Anybody liable to plead guilty they are other making their relationship/marriage look better than it is?
maybe because you don't want to look or feel stupid to other people that your relationship really does suck. possibly don't want to hear i told you so...anybody willing to admit they are constantly defending their other half when, within actuality, you know everything negative anybody has to say just about that person is completely true? i feel like abundantly of people, i'll admit-including myself, like to make their relationship look appropriate to everyone else even though they know it really isn't all that. couple that have been together for a long time and/or hold children. the relationship just isn't what it used to be but you want everyone else to think you are still completely happy so you tend to sugar coat it. i know i've answered abundant questions claiming to be the 'perfect' little family. we've been together for so masses years, have our kids, a house, cars, good jobs etc. but things really aren't so great between us anymore and im lately hoping maybe there is someone else out there who can relate.
am i the individual one? or does anybody else tend to try and make their relationship look good when you know it isn't?
I'm rather guilty of this. my boyfriend annoys me sometimes. it annoys me how he sleeps until noon and then bumbles around for 2 hours in his boxers in need his glasses on, lol. it annoys me that when he sets his alarm, he presses the snooze button for an HOUR even though the baby is trying to sleep. it also annoys me that he won't put his dishes in the dish washer. he also leaves his shoes adjectives over the house and takes the towels from the bathroom in the bedroom and doesn't bring them back surrounded by, no matter how many times I tell him to.
I love the crap out of him though and basically because he does all that stuff doesn't mean I go around and let somebody know everyone. I'd rather people not hear the bad stuff -- I know he doesn't let somebody know other people my bad habits (I don't enjoy any though! lol just kidding). so I guess I do sugarcoat in the sense that I leave out adjectives the little idiosyncrasies that annoy me. we don't fight too much at all though, so I can't give a hand you there. when we fight, we blow up and then carry over it quickly.
that felt good writing that down of late now though :P
Not at all. My husband and I don't have the perfect relationship, but we fashion it work. We have problems and I don't sugar coat those problems to anyone, here or in real time. My mom listens to me rant and rave when I'm mad at my husband. Point is everyone in my natural life knows when my husband and I are having problems in our marital.
Answers: I'm def. guilty of this!
My husband is in the Army, and we live on an Army basis full of other stay at home moms like myself. Everyone on the base walks around beside their noses in the air bragging almost how good their husbands are, or how they are their 'hero' or this and that, when actually, being married to a soldier is def. one of the most stressful things i can create in your mind. My husband is around nothing but men all day recitation them what to do, screaming, smokeing, just being this rough and tough man and when he comes home some times he forgets i'm not one of his soldiers and starts treating me like he would one of his co-workers ut i would NEVER admitt to that infront of any of his friends. It's concrete going anywhere with him around where he works because people other say things like how lucky i am to have him, or how much of a worthy guy he is, which don't get me wrog, i love my husband, but they way they talk more or less him i feel like sceaming out with frustration give or take a few how he isn't anything like that at home. I've tried to explain this to other Army wives but then they look down upon me when i say one entry bad about my husband and then run on and on about how i'm married to a hero, and he risks his life for me, blah blah.
It's just intricate to try and talk about how rough it is some times because then associates think you don't appriaciate what you have when that's not the case, everything doesn't other have to be peachy all the time, i wish associates were just more real roughly it. Marriage is rough, there's the good and the bad and just because i say aloud something that doesn't make my hubby look like the 'man of the year' doesn't mean i don't love him.
so no girl, you arn't alone, there's plenty of us out within.
Good luck! ;)
i meditate everyones guilty. but the thing is, its none of anyones buisiness if youre relationship sucks and nobody wants to feel close to everyones whispering behind their backs. and also, sometimes you perceive like if you make everything out to be great that somehow it will become that way.
naw it is what it is
every1 does dont sweat it. adjectives relationships have their ups and downs, pros and cons and if any1 says different theyre lying thru their teeth. lol dont feel ur the solitary 1 i do it every day. its how things r. u can change em how ever u like lately make sure its 4 a good reason that make u and the baby happy! good luck near u and ur other half and the new little one 2!
