOTHING! He ended up biting me so not easy I needed stitches and still have a scar to prove it. So after a year, of NOTHING else working, he bit me, I got taken to hospital, my dad walk up to him and clamped down on his hand. Guess what? He never bit again! So sorry, maybe you don't think it's right but not EVERY child works like peas in a pod and now, ever since being bit the hell open by a child not a soul would fine a way to stop, I freak out every my children come near me with their teeth. I can not even explain to it how horrible that be!
EDIT-I want to add, the slapping across the face thing, no!
EDIT-AH, so my thumbs downer would fairly let a child tear someone open than find a mode that actually STOPS a child from biting, nice.
EDIT-Let me also point out that for goodness sakes, I don't condone beating a child or biting a child to release is horrible, I would not do it that young, but it's not meant to teach your child it's okay to bite, but show them, hey guess what, this hurts!
I would never do it to any of my future kids.
I mean.if you train a baby not to bite,and your biting them,that is teaching them nil.They don't deserve to be bit that young,because they are little,they don't know any better & they don't deserve to get bit!
Hitting a child is very unneeded & really be set to!
To me,its a form of abuse.
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Lyn
thats not right
Not ever. While some folks swear that this is the only way to get your point across ( sort of " eye for an eye" mentality), I never will. Children can be skilled to behave with out resorting to physically harming them.
I'm sorry your SIL acts that channel!
Oh my god.
You're stronger than I am hun. I wouldn't own caused a scene in front of everyone but I definitely would enjoy taken her daughter and handed her off to someone else before grab my SIL and dragging her inside where I would have tore right into her. That is just not something you do. There is never an excuse to hit your child across the obverse. And biting is a horrible way to teach her daughter not to bite.
My daughter has hit me, bit me, scratched me, pinched me, the works. She have even given me a bloody nose before. But I have never done any of those things pay for to her. I tell her No, put her down on the floor and I walk away. When she crawls up to me again, she is much nicer.
I honestly would have be calling your SILs co-workers and letting them know what she did to her daughter, because that is abuse.
That is DEFINITELY not right and the police should be call on her. I know it would affect your brother but something HAS to be done. Talk to your brother. That is wrong!
your SIL seems rude if you ask me. you don't hit a 16 month old across the face like that and proceed to bite her. she may obligation some help. if i was there i would enjoy been the one causing a scene because i won't stand for things like that regardless if its her mother or not.
What a crazy *! What I cannot believe is that no one said anything to her. Someone needs to protect that little girl.
I am not one to undermine others' parenting but to be exact abuse!
wow,
no i have never bitten my son nor hit him in the face
the most i own ever done was a spank on the bums. thats the furthest i would go. he is 6 years old.
Umm, wow, no I would never abuse a infant!
Thats not cool at all.
Gheez that is really bad. Just for sucking on her fingers. Now that's horrible!! I don't think she deserved that at adjectives. Nor being snacked. First of all her daughter should have never smacked her to start with but chances are, she provokes her daughter A LOT! She is learning that smacking from somewhere.
The singular thing about biting is, gosh, they sometimes need for a while biteEbac when it becomes an obsessive thing. My little god daughter be biting EVERYONE and everything! She was btiing me, my husband, her parents, her cousins, her other aunts and uncles, and even my dog. Finally she bit a four year old and he bit her right back and she NEVER did it again. I simply don't understand why her parents never told her not to bite or stop her in the moments of biting instead of just brushing it sour. Because biting is not cure at all.
Also shame on your sis in law. She know her little girl is teething and she should have brought plenty of teething appropriate things for her to keep in her mouth. once again she be provoking her!
When kids put on repeated bad behavior it's being encouraged or provoked usually from their parents. So her mother is fully to blame for everything.
She sounds resembling a COMPLETE nightmare!
NO, the bad part about it. If she works for DCS, than she can read any report against her beforehand its investigated.
If my child smacked me across the obverse I would smack back. I wouldn't knock the crap out of her but she's gonna have to learn to treat others as you want to be treated. Then she'd step in time out for hitting. Then we'd talk about it and hopefully she'd take the picture.
