My Child's Punishment?
Last week I told my twelve-year-old son, Riley, that he couldn't go to the movies unnattended with one of his friends that I am not very fond of. All week he sulked and have a temper. Then, this morning was his breaking point. I went to my motor to drive to work, and I found the inscription, "I HATE MOM" keyed into my brand new Nissan Altima! When I went surrounded by to talk to him, I could not find him in the house. I took off the daylight of work to find him, and was exceedingly concerned to not find him until an hour ago, at a Jamba Juice store downtown. He will not talk to me. I am worried that this is the beginning of a streak of uprising. How can I reverse it and properly punish him?
Id take everything away from him and make him clear for the damage done to the car if you ask me.
But you probably want something where he understand what hes done. Id have a long talk with him, and enjoy his father there not yelling because you dont want him to be afraid of you. Make him realize what hes done, and that its wrong and that people dont resembling people who do mean stuff. Cause hes probably getting at that age where he is making friends and getting more social.
You still want to be strict and create sure he knows, Mom is Mom, and Riley is Child. And that his doing is punishable. But since he scratched your car I think the punishment should be difficult.
But I do hope this could help you! :)
i like what Mo said. :) (lol, overthrow him down to chinatown)
Um...i think you should make him work off the repairs surrounded by your car.
He should be grounded to the end of the world.
Take away his phone, computer, ipod, etc.
And maybe newly have a police officer come in and tell him just about the dangers of doing stuff like that.
PLEASE DO NOT DO WHAT ERIC ^^^ SAID!!
thats terrible! thats bribing which is TERRIBLE
I would honestly teach him a lesson by reporting his act of vandalism to the police. Perhaps an appearance and a right talkin' to by the cops will let him not to **** with you! Stand your ground honey!
WOW he did that??
I'd spank him, take away all electronics,no friend time and ground him for life! and product him pay for the damages to the car.
He'll hate you but tough love
man i've never even hear of something that naughty!
I'm gonna travel with Emmers on this one, to keep things short.
But you know what? Get the police involved. Not to arrest him, though. Talk to a police officer in your district, or if you own any friends or relatives that are police, talk to them. Have them take him on a little "grazing land trip" to juvie, and possibly to a real holding cell. They should explain to him that the consequences of his actions could land him at hand, and if he keeps it up, he will end up in sentence to prison. Hopefully it will strike fear into his heart and keep him from doing something so stupid again.
As for punishment... no computer, no video games, no tv for either an amount of time chosen by you OR until the damages on your vehicle are paid off by him. He could do chores around the house or mow lawns for the neighborhood. Hopefully he'll understand what he did be wrong.
beat him down to chinatown...hand over him a bloody nose tell you will murder the little c__t if he dont do what you say
DO NOT involve the police close to the other user said. I'm a teenager myself and I've had these acts of riot. Most likely he'll get over it soon enough, of late try and talk to him and make your reasons clear as to why you didn't want him lifeless around that kid
Are you sure it was you son who did the keying on the car? If you do not approve of solid friends, they may have done the damage and your son said nothing. At any rate he noticeably has to pay for damage within some way or he will learn nothing. I am guessing nearby is no other parent to help, I was a single parent and at 12 yrs. it gets sticky. Talk to a friend's husband or kinfolk male who could give you some insight about boy's that age and the best route to handle this. You are correct that if NOTHING gets done, a streak of rebellion will turn into much worse after affects, a lifetime of it.
Answers: At twelve he's old enough to learn some officially recognized consequences to damaging property, I'd call the police and have him budge for a little ride and a visit to the juvenile detention center. It sounds harsh, but someone I know have been having issues with his eleven year mature son stealing and he finally just called the police. Of course that's not going to solve all your problems but it will get up him up a bit to the reality of his actions. Then you need to set him to work earn the money to pay for your car to be fixed, he can do chores around the house, volunteer, etc. I would also consider some counseling if I were you, a honourable family therapist can work with you together and individually to digit out what's really going on. His actions are pretty extreme for a twelve year old, sure we've all yell "I hate you mom" but it's some real deep down crap that would obtain a kid to key your car. He knows what he did be wrong or he wouldn't have run away, you just need to amount out what's going on before it gets worse.
Ok first off as SOON as he started sulking you should have said "Keep on sulking and i wont let you shift to the movies with anyone this summer" Then if he keyed your car, holler and scream at him along with spanking, and make him work rotten the debt to get it fixed ex.: Clean around the house, get a summer job. If he LEFT the house in need you knowing take anyway ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that has value to him and ground him for the rest of the summer. I know this sounds extremely stern but if you want the respect you deserve and want to keep him inline and safe as he gets elder you are going to have to get strict with his punishments. I am 15 years infirm and my mom was really strict and kept me in line and because of that i respect her and know what the boundaries are. Good Luck! BTW he might not close to you for a while after you give him punishments and will probably be angry. But stick with your punishments and show him you wont back down specifically VERY important. :) Source(s): My mommy :)
If my girls did or ever does anything similar to this.. they will pay for the damage and they will have a totally sore bottom
The Best Punishment Ever An A$$ Beating With The Belt!
as a suggestion, it seems hes going through puberty and is getting hormones, its time that he was requirements to be dependent on himself, u cant stop him from growing let him go with his friends, i read out buy him soething hes fond of and then his temper should start to stop slowly
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Id take everything away from him and make him clear for the damage done to the car if you ask me.