Omg Danielle C, you're living my life. Haha!
I'm an Army wife too, and I hate all the stuck up little snobby girls dictum how great everything is all the time and look down on you for everything (not all Army wives are like this, but the majority that I give the impression of being to meet are). Being a military wife sucks to be honest. I love my husband to death, but it's not all that comfortable. He's around men all day, he's pretty much trained to not show his emotions (except for anger I guess), so partially the time he can be such an a**. It's like he forgets that I'm his wife, a WOMAN, and not just one of the guys (one of the pregnant guys? haha?). Don't get me wrong, he still treats me similar to a woman, it's just his jokes or his attitude or the way he can stroke sometimes just reminds me of a bunch of guys sitting around b*tching about their wives. lol, And no, I'm not just aphorism it's only military wives that can have these problems, but I've noticed that next to a lot of them and it's just what I'm used to now because when I met my husband he be in the Army and we've been married for over 2 years now, it's usual to me now.
I love my husband though, and I guess I do try to ignore the bad when I'm conversation to others (except for my best friend, lol, she gets a nice long rant every now and then). I guess we're all a short time ago used to almost everyone sugar coating their relationship that we feel the need to do it too. I wish some of the other wives would come verbs and b*tch about their husbands like I know they want to, not all the time, but come on... I detest feeling like I live in Stepford near all the perfect little wives.
um no i really am glad with my husband of 2 years. we've been together for 3 years. perhaps it is still incredibly fresh for us. ha ha.
You nouns kind of depressed. I would try working on your relationship before it gets too slow. I don't know your situation, but if you need an ear, let me know.
I don't think I sugar coat my relationship at adjectives. Heck, I hardly ever talk to adults long enough to hold a conversation deep enough to be about relationships. :) I am lucky though, we do own a pretty good marriage. I think the worst within behind us. We had a very rocky start, but 7 years and a kid later, we are happier than ever. I count my lucky stars that we figured out that alcohol and our relationship didn't mix. We have be happy ever since.
I hope everything gets better!
No, I don't make my relationship look better than it is. If it were worth hiding I wouldn't be in it.
I will admit that I fashion my sex life out to be a lot better than it is! Lol maybe TMI, but he is so busy near work and I'm exausted at the end of the day. I'm lucky if we have it once a week.
Well...my relationship doesn't suck. I'm very happily married, and I love my husband terrifically much. He treats me very well and is very polite around the house.
Just because I leave out the parts about how it bothers me when he doesn't clean out his pockets up to that time I do his laundry or don't mention our recent fights doesn't mean I'm lying.
I just bestow out the bad.
I tend not to focus on negative things, and I don't think everyone requests to hear about my problems. They are things of the past, we've worked them out. No need to re-hash them.
Yep, I am guilty of this. Don't get me wrong my SO is a wonderful dad a wonderful support to me and he's a great guy...sometimes. If people seen the approach he talks to me or how he is sometimes, I would be told to dump him. But I smile and people think we are the happiest couple ever, we're not.
I know alot of couples do this
It sounds like your unsatisfied and don't know what to do about it ( maybe because of all the time you enjoy invested in the commitment), but the fact of the matter is everybody have times when they dont want to admit things are not great, but you know what? Stop defending your partner and start defending your marriage and your commitment. so what if people are right give or take a few the person you married! Its still none of their business ( unless you are being hurt/abused that is another story) If you are ultimately staying put and not departing the relationship, start sticking up for it and dont let other people bring it down, because you know what? It brings you down and you feel worse.
Maybe you can work on/ yak with your partner about the things that need fixing. Either instrument you need to make a decsion about how you can find happy in this relationship again--take sometime off from focusing on the things that suck and spend some time doing things that spawn you happy--you might be surprised, your good mood might be contagious to your partner and things could start to look up.
