How to grasp a 9 year elderly to read.?
I am at my wits end here. He is 9 and I have to fight him and tonight be just horrible I am so stressed out I am actually caring because he is smart get a's all until last year he didn't even try. He barely passed and his over the summer arts school work is just killing me. It is a fight everyday and not a soul has my back. I am fighting this alone everyone is close to it is school break you are to hard on him.
I could scream I am outset not to even care anymore maybe I should let him come to nothing let all his friends go on lacking him. Maybe it will wake him up. BUt I don't want him to fail but no matter what I do I am other the bad guy and I am tired. Please any suggestion?
Talk to him and ask him why he got the bad grades and stuff. Don't arraign him of not trying or being lazy or anything, just find out the impose of his sudden lower grades. He may have had a subject or something he was struggling beside, or he had something else on his mind that caused him to slack off. Then once you know why he didn't try, you can try to fix it.
And children shouldn't be rewarded for reading (unless it's another book or something wholesome and educational) because reading should be its own reward.
Sit him down and tell him what you have only said here. Tell him you are tired of fighting a losing battle. There is no reason he cannot do his work, and you do not discern the need to nag. Tell him he either does his work and starts to care or he will fall through and his friends will go on without him. His call...and step away.
Buy him Harry Potter or Percy Jackson. Those are exciting books for young boys.
Take him to a book store and enjoy him pick out a book he wants to read.
Give a reward. If he read everyday for 30 minutes for a week give him a video game.
what i did was I put a chart up and everytime I sat down and read with my daughter I would make clear to her "ok if you try your very best you will get a star and when you get a complete month of stars we will go see a movie together just you and me". She has 4 other syblings. She would try her hardest.see my daughter have a short term memory loss and its very hard for her to read. You should discuss to his/her school and see if maybe he has some form of learning disability, My daughter gets help from special teacher and ever since they work one on one with her shes had a improvement.
Good Luck and be tolerant with him :)
READ EXCITING STORIES TO THEM. READ THE TWITS WITH FUNNY VOICES. IT ENGAGES THEM. :)
Kids will read as long as you put something interesting in front of him. Go to Chapters or Coles, or some book store and let him pick out a couple books that he likes.
Also, I would set up a rewards system. Depending on his grades and if he completes his homework, reward him next to something. Rewards could be something like movie night or game hours of darkness.
You need to make learning fun!
first chitchat to him tell him he is smart enough he can do this and give him something for it close to a game or watever he likes make it his reward for reading and other remind him he is smart and he can do this and even though he doesnt want to it will help him and it will pay off and you might wanna look at the other responces more after mine cus im 13 and know NOTHING about parenting but my little brother hates reading and doing homework and a reward always get him finsihed
Answers: Have you had his eyes checked? Does he read aloud to you? If so, does he struggle or does he read next to fluency? I work with kids in 4th/5th grade beside learning disabilities. Sometimes, even the smartest kids - can have issues with reading and comprehension.
His "not trying" might be an SOS flag he threw out because something is holding him backbone. Something he is not in control of.
You are doing the right thing by making him practice. Just 15 minutes a day to start out. Make sure accounts are not too hard. Find something he LOVES. For one struggling boy, who loved Wrestling - I got him a wrestling magazine. As long as they read!
Another approach, if he seems to struggle, attain younger books for him and if at all possible, have him read them to a younger child so he doesn't feel close to he is reading baby books for himself. If he has a younger cousin or sibling - it works great and makes him have a feeling special.
You should not GIVE UP on school break - this is the time to help catch up. Just don't overdo it. Take turns, you read one paragraph, he read the other. Highlight Magazines are great, because of all the different reading levels included. Plus they can read the jokes to you.
Get fun books, kid books, comic books, etc. Make up a treasure hunt game. Write down the clues and he has to read them to find a surprise - like fresh baked cookies etc.
It is so graceful to get frustrated and I really do understand. Trust me - if it were jammy for him to read - he would do it. There is something going on. His grades last year reinforce that.
When school starts - DEMAND a meeting beside his teacher and principal. It is possible he may have speech issues (even though he may speak correctly - there could be processing issues). It may be something that have yet to be identified. The schools are required to give him anything special needs he may have. (parents freak out thinking "something is wrong with my child".) Don't drip into that trap - just do what's best for your son.
