My daughter have bleak Hygiene... what do I do?
My 10 yr old daughter is refusing practice good Hygiene. I verbs about it because it's so noticeable and kids at school can be so cruel and I don't want her to attain teased.
She already gets crap for her acne which I'm currently trying to treat. She showers everyday but I sometimes think she's basically lathering up and rinsing. I've tried going into the bathroom while she's showering and tell her but I obviously can't do this every time she goes contained by.
She's already menstruating and is really bad about keeping clean. I buy her moist towelettes to use but she won't use them, and have been known to go short wearing a pad while she's on her period.
She will (if allowed) go an entire sunshine with soiled underwear when she's on her period. No OTC deodorant works (even clinical), and her sweat smells like egg... that's the single way that I can describe it.
I hate having to report to her that I can smell her when she walks by or is sitting next to me. I don't want to humiliate her but my god, it's unbearable and my husband is constantly recounting me why I'm not telling her anything, when in fact I own and continue to do so.
She refuses to do Basic things such as wash her coat, wear deodorant, or even wipe when she pees. I just don't understand why she doesn't care or even tries. You'd never know this by looking at her since she like to dress up and a very pretty girl.
I would suggest that she see a counselor of some sort. This looks to me to be a masked emotional issue that needs dealing with. I would suggest have a very gentle heart-to-heart with her. Maybe help yourself to her on an outing- somewhere that she really enjoys, then do something girly. Go get your nail done together, get haircuts, go blusher shopping, go perfume shopping. After that, sit down with her and start off near something encouraging. Tell her all the things you love about her. Tell her why she is beautiful. Encourage the fitting things she does, then voice your concern. Tell her that for her health it is important for her to wipe, to clean her hair, and to practice good hygiene. Also explain the social aspect of it. Emphasize the fact that you regard she is beautiful and wonderful, but make sure she understands the hurry of hygiene. Like I said in the beginning, seeing a counsellor is also a good pick. Not wanting to be hygienic could be a symptom of some deep-seeded problem. All the best!
You don;t want to embarass her but do you want her to be embarased in front of her friends ? i don't know im a guy and i be like this to but it work for me when my mother talked to me i started to shower twice a day mop up before and after eating and there are even times when i purely feel that im dirty and need to wash.. maibe you should instruct her a sense of self discipline i know a book worked for me if you are really interested thought it was hard lecture "Shogun" try getting here some book more or less hygiene that show opinions of girls and particulary other boys of some person's hygiene and discus it with her.
Also if you get these book try and deliver to them as an excuse that they where on earth beying given free from the doctor or sumting like that and not that you think of her as being that opening
It's probably more difficult if she's a girl being more sensible and all but you could give it a try
Answers: The problem here is she's 10, and wants to be like every other 10 year antiquated girl, but her body is forcing her to be more grown up. I'm not saying that excuses her for not changing underwear when menstruating, or for refusing to augment her cleanliness, but it's a lot for her to have to cope with- acne, periods, need a deodorant etc when none of her friends need to yet. Not wiping after using the loo is inexcusible at her age.
Sounds close to this is far more a psychological probelm than a physcial one. I'm glad she's seeing a therapist, mybe time for some further help from a professional?
wow thats a lot of information.
if your saying she likes to dress up next try something like this .. take her to the store and let her pick her own cleaning things so she may be excited to use them. resembling sparkle lotion or something different like spray on deodorant.
you can try also having a mother daughter spa night where on earth you do each others toes and face mask (when i be ten i thought mask were amazing).
if its just her attitude that rejects everything later maybe you should have her talk to a professional. it could be that she like being dirty because she refuses to grown up, or likes the control of cause her bodily functions.
you say you do not want her to get teased at academy but quick story. 6 grade someone told me they were going to buy me deodorant for christmas. i made sure i never enjoy been called smelly since.
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She already gets crap for her acne which I'm currently trying to treat. She showers everyday but I sometimes think she's basically lathering up and rinsing. I've tried going into the bathroom while she's showering and tell her but I obviously can't do this every time she goes contained by.
She's already menstruating and is really bad about keeping clean. I buy her moist towelettes to use but she won't use them, and have been known to go short wearing a pad while she's on her period.
She will (if allowed) go an entire sunshine with soiled underwear when she's on her period. No OTC deodorant works (even clinical), and her sweat smells like egg... that's the single way that I can describe it.
I hate having to report to her that I can smell her when she walks by or is sitting next to me. I don't want to humiliate her but my god, it's unbearable and my husband is constantly recounting me why I'm not telling her anything, when in fact I own and continue to do so.
She refuses to do Basic things such as wash her coat, wear deodorant, or even wipe when she pees. I just don't understand why she doesn't care or even tries. You'd never know this by looking at her since she like to dress up and a very pretty girl.
I would suggest that she see a counselor of some sort. This looks to me to be a masked emotional issue that needs dealing with. I would suggest have a very gentle heart-to-heart with her. Maybe help yourself to her on an outing- somewhere that she really enjoys, then do something girly. Go get your nail done together, get haircuts, go blusher shopping, go perfume shopping. After that, sit down with her and start off near something encouraging. Tell her all the things you love about her. Tell her why she is beautiful. Encourage the fitting things she does, then voice your concern. Tell her that for her health it is important for her to wipe, to clean her hair, and to practice good hygiene. Also explain the social aspect of it. Emphasize the fact that you regard she is beautiful and wonderful, but make sure she understands the hurry of hygiene. Like I said in the beginning, seeing a counsellor is also a good pick. Not wanting to be hygienic could be a symptom of some deep-seeded problem. All the best!
You don;t want to embarass her but do you want her to be embarased in front of her friends ? i don't know im a guy and i be like this to but it work for me when my mother talked to me i started to shower twice a day mop up before and after eating and there are even times when i purely feel that im dirty and need to wash.. maibe you should instruct her a sense of self discipline i know a book worked for me if you are really interested thought it was hard lecture "Shogun" try getting here some book more or less hygiene that show opinions of girls and particulary other boys of some person's hygiene and discus it with her.
Also if you get these book try and deliver to them as an excuse that they where on earth beying given free from the doctor or sumting like that and not that you think of her as being that opening
It's probably more difficult if she's a girl being more sensible and all but you could give it a try
Answers: The problem here is she's 10, and wants to be like every other 10 year antiquated girl, but her body is forcing her to be more grown up. I'm not saying that excuses her for not changing underwear when menstruating, or for refusing to augment her cleanliness, but it's a lot for her to have to cope with- acne, periods, need a deodorant etc when none of her friends need to yet. Not wiping after using the loo is inexcusible at her age.
Sounds close to this is far more a psychological probelm than a physcial one. I'm glad she's seeing a therapist, mybe time for some further help from a professional?
wow thats a lot of information.
if your saying she likes to dress up next try something like this .. take her to the store and let her pick her own cleaning things so she may be excited to use them. resembling sparkle lotion or something different like spray on deodorant.
you can try also having a mother daughter spa night where on earth you do each others toes and face mask (when i be ten i thought mask were amazing).
if its just her attitude that rejects everything later maybe you should have her talk to a professional. it could be that she like being dirty because she refuses to grown up, or likes the control of cause her bodily functions.
you say you do not want her to get teased at academy but quick story. 6 grade someone told me they were going to buy me deodorant for christmas. i made sure i never enjoy been called smelly since.
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