AND, you know what, people that really care around you DO want to hear about your problems, dont get in the road of yourself by not talking to someone who can help you get things past its sell-by date your chest Source(s): parents married for 46 years
I do not try to generate mine look good. We all have our problems. You only just have to make it through the problems by talking.
My husband and I be arguing yesterday. We both know we should talk things out instead of arguing but sometimes we can't.
If you aren't happy sit down and talk to your husband/SO
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am i the individual one? or does anybody else tend to try and make their relationship look good when you know it isn't?
I'm rather guilty of this. my boyfriend annoys me sometimes. it annoys me how he sleeps until noon and then bumbles around for 2 hours in his boxers in need his glasses on, lol. it annoys me that when he sets his alarm, he presses the snooze button for an HOUR even though the baby is trying to sleep. it also annoys me that he won't put his dishes in the dish washer. he also leaves his shoes adjectives over the house and takes the towels from the bathroom in the bedroom and doesn't bring them back surrounded by, no matter how many times I tell him to.
I love the crap out of him though and basically because he does all that stuff doesn't mean I go around and let somebody know everyone. I'd rather people not hear the bad stuff -- I know he doesn't let somebody know other people my bad habits (I don't enjoy any though! lol just kidding). so I guess I do sugarcoat in the sense that I leave out adjectives the little idiosyncrasies that annoy me. we don't fight too much at all though, so I can't give a hand you there. when we fight, we blow up and then carry over it quickly.
that felt good writing that down of late now though :P
Not at all. My husband and I don't have the perfect relationship, but we fashion it work. We have problems and I don't sugar coat those problems to anyone, here or in real time. My mom listens to me rant and rave when I'm mad at my husband. Point is everyone in my natural life knows when my husband and I are having problems in our marital.
Answers: I'm def. guilty of this!
My husband is in the Army, and we live on an Army basis full of other stay at home moms like myself. Everyone on the base walks around beside their noses in the air bragging almost how good their husbands are, or how they are their 'hero' or this and that, when actually, being married to a soldier is def. one of the most stressful things i can create in your mind. My husband is around nothing but men all day recitation them what to do, screaming, smokeing, just being this rough and tough man and when he comes home some times he forgets i'm not one of his soldiers and starts treating me like he would one of his co-workers ut i would NEVER admitt to that infront of any of his friends. It's concrete going anywhere with him around where he works because people other say things like how lucky i am to have him, or how much of a worthy guy he is, which don't get me wrog, i love my husband, but they way they talk more or less him i feel like sceaming out with frustration give or take a few how he isn't anything like that at home. I've tried to explain this to other Army wives but then they look down upon me when i say one entry bad about my husband and then run on and on about how i'm married to a hero, and he risks his life for me, blah blah.
It's just intricate to try and talk about how rough it is some times because then associates think you don't appriaciate what you have when that's not the case, everything doesn't other have to be peachy all the time, i wish associates were just more real roughly it. Marriage is rough, there's the good and the bad and just because i say aloud something that doesn't make my hubby look like the 'man of the year' doesn't mean i don't love him.
so no girl, you arn't alone, there's plenty of us out within.
Good luck! ;)
i meditate everyones guilty. but the thing is, its none of anyones buisiness if youre relationship sucks and nobody wants to feel close to everyones whispering behind their backs. and also, sometimes you perceive like if you make everything out to be great that somehow it will become that way.
naw it is what it is
every1 does dont sweat it. adjectives relationships have their ups and downs, pros and cons and if any1 says different theyre lying thru their teeth. lol dont feel ur the solitary 1 i do it every day. its how things r. u can change em how ever u like lately make sure its 4 a good reason that make u and the baby happy! good luck near u and ur other half and the new little one 2!
Omg Danielle C, you're living my life. Haha!