Many kids go without help out because parents are afraid of labels. That is bullcrap.
Good Luck.
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I could scream I am outset not to even care anymore maybe I should let him come to nothing let all his friends go on lacking him. Maybe it will wake him up. BUt I don't want him to fail but no matter what I do I am other the bad guy and I am tired. Please any suggestion?
Talk to him and ask him why he got the bad grades and stuff. Don't arraign him of not trying or being lazy or anything, just find out the impose of his sudden lower grades. He may have had a subject or something he was struggling beside, or he had something else on his mind that caused him to slack off. Then once you know why he didn't try, you can try to fix it.
And children shouldn't be rewarded for reading (unless it's another book or something wholesome and educational) because reading should be its own reward.
Sit him down and tell him what you have only said here. Tell him you are tired of fighting a losing battle. There is no reason he cannot do his work, and you do not discern the need to nag. Tell him he either does his work and starts to care or he will fall through and his friends will go on without him. His call...and step away.
Buy him Harry Potter or Percy Jackson. Those are exciting books for young boys.
Take him to a book store and enjoy him pick out a book he wants to read.
Give a reward. If he read everyday for 30 minutes for a week give him a video game.
what i did was I put a chart up and everytime I sat down and read with my daughter I would make clear to her "ok if you try your very best you will get a star and when you get a complete month of stars we will go see a movie together just you and me". She has 4 other syblings. She would try her hardest.see my daughter have a short term memory loss and its very hard for her to read. You should discuss to his/her school and see if maybe he has some form of learning disability, My daughter gets help from special teacher and ever since they work one on one with her shes had a improvement.
Good Luck and be tolerant with him :)
READ EXCITING STORIES TO THEM. READ THE TWITS WITH FUNNY VOICES. IT ENGAGES THEM. :)
Kids will read as long as you put something interesting in front of him. Go to Chapters or Coles, or some book store and let him pick out a couple books that he likes.
Also, I would set up a rewards system. Depending on his grades and if he completes his homework, reward him next to something. Rewards could be something like movie night or game hours of darkness.
You need to make learning fun!
first chitchat to him tell him he is smart enough he can do this and give him something for it close to a game or watever he likes make it his reward for reading and other remind him he is smart and he can do this and even though he doesnt want to it will help him and it will pay off and you might wanna look at the other responces more after mine cus im 13 and know NOTHING about parenting but my little brother hates reading and doing homework and a reward always get him finsihed
Answers: Have you had his eyes checked? Does he read aloud to you? If so, does he struggle or does he read next to fluency? I work with kids in 4th/5th grade beside learning disabilities. Sometimes, even the smartest kids - can have issues with reading and comprehension.
His "not trying" might be an SOS flag he threw out because something is holding him backbone. Something he is not in control of.
You are doing the right thing by making him practice. Just 15 minutes a day to start out. Make sure accounts are not too hard. Find something he LOVES. For one struggling boy, who loved Wrestling - I got him a wrestling magazine. As long as they read!
Another approach, if he seems to struggle, attain younger books for him and if at all possible, have him read them to a younger child so he doesn't feel close to he is reading baby books for himself. If he has a younger cousin or sibling - it works great and makes him have a feeling special.
You should not GIVE UP on school break - this is the time to help catch up. Just don't overdo it. Take turns, you read one paragraph, he read the other. Highlight Magazines are great, because of all the different reading levels included. Plus they can read the jokes to you.
Get fun books, kid books, comic books, etc. Make up a treasure hunt game. Write down the clues and he has to read them to find a surprise - like fresh baked cookies etc.
It is so graceful to get frustrated and I really do understand. Trust me - if it were jammy for him to read - he would do it. There is something going on. His grades last year reinforce that.
When school starts - DEMAND a meeting beside his teacher and principal. It is possible he may have speech issues (even though he may speak correctly - there could be processing issues). It may be something that have yet to be identified. The schools are required to give him anything special needs he may have. (parents freak out thinking "something is wrong with my child".) Don't drip into that trap - just do what's best for your son.
Many kids go without help out because parents are afraid of labels. That is bullcrap.
Good Luck.
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