How do you ask a 5 year feeble what is wrong minus 'putting design contained by their head"?
My nephew is staying with me at the moment due to parents splitting up and moving out etc. He doesnt yet know what exactly is going on but I know he is sensing something. His dad has be cheating on my sister for months and drinking endlessly etc and a new baby have just been born etc etc the list go on. I know he has picked up on things but I dont know what or how much. He thinks he is on holiday with me for a while. How can I sustain him voice any concerns or questions without suggesting to him that he has concerns or question - I dont want to plant anything into his thoughts and worries that arent there already!
Thanks
let him color. drawings are really appropriate ways to see whats going on in their heads. other toys, like doings figures too.
It is really momentous that he doesn't hear you say bad things about his mom or dad, but if he say anything, listen and validate. "I know mom and dad are not meaning to hurt you, but you feel discouraged, mad, angry, hurt, so on and you have a right to your feelings." Five year olds will own difficulty voicing feelings beyond the basics ( hurt, sad, etc). Perhaps contained by a quiet moment, you could let him know that any feelings or concerns he have, you are a safe adult to speak to.
Answers: maybe best not to try to... He will ask if he wants to... Kids do not commonly hesitate to ask questions when they have them..
You could just simply let him know that no matter what, he can other talk to you and leave it at that. He will come talk to you when he is set, as long as he knows that door is open
Just tell him if he requirements to talk your there to listen, if he dosent want to talk nearly it then dont make him.
Another idea is to ask him to write a story or draw a picture, seriously can be found out from his drawings
You could ask him "is there anything bothering you?"
"You know you can talk to me going on for anything you want to right?"
Dont let him overhear you bad mouthing his dad or talking more or less the situation at all. But ask him about what he likes to play and do at home. Sometimes kids will start relating you about playing their favorite game and then trail bad into a story about what was happening surrounded by the other room while he was playing cars in his room.
Make him feel comfortable and similar to he can trust you. Do not pressure him to talk about anything.
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let him color. drawings are really appropriate ways to see whats going on in their heads. other toys, like doings figures too.
It is really momentous that he doesn't hear you say bad things about his mom or dad, but if he say anything, listen and validate. "I know mom and dad are not meaning to hurt you, but you feel discouraged, mad, angry, hurt, so on and you have a right to your feelings." Five year olds will own difficulty voicing feelings beyond the basics ( hurt, sad, etc). Perhaps contained by a quiet moment, you could let him know that any feelings or concerns he have, you are a safe adult to speak to.
Answers: maybe best not to try to... He will ask if he wants to... Kids do not commonly hesitate to ask questions when they have them..
You could just simply let him know that no matter what, he can other talk to you and leave it at that. He will come talk to you when he is set, as long as he knows that door is open
Just tell him if he requirements to talk your there to listen, if he dosent want to talk nearly it then dont make him.
Another idea is to ask him to write a story or draw a picture, seriously can be found out from his drawings
You could ask him "is there anything bothering you?"
"You know you can talk to me going on for anything you want to right?"
Dont let him overhear you bad mouthing his dad or talking more or less the situation at all. But ask him about what he likes to play and do at home. Sometimes kids will start relating you about playing their favorite game and then trail bad into a story about what was happening surrounded by the other room while he was playing cars in his room.
Make him feel comfortable and similar to he can trust you. Do not pressure him to talk about anything.
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