I'm an Army wife too, and I hate all the stuck up little snobby girls dictum how great everything is all the time and look down on you for everything (not all Army wives are like this, but the majority that I give the impression of being to meet are). Being a military wife sucks to be honest. I love my husband to death, but it's not all that comfortable. He's around men all day, he's pretty much trained to not show his emotions (except for anger I guess), so partially the time he can be such an a**. It's like he forgets that I'm his wife, a WOMAN, and not just one of the guys (one of the pregnant guys? haha?). Don't get me wrong, he still treats me similar to a woman, it's just his jokes or his attitude or the way he can stroke sometimes just reminds me of a bunch of guys sitting around b*tching about their wives. lol, And no, I'm not just aphorism it's only military wives that can have these problems, but I've noticed that next to a lot of them and it's just what I'm used to now because when I met my husband he be in the Army and we've been married for over 2 years now, it's usual to me now.
I love my husband though, and I guess I do try to ignore the bad when I'm conversation to others (except for my best friend, lol, she gets a nice long rant every now and then). I guess we're all a short time ago used to almost everyone sugar coating their relationship that we feel the need to do it too. I wish some of the other wives would come verbs and b*tch about their husbands like I know they want to, not all the time, but come on... I detest feeling like I live in Stepford near all the perfect little wives.
um no i really am glad with my husband of 2 years. we've been together for 3 years. perhaps it is still incredibly fresh for us. ha ha.
You nouns kind of depressed. I would try working on your relationship before it gets too slow. I don't know your situation, but if you need an ear, let me know.
I don't think I sugar coat my relationship at adjectives. Heck, I hardly ever talk to adults long enough to hold a conversation deep enough to be about relationships. :) I am lucky though, we do own a pretty good marriage. I think the worst within behind us. We had a very rocky start, but 7 years and a kid later, we are happier than ever. I count my lucky stars that we figured out that alcohol and our relationship didn't mix. We have be happy ever since.
I hope everything gets better!
No, I don't make my relationship look better than it is. If it were worth hiding I wouldn't be in it.
I will admit that I fashion my sex life out to be a lot better than it is! Lol maybe TMI, but he is so busy near work and I'm exausted at the end of the day. I'm lucky if we have it once a week.
Well...my relationship doesn't suck. I'm very happily married, and I love my husband terrifically much. He treats me very well and is very polite around the house.
Just because I leave out the parts about how it bothers me when he doesn't clean out his pockets up to that time I do his laundry or don't mention our recent fights doesn't mean I'm lying.
I just bestow out the bad.
I tend not to focus on negative things, and I don't think everyone requests to hear about my problems. They are things of the past, we've worked them out. No need to re-hash them.
Yep, I am guilty of this. Don't get me wrong my SO is a wonderful dad a wonderful support to me and he's a great guy...sometimes. If people seen the approach he talks to me or how he is sometimes, I would be told to dump him. But I smile and people think we are the happiest couple ever, we're not.
I know alot of couples do this
It sounds like your unsatisfied and don't know what to do about it ( maybe because of all the time you enjoy invested in the commitment), but the fact of the matter is everybody have times when they dont want to admit things are not great, but you know what? Stop defending your partner and start defending your marriage and your commitment. so what if people are right give or take a few the person you married! Its still none of their business ( unless you are being hurt/abused that is another story) If you are ultimately staying put and not departing the relationship, start sticking up for it and dont let other people bring it down, because you know what? It brings you down and you feel worse.
Maybe you can work on/ yak with your partner about the things that need fixing. Either instrument you need to make a decsion about how you can find happy in this relationship again--take sometime off from focusing on the things that suck and spend some time doing things that spawn you happy--you might be surprised, your good mood might be contagious to your partner and things could start to look up.
AND, you know what, people that really care around you DO want to hear about your problems, dont get in the road of yourself by not talking to someone who can help you get things past its sell-by date your chest Source(s): parents married for 46 years
I do not try to generate mine look good. We all have our problems. You only just have to make it through the problems by talking.
My husband and I be arguing yesterday. We both know we should talk things out instead of arguing but sometimes we can't.
If you aren't happy sit down and talk to your husband/SO
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