I used to bite and my mother bit me back and I never bit her again. I have since done this with my kids. They hold to learn and kids learn through experience. If they don't get hurt doing something sometimes they'll never swot up to not do it or they're going to get hurt. What exactly did you suggest she do? Pop her on her highly padded diapered trailing? She's not gonna learn that way.
I'm not saying verbal abuse your children I'm just saying if they hurt you you hurt them back and they'll swot up what it feels like and that it's not nice. You also talk to them beside this or they'll just think that grownups can do whatever they want because they're the grownups which is ridiculous.
At 16 months, definitely not. Spanking is one thing, but not a slap across the frontage. Spanking, when done properly, is not abuse. And I find that the people who think it is any weren't spanked as a child, or they were actually abused.
As for biting back, once again, not at 16 months. If the child be a little older, say 2+ years frail, yes. Not hard enough to leave grades or anything, but enough to make them realize that it hurts and they shouldn't do it to others. I've seen several kids (it wasn't me that bit them) where that was the only piece that made an impact on them and they stopped immediately.
Yes. My nephew bit me once and i bit him back and said "doesn't discern very good does it?" he started to cry and shook his head next i said " well don't do it then." And there hold been no incidences of him bitting anybody since then.
But i would never slap my kid across the face or anybody's kid across the facade cause thats stupid no matter what its just dumb i would smack her on the aft and tell her never to hit me again. Which is what i do.
BTW i love your sons name
Answers: No way would I bite my son. He's bit us a couple of times but it be never because he was angry and it was never to intentionally hurt us. Many babies and toddlers explore with their mouths and biting is a strange 'trick' they learn so it's bound to happen once in awhile. He's 15 months hoary now and if he bit now I would sternly tell him "No" and deflect him but I still wouldn't bite him!
And in no way, shape, or form do I agree with smacking a child contained by their face. That's just lazy parenting if you're doing it to a 16 month frail. A 16 month old doesn't understand cause and effect similar to "If I hit Mommy there will be a consequence." And they certainly don't understand why you would be hitting them after they own slapped you. They are JUST learning boundaries, just understanding what "No" manner, so it's really not fair to punish them as if you'd punish an older child.
I think your SIL is simply taking a lazy approach to discipline(one that's obviously not working!). It's much easier for her to slap and bite her daughter a bit than to teach her what "No" means. Sad, too, that she works for child services. Doesn't she deal beside abuse enough throughout the day?
She can't do that especially motive the child is only 16 months old! You should report it and that way she'll lose her employment at child services (she doesn't deserve it) and that child won't get hurt anymore. Imagine when the child gets older? She'll maltreat her! Report this immediatly. You had witness's to back you up. Your husband's brother can take costudy of the daughter. That women doesn't deserve to be a mother.
Also, when babies start growing teeth, their gums hurt so they start biting things because of the hurt within their gums. Maybe that's a reason why she's biting.
yes, I would, give me a few minutes, I will explain exactly why!
I was around 6 years old, my cousin be 3, had been biting for a year, an entire year, NOTHING they did stopped him. NOTHING! He ended up biting me so not easy I needed stitches and still have a scar to prove it. So after a year, of NOTHING else working, he bit me, I got taken to hospital, my dad walk up to him and clamped down on his hand. Guess what? He never bit again! So sorry, maybe you don't think it's right but not EVERY child works like peas in a pod and now, ever since being bit the hell open by a child not a soul would fine a way to stop, I freak out every my children come near me with their teeth. I can not even explain to it how horrible that be!
EDIT-I want to add, the slapping across the face thing, no!
EDIT-AH, so my thumbs downer would fairly let a child tear someone open than find a mode that actually STOPS a child from biting, nice.
EDIT-Let me also point out that for goodness sakes, I don't condone beating a child or biting a child to release is horrible, I would not do it that young, but it's not meant to teach your child it's okay to bite, but show them, hey guess what, this hurts!
I would never do it to any of my future kids.
I mean.if you train a baby not to bite,and your biting them,that is teaching them nil.They don't deserve to be bit that young,because they are little,they don't know any better & they don't deserve to get bit!
Hitting a child is very unneeded & really be set to!
To me,its a form of abuse.
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