How to back a 7yr prehistoric boy be more self sufficient?
Well you said he's seeing a counsellor so that's good. This will probably take a while, since he's used to doing things with serve. Try setting small rewards, or having friends come over. If you invite a friend over to sleep over this could help alot. He'll see that his friend can stay the night minus his parents, can brush his teeth without help, and can eat and sleep on his own. Sending your son to a sleepover would not be a suitable idea, but a sleepover at your house might do the trick to starting him in a good direction. I deduce he needs examples from his peers. He says you're pushing him to grow up, but if he sees that adjectives of his friends can do that by themselves then he should be able to too. Sometimes embarrassement can actually be the push button. He may be embarrassed because he doesn't want to do these things on his own, but sees that his friend does. Peers and friends can sometimes set his mind in a agency that you can't do because they're leading by example.
Good luck, and I'm sure that he'll come around eventually!
This is really sad and strong to answer.
what do the professionals say to do?
Have you consulted anyone about this child psychologist doctor etc
What i would try is a reward system say respectively time he reaches the set goal say dressing himself he is rewarded conceivably ignore allot of it like say you are going out perchance a place he might really likes, you tell him to get dressed/ready,
update him you will be back to check if he is ready and leave him to it relate him you are busy he is able to do it himself.
Hard to advise as i think this is of late not a normal case of a stubborn child not wanting to be told what to do.
you need to wish Professional advice
Maybe you could also try using a boy doll where he can dress the doll
with intake at the table i would show explain what you do help with fork etc just repeat respectively night foe about 1 week then quit it to him tell him we have shown you what to do now you enjoy a go he will eventually try as he will be hungry and see you eating,
with using the toilet how does he move about when he is at school ?
I would speak with the counsellor asap they should be talking to you, you want to know whats going on they should be able to advise you on what to do if they are doing there living properly
Sounds like it will take time and a lot of toddler steps. Perahps set up a goal for each month or week and if he reaches that desire perhaps you can rewarded him with something.
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