Be honest did you right now bond next to your tot?
It was immediate. My husband didn't bond until then. Now he absolutely loves her.
But yea, my love and bond was absolutely direct.
No, when Kylie was born I was so upset near my mother I somewhat took it out on her. (not physically of course)
My mom made me go through labor naturally for 22 hours only to wind up up with a csection. I was so doped up and sleepy i didn't even see her until she was 3 hours elderly. She didn't really feel like my baby, next I had a really bad case of the babe blues and when we got home I'd cry every time i had to feed her, i didn't really want to hold her, i freshly felt so alone.
It took me a good 3 weeks to actually bond beside her. But now I love her more than anything in this world :)
no it took a few weeks, I had a c section and my husband became her primary caution giver until I got off the torment killers. It killed me that it took so long to bond with her.
It was different for each baby.
With my first, I be bonded before she was even born. It was darn hard by immediate after finding out that I was pregnant.
With my second, I just didn't perceive it while I was pregnant. I don't know if it was because I was already so busy near my then 2 year old, or the fact that my husband be activated and deployed to a war zone, or what, but I just didn't enjoy that intense connection while she was in utero.
When she be born, she had severe jaundice, and despite all the bili-blankets and bili-suitcases, her bilirubin levels kept rising. I reflect on maybe unconsciously, that's what prevented the bonding then...because I was afraid since she her jaundice wasn't on a winning streak.
But once she started improving, I just looked at her one day (she be about 2 weeks old) and that was it. I was completely and totally bonded, surrounded by love, hooked. She is now 6 and we are stuck together like glue. We just go anywhere without each other.
It's fairly strange because I had this intense bond with my first before she be even born, but now at 8, she'd rather go play next to any friend in the neighborhood than to stay home with me.
My younger daughter, where the bond took rather bit of time, is almost attached at my hip. Many times during the day you can find her just snuggled up against me.
Yes.
With my singleton son that I gave birth to vag. yes. It was immediate. They put him right on my chest as soon as I pushed him out and he stayed here for over an hour before I let them clean him up and weigh/measure/etc. He even nursed for a while before he left my arms.
I had a c-section next to my twins and was separated from them for several hours after birth. I honestly didn't feel like they be mine when they were born. It took months to feel like we have a bond. So so sad! It breaks my heart but that's the reality of it. I still love them more than life but it is different have a c-section and twins than it is having one baby and getting to hold him for so long after the trauma of birth.
With my first and third children I did... but beside my second child it was not immediate. I was exceptionally stressed out at that time in my life and was a single parent, as I be going through a divorce. After a few weeks when all the excitement settled and we got into a routine... of course I bonded near him. It hasn't effected my relationship in the long term though... I am equally close next to each child.
Nope!
Life was too hectic and the hubby was out to sea- so I stressed more after anything. I couldn't relax.
It wasn't until a couple weeks after having him and getting use to him being in my energy that I was able to relax and bond.
To realize that he wasn't a chore or someone I just have to take care of like other peoples baby- he be actually MY baby and wasnt going anywhere. Then I eased up some.
Honestly, it took me about a week.
I loved her right when I found out that I be pregnant, but the actual bonding took about a week after she was born. It just feel unreal and like I was" borrowing" her. I was actually expecting a call for saying that they were ready to nick the baby back!! That could have of late been sleep deprivation kicking in though lol
After about a week it sink in that she was mine and I got to preserve her forever. Then we were able to bond properly. Now at almost 10 months old, she is a complete mamas girl and she have me wrapped around her little finger! :)
With my daughter it was instant. There was that moment when I looked into her eyes and the feeling is just indescribable.
With my son, who come out screaming and had colic for months, no we did not bond right away. It took some time but now I am very close and bonded to both my babies. :)
Initially, like second after she was born- I was like "wow, she's mine- Oh my" lol. I know I loved her, but I didn't know her. It only took a few hours though and ever since it's grew and grew
Nope. He was away from me for the better part of two days because he be in the Nicu. I didn't even see him for 8 hours after he was born. Throw in have a c-section on top of that...I felt very detatched.
But I love him and I'm so freaking proud of every little entity he does.
Yes I did! I loved her from the second she was born and didn't want to tolerate her go! I had my postpardum days when I thought I didn't, but not to often!
It be an immediate attraction with my sons because they each smiled at me surrounded by the hospital. My daughter never really smiled and I thought i was doing something wrong. I thought I never made her happy.We are like 2 peas contained by a pod now (shes 5)
yes. but he didn't feel REAL until he was similar to 2 months. i knew he was there, but it feel more like a dream than reality, though, i did bond with him instantly.
No. I was very excited and felt a sense of requisite to my daughter but it really took several weeks before I bonded with her. It still amazes me today that she is my daughter.
Not with my later. It was incredibly painful and I blamed her for the ordeal!
Shes 21 now and I love her more than enthusiasm itself.
oh Absolutely the second she came out,but don't feel approaching your a bad mum or anything like that if you don't bond with child strait away it happens sometimes
No, not really. I was lately exhausted after a long labor.
(She then had some health concerns after birth, and have to go to the NICU for some tests and observation. When they brought me the papers to sign for her test, I signed them without even really hearing what the pedatrician was explaining. I joke later that I would have signed adoption papers at that point ... if they'd just hand down me alone and let me go to sleep. )
Of course over the next few days, (and plentiful trips down the hall to the NICU) we bonded closely.
I loved him straight, but the bonding took a bit longer as I got to know him. Its totally an ongoing process for me...it grows stronger daily
No... when she be born, she was bruised and really badly coneshaped. I feel aweful something like it but I remember thinking, "Oh god! That's my child!" But after the swelling came down, she started to look more like a baby and 12 hours then I was able to bond better with her. I protect her near my life now.
I did. So did my husband. Maybe your expectations was different while you was pregnant.
i loved her immediately, but the bond took a while. i be in bad shape when i was pregnant next to her and for the first 6 weeks of her life. i wasnt able to care for her and my husband have to do everything. it broke my heart. my husband knew exactly what she wanted and i was clueless. she didnt know me as in good health as she knew my husband and even my mother. once my kidneys started functioning and i was able to safekeeping for her the bond was instant. i felt like i wouldnt be capable of bond with her because i was unable to breastfeed and everyone acted close to that was the only way for a mother to bond near her baby, so i felt almost like i have failed and i didnt even have control over it. things got much better and presently she has mommyitis where i am the only one who can relaxing her down and she lights up when i walk in the room. its like we never even go through the first 6 weeks.
Yes, but the bond get much stronger later on.
Yes immediately as soon as I got to hold him. My son was on oxygen without delay after he was born and I had severe preeclampsia (extremely high blood pressure) so deplorably I didn't get to hold him the first day he was born although I did look surrounded by the window and see him. I first held him the morning after he was born (the next day) and we bonded promptly. Source(s): Mom to a 15 month old boy
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