But you probably want something where he understand what hes done. Id have a long talk with him, and enjoy his father there not yelling because you dont want him to be afraid of you. Make him realize what hes done, and that its wrong and that people dont resembling people who do mean stuff. Cause hes probably getting at that age where he is making friends and getting more social.
You still want to be strict and create sure he knows, Mom is Mom, and Riley is Child. And that his doing is punishable. But since he scratched your car I think the punishment should be difficult.
But I do hope this could help you! :)
i like what Mo said. :) (lol, overthrow him down to chinatown)
Um...i think you should make him work off the repairs surrounded by your car.
He should be grounded to the end of the world.
Take away his phone, computer, ipod, etc.
And maybe newly have a police officer come in and tell him just about the dangers of doing stuff like that.
PLEASE DO NOT DO WHAT ERIC ^^^ SAID!!
thats terrible! thats bribing which is TERRIBLE
I would honestly teach him a lesson by reporting his act of vandalism to the police. Perhaps an appearance and a right talkin' to by the cops will let him not to **** with you! Stand your ground honey!
WOW he did that??
I'd spank him, take away all electronics,no friend time and ground him for life! and product him pay for the damages to the car.
He'll hate you but tough love
man i've never even hear of something that naughty!
I'm gonna travel with Emmers on this one, to keep things short.
But you know what? Get the police involved. Not to arrest him, though. Talk to a police officer in your district, or if you own any friends or relatives that are police, talk to them. Have them take him on a little "grazing land trip" to juvie, and possibly to a real holding cell. They should explain to him that the consequences of his actions could land him at hand, and if he keeps it up, he will end up in sentence to prison. Hopefully it will strike fear into his heart and keep him from doing something so stupid again.
As for punishment... no computer, no video games, no tv for either an amount of time chosen by you OR until the damages on your vehicle are paid off by him. He could do chores around the house or mow lawns for the neighborhood. Hopefully he'll understand what he did be wrong.
beat him down to chinatown...hand over him a bloody nose tell you will murder the little c__t if he dont do what you say
DO NOT involve the police close to the other user said. I'm a teenager myself and I've had these acts of riot. Most likely he'll get over it soon enough, of late try and talk to him and make your reasons clear as to why you didn't want him lifeless around that kid
Are you sure it was you son who did the keying on the car? If you do not approve of solid friends, they may have done the damage and your son said nothing. At any rate he noticeably has to pay for damage within some way or he will learn nothing. I am guessing nearby is no other parent to help, I was a single parent and at 12 yrs. it gets sticky. Talk to a friend's husband or kinfolk male who could give you some insight about boy's that age and the best route to handle this. You are correct that if NOTHING gets done, a streak of rebellion will turn into much worse after affects, a lifetime of it.
Answers: At twelve he's old enough to learn some officially recognized consequences to damaging property, I'd call the police and have him budge for a little ride and a visit to the juvenile detention center. It sounds harsh, but someone I know have been having issues with his eleven year mature son stealing and he finally just called the police. Of course that's not going to solve all your problems but it will get up him up a bit to the reality of his actions. Then you need to set him to work earn the money to pay for your car to be fixed, he can do chores around the house, volunteer, etc. I would also consider some counseling if I were you, a honourable family therapist can work with you together and individually to digit out what's really going on. His actions are pretty extreme for a twelve year old, sure we've all yell "I hate you mom" but it's some real deep down crap that would obtain a kid to key your car. He knows what he did be wrong or he wouldn't have run away, you just need to amount out what's going on before it gets worse.
Ok first off as SOON as he started sulking you should have said "Keep on sulking and i wont let you shift to the movies with anyone this summer" Then if he keyed your car, holler and scream at him along with spanking, and make him work rotten the debt to get it fixed ex.: Clean around the house, get a summer job. If he LEFT the house in need you knowing take anyway ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that has value to him and ground him for the rest of the summer. I know this sounds extremely stern but if you want the respect you deserve and want to keep him inline and safe as he gets elder you are going to have to get strict with his punishments. I am 15 years infirm and my mom was really strict and kept me in line and because of that i respect her and know what the boundaries are. Good Luck! BTW he might not close to you for a while after you give him punishments and will probably be angry. But stick with your punishments and show him you wont back down specifically VERY important. :) Source(s): My mommy :)
If my girls did or ever does anything similar to this.. they will pay for the damage and they will have a totally sore bottom
The Best Punishment Ever An A$$ Beating With The Belt!
as a suggestion, it seems hes going through puberty and is getting hormones, its time that he was requirements to be dependent on himself, u cant stop him from growing let him go with his friends, i read out buy him soething hes fond of and then his temper should start to stop slowly
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