Discipline proposal for my 6 year dated son?

Ok so I have three kids altogether. My oldest is 6 the middle one is 3 and the youngest is 2. I am a stay at home mom going to school online. Any ways my 6 year old son have become very defiant, sneaky and is really back discussion a lot. I have tried grounding him, timeouts, toys taken away and even a good swat on the bum. Well nil is working. Today I told him he couldn't go ut and play and then he snuck out the window.

I inevitability help from someone that is not family and that won't pass judgment. I have asked my sis in law ( who's kids are also hellions) and she lately looks at my son like hes terrible. Please help me I don't know what else to do and Im losing it. I quality like I have tried it all and nil is helping.

There are days when he can be a very good kid, like helping next to the other 2 kids and stuff like that. But Im so lost. Im still young (24) and had him at 17. Please anything will abet.
i'm a mother of 4 2 step sons and 2 daughters. i know what you are going through. i'm still trying to find the right punishment also. my boys do that too. when it's just one on one time they are good as gold. don't enjoy to yell at them. but the one thing that i found out that works pretty good, own to do it like 3 times a day sometimes. is put them in the bathroom cause them sit on toilet and not get up and not play with anything. it works sometimes but only put him contained by there for 6 minutes cus that's how old he is. then narrate him when he's done that you love him and ask him why he was put in there. if he don't know after you can tell him. but i always make sure i report them i love them but i have to do it. so they know that i still love them but they did something wrong and they need not to do it.
Timeouts work for my son very well..he HATES have to sit while everyone else is mobile. I make him sit in the corner, facing out, for 4 minutes (because he's 4). It must feel similar to a lifetime for a kid because I rarely have to do it :)
Answers:    It's important to remember, your child doesn't know what to do either. He will not find the answers on is own. You have to relieve him discover the solutions.

Glad to hear you can stay at home.Share some activities with him. At six he can help beside sorting silverware, laundry etc. Do these things together. Watch for the child to begin emulating your behavior. Include him in SLIGHTLY more provoking tasks as his skills develop.

As you spend more time together, he will accept his role as your apprentice.

Also the child needs to be able to communicate the difference between positive and negative consequences. Rather than increasing the negative, try increasing the positive. Praise, hi5's, and hugs are a lot more fun and usually more important.

Stand back and look at your child. LOVE HIM EXACTLY THE WAY HE IS. Then you can move forward.
In instruct to put a stop to backtalk, there are several things you have to do. First of all, when things are upright, sit down with your child and lay down some ground rules. Discussions about these rules are critical to good communication and to cooperation down the road. I guarantee that you’ll be aware of better as a parent if you set up rules and follow them with your children. Your goal then become following the ground rules instead of trying to achieve your child’s acceptance. The first rule is, “I’ll explain something once and I’m not going to talk more after that. If you try to argue or debate, I’m going to hoof it away. If you follow me or if you continue there will be consequences.” You set limits on backtalk and you don’t grant it power. Source(s): http://www.empoweringparents.com/How-to-…
You've grounded your 6 year old son?

When I be a child, punishments never ever ever worked. My mom put me in the corner and I giggled and sang. She took my things and I fell asleep or morning dreamed. She spanked me and I threatened to call child services.

From experience, explain to him that he doesn't need to be sneaky. As a family you share your things and he newly has to ask. He doesn't have to sneak out the window to play - he can get hold of his toys and play near you on the computer, and then later the two of you (plus your other children, I suppose) can adjectives sit out in the backyard.

When he is defiant, explain why you are asking him to do certain things. He requirements to pick up his toys after he plays with them because you don't want to step on them and break them. He needs to go to bed because everyone is going to bed.. and because mom and dad entail their sleep to be able to work and play the next day.

A lot of kids do not respond capably to "discipline."
And a lot of people I know remember the explanations rather than their punishments.

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